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My son's girlfriend treats me badly and wants to get rid of
The people involved here are my son, ROB, ME (grandma)son,s girldfriend BECA, and my granddaughter JORDAN (4 yrs old). I have been picking up Jordan once a week for 31/2 years. We have become very close. Beca has revoked my privledges and says I can't have Jordan anymore because I 2 years ago I asked the daycare lady if I could give her some vitamins to give to Jordan, and I asked that she not mention to Beca, she gets her feathers ruffled very easily. The daycare lady said she could not give them to her anyway so that was that. Now Beca says I lied to her, and to top it off she told a few other lies about me to my son that she said the daycare lady told her. My son asked the daycare lady and she confirmed that she never said those things. This is not the first time she has tried to drive a wedge between my son and I. Beca said Jordan was picking up bad habits from me such as lying and keeping secrets, but I would never teach her to lie. I love her with all my heart? My son is torn as to who is right here. Would you please help to settle this.
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You have a pretty awful situation. :(
Well, to me it sounds like Beca is being selfish and doesn't want you to help raise her kid. It could be the generation difference. Could be something to do with the way she was raised and wants to raise her kid with what she believes. I understand how you are feeling and I don't think its right for her to block you out of Jordan's life. She could be afraid of the way Jordan grows up to be because her mother (being same generation as you) didn't treat her the way she'd want Jordan treated. (I hope that makes as much sense to you as it does me). Beca could be ashamed of how she turned out maybe. She's trying to convince your son to be on her side because she wants to have all the authority and power. She doesn't like others above her. It could als obe that she is young still and wants a break away from parental authority. Maybe shes wanting to have things on their own. She's handling things very immaturely. You can try to talk to them all and come to a solid agreement. Maybe take some time and bond with Beca and change her mind about you. She's judging you unfairly. I really hope things turn out for you. If theres anything else I can help you with please ask. I'll try my best to help you out.
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