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k i have a few questions about precum.
1. does it always contain sperm?
2. how often do people actually get pregnant from it? yes i know it's possible, but does anyone actually know of anyone who has?
i've had sex without protection but he did not cum in me. we pull out before he's even close. (i know, its stupid. i wont do it again) but i just want to know my chances of being pregnant from precum.
thanks!

1. Actually studies have shown that it in fact does not contain sperm. THe only reason it would contain sperm is if he has recently ejaculated before hand and the sperm is still in his shaft. If you look at it, pre-cum is clear where as cum is white.
2.There are people who get pregnant from it but that is because of the failure to be careful about previous ejalulations. There is still a chance but it isn't very high at all.
Use protection anyways. ALWAYS good to be protected.

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alright i gave my bf head yesterday for the first time. we did it multiple times actually. but, i thought when he'd cum, i'd be able to feel/taste it..but i didn't. he said he cummed at least a couple times. is there a reason why i had no idea he did?

He probably didn't cum... He must not know what an orgasm feels like. You would feel it because it's really warm because it just came from inside the body pretty much. And its kinda alot sometimes. Pre-cum is not so much and its clear. Also cum sometimes has a taste and its usually salty but depending on the guys diet.

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Is sex when a girl is on her period a complete no?

how bad is it, how bloody does it get? is it really grotesque? does it keep flowing?

Actually its not really gross at all. You can do alot of things to prevent a mess though. Take a shower to begin with and clean up. You can actually do it IN the shower. Another thing is during the sex, I believe the flow slows down or stops. Pluses with sex during cycle: No more cramps and IF you get off during the sex, its known to stop or greatly slow down your period. In other words you can end your period early. It works, I've tried it. It's not so much a big deal. I suggest though, that you wait til about the 3rd day when the heaviest of the period is done with.

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okay so my sex life is good except one thing
when I'm with my boyfriend having sex i feel so insecure about my body, when he tries to take off my shirt i usually start doing something else so he wont like i feel really fat when im naked im 5'3 and 120 and hes never said anything about my weight but i just feel fat and i never let him take off my shirt and i want to let him to and stuff but i cant get over it.. how do i get over it and just let him?

This problem is easily overcome. You don't have to rush it. You aren't fat though. I weigh 137 and I'm 5'6". I had that SAME problem. My bf tells me im gorgeous all the time and never says anything about it so eventually I just say ok if he says so. You can gradually get used to it though. Start out by being completely naked but it being completely dark so he cant see you. That makes things ALOT easier and when you get used to that you can move on to other things. Trust me, it works. Best of luck to you! Hope I helped :)

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The people involved here are my son, ROB, ME (grandma)son,s girldfriend BECA, and my granddaughter JORDAN (4 yrs old). I have been picking up Jordan once a week for 31/2 years. We have become very close. Beca has revoked my privledges and says I can't have Jordan anymore because I 2 years ago I asked the daycare lady if I could give her some vitamins to give to Jordan, and I asked that she not mention to Beca, she gets her feathers ruffled very easily. The daycare lady said she could not give them to her anyway so that was that. Now Beca says I lied to her, and to top it off she told a few other lies about me to my son that she said the daycare lady told her. My son asked the daycare lady and she confirmed that she never said those things. This is not the first time she has tried to drive a wedge between my son and I. Beca said Jordan was picking up bad habits from me such as lying and keeping secrets, but I would never teach her to lie. I love her with all my heart? My son is torn as to who is right here. Would you please help to settle this.

You have a pretty awful situation. :(
Well, to me it sounds like Beca is being selfish and doesn't want you to help raise her kid. It could be the generation difference. Could be something to do with the way she was raised and wants to raise her kid with what she believes. I understand how you are feeling and I don't think its right for her to block you out of Jordan's life. She could be afraid of the way Jordan grows up to be because her mother (being same generation as you) didn't treat her the way she'd want Jordan treated. (I hope that makes as much sense to you as it does me). Beca could be ashamed of how she turned out maybe. She's trying to convince your son to be on her side because she wants to have all the authority and power. She doesn't like others above her. It could als obe that she is young still and wants a break away from parental authority. Maybe shes wanting to have things on their own. She's handling things very immaturely. You can try to talk to them all and come to a solid agreement. Maybe take some time and bond with Beca and change her mind about you. She's judging you unfairly. I really hope things turn out for you. If theres anything else I can help you with please ask. I'll try my best to help you out.

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This has been a problem for the past few weeks:
I cannot seem to upload images onto Facebook or Bebo but I can on Myspace - however,it doesnt allow me to upload Music onto Myspace.

Is it:
The internet browser?
Something to do with Flash?
Or-the Site itself?

This has never been a problem for me before.

Suggestions and advice would be very much appriciated!

Thanks,
-Irritated!

