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HJs
hi, ok well i was just wondering... i was just talking to my bf and im 14 and hes 16 and we have been best friends for like 2 years and everything and he and i makeout a lot whenever we see each other (like once a week) and i was asking him how far we would go right now in our relationship (3 months) he said 2nd (touching a girl's breast) and we have gotten close he has touched me through my bra once and my shirt one other time but im very protective of that one of the two times he did without asking and he said he was very sorry and promised not to again. anyway im moving in June so i asked what about when i leave how far? our relationship would be about 5 months. he said a hj. i was very surprised because ya hes horny like very other guy but he tries really hard to be good. he has set limits and wont put himself in a position like being home alone with me because he doesnt trust himself. hes very responcible. but hes also a 16 yr old guy. well he would be-hes turning 16 in May. yay he turns 16 and gets a hj lol
so first off if i wanted to give him a hj is that normal (i kno everyone says do what your comfortable with but would u say most 16 yr old guys have gotten a hj) the thing is im only 14 tho. a freshman. hes also a freshman but hes much older im younger and hes older. he and i are deeply in love tho so it wont be like i do that with every guy or w/e.
it would both of our firsts. he said yes because it would be somthing to remember each other by.
also dont worry cause i know i wont because im not comfortable with that. my bf doesnt know that i wont but i do. i just had some questions about if i did want to.
and i know i dont have to i mean he didnt even ask i said how far would you let us go.
thanks :)
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yes that is completely normal. im 16 and lots of guys in my grade have gotten hjs. many have actually gone a lot farther than that. i gave my first hj when i was 14, your age. i was in a relationship with a guy that i really liked. and i was comfortable with doing it. i think thats the only circumstance you should do it under when you are 14. if you want to-- go for it. if you dont feel comfortable, then just tell him that. but doing something like that may cause you to like him more, so it will suck more when you move and dont get to see him anymore. its your choice though =) good luck
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That's the same age difference between my boyfriend and I. I lost my virginity to him when he was sixteen and I was fourteen. Awfully young I know, but I really don't regret doing it. I loved him, he loved me, and that still hasn't changed to this day. He's nineteen, and I will be seventeen soon.
What I'm trying to tell you, is that it's perfectly normal for him to want a handjob, and if you WANT to do it, then that's perfectly normal too. If you don't want to, that's also fine. You aren't ready, and there is nothing wrong with that.
I personally don't suggest doing it though, if you are going to break up after this. Seeing as how you are moving, and might not ever see him again, doing something that might possibly get you attached to him even more, is a bad idea if you ask me.
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First off.... I'm rofl... Not at you or your situation but the memories of my own. Secondly, in my opinion... if he's has the ability to tell you with confidence what each base is, I would naturally think he done more than he's letting you know... and yall may be "really really feeling each other" but yall are "not" deeply in love either.. not to say its impossible either or because ya'll to young, thats up in the air. However, as you get older, you'll realized that being in love, brings great happiness and joys, but it'll only come thru after you overcome great pain... together ok? I will say just make sure you getting the whole story about your b/f cuz it sounds like later down the line you'll find out hes "ommitting" some of dhis experience from you to make you feel comfortable with him.. (Not saying its guaranteed to be the case, I just want you to be aware before you make any defintie decisions that's all. He's probably a good guy, but like you even said... he a 16 year old boy) We all wanna believe everything our mates tell us, but this is not always reality. I agree with doing what you feel comfortable with, without him pressuring you and making you feel obligated to anything. In regards to your question.. about it being normal and all?... Who is anyone to tell you what is normal or not? Do what you feel and move at your own pace. You live and you learn. Good Luck and Best Wishes
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You guys are taking it slow. A HJ is really not a big deal at all. Just do it when you feel comfortable. He may want it but it doesn't mean you HAVE to and he knows this. He is respectful which is really good. This is really your decision. Giving HJs is normal. It's one of the first steps of getting comfortable with each other, sexually. Which in the end leads to getting closer to each other mentally. You guys take it slow so I don't see how it is a problem. Just remember to still take it slow after that step. And stay careful. Your age is kinda young to start getting sexually active, but it's not anyones decision but yours. It wouldn't matter age if you are really comfortable with doing that with him. Hopefully this helps. If you need to know anything else just lemme know.
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Hi there,
19 m and been in love for 2 years. Wow, my gf wasn't kidding when she said we took it too fast, lol. We're also 2 years apart and i met her right before my 17 birthday. About 1 month into our relationship we started having sex. Not hj's or even bj's. I wouldn't recommend this, however it looks like the rate you two are going is just fine, comfortable some might say. And thats how a relationship should be. Just to touch on the other question you have posted, wanting to do something sexual for your partner is perfectly normal, especially after 5 months, just make sure you are ready for it. About the ages, normally I would have said wait but if you feel you love him then why wait? Whats the worst thing that could happen?
Hope I could help o^-^o
& good luck
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