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Hey, My name is Mandy Marie. I'm an Australian and always will be one. I still own the accent, but I live in the US. I recently just moved from Miami Beach to New York City. I like : Long walks, cars, paintball, hockey, football, painting, drawling, designing, sculptures, sewing, gum, guys, animals, surfing, bungee jumping, sky diving, pizza, fries, movies, I like throwing gum at the walls and laughing so hard it hurts my stomach, I love to sing in the shower, dance on the highway, cuddling, hugging, kissing, talking, I love to run up and down the stairs, get kicked out of stores, to go to a restaurant and bring my own food, I like to make a nice tropical drink, I like to stare at the stars, to hold hands, to just drive around not knowing where I'm going, to take road trips.
I want: to own my own sex shop called "Getting Freaky in the Basement" or just pretend I have one.
I am: really nice, I promise! I will do my best to help you. I've been through murders, deaths, abusive relationships, eating disorders, breakups, losing my family and my friends, giving up something you have your heart set on. Please ask me whatever you want. I will always listen to you and I respect whatever decision you make.
For more about me: A survey. Yessss! (You have got to be so bored by now. Half of you haven't even read this far..)
Basic Questions!!
First name- Mandy
Middle name- Marie
Do you like your name?- Uh, it's okay.
Are you named after anyone?- No, not really.
Who?-
Birthday- March 20th, I will be 20 soon! Yes!
Current age- 19
Where you were born- Sydney, Australia
Where you currently live- New York City, close to Manhattan
Your looks and body!!
Face shape- Oval.
Skin tone- Beige.
Do you have acne?- No.
Hair color- Blonde, currently has black and red streaks in it.
Hair texture- Straight.
Hair style- It's usually down and straight, or in pigtails.
Hair length- Past my shoulders.
Eye color- A dark blueish green color.
Eye shape- Um, regular? Circle? What the hell!?
How big are your eyes?- What?!
Do you wear contacts or glasses?- Neither.
How about braces? Have/had them?- Never had them, no.
Do you have straight teeth?- Yep.
Are they really white?- I would hope so.
Do you have high cheekbones?- Wow.
Long eyelashes?- Yeah.
Do you wear makeup?- Mostly.
What kind of makeup do you use?- MAC or Estee Lauder, Stila, Chanel, Urban Decay, LORAC, Pout. It all varies, I like to play around.
What brand of makeup do you use?- Because I'm such a dipshit I answered it above. *shrugs*
What shoe size do you wear?- 6 ..okay, so I have small feet. Kill me!
Ring size?- 4.
Belt size?- Um...
Pant size?- 4
Shirt size?- small
How tall are you?- 5'6
Happy with it?- I could be taller.
Your weight- 113
Happy with it?- I guess.
Do you exercise a lot?- Sometimes. Probably not enough though.
What kind of exercising do you do?- Well, does dancing count? How about walking?
Are you 'toned'?- Are you a fucking "tard"?
Muscular?- Oh baby! Check out my 8 pack. Kidding, gosh!
Overweight?- Nope.
Are you in shape?- Sure.
You and School!!
What school do you attend?- I go to college now.
What grade are you in?- Sophmore in college.
What classes are you taking?- My major is art.
What's your favorite one?- Art.
Least favorite?- ::::
Favorite teacher- :::::
What class do they teach?- ::::
Least favorite teacher- :::
What class do they teach?- Okay, seriously...
How many schools have you ever attended?- 3.
Are you in any clubs?- Oh.
What ones?- My.
What about school plays?- God.
Musicals?- No.
Do you go to a lot of school dances?- No.
Are you full of school spirit?!?!?- Hahaha, I never was.
Ever got detention?- Never once.
Suspended?- No.
Expelled?- No.
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Hey! I am 14 and my sister is 11. So i have this problem with the relation ship with my dad he seems to play favorites with me and my sister, who is younger than i am. i think that the reason for this is because she is more of a "kiss up" and i just tend to be more stubborn(like he is). For example, i did 7 hrs of work at $5 and hr. and my sister did 2 hrs at $5 at hr. and she earned more than me. Any ideas of how to get my father to treat us like eqauls.
Also are there and jobs avalible for someone 14 (besides babysitting)
One thing about this is that you cannot say what the right parenting way is. And a lot of parents will take it in that direction. Just like teachers, sometimes parents will play favorites. I know it's sad but true. You need to understand that you have to be your own person. If you suck up to your dad you're just acting childish because you want your way. Here's what I say about it: Do what you can do, for yourself. If you need to talk to your dad baout it, do it. You know what you have to say. But here's the trick: saying "you play favorites" will automatically make him stop listening to you. Instead think of it as an essay. The introduction you want to catch his attention. Be direct and to the point. " (Your sister's name) was working for you less than I was, I was just wondering why she got more money than I was. Am I not working hard enough or is she doing something better?" This will state your point without offending him.
Okay, when you have two people who have simliar qualities, they'll tend to fight over something. If you and he are both stubborn then both of you will just agree with your ways without wanting to hear the others. This makes perfect sense! Be sure to give him the chance to tell you what flaws he sees in the situation and without getting angry listen. I know that can be hard sometimes but you just need to learn how to accept peoples view points in life, good or bad. This way at least you'd be acting mature enough and that should be fairly recognizable to him.