It can be the internet browser. You can try and fix that by deleting cookies and temp internet files and all that junk. Thats under the tools tab and so forth. The site could be busy with as many people those sites have visiting it. It can also be that your internet connection is slow. Hope I helped :)

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Within a 1 week period I asked my friend to prom on the Tuesday, but I did it through a text message in French when we were sitting next to each other and told her I would let her know what it meant later. on Friday I told her, and she told me I should have said something yesterday because another person asked her on Thursday. she would rather go with me but we don't know what to say to the other guy because technically I asked her first. What can we say to the other guy? I am seventeen and a senior in high school. she didn't think to wait for me to ask because I don't usually go to dances.

Well The best thing she can do it say that you asked her first and its only fair that she goes with you. I'm not sure of any other way. She can tell him that this dance is important and she wants to go with you because this is a big thing and all. If she really wants to go with you she will do it, if not then :\.. Good luck to the both of you.

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lately (for about 2 weeks) i have not had a normal poop. sorry for the details but its either really hard and painful or i get diarhea. i have a normal diet. i dont eat a ton of junk food. i do drink soda a lot but only a maximum of 2 cans a day and thats rare. i've been taking those chewable pepto bismol's like they're vitamins. what is wrong with me? this problem is obnoxious!!

It could be a change in the temperature outside. The weather changing and all that. It doesn't seem to be a big problem, but you can ask a doctor about it if it worries you that much. It can be that your getting sick but chances are its just your body reacting to environmental changes. Usually if its cold out one day and really hot the next, I feel a lil sick or not normal. It could be the case for you.

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okay so if i started my period on the 10th of march, and ended on the 16th, what days will i be ovulating?
sorry i just can't figure this out by myself.
pleeease help!

WEll from my understanding of the whole cycle, you ovulate on around the 14th day. Cycles are about 28 days depending on the person. Your first day of the cycle was the 10th so just count about 14 days after and it will be about the time you ovulate. Sorry if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty positive that's how it goes.

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What does "I'll whore you mean?"
Like on myspace when people put that.

It means they will take your profile link and advertise it and say things like "Add this person! They are the coolest!" Its a way to get alot of friends. You'll get friends you don't even know. It's like a popularity contest.

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me & my boyfriend had just broken up, he said because he doesn't want me anymore.. which really hurt me, i started crying for 2 hours straight. then.. later on, he wanted to get back together with me.. but i told him it was kind of too late. and then i said if he wanted to, then i think it's best to be single for a while first. and he asked if we can still have the "no talking to opposite sex promise".. because he's scared he'll loose me to another guy. and i told him that i think it's best if we can talk to the opposite sex to be able to trust each other. and he said "forget it, we're not gonna get back together then." and it's very frustrating, because i need some time to think it over if i should or not, and he rushes me. and then, he got mad at me because i added guys on myspace, when we went single.. because i first saw myself off of his, and had a girl comment him. so i thought he added all the girls back, then i added all the guys back. and he got mad at me when we were single.. and he told me that he was gonna delete me out of his life and burn everything and etc. and then he said all of these harsh things to me and stuff. and then he called me so i had to pick up, and he was crying.. and he said "why'd you do this to me?" and he also said "i hate my life because of you" and all this stuff, which made me cry because he was crying really hard. and he asked to start over with me, but i told him i needed some time to think about things, and he finally gave me time to think it all through. and he said it was his fault for breaking up with me in the first place.

and yesss.. we did have alot of difficulties in our relationship, that's why i said we should be single for a while till we're ready to start over.. and to talk to the opposite sex while we wait, but he doesn't wanna do the opposite sex.

so what should i do? i don't know what to do anymore.. i'm very confused. PLEASE HELP ME! i'm stuck in between. i wanna be with him, but yet.. yeahh..

To me it sounds like he really truely wants you. And if you truely want to be with him be with him. Waiting can ruin everything. Don't be immature about it.. I understand what you mean by the myspace thing. My ex and I had a big deal about girl friends and guy friends on myspace and comments. In the end that all doesn't mean anything. Its just myspace. Don't let all that stuff get you down and make you think that you shouldn't be with him. Try to work things out. Make compromises. Talk to each other. Hope I helped. Good luck with your situation. Lemme know if you need anything else.

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what if youu went in the back were clearance was, took off alll the hollister tags from a flip flop, and put the flip flop in your pursee?

It would be considered stealing. Id suggest not doing that at the risks of being caught..

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my boyfriend (weve been dating about a month) has TONS of posters of halk naked, playboy girls all around his bedroom. Like, "hot" girls in skimpy bikins and sexual poses. and of course, way more gorgeous and curvy than regular girls. the posters make me so uncomfortable. he also sometimes talks about other hot celebrities and such around me. it somehow makes me feel, like, not good enough. ill never look like one of those girls on his walls and it makes me feel so horrible. what should i do about this?

