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sex feeling fat
okay so my sex life is good except one thing
when I'm with my boyfriend having sex i feel so insecure about my body, when he tries to take off my shirt i usually start doing something else so he wont like i feel really fat when im naked im 5'3 and 120 and hes never said anything about my weight but i just feel fat and i never let him take off my shirt and i want to let him to and stuff but i cant get over it.. how do i get over it and just let him?
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You just gotta be confident!! I'm positive he loves you and your weight has little to do with his lvoe for you. =] your BMI is 21.3 and that is normal weight. You seem to be very healthy. Just be confident! Pretend like you are the sexiest girl ever and once you convince yourself that you are u should be fine!! =]]]
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This problem is easily overcome. You don't have to rush it. You aren't fat though. I weigh 137 and I'm 5'6". I had that SAME problem. My bf tells me im gorgeous all the time and never says anything about it so eventually I just say ok if he says so. You can gradually get used to it though. Start out by being completely naked but it being completely dark so he cant see you. That makes things ALOT easier and when you get used to that you can move on to other things. Trust me, it works. Best of luck to you! Hope I helped :)
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honey,
first you need to love your body. if you dont love yourself, than no one will.
secondly realize that your boyfriend obviously cares about you!!! you could try telling him that your uncomfortable, then he could help you love yourself.
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the only thing you need to realize is that he's already having sex with you and if he didn't enjoy it and didn't like your body then HE WOULDN'T BE DOING IT but obviosly he is doing it so you have nothign to worry about. if he thought you were fat and didn't find you attractive he wouldn't try to take your shirt off but he does which means he likes what you look like.
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well, i don't think you have anything to worry about, he might like your body, and you should too. being fat isn't discusting, and you should look yourself in the mirror and say to yourself ' i have a beautiful, sexy body' and say it like you mean it. you may not believe it at first, but the more you say it, the more you'll believe it. be positive about yourself and your body because you'll be doing a big favor to yourself.
next time when you're with your man, ask him casually what he thinks of your body. his answer may give you more confidence and you'll spend less time feeling awkward about your body and more time enjoying his.
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well i think that your his girlfriend for a reason. he obviously likes you alot if he chose you, instead of any other girl. and if hes willing to have sex and stuff he likes your body. maybe you could just tell him how you feel, then maybe he'll be like oh baby you have a beautiful body. and if he disses you, then be like, forget you then. you need someone who loves you for who you are. and you could always try to lose the weight your self concious about so you can feel confident and sexy.
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i think everyone has that problem;
first of all, he obviously cares about you, so he isn't going to judge you.
you just have to accept yourself first, and just be comfortable with him, or your relationship will suffer.
if he didn't like the way you look he would have hinted about it, or said it bluntly.
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Think of it this way,he has NEVER said anything about your body before, its just you thinking negatively, you could always try turning the lights off so that he can't see your body. You should learn to love your body because if you don't no one else would be able to appreciate it.
If your boyfriend was bothered by your body, dont you think he would have said something already? You should just let that negativity go and have fun! Trust me if you forget about the weight issue you'll have a LOT more fun!
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