As for the job, hmm. That's tough because most people won't hire too many 14 year olds. But looka round and see if you can bus at a local restaurant or lifeguard in the summer. Check your local area for jobs. And if you have older friends or family see if they can hook you up with a place you work at. If not youc an always start of by working at a sumemr camp or local community service center. At least you'll have something to put on your applications.
ok well first of im 13/f and everyone in my family is a drug addict, my mom, my dad and my brother(who is 21). right now everyone is clean except my brother, and i know im at a high risk of becoming a drug addict and im really scared. ive never taken anything except gotten drunk about 3 times. this is really hard to cope with. ive cut a couple times and my friends dont really help a lot. my dads been in and out of jail and in and out of rehab. and theres a lot of other things that i dont feel like going in to detail. but i dont know how to deal with this so my question is, is there anything i could do to cope with this better(ive already been to a shrink and it was no help) like is there any websites or anything and not al-anon(not sure if thats it) cause thats just people with familys who drink.. well thanks for any help in advance.
You know what, family is an important part of how you were raised but it doesn't mean you have to follow in their footsteps. This really isn't about them, it's about you. You don't need a shrink, you just need someone to talk to who will support your decisions and give you hope. You're still very young and I'm sure you'll encounter more problems than some typical people would. But use that in a good way. You are going to have pros and cons in each family. Right now your family is going through a rough time. Why they do it, I don't know. Maybe that is how they cope.
I'd hope that you would realize how important it is that you see their flaws and don't want to go down that same path. You are in total control of this. You aren't at a high risk sweetie, you're the only one who makes that decision. It's knowing what is the better one and choosing carefully.
You might not have a great family life, but try to make the best of it. My sister went into drug rehab too, and I'm not an addict. Never was. Learn from peoples mistakes. Drugs create more problems and much more stress. You definitely don't need that. Your family has already made the decision to take drugs and now they have to get their life back in order. It definitely isn't easy. But through all the hard times, recall what happened and how much damage it put on you as well and learn from that.
Talk to your friends about it. Adults tend to not fully understand the whole concept. Live your life how you want. And don't follow what everyone else does.
That's just my input.
Love,
Mandee
okay so i am in 8th grade and i go to a private school. i am always told that i am a very smart person at home. but then i see myself as really not smart. but really stupid.
so anyway, i am doing VERY bad in science class. like i am at risk of failing and i am soo scared. i can't even sleep at night anymore. cuz then i strart brething really fast and sweat and all this stuff because i am stressed. so my teacher sent me something, saying i can fail. but i got it b4 my parents and tore it up. i am sooo scared to tell them. i planned on telling them but i keep procrastinating. so i don't know how to tell them. i am also doing bad in 2 other classes. but not as bad!!
i am thinking of just oging to public school next year, so i can start over new and have a fresh start. so i dkn. should i? is there anything bad about public school?
how do i tell my parenstr?
sorry this is soo0 long.
i will rate high!
If you were to tell me this in person, I'd first give you hug and tell you I feel for you. I know exactly what you're talking about! And I had the same kind of thing going on but the more I thought about it, I figured by leaving I would be running away from my problems.
And you are running away from your problems by moving to a new school. Sure, they say given that you'd be at a new school you start a new life, new friends, new grades. Not really. Okay so the school envirorment may differ but it's up to you when to start clean. You can do that now.
You are smart despite your grades, believe me! If you were dumb you'd say "fuck it" and not give a shit that you were failing. But the fact that you do care tells me that you're smart because you are trying to make a wise decision here.
You could do this:
(1) If you have time, talk to your teacher. But try not to lead her into having a discussion with your parents. Let her know that you want to get a better grade and opt for extra credit or ask her what you could do to recieve that. This way she knows that at least you are making an effort and when you do talk to your parents you can let them know that you've tried to ask for help.
(2) Start fresh and forget about the grade you have now. I know that it is very hard to do. But be prepared, study, be organized. Pretend that it's the first week of school again. Always ask for help, stay after class. Make your best effort to let it be known that you've been trying to understand the material covered. I loved going to Starbucks with my friends and working on homework.
*But by leaving private school, I wouldn't do it. In life you can't simply run away, well - okay, you could but where do you end up? You're not solving the problem, you just let it go. By you staying you'll prove you're stong enough to take control of a bad situation. Like what you're in right now.
Sorry for the pep talk, but when I was about 17 I was practically raising my own sister since my parents traveled for their buisnesses. Well my sister grew up by me and she was spoiled. She took full advantage of that and knew how to push my buttons. She didn't do shit. AfterI turned 18, I moved away to Florida. I knew if I stayed there I wouldn't be fixing the problem. They wouldn't learn to be independent unless they knew I wouldn't be around to take care of everything for them. I wanted to be there for my sister but I had to live my own life. She needed to learn her own life as well and know that things don't come so easy. It was one of the hardest decisions of my life.
Anyhow stay in that school. You need to get through the bad grades. You can definitely fix this. And moving won't solve it at all.
As for telling your parents, just tell them. It's really all you can do. You could sugarcoat it by saying I'm not doing as well as you think I am in science, but I want to try and get help and get through this year. I need your support.
Make it honest yet short. And if they get mad, I know it will upset you. But you got to motivate yourself to do better. Don't let them get you down.
Sorry for making you read all of this. I'll be here though, so if you need me just contact me. or this.
