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Thank you for reading my question.
I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….
I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.
For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.
Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.
This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.
Thank you so very much. (link)
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Bravo/Brava!!!!
You're not confused at all. :)
You recognize that your topic IS referred to as a consciousness on the topic of gender identity.
Perfect! :)
May I ask... if it's possible, that you, too recognize if your thoughts are also real and/or "does" occurs in a gender identifiable way too?
I ask because it may co-assist with supporting you and your decisive recognition(s) too....
There are yet no hard points or hard lines that make whom one is attracted to clear either, so try not to be prone to fitting somewhere on that "categorical;y" just yet. It is supposed to be desirable adventure as in: external orientation and sense.
Additionally, I sense some "maladjustment" in your word-use of "assigned". I hope you laugh some times too about such.
In a small point, you seem to "give attention" to being the assignment you're saying you are; with a "contrast" of being "not either" masculine.
Does your "feelings" ever match with an "appetite" for gender specific "things" too on such days?
and/or
Are you (additionally & actually) having co-existing, interacting "moods"..., "towards" or "away", from common, generally-identifiable "feminine or masculine"-identified things?
Is peer socializing "equal" and/or comfortable to YOU?
It's a considerable, available adjustment that IS (at least, some time or another) changeable, which could be helpful if that it a goal you'd like to accomplish...
Because of my use of the word "mood" (as a reference; ergo not definitive), I wouldn't based normality on anything BUT "normality". And if still concerned, would choose to fit myself, where I would experience "lessened" confused identification then.
Does this post categorically "help"?
My aim at your message is to attempt such.
~ Please Write Again :)
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I have this really sweet guy friend I met online and we’ve been hanging out every now and then for the past I’ll say 5 months. We do text and talk often and we are physical as well.
I’ve been around him with his friends randomly. No major introductions.
So I was with him like February 7th and then I haven’t heard from him since. It’s going on about 4 to 5 days now of us not speaking. I don’t know anyone he knows and I don’t want to seem like a psychopath or stalker and message his mom but I am concerned about him. And I’ve text him and I have called him once. And I just wanted to know should I just let him contact me when everything is okay or should I go ahead and message his mom because I do care about this guy. (link)
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First of all... HEY, and happy new year!!! (yeah it's February). I say that because, it's highly important and significantly transparent to acknowledge the random and on-goingly (to some) the "little" things in life more often than just specific intimacies. It's overlooked by more people than you realize... so alot.
So, you have to keep in mind, that YOU'RE making a social exception to be here, there (and chatting btw), even if it's online and per member... YOU are allowing people to be around and near you, and THAT is a BIG accomplishment!
Horay to YOU!!! :)
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Secondly, I'm curious about how you "decide" to spend those whole days NOT communicating the way(S) you'd "like" to.. :/ "re-have"?????
...Because, it's one thing to "sum up" a "seemingly" sweet paragraph, BUT if you care more than you let on, it's important that the "any time apart"(ergo "alone") IS important too.
Aren't YOU worth that much?
... so DO THAT.... "irregardless",
if "some"one.. IS-there-in-your-corner or NOT-in-your-corner.\
Peace is not only for treaties, you know.
~ Don't subtract giving yourself you-legitimate-soundness....
Beside you'll be there if y'all are.
Just "let time sensibly arrive openly".
That's most important.
However (Please NOTE...),
if you REALLY think there is something wrong, IN GENERAL or something then yeah, (without being too much) yes being "annoying" IS BETTER care than none.
You'll be and do fine....
:)
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I am really confused and a bit frightened. Back in high school there was this boy that I secretely liked(sometimes we would have small conversations-but nothing really too special) and I believed that after high school things would change and my feelings would just disappear because I knew the odds of us seeing each other again were remote. Now here is my question:
It has been eight years since I saw him last and like I said, I believed I got over these feelings. But, just recently, I had a dream about him and everything came flooding back. I am afraid because I really don't want to have these feelings because I am sure that he has moved on with his life. So I need to know...
Are these feelings just because I am lonely or what do they mean? (link)
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Confused and Frightened aren't normal "optimistic memories" words that people commonly would use to describe an occurrence of having a "dream" about a guy from nearly 8 years ago. Do you agree with that?
And regardless of secrecy, did your crushing spilleth over into a real experience? If so, it may be slightly dellusional to refer to it as a "secret".
