okay well my boyfriend is coming over tomorrow after his baseball game. and i figured since he would probley be sore and sweaty a nice romantic bath would be nice for him. well i was wondering if he did pre-cum or actually cum...could it still survive in the water? i know that when it hits air it dies quickly but what about water? should i have him wear a condom...not that we will have sex. please help. i rate 5's
hey sweetie, you can take a bath with him and the sperm will not survive in the water so don't worry about it but if you are planning on having sex in the bath tub then you need a condom. best of luck and have fun!
xoxoxo
supergirl
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i like this guy in my english class named seth. we were in this group together for romeo and juliet and i thought he liked me before then but i wasnt sure. then when we were working on our project he didnt really talk to anyone but me. we get along pretty well and we have alot in common which makes me just like him more. we flirt alot but i cant tell if were just friends or if he likes me more than that also i have this thing for school next month its kinda a dance and i dont have a date and i really want to go w/ him but im too afraid to ask. would it be wrong for my friend whos in his spanish class to mention it to him? just be like hey who do you like or be like (my name) is pretty cool you should go w/ her to her choir banquet something like that? please help im really confused
in my experience with guys its always rather akward to have someone ask a guy about you, for you because you never quite know exactly what they are going to say/if they might end up with him instead of you. if you really like this guy your best bet is to suck it up and ask him yourself. you could ease yourself into it by talking to him about stuff you have in common and just getting to know him a little better the mention it towards the end of your conversation. utimately im sure whatever you decide to do will be just fine, just don't be scared to talk to a guy cuz he might be busy and he might say no but theres a good chance he will say yes and youll kick yourself in the butt if you never got the balls to ask him yourself! Good luck and keep me updated if you like! and have a great time at the dance
xoxoxo supergirl!
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My boyfriend and i love to have sex and well we've pretty much did every position you could think of and last night he told me that he wants to try knew things like kinky stuff......i dont want it in my butt, he dosnt want to use handcuffs so what are some really good kinky things that we could try that feel awsome?
i'll 5z if you can help plz do and as fast as possible thx
Try role playing, video taping, sex games (that you can find at spencers or online if you've never heard of spencers), or different products such as massage oil, warming gel, and toys!
Good luck hope it works out
xoxox
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i really like this boy but i dont know if he likes me my friend told me that he said he liked me but how do i know if its true and also i am very shy and they said at our next basket ball game he was going to talk to me what should i do?
Be yourself!!! If this guy really likes you make sure you are yourself from the beginning. Act confident, you can be confident even if your shy and most importantly have fun! The second you're too nervous to be yourself it stops being fun...and its all about the fun! Best of luck let me know how it goes!
xoxo
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I'M SO PISSED OFF AT HER!!! She ditched me this weekend, saying she was going to go to a party to get "messed up" and by her saying messed up I was thinking... drinking. You know, because she wouldn't ever smoke! Well today I went to her MySpace, and I saw pictures, so I was watching them, and I saw pictures of her and her little sister SMOKING WEED!! I WAS LIKE DUDE, WTF! She wouldn't have done that if she was with me! BUT NOOOOOO, she just HAD to go to that stupid fucking party! Another thing that makes me sooo mad is that she didn't even have the nerve to talk to me, and tell me that she was planning to go to the party, and she had all week! She didn't tell me until Friday night, when I had plans on going to her house. So she basically left me to go get high.
WHAT SHOULD I DO!
She's already dtole guys from me, and now shes smoking weed?!?
Please, Please, Please help me out!!!
-Thank you so much!-
are you more upset that you got left or that she smoked pot...or that she smoked pot without you? maybe she didnt tell you because she knew you'd freak out? If you are best friends with someone you need to keep an open mind about her opinions and thoughts and feelings while expressing concern in a non threatening way. My advice would be to confront her and ask her in a nice way why she felt like she couldn't tell you she wanted to go to a party to smoke. Maybe she felt she couldn't tell you because you would judge her. Either way remember that she is an individual and entitled to her own decisions even if you don't agree with them. Good luck and let me know if it turns out ok
xoxoxo
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Last Friday me and my friend (lets call him Joe), were cuddling on the couch. But it was big like he had his arms on my hips and everything. it was kind of cute. Anyway we've kissed once as a dare and 3 times in this game suck and blow(they play it in the movie clueless, its when you put a piece of paper to your lips and suck in that way you can hold it up and then the person sitting next to you has to get the paper to stick of to thier lips so if you drop it you kiss.). The funny thing is he kept saying he was this master and dropped it like 3 times haha. We always flirt thats a given. He said to my friend that me and him are friends with benifits are we?
friends with benefits is when you hook up with someone and aren't dating. essentially it is sex and all the other aspects of a physical relationship without the title of boyfriend or girlfriend-also he is not obligated to kiss/have sex with only you. being friends with benefits is an open relationship-just a warning careful what you're getting urself into.