Love,
Mandee
hey i need major help on getting a new screen name and i was just wondering if you could help me..
my name is kaela but a lot of my friend call me kay
im in dance
i have a boyfriend named ed
i love the color pink
i like to shop at hollister & abercrombie
i hope this helps you! thanks a lot
Oh, I am horrible with screen names! As you can tell mine is definitely not very unique. I'm very bad at this. But I can try...
HCObabe?
XoHollisterXo?
AbercrombieChic69?
Kay834? (whatever your favorite numbers are..)
Pretty_In_Pink
I give up..
I'm sorry, haha!
I had a very busy day. I got up at 5 and rode in a car for 2 hours to the airport. Then I went on 2 planes, one of which had a 3 and a half hour delay. Alos, I had to eat alot of disgusting fast food. I'm home now and exhausted. I just feel like I'm still on the airplane, my mind is wandering, I feel sick, and I am restless. Does anyone have any ways that I could relax? Or that would make me feel better?
Honey, I read this and laughed. Not at you, but just that fact that you and me seem to be a lot alike. There are days when all I do is travel, dealing with delays, people, sucky food. You need to breathe and take it all in. You are at home now so you should feel at ease and comfort. If you are tired but you can't sleep, don't. Try to allow yourself to stay relaxed by watching your favorite movie, going for a walk, sipping green tea or whatever you prefer. If you have any pets go see what they are up to. For some reason if you pet your dog or cat or whatever it may be, animals are known for relaxation. You could take a bath or shower if you wanted to. You could read a book. You could paint or draw if your into that kind of thing. Maybe try pilates or any cardio activity if you are tired or sitting from the plane or whatever. Maybe go out for a drive, hang out with old friends.
If you're sick it's hard to feel better. But just try and take it easy. Try to drink a lot of water and rest. I know a lot of people say this but it is true. Do what you can but don't push yourself over the limit.
Ok, there was this guy at my church who really liked me for a long time. One day we were writing notes to each other and at the end of church service he asked me out and i said yes. Everything was cool for a while, when i talked to him on the phone he was real koo, he was nice and seemed like the guy i could carry a coversation with. Then when i would see him he would put on a big act infront of my friends and not even talk to me. He NEVER called me on the phone either. Then one of my friends called him to see why he was not calling and it turns out he ws cheating on me with some gurl from his old school and he made out with some other girl and got stripe throat(lol). Remember he does not know i know he is cheating on me. So i call him another day and pretend like everything was ok and he hung up on me when i got back on the phone after saying hang on. After he hung up the phone i called back thinking he did not hear me say hold on, but he ignored my call. Later he claimed that his phone went dead, but i dont belive that. Oh yeah he also told my friend that he liked me but not enough to go out with me which is a lie because he is the one who bought it up on the notes in church that one day. But anyway i am going to break up with him, but after all the things he done to me i still want to call him and remain friends. Is this werid? My friends might have pressured him a little bit but its cause they are mi amigas. I still kind of want to be his girlfriend also, but i am not sure if it is because i really like him or i just like the idea of having a boyfriend? I am SO confused!!! But how can we remain friends?
P.S Sorry it is so long
P.S.S. Important info: the guy has just lost his grandmother and switched schools could this be why he is acting weird? Also before he asked me out i did not like him as more than a friend i just said yes to him to give him a chance, but now i actually like him.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!
You know what, I think you aren't looking at the whole picture. You seem to enjoy the idea of having a boyfriend, I think. Tell me this, what do you look for in a guy? Be completely honest with yourself. For example, I look for loyalty, personality, a good balance, someone to make you feel like you're their whole world. Now, if I was going out with this guy, I'd have to say to myself does he have these qualities. Loyalty? Cheated on me. Personality? How could I tell if he doesn't call? A good balance? To me it doesn't seem like he knows what he's doing. He obviously has his own insight on women because he has another girl and states that he didn't like you enough to go out with you. He has no balance what so ever because it sounds like he doesn't know what the hell he's doing. You get the idea.
My whole point of this is to make you realize that you should want to make yourself happy before anything else. Why would you put up with his shit? First of all, he's playing the wrong card on you. Meaning that he's using excuses, cheating on you, and telling things behind your back. You don't need this. It will lead you in the wrong directions and you'll have mixed emotions through out the whole relationship. I say, if you are going to have a relationship don't just go for the "oh, but at least I have a boyfriend now". Find a guy that fits your needs, a guy who you won't have to question, and a guy who is willing to be your back up and make you feel special. You deserve more. Why would you settle for anything less. You are better than that.
And O.K. so he's been through a rough time. But you can't be his back up right now. That is no excuse for the way he's acting towards you. He's be using those reasons to try and cover it up. No, it's his fault because he is in control of his actions either way.
If you want to be friends that is totally your choice. But That could get rough at times and I'd make sure he settles down a bit before even considering it.
Sorry it was kind of brutal, but that's my opinion on it. Take care sweetie! Please try and not be like all the others, it's better to find someone right for you.
