My boyfriend and I love eachother to death. We were best friends for four years before we decided to go out. We have been going out for five months. I feel like he doesn't find me attractive- desirable. I asked him, and he says he does. But he never calls me names like sweetheart anymore, and he lacks initiative. I don't know what to do.
my brothers friend and i always had and attraction and we were all friends for years and years (2 yrs old to present 33 yrs old) we both felt an attraction in our mid 20's but we each were never between relationships, then one day we were. We confessed our feelings and had high hopes for a very close and lasting relationship, but after a few months I really got to know him and I thought I knew everything, not so. and slowly i was not attracted to him anymore. I think we both imagined that because we were friends first it would work out great. It was hard but I told him and we broke things off. We hardly speak anymore, but we both moved on and got married.
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i use to be a really fun exciting girl i was always talking or doing something stupid to entertain myself. but i noticed that i dont find many things funny anymore. i dont do anything stupid to entertain myself. I use to talk to everyone now i only talk to a few people. I dont get close to anyone anymore i dont share my feelings anymore. im sorta confused i dont know whats happened to me.
you have been affected by your brothers absence. You need an outlet for the way it has made you feel. if you don't have a friend to talk to or know someone in a similar situation, then i suggest writing down everything you think about it. You could write it down in letter format, poem format like Hiku, tell your feelings like a story or draw pictures. it helps alot. and no one else ever has to see them unless you want to share.
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Ok so my parents left town for the weekend and im here with my college cousin. My mom told me not to go to this one guys house but hes having a huge party this weekend. I really want to go but ims cared to death that my mom will find out or something bad will happen and then im screwed for the rest of highschool. should i go or not go?
if your mom specifically said not to go to his house, then it would be very easy for her to find out if you did. and she probably will have it in mind to check when she comes home. It's a test. Pass this one (by not going) and in the future she will trust you to make your own decisions.
Ton's of parties await you senior year, after highschool and don't forget at college-all of which she will not mind if you go to, because by then you will her complete trust to do the right thing.
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society tells us that having premarital sex is wrong, (risk of pregnancy, stds...) but also emotionally, that you cant handle a breakup after you lose your virginity to someone, it changes your life forever, etc. I know all of that, but is it true with EVERY SINGLE relationship that if you have premarital sex, it'll drive you two apart and you'll eventually break up. How wrong is it to have sex in highschool (only with 1 person of course and you keep it between yourself.) my boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 months and I want to have sex with him eventually but I'm afraid it'll make us break up... why does that happen? like think back in the 1940's, if you got pregnant both of you would drop out of highschool and GET MARRIED...why cant it be like that these days?
sex will start a spiral of events if your not careful or lucky..its easy (lazy) to imagine that everything will work out easy and perfect-try to picture the consequences of your action.
pregnancy (don't fantize about it, research it!)
bad reputation (dont imagine the best scenerio-imagine the worst!)
dropping out of highschool (no college) hello minium wage $5.25 hour
marraige (how many parents do you know that pay for a nice teenager wedding?) graduate college, get engaged and they can't wait to marry you.
apartments you qualify for, you would not want to live in.
WELFARE-its not the lottery and you can only collect for 5 yrs during your lifetime.
You're not missing anything in your relationship, life or boyfriend by waiting to have sex until your older, and hopefully engaged or married.
PS it takes a year or more to get down to the real personality of someone-have you shared all your dreams/hopes with him? Could you ask your posted question to him? if not then sex is a very bad idea
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16/f. This is been going on for about a week now. Every so often during the day, my back & chest/stomache has this like, burning feeling... and then it'll go away. But its like an irritation. But it'll go away and then it'll come back like 10 minutes later. What is this? I haven't changed any products like soap or anything, so I don't think I'm allergic to anything. The only thing I can think of, is that I've been using tanning lotion (I've been tanning outside)... but I've been using it for about 4-5 weeks and this only started a week ago. Whats wrong?
Similar situation happened with me and tanning lotion- i used it with no problems then I developed and allergy to it. Just because you eat or use a product for a period of time does not mean you will never be allergic to it.