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What does emo mean? I am really confused...Everyone says i look emo in all my pics but i dont even know what emo is...can someone explain it to me?
emo is a term used to describe a type of music or a lifestyle short for emotional. the lyrics to the songs usually depict suffering or experiences from the individuals life. for a better definition of what emo means check out urbandictionary.com the answer to all your definition questions! have a great day and remember to practice safe sex.
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Ok here's the deal. There is this really wierd kid at school. I was online yesterday and he told me that he liked me and has since the first time he saw me. He has told me this before and acts like a total jerk to tons of people sometimes he can be kinda nice but not really. Sometimes I will be sitting in a class and I will look over and he will be staring at me. It's the wierdest thing. I hate it. He knows how I feel about him too. I don't like him at all. Basically my question is, how do I deal with it. He always tries to talk to me when I don't feel like talking and I don't wanna be totally rude but I don't like him and never will.
honestly i would be straight forward with him. that way he doesnt get mixed signals from you trying to be polite and itll just make the whole situation a lot easier. I'd say something like, "i'm really flattered that your showing interest in me, but im currently not looking to pursue a relationship with you" and just leave it at that. short sweet simple and polite. anyways best of luck keep me updated and let me know how it works out!
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Last night I was over at some friends house and I was the only girl and there was three boys (I'm 19) and we were drinking and they must have got drunk becasue they grabbed me and flung me onto the bed and started having sex and I didn't want to! Now this morning I won't stop bleeding! PLEASE HELP...oh my god I don't want this to happen to me I'M A GOOD GIRL!
Hey sweetie-that's a really serious issue. You were raped. You need to go to the hospital or get yourself checked out, do you know if the boys used a condom? If they didn't you could be pregnant. Bleeding is normal after sex especially if its your first few times, but anything that lasts more than a couple of days is serious. Bad things happen to good girls so just chill for a second, get your head on straight and take care of yourself! Next, please don't ever put yourself in a situation where you are alone with three guys who are drinking, by putting yourself in that position you are leaving yourself vulnerable to getting raped. So think about preventing this type of thing in the future. Best of luck with this situation i hope everything works out. xoxoxo sar
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im 13/m and just wondering. my goal is to be a virgin until i get married, i want that special moment to be with the women i love, can i get some feedback? anything you want to say. ill rate all answers with a 5
irish
13/m
i think thats a great goal for you but 13 is still young to be deciding whether or not you are going to wait until marriage to have sex. If you are strong minded and dedicated to it then propz to you because its an extremely hard thing to do. Theres your feedback! Best of luck. xoxoxo sar
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I dated somebody for a year. She was my first everything: first person I fell in love with, first person I got close to, first person I became intimate with, everything. We broke up in January. I am over the relationship itself, but I am not over her. I think those feelings will be there for a while, there really isnt anything I can do to make them go away. Well, now I'm dating again. Ive been seeing the same girl for the past few weeks now, and things are starting to become a bit more serious. Not very serious, but its becoming more than just dating. Shes even my date to prom, which is in 2 months now. Problem is, the feelings arent anywhere near as intense as it was with my ex girlfriend. I like this new girl, shes totaly great, but I feel like I've become jaded since my breakup, and therefore dont have much to offer her. Any advice on what to do?
hey babe-its gonng be hard after you break up with someone who has meant so much to you and who you have experienced a lot of firsts with. If it makes it any easier you just have to accept that you are never going to forget her because she was your first. Be open and honest with this new girl-let her know you were in a serious relationship and let her know you are still getting over this other girl. If she truly and genuinely likes you she will stick around for you and give you a chance to get over your ex. Honestly sometimes the reason you can't let go is because your heart doesn't want to. Sometimes your brain wants to let go and move on but your heart isn't ready so give it time and know that this girl isn't your ex so be patient with the relationship-im sure it will grow into something positive and amazing, just wait for your heart to catch up to your head. And based on what you said mentioning prom and such im guessing you are still in high school, believe me you will meet and date a lot of girls, some will mean a lot to you, some won't as much, but every person you encounter will shape your life in some way-not to be cheesy but thats just what i believe so best of luck and i hope all works out for you! xoxoxo sar
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Hey I had another question. Should I confront him about the situation or not. I dont want to look like a fool. Like I said I like him as just a friend, you know. plus I like someone else and I am afraid if he asks me out then I will say yes out of guilt. Thanx so so so much!