I’m 15 and have huge boobs. In about 7th grade, I had C’s.. and they just kept getting bigger and bigger. Now, I have about D’s, maybe even DD's??? Boys stare, and it gets annoying. I don’t want people to only think I’m pretty or “hott”, because of my boobs, but I do like my boobs… it gives me something that I can be happy ( i guess) about.. because it's uncommon/ the problem that most females complain about is usually how small their boobs are...that they barely have any... but for me, its the opposite! I absolutely love shopping for bathing suits, although I can never find any, for a reasonable price that truly fits- That im NOt half hanging out of (my boobs)! I am a cheerleader and fit, and I have a good body ( i think). I weight about 128 pounds and I’m about 5’7”. My stomach is pretty flat, and I'm happy with my body- but my boobs seem unproportioned! I know most girls complain about how small their chest it, but for me, it’s the opposite and sometimes its soo annoying. Even finding shirts is a challenge. I have to end up getting the XL’s just so it will fit around the bust, even though they’re always big around the stomach and stuff…I dunno, it just seems like my boobs are extra-big, and it gets annoying. Where most people would be overjoyed with big boobs, it seems like they get in the way of my cheerleading and whatnot.
I guess this really isn’t a question that neeeeeds advice.. but I just wanted people to tell me that I’m not alone.. and big boobs r great. Lmao. I’m sure all the guys love em… but it kind of makes me feel insecure.. like everyones starring like “whoa.. they’re huge”.?? Well, I know my boyfriend loves em.. and all the boys are jealous.. but i dont even know what to think. WHY DOES IT ALWAYS SEEM LIKE U WANT WHAT U DEFINENTLY CANT HAVE? :( Please help!
I know how you feel, somewhat. I can't say that I have extremely large boobs. (as you can tell from my picture) But I developed very early, my mother did the same thing. I was in 6th grade and had already developed boobs. In 7th grade they were Bs and by the time I had reached grade 8th they were C's. It would be difficult because even though I'm thin, my boobs would make my size bigger. Basically, when buying shirts, I'd blame it on the boobs. I'm a sophmore in college now, and they've grown still.
I'd sometimes feel upset because if I was wearing low-cut shirts, the guys would stare at my boobs the entire time during classes in highschool. It got to be ridiculous. In 7th grade a kid asked me if I had implants. And I knocked him out. Honestly, he was annoying. But besides that, I do want you to know that you're not alone.
My friend is a triple D. She cries over how big her breast are and complains all the time. Because of their weight she has problems with her body. It gets sore and she can't find anything that fits her. But recently, she's learn how to deal. She called me up one day crying over her boobs. And I told that she needs to accept them. She has to live with them, so why not make the best of it? If you sit there feeling sorry for yourself how do you expect it to get better? It won't. The only thing that reduces your weight of your boobs is a breast reduction or weight loss. (sometimes.) Considering the fact that she couldn't afford a breast reduction, and that she would be nervous over it she decided not to opt for that. She's already skinny, so loosing any more weight would make her look like a stick. It will take awhile for her to fully accept her boobs. But in time she will. She's already started to. She got offered a modeling career and she's happy with herself more than ever now.
The significance is to be comfortable in your own skin. Everyone has their flaws. We just have big boobs, but it's okay! Usually if a person can carry theirselves well, it doesn't matter what flaw they have. You just have to come to the realization that you need to have acceptance in yourself. Plus, most girls would kill for bigger boob. I know they aren't as fun as they appear to be, but it shouldn't stop you from being comfortable.
Hey, did anyone dry that new Dessert by Jessica Simpson? What lip gloss flavor tastes the best?
Yes, and I honestly don't like them. I expected better. To me they tasted too fake and it's like something you could get at the dollar store. The quality isn't the great and I think it's too high priced for what it actually is. That's just my opinion, so please don't hold that against me.
But I did try the Toffee and out of all that one if my favorite. But then again, even I don't like it that much. Haha, it's just...not what I expected. I do know that my friend likes the Cupcake one. But I don't know.
If you go to www.sephora.com they have other products that are sweet and dessert-like that, I think are a lot better. Maybe you wanna check out those.
Happy Holidays!
there is this thing at my school called Beginning Algebra and Geometry and also Pre-algebra. I am in pre al but i have a 98 average and i took this test to see if i could get moved up to BAG, but i didnt. i got half the ?s wrong within 10 ?s and i have been stressing about it because ireally wanted to be in it and i have been trying to prove to my teacher that i need to be in that class, but it is becoming unhealthy i think. i have gotten 3 100s on tests and quizes since then so i probably have a 99 average. can you help me to stop stressing? or at least to deal?
Sarah
Sarah, I know that this is probably what you wouldn't want to hear, and you'll probably roll your eyes when you read this. But since I already warned you, I'll just go with it.
You seem like a perfectionist. And I truly respect the fact that you want to challenge yourself and try a more advanced level. We all want the best for ourselves, even those of us who are slackers. I know that you could probably pass the BAG, and you know you can too. Your teacher doesn't.
But look on the bright side, you're doing so well in the class you are in now. Colleges will love the fact that you are doing great in your class. There is no need to move up, because what do you need to prove? Nothing. I know you feel like you're ready to move up but if the test results weren't as accurate as you'd like them to be it will be very hard to get in. Maybe you just didn't focus enough on it due to stress? If you feel like you can do better now, ask about retaking it. Explain that you know that you're capable of doing better and you want to challenge yourself.