Since feelings also come in various forms, its not always the easiest to "just write off" emotions or sentiments when more than just your emotions are involved in the decisions to proactively or deactivatingly proceed with enlightening a crush, whether the probably likely to (quote-unquote, as you refer as to) "see each other again"....
Side Note: "Do you think that your crush may have known about your crush (on him)"? Do you think your crush may have had a crush back onto you also?
And from you story, would you agree that "frightened" and "afraid" are equivalent?
Answering these questions for yourself may help you come to an enlightened "safe space of thought" that allows you to make further amends into finding your own individual path(s) to finding out if you believe that you may be lonely, or something more?
Once you get to that composition space, if you like you could continue to add on to this thread. Everything isn't always solvable in one "treatment" or "sharing experience".
Best of Mindful luck and many blessed happinesses.
~A
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I've done some research on “verbal abuse" and I think me and my brother sister and mother might be suffering from it… you see, my dad calls us names like bitch, asshole, gerk, brat, and my mother hoe, hoar, and other names offensive to a woman, and he threatened all three of my siblings: threatened to “smash" me and my sister (and once lifted a knife and said to me,“it's time" it was supposed to be a joke, but still), and also did the same to my brother. A signifigant thing he did was he threatened to break my sister's leg or arm or some bone. I learned that this threatening is punished, but I'm not sure if I should call the cops, and even if I do I can't get any proof, so what should I do? (link)
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First off... Hey Dragonfly???? FUCK YOU,YOU STUPID BASTARD OF A HUMAN....
Hope that\'s not a punishable offense... especially here on the internet....
Well, anyways.
PLEASE DISREGARD a LARGE MAJORITY of what the last advicenator commented...
Verbal Abuse, as \"titled\" \"Verbal Abuse\" IS NOT a crime.
Criminal and Civil offenses like \"Communicating Threats\", and \"Verbal Assaults\" causing reasonable fear of harm or injury ARE punishable crimes.
Additionally, when it occurs to you and/or siblings it falls within \"Child Abuse\". The burden of proof would most likely stand upon all of your testimonies (oral and written) and the longevity of how long this has been occurring in your household. Along with your mother\'s testimonies as well.
In regards to your Mother, his \"verbal assault\" can ALSO constitute \"Domestic (SPOUSAL) Violence\".. that of which means, your in-home abuse(s) to you and your siblings ALSO fall under it.
There are probably at least 10 more chargeable offenses that \"label\" your dad\'s actions lawfully offensive (aka \"illegal\").
You can also use the computer to review your state\'s criminal statutes/codes.
Now on another note....
Almost every average family know that there are (for lack of a better word) \"in-house rules\" that discourages certain members of a household from inviting \"outside professional services\" into one\'s own \"home\"....
Additionally, you may not want the possible NEGATIVE repercussions that can inadvertently arise from calling in those services... All of which are \"understood\".
However, varying upon the severity of your dad\'s \"fits\".... you may have to make that decision yourself based on your assessment of the entire \"dad\'s practice routines\"...
Another thing to think of is the... \"practice\" he\'s getting from his \"fits\"... Maybe he REQUIRES \"professional services\" anyways.
It may be a tough situation, but you\'ll find that your situation is quite common. Hope you get to a reasonable solution.
Now back to Dragonfly.... I apologize to you for my opening statement.
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i am 13 and my boyfriend is 19. he wants to have sex with me ? what should i do ? (link)
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\"DO\" NOT.
He doesn\'t love you yet.
He\'s \"preying\" on you.
I\'m not sure where you\'re located and WHAT the \"style\" of thinking in your area \"IS\",
BUT
NO,
You haven\'t even mentioned if YOU want to have sex.
And I\'m under the impression that if you did, you would had done it already.
I suggest that either you \"REVEAL\" to him that you\'re not ready\"...
NOT in a private location, and
NOT at night, and
NOT where you can easily leave, (quickly and safely)....
He may just be a young dick in an old man\'s game...
That\'s a SIX year difference AND you\'re 13!!!!
I vote NO!
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I'm not sure what is the right thing to do. I'll be honest, I know a lot of people don't like my boyfriend. We're both 22. He's difficult, can be very blunt/honest, which seems mean, and he went through a period last couple months when he was depressed; you know how it is to be around people who are depressed. He hasn't exactly been the funnest to be around. He lost a lot of his friends and even my friends know that he wasn't doing well. A couple of times that he was at my friends house he sort of acted antisocial and sat in the corner. They told me this was annoying and created a poor atmosphere and that they miss hanging out with just me. I told them he was having a hard time, and they seemed to understand, told me to talk to him about it. There was also a conversation we had unrelated to him in which they told me that they didn't want me to invited random people to their house unless I asked.