XoKiSsEsoX
hey sweetie! well its totally up to you. If you don't know for sure that he likes you, you always run the risk of looking like a "fool". Personally i would just treat him like i do all my other guy friends and hope that he gets the hint and instead i would pursue the guy i actually do like. So that seems like the best plan of action in my opinion. Whatever happens just know that you deserve the best! hope that helps xoxoxo sar
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There is this kid at school that I have known for about 3 years. He constantly bugs me and acts like he is flirting with me. We are both in this show at school and I was dancing for my part in the show and he screamed Work it girl! I know he was talking to me but I dont know if he meant anything my it. I dont like him at all. As a friend but not a b/f. He is always trying to go out of his way to be super nice to me to. Please help me.
Luv Ya xoxoxoxo,
XoKisSeSoX
hey sweetie! well it sounds like this kid really likes you! And while thats flattering i definitely understand what you're going through. He'd make a great friend you just don't want/see anything more from it and that's totally fine. I've had experience in this situation and the first time i went through it i was just so not used to all the extra attention i was getting that i pushed the guy away by being a bitch which really wasn't smart, but what can i say? i didn't know any better however im glad i can warn you about it. I mean normally the first thing u'd want to do when you find out someone likes you but you don't like them is push them away or get them to not like "like that"-i don't think its the smartest decision but i have made it before. Instead i would recommend treating him like a friend no more no less. Any time your with him treat him like any other guy, and if you hang out with him tell him your really lucky to have him as a good friend. Dropping subtle hints might give him a hint as to what you view the relationship as. If that doesn't work you might have to be more deliberate and talk to him and flat out say "you know i only like you as a friend and thats very important to me but right now i don't want anything more". there is nothing wrong with telling people what you need and want as long as you are nice about it! anyways best of luck and please let me know what happens, i hope my advice helped you. xoxoxo -sar
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ok i like this guy and we flirt a lot! he has a gf though. i think i've caught him staring at me and he always is sweet and nice. he is not the most popular boy in the class, but he is also the most sweetest boy. when we flirt people always point out to us that we are flirting and we both say" no we arn't" he is one of my friends too. my friend told him" dont cheat on prism(his gf) when we were talking and flirting. and he said " i wont" what does this mean? i mean i like him an lot, i had a dream that we kissed. once he put his hand on ym shoulder and said" i was his friend" and when he touched me i got a tingling feeling. what doe s all this mean?? does he like me??
*confused girl*
HM! sounds like an interesting situation. Your friend is right though-it would be disrespectful to cheat on him because he has a girlfriend however it seems like he's definitely paying you a lot of attention. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking to him but don't let it get any further cuz it will definitely get you into trouble. If you are unclear about the boundaries of your friendship i think it would be a good idea to back off a little, maybe make yourself a little less available to his comments and flirting-if he still comes after you then i would say he has an interest in you in which case you should talk to him! I think the dream just symbolizes the fact that you are friends, nothing more and nothing less right now, the tingling situation might mean that maybe YOU have feelings for him or that you are just excited about the fact that he might like you. In any case dreams are just dreams, they do not predict the future they are just your brain's way of sorting out your life. Sometimes i really wish i could get into the brains of guys-itd just make life so much easier don't ya think? anyways best of luck with this situation and remember there are tons of other guys out there so don't make this guy a priority!!! best of luck xoxoxo sar
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ok this guy always used to call me and say he was bored. now he always instant messages me and it gets annoying. i ask him why he calls and he says you were the only person home and i was bored. what does this mean??
*crissy*
hey babe-personally i think he's interested in you however i don't know the circumstances or the situation and im not him so i can't get inside his head! Anyways if you think you like this kid then maybe you could take his phone calls to the next level and ask him if he'd like to hang out sometime. If you don't like him and have no interest in hanging out with him then you could kindly ask him to stop calling you when he's bored. I know what you're saying when you mentioned that it get's annoying-especially if there's no point in him calling you. Personally i would get to know him better over the phone and potentially hang out with him if i was interested, and if not then i mean you could even just talk with the intention of being friends-you can always use another friend! anyways i hope this helped a little. best of luck with the situation and let me know how it goes xoxoxo -sar
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ok ive liked this guy for like 5 months now, and he told me that he likes me and i told him that i like him, my friends always tell him to ask me out and stuff but he says that im mean to him and that i dont even talk to him and stuff, which is kinda true i dont talk to him that much at school and i dont realli show him that i like him, but how can i show him that i like him and how can i talk to him more? he's always flirting with me, but he also likes other gurls too.