Part of life is accepting whatever is thrown at you. In this case it's not getting into that course. You can use this year for improvement. If you already took the test you probably have a main idea of what the material is. Take your mistakes and learn from them. Honestly, it's what keeps me going today. Know that you tried - and rather than thinking you failed at it, you didn't. You'll gain preparation for the next time. Besides, people don't always get what they want. If you look up celebs profiles you'll notice that there were many times when they wanted to get into something but didn't make it. But now they're a huge success.
Heres what I would do:
- ask your teacher if you can retake the test
- ask for assistence if you need help
- ask if there is any alternative
- ask if you can prepare for a more advanced class for next year. ( the teachers love this)
If not don't stress. Seriously. You did all you could do and I think you should reward yourself for all your accomplishments right now. You'll be okay sweetie! Just hang in there.
Hey I'm 16 years old and a guy. I eat lunch at about 12.40, to get out of school at 2.40. I work out after school, mostly cardio workouts that go anywhere from 30-90 minutes. At lunch, there isn't always a variety to choose from, since it's the last one, and I usually get PB&J, but not by choice. I add a banana and some apple juice to keep things healthy, but that doesn't work for me. I either feel sick or too hungry when I work out after school. Any other foods or sandwhiches I should try? I'm not sure what to get to fill me up, not over fill me, but give me the energy I need for after school. Thanks - will rate.
Can you drive? If you drive to school pick up something from a gas station like Sheetz or something. If not, then just find something at school lunch.
I don't think school lunches are very healthy. Even though they have been trying to promote better eating habits, they really suck at it. Anyhow I'd pick a sandwich like ham/turkey/cheese on wheat or white bread. You need carbs, they will give you the energy you need through out the day.
Milk and dairy fills you up. Think of it this way: if you had two exchanges of dair such as cheese and yogurt or milk, however you want to set it up, try that. It's very filling and good for you too. But I know that a lot of people don't like milk. Try your best if you can.
*Fiber*
So important! These will make you full enough but not too over powering that it will make you sick. Fruits, veggies, and grains are all sources of fiber. Try and load up on the fiber if you can. I'm sure you'll notice a difference.
Good luck!
I don't think I have an eating disorder but some people say I am on my way onto being annorexic. I mean I am 93lbs and 15 years old. I am always watching my weight making sure I am not over 95lbs. I know it may sound crazy but I don't know.. if I get at 95 or above not usually to 98 though I quit eating till I am back to 93lbs. I don't know why I do this but it is just how I am. I do not eat Breakfast or Lunch but always Supper. So please help me and give me some reasonable advice other than "you need to eat breakfast and lunch cuz its not healty" cuz that is all people seem to say, I mean my boyfriend is worried but to me this is the only way to control MY life.
You're only human. And just like everyone, you want to be able to control some aspect of your life. Weight is something you have total control over. But I do have to tell you that you need to control it in the right way, because this isn't it.
You didn't state your height and I'm not one to judge quickly. But assuming that 15 year olds typically range from 110-130, you are way below the average.
Let me ask you this...do you want to be another statistic? Do you want to be one out of those five who have the most common eating disorder? If you're still trying to figure out who you are, I'd really consider not following the trendy disorder.
Your friends and family and boyfriend should be concerned. You may not have realized this but from how you worded your question it seems like you're not happy with yourself. I'm not sure if this is true, and please do not get offended if it's not. You need to take care of yourself and have control in the right way. Obsessing over weight is never good. In fact, you don't have any control, you're just loosing it.
You know that you should already eat three balanced meals a day. So why aren't you? Dinner doesn't count, no matter how big the portion size. Keep your meals leveled and balanced. If you intend not to do this, you will have problems. Not just on the verge of an eating disorder but also your health will decrease believe me.
Anorexia or any eating disorder really makes you ugly. No joke. My friends were, and I've been through it. I know how it goes, I do. If I hadn't caught myself I could have been in a lot worse shape. But my friend, oh my god, I cannot tell you how bad she looked.
The facial hair is horrible. It's all over you, all over your stomach. It's plainly gross. Honestly. Your period stops. Great - you chance of having kids is very limited now. Your immune system goes down. You start loosing functions. You start becomming weak and brittle. You hair falls out. Your teeth and nails are yellow. You're pale as ever. And you have no strength, no energy.
That never happened to me, but it has to my friends. Luckily, I got help the first two weeks of mye ating disorder. It's really hard and shameful to see. You look and feel awful and you're treated differently.
These are graphic just to warn you. But this is how people look. It's sad. And our world has came down to this...so please take CONTROL now. And try to gain weight. You won't be fat, I promise you. ( if that is what you are afraid of ) Do it for yourself, and if you can't, do it for you boyfriend or friends. They want to see you healthy.
http://www.qeliz.ac.uk/psychology/images/anorexia.jpg
http://zero.uselessjunk.org/images/stories/anorexia_1.jpg
http://www.d.umn.edu/~jvaleri/anorexia3_edited.jpg
Health Consequences of Anorexia Nervosa:
In anorexia nervosa’s cycle of self-starvation, the body is denied the essential nutrients it needs to function normally. Thus, the body is forced to slow down all of its processes to conserve energy, resulting in serious medical consequences.
Abnormally slow heart rate and low blood pressure, which mean that the heart muscle is changing. The risk for heart failure rises as the heart rate and blood pressure levels sink lower and lower.
Reduction of bone density (osteoporosis), which results in dry, brittle bones.
Muscle loss and weakness.
Severe dehydration, which can result in kidney failure.