I understand where your coming from. When my boyfriend talks about celebs and everything, it makes me feel not good enough as well. I just remember what he tells me about how he thinks of me. I suggest shrugging it off. Don't let it getto you. Just remember that they are fake, MOST LIKELY computer edited to be perfect, and probably full of STDS. Remember that you are real and his right now and they are just girls he would only dream to be with pretty much. They are nothing compaired to you.

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hi, ok well i was just wondering... i was just talking to my bf and im 14 and hes 16 and we have been best friends for like 2 years and everything and he and i makeout a lot whenever we see each other (like once a week) and i was asking him how far we would go right now in our relationship (3 months) he said 2nd (touching a girl's breast) and we have gotten close he has touched me through my bra once and my shirt one other time but im very protective of that one of the two times he did without asking and he said he was very sorry and promised not to again. anyway im moving in June so i asked what about when i leave how far? our relationship would be about 5 months. he said a hj. i was very surprised because ya hes horny like very other guy but he tries really hard to be good. he has set limits and wont put himself in a position like being home alone with me because he doesnt trust himself. hes very responcible. but hes also a 16 yr old guy. well he would be-hes turning 16 in May. yay he turns 16 and gets a hj lol

so first off if i wanted to give him a hj is that normal (i kno everyone says do what your comfortable with but would u say most 16 yr old guys have gotten a hj) the thing is im only 14 tho. a freshman. hes also a freshman but hes much older im younger and hes older. he and i are deeply in love tho so it wont be like i do that with every guy or w/e.

it would both of our firsts. he said yes because it would be somthing to remember each other by.

also dont worry cause i know i wont because im not comfortable with that. my bf doesnt know that i wont but i do. i just had some questions about if i did want to.

and i know i dont have to i mean he didnt even ask i said how far would you let us go.

thanks :)

You guys are taking it slow. A HJ is really not a big deal at all. Just do it when you feel comfortable. He may want it but it doesn't mean you HAVE to and he knows this. He is respectful which is really good. This is really your decision. Giving HJs is normal. It's one of the first steps of getting comfortable with each other, sexually. Which in the end leads to getting closer to each other mentally. You guys take it slow so I don't see how it is a problem. Just remember to still take it slow after that step. And stay careful. Your age is kinda young to start getting sexually active, but it's not anyones decision but yours. It wouldn't matter age if you are really comfortable with doing that with him. Hopefully this helps. If you need to know anything else just lemme know.

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Are short like cocktail dresses kinda weird for prom? should they be long and formal? whats your opnion for prom dresses.. THANKS

The dress I wore to prom wasn't real long and all that stuff. It was actually fairly short. It really depends on what you like and what you want to wear. It shoudn't matter at all what kinda of dress you wear to prom. The only way the dress would matter if the prom has rules like how short its allowed to be and if your allowed strapless dresses and so on.

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so, ive been having this problem lately .... ive been smelling of body odor. i wear deoderant every day. before sports, before school, before gym, anytime i need it i use it. and ive tried 2 different kinds of deoderant. whats going on?! what can i do?! whats wrong with me?!

Maybe its your clothes or your shoes. Try showering and washing your clothes and shoes more. You can also try body spray along with your deoderant. Hope I helped!

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i have had the same phone for like 8 years but now i need a new one i can't decide between a razr a samsung sync and pantech dou or a pantech c3b please help me

I STRONGLY suggest NOT getting a razor. THEY SUCK. I havent even had mine but a few months and its a piece of shit. :( And what sucks is i cant geta new phone unless i buy a whole new one for 200 something dollars, pay 50 dollars for a new razor, or wait a year.

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is it true that like when you give a hand job, his penis goes from like small to big to bigger?

Yeah. It is true. Sometimes he already has a boner to begin with. Giving him a handjob just causes him to be even more aroused. Its not a bad thing, it's just how the erection process works.

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ok ever since i go out of child haven my hair hasnt grown back to its llong length my hair is shoulder length now i want it back to the middle of my back and im african american so yea please help!!

I'm trying to do that exact same thing. It takes a while though. From what I realize, its because of trimming it. You get split ends and you always have to go get it cut and trimmed blah blah. I think the best bet is to endure the split ends for a while because if you cut it everytime you get split ends, you wont get anywhere. You can try using hair products that heal your hair and prevent breakage and stuff like that. It's a long process though. Takes longer than you'd think.

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I was burning a cd [ yes i know ] on windows media player, it finished burning and then I clicked off it by accident [ not that it should make a difference] then i clicked back on windows media player and clicked the button which opens the cd drive. But it wont budge and it wont open! I havnt even knocked the laptop about or anything it just wont open and I really need it open! Any advice or help, I will be in big trouble if it wont open! Please

Have you tried ejecting it by using the button on the actual computer. Sometimes programs dont respond as well, like windows media player. There shouldnt really be a problem with it opening. Also try restartin the computer.

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