Now about the event, these same friends who are two sisters and one other girl just graduated. Their family of the two sisters who are good friends of mine is in town and the day of their graduation they invited me to a party at their house after, the same day last minute. Since I asked who was going and they said them their family and boyfriends and our other friend I didn't think twice about not going with my boyfriend (since I had already made plans with him before they invited me and felt bad telling him to go home because I had other plans). I talked to him before and he promised he wouldn't act antisocial or badly. Well I live 30 minutes away and it was 10pm at night when they said to come over, I already was tired but I thought these are my good friends, I'll go for them. We started driving and as soon as we got there we were about to walk upstairs and they found out I was with him and told me that they never invited him and they thought I was clear not to bring people over without asking them.
This is true I should have asked, but I honestly thought they were talking about random people not my boyfriend who I do a lot of things with. I knew they felt like he was kind of creating a bad time but I didn't think they didn't want him around. I told them that. And then told them I could turn around if it was a big deal. And they responded "We didn't think we had to spell it out for you, we don't want him here because of what we talked about before and my family is here so you can come but not with him" so I had to turn around and drive back home 30 minutes lost a total of an hour and my feelings are really hurt. I would never do that to someone.
Am I wrong? Were they wrong? I'm not sure how to feel... Yes I understand it is their party and I should have asked, but I can't help but feel really upset that I drove there for them and they told me to leave. I know he's not the most fun person, but he is not an asshole, he is not disrespectful to other people. He is just quiet and doesn't talk that much because he is not that happy in his life. He doesn't want to be this way. He has made progress and he is afraid of ending up alone because people don't like him. He just has a hard time with relationships, but he is a good person. I feel like I am losing my friends because of this, it is really frustrating and I'm not sure how I should respond to what my friends did. Talk to them, don't talk to them, what is the best thing to say to them, should I let them know in upset and what is the best way to tell them how I feel? I could really use an outsiders advice on what seems right.... (link)
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Yeah... this situation seems a bit like a douzy.
You don\'t want to trade your boyfriend for your friends,
OR
Your friends for your boyfriend.
It doesn\'t seem right or fair.
And you probably shouldn\'t have to either...
Although, your situation is indeed \"specific\"....
In comparison to people who get into NEW relationships and experience \"similar\" strains.... I think (as of right now) you\'re just going to have to consider what\'s best for you.
Personally, I\'m unbiased to your friends claims and your feelings to stick with your boyfriend.
On both accounts, each side/perspective have good reasons... it probably sucks that time with your boyfriend and time with your friends may need to be separate though..
Your friends spoke with you, and told you what they don\'t want to tolerate.
As personally offended and as resentful as you \"can\" be about that, your friends \"were\" honest with you.
On the other side, you spoke with your boyfriend, and observes that he\'s in a rut. Things like that happen. And anyone whose (at least) worth their shirt, won\'t leave a person stranded in times of depression/stress...
BUT, I do think you should reflect on some things.... like:
(1) How long has he been in this \"rut\"? It\'s a good question because maybe he\'s showing external signs of \"disconnection\" and may be somehow falling into a \"comfortable state\" of being \"anti-social\"... If he was social before and is not anymore, you may want to review that, ESPECIALLY, if you met him during his \"social\" phase....
(2) Additionally??? Although, everyone is not made of money, Maybe you should try making the \" social events\" yourself(ves). For example, get the local newspaper and magazines and find out what are the events going on in your area (or driving zones) and schedule (you AND him) for ALL of them for about a month or so (for as long as you can keep them up financially and resourcefully I guess). Make sure that they\'re all community and social events (not like the movies; more like carnivals and circuses and sports arenas and stuff like that).
I suggest this because maybe you ought to try \"re-connecting\" him to the \"Society-At-Large\", BEFORE trying to \"reconnect\" him to a smaller group of people.
You\'ve mentioned that he has lost ALOT of friends, so \"trust\", \"willingness\". and/or \"vigor\" to go and connect with small group(s) of people again. At least not so easily and/or so quickly. You may be rushing him and/or desiring your way from him (and/or your friends) against what\'s right... right now....
Moreover, These friends are YOUR friends, not his.
And he may simply NOT \"like\" them very much, but rather cause somewhat \"another\" issue between you and him, he hasn\'t told you as much.