Fainting, fatigue, and overall weakness.
Dry hair and skin; hair loss is common.
Growth of a downy layer of hair called lanugo all over the body, including the face, in an effort to keep the body warm.
(http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/Eating_Disorders/consequences.asp)
i am a 16 year old female, i am 5 ft. 3 3/4 inches. i normally weigh about 110 pounds, but it's sort of weird because my weight seems to rise and fall all the time. sometimes i weigh myself & i'm only 109 lbs, then 2 days later i'll be 115 lbs...then it will keep falling & rising! i do't understand why (i mean i know it has to do with the amount of calories you eat) but on most days, especially monday-friday i eat pretty much the same things. does it have anything to do with something besides the food i eat? can it have to do with your period? are there specific times where right after you eat you weigh more & then you drop some weight? i also do between 100-200 sit ups every night, but that only really shapes my abs...it doesn't really affect my weight! does anyone have any idea on why my weight rises & falls the way it does? any advice on how to keep it around 110 or 111? also, do specific foods like chinese cause you to put on weight more eaisly? thank you!
Yep, it's another reason because your a teenager. It probably isn't you. Your body is going through stages, still, at 16 years old. And typically, you'll notice that roller-coaster affect with your weight. Some days you'll gain and some days you'll lose weight. This actually happens your whole life. Even through adulthood. There are times in people's life where they gain weight and then lose it. In my nutrition class, we learned about the rise and fall issue. The main reason why this occurs is because of your hormones. They change and yes, your period can definitely cause it. During PMS, or just when you have your period, certain times you'll get bloated. Some girls will gain weight and then once their cycle is over they will lose it again.
To maintain your weight, just keep consistency. Exercise typically around the same time each day if you can. And maintain your diet. * the foods you eat* You can also try to stop the bloating by eating certain foods and beverages. I can't remember what those are right now because I'm kind of tire but you could Google it. Or if you want, I'll get back to you on it. Just let me know. But for the most part, I wouldn't worry too much about it. If it happens, just go with it.
Chinese food is fine. Just like any other food, watch what you eat and how much of it. For instance, don't load up on the chinese fortune cookies. If you typically eat Chinese, that is okay. Just control your carbs.
Drink lots of water! Most people don't drink the recommended amount (8 to 9 cups) but it is one of the key things you can to to maintain your weight. It flushes out your system, which I'm sure you already know. But if you keep drinking lots of water, maybe you will notice an improvement.
Good luck!
What are some ways to calm down and relax? School is making me CRAZY. I'm extremely stressed out and I just feel like giving up. HELP PleaSE.
Most importantly, understand that some techniques may not work for you. This is because everyone has their differences in what makes them relax. The best thing to do is find out what works best for you.
As a 19 year old workaholic, I get stressed all the time. I spend my days working on creating my own fashion line company, while trying to pass my college classes, finishing my art, working the hours of my other job, taking care of my pets ( I have five ), managing my house, making sure I pay the bills, and still have time to hang out with my friends.
But here are some things that make me relax when I need to. I hope they work for you.
- Drinking hot tea. As weird as this sounds, drinking hot tea gives me that warm, fuzzy feeling. It makes you relax. I'm not sure why. You know what's better? If you sit down, and drink it. Why? Well, I don't know about you, but I often think that society is too rushed. Everyone always thinks about what they need to do and the future. They miss out on enjoying their current moment because they are too focused on what they SHOULD be doing. Relax first, then do that later. haha
- Walking. I love it! It's really refreshing to me. I love taking my dogs for a walk and listening to my music. It's quiet calming. Even though I tend to listen to alternative, screamo, metal music. ( and others ) but, yeah. It's nice!
- Listening to your favorite music. Enough said.
- Reading. It gets you thinking about something else for a chance. And it kind of puts you at ease.
- Going to Starbucks. You'll find that the atmosphere is calming in quiet. It's a place where you can go to have your favorite cup of coffee and read or just think about things on your mind.
- Drawing/talking/writing. It depends on who you are and what you like to do. But these are some of the most common ways to relax yourself. My favorite is drawing. Because I love art and painting or sketching is one of my favs.
-Bubble bath/ Hot tub/ shower. Hot water. =D
- Sleep. Seriously, a good night of sleep will make you feel so much better. Plus, you're not awake, so it's like you actually can't worry about anything.
I know schools hard, believe me. And honestly, if you're in highschool and plan to go to college, it gets harder. You're stuck with more responsibility and sometimes you just want to go back to being a kid and not be so independent. But you got to know how to relax, because if you don't it just builds up. You're pretty much capable of doing anything you want. My mom told me once that if you let yourself fall, you're the only one who has to pick yourself back up again. No one can do it for you. And I used to think she was crazy, but now I value that whole concept. Take it day by day and try to do what you can do for that day. If you can't get all you wanted to do, don't stress over it. Know that you did what you could do and take time for yourself and relax. Rather than beat yourself over what you're doing wrong, think of what you did that was good. It will improve your self esteem.
A friend of one of my friends recently commited suicide, and it's really taking a toll on my friend. (Let's just call her Jane haha) So I've tried talking to Jane, but every time I try to comfort her or w/e she says something really rude or just turns away. I know she's grieving, and I'm trying to tell myself it's nothing personal, but what she's doing is really hurtful. How should I tell her how this makes me feel? Is it too early? (This happened just a couple days ago.) Can anyone tell me how I should try and make her feel better? Thanks.
