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want to but cant
I made a promise with one of my cusins I dont know if I can keep it you know ... the promise is to keep my virginity till I am married what should I do I love the guy I am with right now
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Dont listen to what your cousin said, when it comes to things like sex and love you cant set a time when you think you should be doing things. It is rare to find the one you love, and you shouldnt hold back becasue of a promise.
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premarital sex is a very very personal thing. I think you can try to make a promise to someone else but ultimately it comes down to when you are ready to do what you want to do. I know the promise you made to your cousin is important but what's even more important to you is your life and your decisions. If you really love the guy you are with and feel like sex is the next logical step then by all means go ahead and do it. Just be safe, use protection, condoms, birth control whatever (sorry had to add that plug for protection just cuz i think its so important). You don't even have to tell your cousin you had sex, but if you feel like you need to then explain to her that it was a personal decision and that you did what you felt was right, sooner or later she will understand. In the mean time you should decide if sex is really what you want with this guy or if you really want to wait-it is a big decision so take your time and think carefully. best of luck xoxoxo sar
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Virginity is a beautiful thing. It is the most precious gift you could ever give to the one you marry. I know people who did not keep this gift for the one they are with now, and when they think about it I can see the hurt and loss in their eyes of not knowing what that first moment is like. I am proud to say I am not one of these people. I have chosen abstenence. I will happily marry a guy one day and give him the one thing I cherish most about my body. I hope you feel the same.
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Promises are made to be broken!
So go and have sex and be a slut! YAY
Kay
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You shouldnt keep the promise to your cousin, keep it to yourself.. Some many things change once you lose your virginity, sometimes their bad sometimes there good. You dont necessarily have to wait till your married, but wait till your at least 18 give your self time to mature and experience situations. You wont regret waiting. And the best way to keep your self from haveing sex is dont get in a situation where you know you cant say no.
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cross ur fingers
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what ever you wanna do...you cant make promises like that cuz almost everyone has sex before marriage...feedback is GREATLY appreciated, please rate!
hope i helped
xoxoJody
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Well your cousin doesnt have to know bout you havin sex..it can stay between you and your boyfriend.. much luv dez
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just sit down with him and say you cant keep your promise because you love your boyfriend and that your really sorry
tell me how it goes on my feedback
hope i helped
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Just because you love doesnt mean your willing to sleep with him do it when your ready as for ur cousin talk to him/her about it and tell her the situation about you and your boyfriend please rate honestly
roxie
xxxx ♥♥
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ok... wats more important? your thoughts or your cousins thoughts? just cause he/she doesn't want you to be a vigrin doesn't mean you have to listen. but i feel that if you truely beleive that your cousins choice is the right one you might wanna pass... but i just sayin it your life and its all up to you! go live it to the fullest.
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you should wait if you made a promise.
you might think that you really love him, but if you have sex with him, he'll probably change and your relationship will never be the same. that usually happens to a girl when she gives up her virginity to her boyfriend.
if he truly loves you as much as you love him, he wont push you or force you into it. he should respect you, and if you end up marrying him, you'll be so glad that you waited.
and a girl's first time hurts like crazyy
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I think you should wait, seriously.. Wait until marriage, that night will be so much more special, and you won't have any regrets because you'll be with THAT person, for the rest of your life. What if once your boyfriend just wants sex, and once he gets it, he leaves you? This happens to a lot of girls, but you think it won't happen. You have to fight the lust, and move on, there's better things than you can do then worry about something like this, at so young in life. Wait until that one night, it'll be all worth it, trust me.
Em
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If you love this guy and if you think you are ready, lose your virginity to him. It's your choice and yes, your cousin is going to be mad at first, since you didn't keep your promise, but she isn't the one who makes your choices. If you don't want to hurt your cousin by doing this, then keep your promise because promises aren't meant to be broken.
-Karen
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just because you love him, doesn't mean you have to have sex. That's not what love is about. Try your best to keep your promise to your cousin and try and make it a personal goal of yours if your heart is in it.
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Don't just go and right off the bat break your promise with your cousin. Talk to them first and let them know that even though you said you wouldn't, your having second thoughts about it. You think the time might be right now. Get their advice and oppion of it as well though. To make this kind of promise, I`m asuming your pretty close with your cousin. They`ll let you know what's best but will I`m sure still support your decision at the end.
You`ll make the right choice, x0x Jordy|♥
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