Therefore, as the old adage goes, \"If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all\"...
This may explain why he\'d distant and quiet, when y\'all go out...
He may just be in that realm of thinking...
Don\'t choose anything permanent yet. As long as he is not \"suicidal\", you may just have to hang out with your man and your friends \"separately\", which in the \"beginning\", seems like, was all \"they\" were \"ASKING\".... from/of you in the first place...
Think about it and consider your options..
Hope this helps.
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My best friend(Danielle) is sort of ignoring me. It's been a really long time since she asked me to hang out after school or on the weekend. We still talk to each other every day. We sit by each other at lunch and on the bus, but lately she has been hanging out with this girl Luisa. Luisa isn't mean or anything, but its just that since she became friends with Danielle, Danielle has been practicly worshiping her. She always needs to ask for Luisa's opinion on everything. Every weekend she's with Luisa.
Danielle has also been trying to be emo. Its sooo annoying!!! Whenever she says that she went to hot topic or when she tells me she downloaded some song from a band I never heard of she thinks she so cool. I try to tell her shes not emo but she thinks she is!
BTW: I don't want to tell her I feel left out or something and shes like my only friend sooo....??? (link)
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It\'s hard to lose a friend you spend everyday with. Adjustment issues and all.
It\'s even harder when it an only friend.
Although, I wouldn\'t advocate \"staying alone\", sometimes people take for granted how being alone is good too.
You get to explore what YOU want.
You can take an initiative to try to get her back.
You can try give Luisa a chance.
You can scrap the entire friendship because it no longer serves your social and personal needs.
You can deal with it til another opportunity presents itself via other friends.
You COULD tell her how her new friendship is making you feel. At then, you\'d be able to find out where she stands on her feelings about you and yalls friendship.
Another thing, maybe your friend just needs to try something new.
Maybe there is something that made her seek another friendship outside of the one you have/had with her?
You may need to question that too.
It likely that the longer its not discussed, the worst you\'ll probably feel.
If it\'s a friendship you\'d like to retain... then try to resolve the issues present, even if their invisible to you...
Good Luck
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Every time I screw up, I feel bad about it and can't stop. I'll make it up to whoever I wronged, they'll forgive me, and more time will pass, but I still feel bad about it.
Like today, my car's got a problem with it's wheel bearing, so I'm sharing my mom's. I was supposed to keep my cell phone around, so when my mom was ready to leave work, she could call me to come get her. I ran an annoying, last minute errand that I shouldn't have had to run and took my phone with me in case she called. Then, like an idiot, I forgot it in the car when I got home and missed her call.
She called 24 times over the course of an hour and I didn't hear it. I don't know why I didn't think to make sure I had my phone around and she ended up having to call my elderly grandfather, who has poor mobility, for a ride. I feel so bad.
My mom forgave me and tried to cheer my up by saying she might take me for a movie and ice cream tomorrow. I LOVE movies and ice cream. I've seen the movie she wants to take me to and have always said I can't wait to see it again. I'm like a little kid when it comes to ice cream, especially at the place that she wants to get it at. I absolutely ADDICTED to it, but all I can think is, "Why would she want to do that for me? I don't deserve it."
This is just an example. I can forgive others, but I can't forgive myself. Why do you think that is and what can I do about it? (link)
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I just think that you allow yourself a time to reflect on past behaviors and you feel bad about it.
That\'s fair. You\'re human.
You may also not want others to \"keep\" bringing up past behaviors. Therefore, you keep them in the front of your mind.
That\'s not a \"terrible\" idea, however, if you continue to do that, you may develop an internal social condition that will become habit.
After a certain time has passed regarding those previous histories, you need to pack them away somewhere.
If others go about bringing those things up, just think of it as if someone was really asking you to go into your attic/garage or something to bring out the smallest irrelevant item...
However, you decide to handle it... make sure that you help to prevent complications.. especially to yourself.
Another thing, train yourself to accept good too.
It tends to help a lot.
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Hi i need some advice i want to find god i'm 13 male and have had a few family problems and feel lonely sometimes and i do want to become a christian a couple of months ago i started going to church i go every week i pray to god twice everyday i feel good after praying god has really helped me i have started reading the bible i want to give my life to god what else do i need to do to be a christian? (link)
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For one.. you should be careful to whom you ask that question to...
Many people will have you running around do some of the stupidiest, silliest, confusing things ever. Making bad commitments and unnecessary obligations... and worst sometimes.
