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Friend Problems
My best friend(Danielle) is sort of ignoring me. It's been a really long time since she asked me to hang out after school or on the weekend. We still talk to each other every day. We sit by each other at lunch and on the bus, but lately she has been hanging out with this girl Luisa. Luisa isn't mean or anything, but its just that since she became friends with Danielle, Danielle has been practicly worshiping her. She always needs to ask for Luisa's opinion on everything. Every weekend she's with Luisa.
Danielle has also been trying to be emo. Its sooo annoying!!! Whenever she says that she went to hot topic or when she tells me she downloaded some song from a band I never heard of she thinks she so cool. I try to tell her shes not emo but she thinks she is!
BTW: I don't want to tell her I feel left out or something and shes like my only friend sooo....???
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Hi there! I have had the same problems before. I hate to tell you this, but she wants to move on. If she wants to be emo, let her. If she was your best friend, she wouldn't have left you. She decided what she wants to be and you should too. Maybe she has been your best friend for a long time, but all friends come and go. Also, you can make new friends. Find out what other people like to do and see if you have any similarities. Trust me. It does work. Last year, I lost all of my friends because I isolated them out of my life because I was going through a hard time. When I was back to myself, I didn't have any friends. Until April, when I joined the high school color guard team. I love to spin and throw flags, riffles, and swords (the riffle and swords are plastic and not real so it doesn't hurt). I was nervous because all of the girls in my grade hated me. I felt awkward until I met Bernie. She helped me on a part of the routine we were learning at the time and we found out we had a lot in common. Today, she is my best friend and I'm friends with all of her other friends too. I miss my old friends, but if you don't let go, you will be hurting for a long time. I hope this helps and if you need any other advice, you just ask me.
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It's hard to lose a friend you spend everyday with. Adjustment issues and all.
It's even harder when it an only friend.
Although, I wouldn't advocate "staying alone", sometimes people take for granted how being alone is good too.
You get to explore what YOU want.
You can take an initiative to try to get her back.
You can try give Luisa a chance.
You can scrap the entire friendship because it no longer serves your social and personal needs.
You can deal with it til another opportunity presents itself via other friends.
You COULD tell her how her new friendship is making you feel. At then, you'd be able to find out where she stands on her feelings about you and yalls friendship.
Another thing, maybe your friend just needs to try something new.
Maybe there is something that made her seek another friendship outside of the one you have/had with her?
You may need to question that too.
It likely that the longer its not discussed, the worst you'll probably feel.
If it's a friendship you'd like to retain... then try to resolve the issues present, even if their invisible to you...
Good Luck
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I think we've all kind of been through this at one point or another. This girl is basically just the new squeeze thats all. and Its probably not a good idea to down on the new girl or else it might just make your friend think your jealous.
Just give it time, be "civil" with them both and wait until your friend gets tired of her. If youve really been a good friend this whole time, then its only a matter of time before theres a fight or something of that nature to break them apart. just keep being friends with YOUR friend, let her call you, let her tell you things she doesnt tell anyone else things like that.
kids in high school or junior high usually go through that "i dont know where or with who i fit in with yet" stage. your friend could just be feeling the same way and sooner or later the fascination with her will wear off. I would also just keep mentioning when ever you can that youve "always been here for her even through all her rough times and thats what friends are for" things like that. she should pick up on it, and realize shes probably been leaving you out a little.
But also try to remember that YOU need to grow as a person too, and its actually not totally healthy to have just ONE "best friend" that you wrap your whole life up in. its ok to have more then ONE really good friend. so go hang out with other people too, try new things, and do stuff you dont normally do so your not sitting home alone while thinking about how your best friend with probably hanging out with that girl.
((((the most important thing here, is try not to be mean to the new friend, your old friend will most likely turn on you and think your "just jealous")))) pretend like you dont care that they are hanging out and that its "not a big deal" just for now at least. ; )
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