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hey! i lub you advice but anyway i have a boyfriend and we have been going out about a little over a month and well everyone wants us to kiss..but they call us freezers (freeze up about kissing) and well i want to get rid of that i just u know want to kiss him but when we come close to i get kinda like..scared and freeze..wat should i do so i wont freeze up? (im 13 and im a girl if you want to know)
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Sorry for the delay, babe. -didn't have a laptop for awhile-
Thanks! haha you are very sweet!
I know that kissing is more complicated mentally then it actually is physically. But you know what, you can definitely break this. I know it!
All you need to do is be confident and tell you're self that many, many people kiss for pleasure and enjoyment. It is not meant to be something that is scary. And wouldn't you want to be able to try it and get more experince? Let him guide you through it if it helps you.
But mainly learn to relax yourself and be carefree. I can't teach you how to do that. It's a fear you need to overcome yourself. But what I can do is tell you that you'll regret not giving him or yourself the chance to enjoy kissing. It's an awesome experince that everyone should be entitled to during their relationship. You only live once, lol. Just kiss him! Seriously honey, you'd get it off your mind for awhile.
If you are really worried about it, talk to him about it. Tell him you want to try it but you're afraid. Ask about gradually building up to it. You could maybe start getting closer and get used to that for a little. But kissing comes naturally and you don't want to plan it all out. That takes the fun out of it.
Try to just let your mind go and not think or worry about it. You're freezing up about it because you're letting yourself. If you feel that you definitely aren't ready for it, don't push yourself. If you need to wait for a certain time do that if you want to. Just let your boyfriend know.
Love,
Mandee
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