I\'m not a pre-ordained anything..
However, I think most religions overlap.
They typically call for a self adhesiveness to \"God\". Align yourself with God and others who share the same desires in the realms you wish to relate to \"God\". It may turn into a revival or something. *shrugs*
Share stories, read the bible, pray often (in bad AND GOOD times).
....Incomplete and/or one-sided love affairs are the worst.
Another thing is... it MAY be a critical feature in receiving and retaining blessings.....
Unless your in the company of persons who share your new values... Don\'t share with them your love affair with God.
All people are not capable of comprehending and/or respecting YOUR relationship with God...
Good Luck
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I am married, for over 10 years and have recently started an affair with a married man (he's been married 19 years). I've read about affairs on line, the disaster they cause, the guilt. Of course, I did not plan this, please do not reply to this question if you are going to tell me what an awful person I am. This question is for women that have gone, or are going, through this. We both have children, he is in his 50's, I am in my 40's, we work for the same company, but at different locations. The connection we have, is incredible, we talk for hours, we joke, we share things about our lives and our spouses. When we finally decided to get together, we both knew, we were going to have sex. I have never in my life felt so comfortable with a man, then when I was with him in bed. I didn't feel shame or embarassment, it was like a dream.
I am not delusional, I know that what I feel, is most likely, not real. I know when he says he loves me, he is actually saying "I love the way you make me feel". He has no plans to leave his wife nor do I plan on leaving my husband, so I don't even know why it continues (excitement/thrill?)
Tell me your story, are you still having the affair? Did you or he end it? How did it end? Did you wind up together? (link)
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I will never have an affair with a married man.
This is impossible for me. As the affair part of it, in it's original meaning, cannot apply to me.
However, I wanted to comment on this share...
I liked that way you acknowledged the option that when he says he loves you, its like saying "he loves the way you make him feel"..
That's a wisdom many people the world over lack.
Yet...
you still acknowledge that you are feeling what you feel when yall are together...
I admire that...
Good Luck
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Sorry to ask here but I have been through a lot recently and am having a hard time keeping going. :( Do you have any quotes that have inspired you to keep on going when it seems like there really isn't much of a point to trying anymore? (link)
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1.Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. –Napoleon Hill
2.Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. –Albert Einstein
3.You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. –Wayne Gretzky
6.I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. –Michael Jordan
Good Luck
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okay so im a virgin but my boyfriend isn't... I want to have sex with him im just worried that his dick will be to big and wont fit... (im very tight) we cant even fit two fingers in and he is kinda big.... what if it doesn't fit then what do I do? (link)
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The vagina is extraordinary.
It accommodates a many things..
If you're not over-fantasizing your b/f's penis, then, you're main problem isn't having sex...
You problem is the "prep for sex"...
If your a virgin and.....
If his dick is HUGE....
then penetration IS NOT THE WAY TO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO!!!!!!!!!!!!
You need dick flick clit teletubby thons...
before the whole sex thing..
Ease on down the road Dorothy said (Wizard of Oz)
Not "Blow that motherf**ka up! (Set It Off).
I hope you get it...
Take your time Doll
Good Luck
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My friend is scared of her dad (link)
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She may have good reason to be.
This is not a easy scenario.
You haven't revealed any facts, so I'm going to hypotheticized a worst case scenario.
She needs to leave home, as quickly as possible...
This is no easy task...
If she were to request help, it would probably go a lot faster, however, it's likely to be a slow and agonizing process, especially if her fear is actual.
How old is she?
Can she live with relatives?
These are important questions because nowadays there are programs all over the country that assist with domestic situations and troubled youths and people.
The U.S. is practically an "addict/rehab" country now.
I'm going to list several sites you can help her check out...
1) This one is a .gov site which explains a little something about residential programs and what questions should be asked before enrolling (concerns, qualifications, duration, etc.)
http://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0185-residential-treatment-programs-teens
2)This one here is a program in Connecticut.. it lists a phone number to consult and to with counselors and other research information is on the site.
http://www.newhavenrtc.com/
(3)This one here is the National Association of Therapeutic Schools and Programs. It seems to be an entire collection and alternative programs that could open up an multitude of options and resources to someone who calls...
Also, depending on which city or town she is in she could also go and visit her District Attorney Office and request a meeting. They tend to be a wealth of information, resources and options that may be availed to her. Just a thought.
Have you and your friend keep safe and continue looking for ways to help her deal and/or ways for her to leave, permanently if possible and... if that what she truly wants...