This is the hardest thing that someone can ever go through. I want to let you know that my heart is out to you, your friend, and everyone else who has been through a death in their family or friends.
Your friend is probably taking this a lot harder than you right now. And while we all cope differently, she pushes people away - that's how she seems to be coping with it. And while I'll admit that this isn't a healthy way to cope, she probably needs time to realize that herself. And eventually, I hope that she will. She needs to know that it won't solve the problem. What's happened has already happened. And she might feel bad that she can't change it. Perhaps she was so close with this friend that she felt as if she should have saw the signs.
How you feel is important to. And you shouldn't bottle it up inside. I would give it time and she how Jane is coming along. If she seems to get better with time, I'd address how she made you feel and how she needs to be able to talk to you because you both are in this situation together. Let her know that you are there for her and you'll always be. The key is to make her feel comfortable enough so that if she has a problem or she needs someone to talk to she can tell you about it instead of hurting you.
No matter what you say, sometimes people can't get over it. And what you say can't bring your friend who died back. But you can always be there for her, support her. Try to get her having fun again. Go out, meet guys, go to the movies. Haha whatever you can think of.
Again, I'm very sorry to her that. I hope you guys are okay. And if your not it does get better in time but it never fully will disappear. You'll always have memories and miss her. But keep those memories with you forever.
Take care, doll! Make sure you take care of yourself too.
-Mandee
how do i applie makeup so it looks good but my parents still can't tell i am wearing it?
thanks:D
If your skin is fairly clear, I'd skip the foundation because you probably don't need it. I'd pick a powder close to your skin color and use that instead. Make sure that you do your need with that same color so that it blends out evenly.
For your eyes, you don't have to use eyeliner. A trick is to use black mascara on your top and lower lashes. A lot of people don't know this but if you first apply mascara on your bottom lashes first, they will prevent those black dots you get. Always start in the middle of your upper lashes, flipping them up. Then do the outer lashes. If you absolutely feel the need to use eyeliner, you could use a neutral color like brown as opposed to black. If your using eyeling draw it by your lash line.
Tint your cheeks with a bronzer or a light blush. Just enough to give you some color if you like. Brush on the apples of your checks. To do this, just smile and you'll be able to apply it better.
For lips, all you need is some clear gloss and you're all set. I really like MAC lipglass. But there's always really good other ones out there. Steer away from lip tinted glosses as they will emphasis color and clear makes your lips look glossy without being colorful.
Hey Mandee,
I just wanted to say thank you so much for your advice. I have decided to just leave our relationship how it is. Hes my friend and Im not up for losing him and your advice really helped me make my decision. There is also no way i could support a relationship or be hurt due to the fact that im on 3 basketball teams and a indoor soccer team. Maybe later on, but right now i am very happy just being friends with him. You are really good at giving advice and i am really grateful for your answer. I really owe you one! Feel free to ask me anything even though i am new to giving advice and have just registered. Thank you so much again! :)
Aw, you are very welcome hun! I'm glad you are satisfied with how things are right now. It's smart to keep it on good terms. Because once you lose something irreplaceble you can never have it back again. Maybe later on, if you feel more secure, you could try to make it work. Just be careful and most importantly, enjoy the time you spend with him. Thank you so much for the sweet message! It makes me happy to know I actually helped someone out. Haha! See ya later, have a great holiday!
-Mandee
hey. Im thirteen and i have this friend who is a boy. Hes like my best friend and we have been best friends for about 2 years. the thing is that i think that i like him. I don't know what to do. If i tell him im afraid how he will react due to the fact that i have dropped no hints and he thinks we are only friends. Also im really afriad on how this will affect our friendship because i don't know what i would do without him. i know this is tough but i really need help on this one!
This is most common with a lot of people. I remember going through the same thing. I'd like to tell you what happened to me, maybe it will give you some insight and help make a decision.
I was really good friends with this guy, James for about four years. And we were just friends, I remember going to dinner at 3 in the mornings before school. We'd run in the snow and go up to the cabins. Anyhow there was no romance - or anything like it between us. I guess that's what triggered the thought of relationships being more than friends. Due to the fact that there was nothing physical between us, I wanted that. You'd have you attention with the other guy friends, and him and I were so close. I'd talk and he'd actually listen. I thought that was it. So we eventually discussed it and came to realization that we both wanted each other. I can't tell you how hard that was telling him. Anyhow we went out and our friends made bets on how far we'd make it. It only lasted two months. You know how people say dating or having you friend as a boyfriend can affect the friendship you once had? Well, maybe for some people that has never happened, and they are lucky. But I find that statement very true. It happens. We got in a fight, a big fight. He wasn't the same guy he was and the way he acted towards me was different than what we had as friendship. The results were brutal. And to this day, I remember how much it hurt to go through that. I lost one of my best friends that day. As much as we tried to fake it, the friendship was never the same, and eventually faded away - into nothing.
I'm not telling you NOT try and see how this works. I believe that everything has to be tried once in order to get the best possible decision. Anyhow, I want you to know that what most people think is reality, simply is not. In English - people judge too quickly. They assume that it will work out, everything will be okay. but they have their doubts. If you are going to attempt this, list all the things you enjoy about your friendship with him. Now think back about what would happen if some of those changed. How would it affect you, him, and your overall friendship? Would you be willing to risk your friendship with him?
