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Hey im getting into alot of fights with my really good friend on the internet and 1 day my mom read our confersation and now she never aloud over at my house again and at school we hang out alot and we havent got in a fight yet and i realyy want to ask my mom if she could come over but im to scared shell yell at me!! what should i do??
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Tell your mum that you were having a fight and that your friends now! and that it wasnt all her fault and that the only reason she shouted because you were all arguing.
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This situation tends to happen when their is a third party in relationship, I mean I know it was an accident that your mom saw that conversation... But when you ever have a fight with someone try not envolving people that care about you . They always try to protect you from the person they think hurt you. In all actuallity they dont realize that you probably said some hurtfull things. My advice is for you to explain to your mother that you both exchanged some angry thoughts but you both apologized to eachother, and now are treating eachother differently. Tell her that you want to be able to show her how your friendship with this person has changed and you would like to invite her over. I am sure that your mom will understand....
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i have to be honest with you, im not completely sure because i have never been in a situation like that. but if u really don't want to ask her in person u could leave her a note saying everything and tell her why you wrote a note instead of talking to her and she might understand. hope i helped!
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Tell mom you and friend had a fight but have made up. She probably had fights with her friends when she was in school. She just got mad seeing you picked on.
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tell your mom that you are a filthy liar and made them all up.
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You cant do anything if you dont ask.
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Hey! I'm very sorry about your mom's reaction about that fight with your friend. But keep in mind, she shouldn't read your conversations on AIM because that's too personal for anyone else to see besides you.
Moving on, you need to talk to her. Don't even worry about her yelling at you, if you want to get things cleared up, talking is the most effective way. It's important that you stay calm, even if she does start to raise her voice at you. The truth is she does have a reason for doing this. In this case, I think she wants to protect you. But I think she needs to let you take control of the situation. You're probably old enough that you should be able to deal with whatever comes you way. Such as the highschool drama, and the kids. You need to defend yourself rather than having somebody else defend you. And the more you do this the more you'll be stronger. I think your mom has also fought with her friends a couple times in her life.
If you agree, you should tell her that. But do it gently and let her talk. You could say "Mom, I'd really wish you'd reconsider having ______ over. Because, she is my friend but we just had a disagreement. And I'm sure you've had fights with your friends before. I want to tryand fix things, but I need you to let me do that. I want to be able to handle it myself and I'll talk to her about what she said. She probably didn't even mean what she said, she just said that because she was mad at the time. But we can probably get through this. And if we do, I hope that she can come over again because she's too good of a friend to lose."
That will get her attention. Let her say what she has to say about it. And hopefully it will work and things will get figured out! Let me know if you need anything else hun!
Love,
Mandee
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That is tough. Give your mom some space for a bit. She probably doesn't want her "poor baby" hurt. And she didn't like what she heard on the IM, and doesn't want you hearing that yet :) that's kinda how mom's are. One day, make sure she's in a good mood, if she isn't, she will probably yell at you. Tell her if you can have a friend over, when she asks who, tell her. And then say, That was her on the conversation, that was a girl at our school pretending to be her. Or make up somethign along the lines of that :) It's a white lie, but you can't be sentenced to not having your friend over!!!
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