You took a step for her.
Good Luck
http://natsap.org/
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I have a really hard time talking with other people in class, and normally I'm excluded from most of the groups because the kids think I'm weird. I'm in 6th grade and I spend most of my time in the counselor's office rather than in class. I would really like some help. (link)
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LOLZ...Oh hey you!
I know someone JUST LIKE YOU.
Are you a talker anyways?
Or do you actually "want" to talk?.... or are you asking this question you see everybody else is talking?
Brilliant people are both social.... AND quiet.
So don't hang yourself because you're the "awkward" person.
Schools is not as cool as they use to be, so if you can, don't sweat it.
If you can't start with other loners and work you way out.
All lions growl before they roar.
Good Luck
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Okay so my boyfriend & I have decided we want to take our relationship to the next level. A bunch of my friends said that having sex for the first time really hurts & others said that it doesn't. He has fingered me before & it didn't hurt although I know its nowhere near the same as having sex, but I'm curious about what I can do to make sure the expierience won't be painful..? (link)
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If you're a virgin... I say keep your virginity.
It's a valued virtue, even if society isn't appreciative.
Sex is amazing. There are NO doubts about that.
And I am not that old to lie about that.
HOWEVER...
I noticed you left out a lot about the surrounding circumstances and details about you and your boyfriend... I'm just wondering if you did that intentionally to protect ya'lls privacy or did you do that because if other advicenators caught of whiff of those figures, they'd probably judge you and/or attempt to talk you out of it?
Either way, I think your questions are not only about whether or not it's going to hurt, but whether or not you're/ya'll are ready...
All fresh ass girls are "ready" for sex.
But... the "pain" question is something that almost every female virgin has cross her mind.
The weird part is that each first time is it's own experience. There is no cheat code on experience or advice that it going give YOU your accurate pain-o-meter for the first time. It is an act that you must find out for yourself.
There are many, many reasons its painful.
Alternatively, there are also many, many reasons why it's not.
Currently no one knows your body better than you, so you have the best guess.
You could go in yourself to "feel around" and see if you have any discomfort. But I wouldn't advise moving on to the "freakier" items and things til afterwards....
Take inventory of yourself.
Additionally, there is also a likeliness that he may be a virgin and sex may hurt him as well.
It a rare conversation but.. it's a likeliness...
You old enough to consider sex, so when you do decide to do it, be old enough to control the "tempo" so that your new experience, won't become your worst...
Good Luck
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Hey, I'll get right into it. I met this girl called Kelsey about year ago in my science class and some people joked about being married and i never thought much of it but over the last few months we've been talking more and more and the marriage joke had gone really far. Anyway we talk about everything, including our love lives. We talk most nights now and i really don't know if i've found a good friend or something more.
And if i do a crush on her what do i do about it(i know she still has feelings for an old boyfriend)
Thanks for reading! (link)
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LOLs... I didn't "want" it but... it does give your scenario perspective..
Wow and you're on your way to graduation too!!
It's such a terrible time to find someone before h.s. ends...
If ya'll are going away to college, let alone separate colleges, it's even worst.
If yall live in the same town, then there may be something to have for at least the next 5-6 months.
You did mention that yall talk nights... that's a very good indicator.
She likes you... but how to determine if your her "Edward" or her "Jacob", without all the drama and intensity???
Hmmm...
The story sounds more like a "Jacob" (Twilight) scenario, with bits of Edward, with the night thing....
Are you a "highlight(cool/popular)" guy at your school, because if so, then yeah she's probably into you, in that... "She wishes to be more than your friend"... however if you're not, you might be her "comfort buddy"...
It's sticky if you're NOT a jerk and want to get with her..
Sooner or later.. you just may have to ask...
*shrugs* GL
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(THIS IS REALLY LONG, BUT ONLY BECAUSE OF THE SIGNS) Where do I even begin! I am 17 and female ,and the guy I like is 17.
Okay so there’s this guy I’ve known since 7th grade. We’ll just call him Josh. Me And josh have been friends since 7th grade, and we started out as friends, and later he began to like me, and asked me out twice, I refused both times, because at the time I didn’t really care to have a boyfriend. My 8th grade year, I started to like him, so I wrote him a love letter, he wrote one back, we did a little flirt here and there, but nothing really happened, I wasn‘t expecting anything anyway. People told me all the time we would look cute together, and they would tease both of us. But that’s whatever.