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Im buying a shirt for a friend of mine who is 6`1 and quite thin. Im not sure what size shirts he wears and I dont want to ask him because I want it to be a surprise. Do you think a large or meduim would work best? Looking at both length and width. I dont want him with baggly clothes but I dont want it too short either.
mu hubby is 6'1" and thin as a rail. He always wants large and gets mad if i buy medium, becuase I too don't want him to wear baggy clothes either. get a large and he will be happy.
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First of all..the guy that i am TOTALLY in love with lives in freakin CALIFORNIA while i live in new england. We live more than 3000 miles away! i got to know him because he is my dad's best friend's son.we can't go out to visit them for
2 and 1/2 years beacuse we cant afford it.i'm really bumming out because i think that he likes me too, but i'll never get the chance to tell him face to face! i'm dying here..advice please?
It's great when you hit it off like that, huh? But we have to face facts here. You may never see him again f2f, so go for it and just tell him the impression he left on you. You've got nothing to lose. Believe me its better than building this guy up in your imagination as Mr. Right and then no one else can compare. I had a very similar relationship..I'll share if you want the details.
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Ok... a few questions about pregnancy
When you are pregnant you don't get your period... i knwo that.
Is it true that after giving birth you have your period for a month?
After giving birth how do you track your period? Will your cycle fall on the same days it ususally does or do you start a whole new pattern? Is there anyway to predict this new pattern?
I gave birth in Feb 2005. You will bleed out what is left in your uterus (the placenta) after giving birth. You will have to wear the biggest pads of your life (think depends!) It could last up to 6 weeks, its heavy flow in the beginning and slows down. You cannot determine the pattern of your menstral cycle until after the 6 wks. That is when the doctor will let you start birth control again, and that will depend on nursing. I nursed and did not have a period. great website is lalecheleague.com and ivillage.com/parenting
All this depends on your situation and health-I'm not a doctor, just a new mom.
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My boyfriend's away in Europe right now & he will be for another week. I'm missing him like crazy & I can only talk to him online because longdistance is expensive. What can I do to get through this time? Any ideas how to get my mind off missing him?
This is a great time to try something new. (Include your friends if your not comfortable doing things alone.) My love doesn't share the same taste in movies and tv as I do, so i would catch up on those. I also like to exercise while he's gone, it makes me feel good as well as look good. Set up a daily routine. You don't have to keep it up once he returns. You could make him a care package of his favorite things (food, magazines,dvd's,music) instead of mailing it give to him as a present. It lets him know you really were thinking of him all this time. Make a collage of pictures of him or the two of you frame it and put it by your bed. Its a great thing to wake up to and if he likes it give it to him.
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ok. heres the thing: guys have always been my best friends. id actually rather have guy friends then girls because guys dont gossip and dont start drama. well ever since i got a boyfriend hes been getting on me for flirting with other guys. BUT I DONT FLIRT WITH THEM ITS JUST THAT THERE MY BFF's AND I JOKE AROUND WITH HIM. how can i get my boyfriend to understand that im not flirting they're just my friends. i've tried telling him that and i've tried to stop hanigng out with the guys as much but nothing seems to work. HELP PLEASE. ill rate you high!!
If you have always been this way with your guy friends then it is probably your basic personality and your friends and boyfriend's will accept you as is or say something to you. Your man needs to define (his definition) of flirting, for you and be honest in telling him what you think flirting is. Some of us girls have flirty personalities and sometimes we come off that way when we are nervous or when trying to make others feel comfortable. You cannot be expected to change who you are to make him feel better, because in the end nothing you do will be right. Our greatest friends and loves know who we are from the beginning and would not ask us to change (unless we are doing something that is harmful-example-smoking,drinking,...) If you work this out just remember if you slip up and go from flirting with one of your friends to more, he will never trust you and you other friends may not either. PS-Some men (and women) are huge gossips and some love to creat drama, especially when they know what pushes a persons buttons (like your boyfriends hangup with flirting) so watch out!
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