like i havent flirted with him like that so much and he says that i show no effection towards him what so ever. so he says why should i go out with her when she doesnt even talk to me?
well i dont talk to him that much and i dont pay so much attention, but how do i start if i start right now isnt that going to be kind of weird?
i need good advice on this. please.
hey sweetie! its wierd i know exactly what you're talking about-how do you randomly strike up a conversation-its wrong of him to blame it on you saying that you're mean and you never talk to him because it takes 2 people to start a conversation, he could just as easily walk up to you and start a conversation but it looks like you are gonna have to do it the hard way and be the first one to iniatiate something because it seems he already has his opinion. Make him get to know you before he passes judgment on you cuz thats just not fair! My first suggestion would be to either get his screen name or get his phone number and start talking to him, my second would be to approach him in person and just start talking to him perhaps about a class you have in common, something about school, or just something random. Gradually when you work up enough courage to get to know a little about him, suggest that you two get together and hang out so you can get to know each other better, maybe see a movie or go participate in something you both enjoy, example, clubs, sports, etc. Your options are really endless. This all depends on how bad you really like this guy tho, so basically the ball is in your court and sometimes its reassuring for guys to know that girls are willing to take the first step. it shows that you have a genuine interest in them and thats whats gonna set you apart from the other girls he flirts with. anyways best of luck i really hope it works out for you cuz i have definitely been in similar situations!!! xoxoxox-sar
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I made a promise with one of my cusins I dont know if I can keep it you know ... the promise is to keep my virginity till I am married what should I do I love the guy I am with right now
premarital sex is a very very personal thing. I think you can try to make a promise to someone else but ultimately it comes down to when you are ready to do what you want to do. I know the promise you made to your cousin is important but what's even more important to you is your life and your decisions. If you really love the guy you are with and feel like sex is the next logical step then by all means go ahead and do it. Just be safe, use protection, condoms, birth control whatever (sorry had to add that plug for protection just cuz i think its so important). You don't even have to tell your cousin you had sex, but if you feel like you need to then explain to her that it was a personal decision and that you did what you felt was right, sooner or later she will understand. In the mean time you should decide if sex is really what you want with this guy or if you really want to wait-it is a big decision so take your time and think carefully. best of luck xoxoxo sar
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hey this is sonia
iam a middle class family gal. i am a medical student 1st year.problem with me is that ,the way i talk . i cant pronouns properely so everybody makes my fun and secondly , i am quite good looking but guys never purpose me . pls tell me how to live life smartly with confidence.pls help ne out.
hey sonia! first of all medical school-that is awesome!!! congrats about your ambitions medical school is definitely a huge deal. you asked me how to "live life smart and with confidence" let me tell you the first and foremost important thing is to live life to please yourself. Your first goal in life should be to make yourself happy and to accomplish all the goals you have set for yourself-if you live your life to make everyone else happy, parents, friends, boyfriend,then you will never find genuine happiness. If you aren't genuinely happy, you can't be confident in what you are doing. The way you talk should not influence the way people view you but unfortunately people are superficial and they pass judgment on others because they are different. If it is really important to you that you are able to speak more correctly then i would seek the help of a speech therapist who can help you to develop your speech skills. If it is something that isn't really a priority then please don't worry about it and be fonfident that you are a bright young individual with ambitious goals in the medical field. In terms of guys seeking you out, maybe you need to be the brave one, step outside your bubble and take initiative to introduce yourself to guys-a suggestion might be to ask a few guys in your classes if they would like to study with you sometime. I know its hard but sometimes putting yourself out there can be very rewarding. It sounds like you are a smart girl with a lot going on! Keep yourself busy and have trust yourself, the boys will inevitably follow! best of luck and let me know how everything turns out-xoxoxo sar
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hey yesterday i popped a boner for the first time
what does this mean
that your equipment works!!! proceed with caution and always use protection :) congrats and best of luck! go get laid jkjkjk be safe and have fun-xoxoxoxo sar
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i am 16 and i had sex on thursday with my boyfrend for the first time with him.im in so much pain i cant walk proply and it kills to go the toilet what wrong with me ?
hey sweetie! alrite first of all the first time you have sex will be painful, you might even bleed a little and you may feel sore the next day. However the pain shouldn't last for more than a day and if it hurts when you go to the toilet thats not a good thing either. if the pain is external (meaning it hurts your basic genital area) then i would give it another day or to, stay away from tampons and fragranced soaps and also hold off on sex for a few days-taking a bath may help ease the pain. if the pain is in your stomach and you have been in pain for more than a few days you will most definitely need to see a doctor! other than that be safe and always use protection. best of luck and please let me know if everything turned out ok! -sar
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