9th grade, we go to the same school, and we only had one class together. It was all fine and dandy, but we got into a sort of fight, but it wasn’t big, but the outcome was, he stopped talking to me. I was mad of the outcome, so I just left him alone, I was mad, so I didn’t care that he wasn’t talking to me. And this was the beginning of 9th grade year, so for the rest of that year, and our 10th grade year, we acted like the other did not even exist.
In comes out 11th grade year,, and I was kinda missing him, and I had 2 classes with him back to back. I was sitting in the back of the classroom while he sits in the front. One day in class, about maybe the first or second week of school, he walked to the back of the classroom and slammed a note on my desk, and walked back to his desk. I wasn’t really sure what it was going to say. But basically it said he missed talking to me, the funny conversations, and the hugs. So on that day right there, I talked to him, and I was like “Okay good, it isn’t awkward anymore’ So throughout the year…I started liking him AGAIN. I know, I’m so back and forth. But we just carried on casual conversations, but it was so nerve-wracking because you know how you have a crush, and you’re all nervous, and you try to make sure to say the same things. That’s what was going on. But, I found out the worst thing…he had a girlfriend! And I was just like damn it.
So throughout the year, I just kinda watch him and his girlfriend, we were juniors, and his girlfriend was a senior, and my friend had often told me that they had gotten into arguments, and that Josh was getting a bit annoyed of his girlfriend. Let me say this right now that I was NOT trying to break them up, that’s just ignorant. So he’s dating her, but at the same time, he’ll go out of his way, just to pat me, like we’re at lunch, he’ll come out of nowhere, and pat me on the shoulder. And everyone’s like “Ohh snap tryna get you some!” Lol, but everyone knows he has a girlfriend so its whatever.
Now it’s out senior year…and his girlfriend goes to college that‘s about 5 hours from where we live. AND NOW. EVERYTHING IS JUST SO VHHSVFPVNSPSVHFDH. I have FIVE classes with him this year, so I see him ALL the time. This is where the complication comes in. Every morning, we usually hug each other, but usually he’s the first to offer, or he’ll get sad if I don’t hug him, which is kind of cute. Other days he’ll come in class and lay his head on my shoulder and say something like “I’m tired” or something like that. If we’re walking in the hallway, he’ll hit me with his bag, which usually scares the **** out of me because it’s usually unexpected. He pokes me all the time, and I’ll poke back, just for fun, you know.
At lunch, I usually sit by where the lunch line starts, and when he comes over, sometimes he pats me on the back, or he’ll give me a hug from behind, or wrap his arms around my neck. The things he does with me, I don’t see him doing with any of his other female friends.
Another time he was in a bad mood, and I wasn’t going to bother him, because he’s a tiny bit of a mood swinger, so he was sitting in his chair, and he kept hitting me to get my attention, and then he grabbed my hand and dragged me to him..and I gave him a hug ,and I told him to get better. J
About 2 weeks ago we had this event at school, and I was sitting by myself all the way in the back, because everyone I was with went home, and Josh was all the way in the front, so he came back and sat with me. Could just be a friendly gesture, but I thought it was nice.
On the previous Friday, I was standing in the front of the school, and he came in to give something to his teacher, and he came ALL THE WAY TO WHERE I WAS, and came up behind me, and put his arms around my neck. Now he could have just went out the door, but no he came all the way to where I was, just to do that.
Anyway, from what I've told you, what do you think? Am I over-exaggerating, or do you think he still might have feelings for me? Thank you for reading! (link)
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Breathe girl breathe... senior year...ahh...upcoming.senior events too...#panic :) ... WHY havent u asked him? I'm thinking that you LIKE being nerve wrecked... I cant stand that... but it may be your cup.of tea... *shrug*... anyways.. youre going insane cuz you tea kettle has been bubbling and steaming over the top.for some while now.... have you question his habits toward you though... have you noticed if any of the other guys like you or talk to you? He may be claiming you without having to claim you.... and that may be a thing that would surface on your end AFTER yall graduate...yall have too many common friends for him to make his move... #oh boy.... Is he REALLY someone you wanna be with... reevaluate your situation... WITHOUT ALL THE CRUSH CRAP... is he a loner... does he like his own family... is he "a bad boy" the outcast" "popular mack daddy"? things like that... once you find that "thing"... you'll see if this "crushing" is legit... Best of Luck.