If you want to ask him, just do it. There is no other way. By asking him online or on the phone - that's kind of cold-hearted I think. Why? Because it would be so much meaningful asking him in person. By asking him through other sources, you'd just be implying that you can't look him in the eyes telling him you like him and want to become more than just friends. He would appreciate it more if you just said it personally. He's probably be impressed, and hey, that definitely scores you some points!
Take care,
Mandee
hey! i lub you advice but anyway i have a boyfriend and we have been going out about a little over a month and well everyone wants us to kiss..but they call us freezers (freeze up about kissing) and well i want to get rid of that i just u know want to kiss him but when we come close to i get kinda like..scared and freeze..wat should i do so i wont freeze up? (im 13 and im a girl if you want to know)
Sorry for the delay, babe. -didn't have a laptop for awhile-
Thanks! haha you are very sweet!
I know that kissing is more complicated mentally then it actually is physically. But you know what, you can definitely break this. I know it!
All you need to do is be confident and tell you're self that many, many people kiss for pleasure and enjoyment. It is not meant to be something that is scary. And wouldn't you want to be able to try it and get more experince? Let him guide you through it if it helps you.
But mainly learn to relax yourself and be carefree. I can't teach you how to do that. It's a fear you need to overcome yourself. But what I can do is tell you that you'll regret not giving him or yourself the chance to enjoy kissing. It's an awesome experince that everyone should be entitled to during their relationship. You only live once, lol. Just kiss him! Seriously honey, you'd get it off your mind for awhile.
If you are really worried about it, talk to him about it. Tell him you want to try it but you're afraid. Ask about gradually building up to it. You could maybe start getting closer and get used to that for a little. But kissing comes naturally and you don't want to plan it all out. That takes the fun out of it.
Try to just let your mind go and not think or worry about it. You're freezing up about it because you're letting yourself. If you feel that you definitely aren't ready for it, don't push yourself. If you need to wait for a certain time do that if you want to. Just let your boyfriend know.
Love,
Mandee
AHHH I start high school tomorrow and I haven't been to public school since fourth grade. i'm really nervous :-/. 1stly, because i don't know ANYONE, and i'm afraid i'm not gonna make any friends. 2ndly, i'm gonna be terrible with finding classes, and with all the different teachers! so... HELP? thanks! i'll rate ya 5's:-)
Honey, you're going to do great!! It's hard going into highschool alone, I see why starting at a public highschool would worry you more.
Of course you aren't going to know anyone. You're new. And it's difficult for a person to go to a new school. I've done it before. But see, the kids will all be interested in you. Because you're new. They'll be encouraged to get to know you. Think about it. You see and know the same people all the time, it gets boring. People are going to wonder about you. And while you may feel like you're being judge, I'm not going to lie. You will be. But carry yourself well, and people will love you. Don't act nervous! You are going to be fine. People will love you! You seem so sweet and nice! There should be people within the week that will talk to you. They shouldn't expect you to be very talkative since you are new. So if someone talks to you, make sure you give them a good impression. Just be yourself and I'm sure that will win them over!
Well, since you're not used to the school why don't you ask a neighbor your age or someone to help you find your way around. Schools can be hard, but wait till you get into college! Haha..
Sorry, I know you're nervous. But if you have a homeroom, they will usually pass out a little booklet on the school rules and what not. They should have a map of the school on there. Hopefully you can use that for help. But if you can, I would ask someone. The teachers are there for assistance. And sweetie, don't think that you won't make friends.
You're probably afraid of rejection. But you know what, I bet that they won't give you a hard time. Afterall, you'll be new. And that is already a task in itself. As I said, you are going to be just fine. People will want to get to know you!
Just try and relax and enjoy the rest of tonight. Try not to think about school until it actually happens. I know it's hard because, in a way, you get excited. In good excitement or bad. But remember if you get through this first day (you already accomplished something this year_ and you will get through it.
Love,
Mandee
Well see heres the thing. I talk to this girl everyday and night .. basically anytime i have some free time i spend it with this girl. I love this girl and she seems to sorta like me. She is the sweetest girl in the whole world and has a huge heart.I want to take things slow just like she does but I wish there was some way of just knowing she is going to be there and not leave. I am not talking leave my life i'm talking about leaving me and dating someone else. I dont want to lose this girl because i've never met anyone like her and realize how rare people like her are. So please answer me this: Are we building on something or is prince charming going to come and sweep her off her feet?
You seem to be building a relationship. But rather than worry about what will happen next, consider the fact that if you two like each other that much, you'll make it work! The best thing to do is actually ask her. And if she sounds sincere, I'd believe it.
But then again, no one knows what the future will be like. Just go day by day and if you both think things are going great, be thankful for that.
She probably loves you so much. Just believe what she says! Enjoy the connect you have right now. You probably have a lot of concern or maybe you're even confused about where this relationship is going. The best thing to do is enjoy every moment of it, and that is what keeps it going. It's more worthwhile that way. Just live in the moment. I can't stress that enough!
Worrying causes stress, stress can make a relationship fade. You don't want that to happen, do you? Taking it slowly is good. That way you'll not feel rushed or pressured to do anything that you don't want to. Hope this helps you, honey!
Love,
Mandee