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i don't know what to do.
me & my boyfriend had just broken up, he said because he doesn't want me anymore.. which really hurt me, i started crying for 2 hours straight. then.. later on, he wanted to get back together with me.. but i told him it was kind of too late. and then i said if he wanted to, then i think it's best to be single for a while first. and he asked if we can still have the "no talking to opposite sex promise".. because he's scared he'll loose me to another guy. and i told him that i think it's best if we can talk to the opposite sex to be able to trust each other. and he said "forget it, we're not gonna get back together then." and it's very frustrating, because i need some time to think it over if i should or not, and he rushes me. and then, he got mad at me because i added guys on myspace, when we went single.. because i first saw myself off of his, and had a girl comment him. so i thought he added all the girls back, then i added all the guys back. and he got mad at me when we were single.. and he told me that he was gonna delete me out of his life and burn everything and etc. and then he said all of these harsh things to me and stuff. and then he called me so i had to pick up, and he was crying.. and he said "why'd you do this to me?" and he also said "i hate my life because of you" and all this stuff, which made me cry because he was crying really hard. and he asked to start over with me, but i told him i needed some time to think about things, and he finally gave me time to think it all through. and he said it was his fault for breaking up with me in the first place.
and yesss.. we did have alot of difficulties in our relationship, that's why i said we should be single for a while till we're ready to start over.. and to talk to the opposite sex while we wait, but he doesn't wanna do the opposite sex.
so what should i do? i don't know what to do anymore.. i'm very confused. PLEASE HELP ME! i'm stuck in between. i wanna be with him, but yet.. yeahh..
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okay well first of all, you both need to realize that he started this whole thing by breaking up with you. ask him why he even broke up with you in the first place. i think its also very strange that you have a rule that you cant talk to the opposite sex. if you are in a relationship with someone that doesnt mean you should cut off all contact with anyone else from the opposite sex. you are allowed to have guy friends while having a boyfriend. he is way too controlling. it is not his choice who you can talk to. he should be able to trust you enough to know that you wont cheat on him. you can talk to whoever you want. dont listen to him. it sounds like he cares about you though. take some time to think it over. if you really like him then you can try it again. but i think you should be able to talk to other guys. <33
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He's too controlling of you.
Your relationship with him is an unhealthy one. You should move on.
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Well you see, he's very controlling and protective of you and your life. Which isin't right because as I said before, YOUR life and YOU. Not him. You should be able to talk to the opposite sex. I think that if you really like him that much, give him another chance. But only if he agrees to certain circumstances. Make a list of the things that went wrong in your relationship and write down how they can be fixed. Include the not talking to the opposite sex thing because that is waayy out of line. I mean its ridiculous. If you two really like eachother that much, you should be able to trust eachother. It's not like your going to jump this guy while saying hi to him. Honestly lol.
So make a list of everything that went wrong and sit down with your boyfriend/ex-boyfriend and fix the issues. Tell him that you will only be with him again if he agrees to fix the problems that were in your last relationship. If he refuses then he isin't good enough for you. Don't let it bother you and don't let yourself break down. Just grab a couple of girlfriends and go to a party or club. Meet someone that will treat you how you deserve to be treated and that you actually enjoy being with all the time. Though if he agrees to the circumstances (like he should) go for it. Be his girlfriend again. But if he starts getting all up-tight again, break it off. That means it just wasn't meant to be.
Hope this helps :)
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What you *should* do, is percisely what you have. You've stuck to what you know to be rational and reasonable even in the face of his abuse and bullying.
This relationship has too many difficulties for a teenage relationship. You aren't going to spend the rest of your life with someone who is so controlling, or someone with whom you have no mutual trust.
Make a clean break. Period. You don't really want to be with him do you? It might seem nice in theory, but you know that is sort of sucks in reality.
Be honest, and be harsh. If he keeps hoping, he'll keep hounding you. Remove the drama from your life.
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You should end this realationship immediately. He sounds like he is trying to control your life by telling you who you can and can't talk to. I am afraid if you stay with him and he is as jealous as you say he may start getting violent. He also shouldn't play the emotional game of let's break up and then never mind I want you back. So I would say that you definitley need to end it.
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Why did you agree to that rule in the first place? Sorry agreeing to that probably hurt you guys even more because you both pretty much told each other that "you are mine, and no one can have you." It is pretty much showing that neither of you trust each other that much. I am not trying to say that to be mean but no guy should make you not talk to guys and vice versa.
He was the one who said he wanted to break up in the first place. He should not be making you feel guilty because he was the one who made you come to the realization that you need a break. Like you said, him saying what he did hurt you and it's not like you can forgive that in a couple hours.
You two need to evaluate yourselves and your relationship. I am going through kinda the same thing and all I know is that this break may make your relationship stronger. Don't play dirty just take this time to relax and realize what you want and what you need in your life. I think he should know that too.
I really hope everything works out for the best, and I am sorry that you have to go through this too!!
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To me it sounds like he really truely wants you. And if you truely want to be with him be with him. Waiting can ruin everything. Don't be immature about it.. I understand what you mean by the myspace thing. My ex and I had a big deal about girl friends and guy friends on myspace and comments. In the end that all doesn't mean anything. Its just myspace. Don't let all that stuff get you down and make you think that you shouldn't be with him. Try to work things out. Make compromises. Talk to each other. Hope I helped. Good luck with your situation. Lemme know if you need anything else.
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