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My name is amber. I am 16 years old. I live im a trailer with both my mom and dad, my 10 year old bother, my nana stays with us because she is sick, and my uncle walter lives with us, and my uncle alex is just staying with us although he has his own apartment. Alex doesnt even need to be here. Alex is always butting his nose is answering for my parents every time i ask my parents a question. I have absolutly no privacy with either of my parents. Not only that but my dad has became Extremely Verbaly Abbusive to me. He calls me a bitch and a whore all the time. He also calls me a reject. and says " no wonder why nobody likes you". He also has stop saying "i love you" to me. I feel like i have no one. No one wants me and im just a random person that doesnt belong. what should i do? (link)
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You know what... I wanna.give you the textbook advice
..like "its not that bad" " you'll make it through" and let God be your rock"... but you know as well as I do... that no one saves us from feeling the we feel... and no saves us from others treating us bad... there indeed is a reason why we go through the things we do... most of the time its our own damn fault... but sometimes.... its other people.... your 16 now... time to start investing your time elsewhere... preferably into a "job"... its not my favorite recommendation... but change will not get to your Dad without some type of revleation... and even if he does get one... he has to accept and implement it... This may be tough to bear... but hopefully for a moment... you need to put.yourself in a position (emotionally and financially) to support yourself away ftom "under his roof".... children only escape their parents by becoming adults....which takes on many forms... nonetheless the sentiments is accurate... Im sorry the love you once had is lost... try to talk to him. if that a closed door? start thinking and implementing why that sunlight still lingers through your window.... only you can really know what you can handle... Hope yhis help
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Lately I've just been feeling reeally depressed. But there are reasons. I'm truthfully not good enough for anyone. There's nothing good about me and I can't do anything. I've been giving up on everything because I can't succeed in anything. I've even been cutting my arms which I swore to myself I would never do. When I try to talk about it I just get more depressed and it's just like well nobody knows what I'm going through anyways so why bother. When I'm with people I act totally different from what I feel. I don't like letting people know what I'm feeling, because I'm constantly depressed. I've even considered suicide. >_<
So can someone please help me stop this feeling? I don't want to take anti-depressants because then I'd have to tell my mom and I don't want her freaking out. I don't want to cut anymore, it just feels like a last resort. ): (link)
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We all go through depression at various points in our lives. It happens quite often and it quite natural. So I hope you feel comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Nor will you ever will be. Unless you make it that way. And I was gonna take the easy way out and provide more sympathy and comfort but I decided against it. I believe that you recently lost something very close to you. Whether it was a person, an animal, a job, a lover, friend, etc... in any case.. it provided you with self worth. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Thriving off the surrounding environment can do wonders! However, whatever it holding you up is now gone and you may feel a void within. But now Imma be rather blunt especially because I can relate (not as far as you have gone but I know that if my attitude was like yours then it could of lead to the point of where you are.) You have alot of help, loved ones, and resources around. Get off your self pity train and make something happen. To say that your "good for nothing"? Is retarded and plain insane! You should believe "everything happens for a reason" and the follow up to that is that "God or whomever you believe will not place more weight on you than you can carry"....and it seems to me that you are only carrying yourself *in the most detrimental, self destructive, negative way humanly possible!" Just because you don't your babysitter anymore. I'm not sure how old you are but unfortunately.... YOU HAVE TO GROW UP AND BE YOUR OWN SUPPORT BEAM! LISTEN TO ME>>>>>>>>>> YOU ARE KILLING YOURSELF WITH YOURSELF BY YOURSELF>>>> I also suggest that you go seek group help. There are many groups for depressed and cutters waiting for people like you. Its quite alright the be withdrawn.. or have other people talk bad about you... but you need to "STOP SAYING THESE THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF!" how can you fabricate good fortunes and happiness if you *technically and internally" always against them? Hope this helps and I actually would appreciate a follow-up. Best Regards... because whether you believe it or not... you DESERVE THEM!
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When I started high school this year, all of my friends started making new, older friends and having these great relationships. When I tried, no one seemed very interested in getting to know me. I just stuck with the few friends I already had and I feel like I'm totally missing out on my high school career! I'm in a lot of clubs, attractive, funny, and easy to talk to but it seems like I'm still the odd one out.
I think its because I try to hard and when someone does go out of their way I get clingy and excited that someone tried you know? What should I do! I want more friends and an exciting life. (link)
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The good thing is that this is the first of four years you have. By you joining as many clubs, you've already placed yourself in a great position to meet new exiting people. Also, you've named alot of great qualities within yourself. My question is do you believe that they fail in comparison(
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