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I am really outgoing. Lots of friends and alot of people that support me in everything I do. Im creative, funny, athletic, and artistic.. And i'm always here if you need advice.

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Hey! My boyfriend and I have been going out for ten months in March, and I really think that him and I are in love. Not just in a physical sense, but him and I connect mentally. We both really enjoy intellectual discussions about anything and everything. We can talk about any problems that we're having and the other can almost always relate. We can stay on the phone for hours at a time and not get bored, and both of us are extremely loyal to the other. We're just like best friends excluding the romance part. We're really close. The only thing is, sometimes it gets so discouraging when people say we're too young to be in love. I know we're both in love with each other, but other than getting married when we're able to (He and I are both fourteen), how can we deal with annoying old people who think love can only be understood at a certain age? Thanks in advance.

Wow, this EXACT same thing happened to me last year. He broke my heart though, and now we're finally together. People told me the exact same thing, what do they know? They don't know our situation or what we're going through or how we feel for that person. Just ignore them, and go on with your life, don't let other peoples' opinions hurt or discourage you. And certainly, don't let it pull you and your boyfriend apart. Good luck babe, seriously. This is awesome.

Em

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i am 16/f and my boyfriend is 18/m we are both virgins and we are in love with each other.. for sure .. i know what hes in this relationship for and i feel like having sex with him.. not to just f*ck but to share something with him that neither of us have experienced.. do you think this is a bad idea? do you think ill regret it? will peopel look at me differently?
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stonecoldmystery

Alright- if you two love eachother, then you wouldn't lust eachother, wait for marriage. What if you two break up after you've had sex? Maybe he just wants sex. As hard as it is to believe it, it's true. A lot of girls your age go out and have sex then their boyfriends dump them. Just wait for marriage, it will be even more special then if you wait.

Em

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people at school are starting to say i smell...
i dont understand, i wear deodorant and i wash with soap when im in the shower...i use shampoo and conditioner too so i cant think of what it could be. they have been saying this for a while and i used to think that they said it just to make me feel bad and it is starting to hurt my feelings...what can i do to smell better?

Maybe you're in athletics, and you sweat? Maybe get some guys deoderant and take a couple showers a day, get some really good perfume too and spray it where you think you "smell" if that makes sense, but if you use it when you're sweating, it makes it twice as bad. I hope I helped..

Em

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I made a promise with one of my cusins I dont know if I can keep it you know ... the promise is to keep my virginity till I am married what should I do I love the guy I am with right now

I think you should wait, seriously.. Wait until marriage, that night will be so much more special, and you won't have any regrets because you'll be with THAT person, for the rest of your life. What if once your boyfriend just wants sex, and once he gets it, he leaves you? This happens to a lot of girls, but you think it won't happen. You have to fight the lust, and move on, there's better things than you can do then worry about something like this, at so young in life. Wait until that one night, it'll be all worth it, trust me.

Em

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well me and my bf have been goin out for like a little more than 2 months and we really like each other... but he seems shy when it comes to kissing or something...wat does this mean?

Some guys are different. I think it's good that he's shy about that, you don't want to move too fast on him, the relationship might not work if you move too fast. So just take it slow, and if he wants to kiss you, let him, but don't put any moves on him, maybe he isn't comfortable with it right now.

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13/f
i used to like this guy kyle and i dont anymore. im goin out with this guy named andrew and whenever i say anything about kyle even if its mean it seems to pissed andrew off... wat do i do?

Why would you talk about another guy in front of your boyfriend that you used to like? that's really rude...

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Ok im 14 and i have this friend. We have been friends sence before kindergarden. Now im in 8th Grade and we talk and hang out but we are friends with totally different groups of people. All the people she's hanging out with are real popular and preppy and totally not her. I normmal dont like thoses type of people. They are nice but probably would not care for me. She is now started to act like them and i dont really like it. I want to tell her and seee what she would say or if she would change, but i dont want her to get mad at me. I dont kno what to do please help!!

You can't help if she's changed, if she has and wants to be someone else let her. You should tell her how you feel, but I can't guaruntee anything to happen, but you should tell her just to let her know, and to make yourself feel better, to see if you can do something.

Em

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Hey ok the new school year starts this monday and im scared bout making new friends cuz last year i told people i was christian (im not afraid 2 share my faith) so they all thought i was weird and stuff...and i dont cuss so instead of saying a bad word id say like crap or freak or whatever and they'd make fun of me..i still want ppl to know im christian this year but im scared i wont have friends! i know what i did wrong last year id tell people that Jesus loves them jokingly and they got scared so yea not gonna do that but even if i tell them that im a christian they might reject me..so what do i do?

You should try a couple of youth groups for different churchs, you can meet some AWESOME ppl from there, not joking! They are warm welcoming and everything. try it, chances are they go to your school! I hope I helped you out, And i'm prould of you for standing up. Not many have the guts to do that. Good for you. You're awesome for that.!

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Alright. I just moved to Tucson from New York. Well, I got a really scary call from one of my friends in New York today. These really ghetto gangster chicks that we used to hang out with have turned against us and they know I'm coming back this winter and they're planning on beating the fuck out of all of us. They always show up at Ericas and Brittanys houses and threaten them and shit and tell them they can't wait until I can back so they can see all of us dead. I'm really scared because I know what they can do.

Aight... Gurl you need to tell ur friends to get a tape recorder or a mic on the computer for when they come to their houses and record what they is sayin or call the police and leave them on the phone and let them hear what is going on in the background, either way you need to call the police and tell them that they are threatening you and your friends!! They threatened your life, you need to get some help!! IMMEDIATELY!

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ok here's the story: my friend ali was going out wit this kid chris (i hooked them up) then they broke up and he was telling me how much he liked me and how cute i am and how sweet and stuff. well i was all into it and i relized that i like him. the day after they got back together and i was crushed. i now feel like i am breaking them up cause i told ali that i like him. oh yeah THEY NEVER MET EACHOTHER!!!! i met him at the local theme park. I feel realli bad tho i think i am tearing them apart... what should i do?

First of all, he made the first move, he told you what he thought about you and you went along with it. Just back off a little and see what happens in their relationship. Sometime long-distances just don't work out. You don't want to date a player or hurt your friend. If he comes up to you again ask him who he wants to be with, because that's not fair him playing you two. Just make sure he's not a player!

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the guy i am interested in told me that the only way he would consider going out with me is if i have sex with him 1st. i like this guy but i am a virgin i just dont know if it is worth it. what shoul i do? :(

Girl, it's just a guy, they come and go and if you do have sex with him, he will definately go and move to the next girl because once he's gotten what he wants, then he moves on. You are a virgin, stay that way until you get married, don't you want it to be special?

Hope I helped

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i feel like i'm going into depression.. my life seems like its getting worse everyday! i lost my b/f recently n nothing seems right! i will NEVER cut tho! but i dont no.. what should i do?

I know what you're going through, I went through that for a really long time. Start hanging out with your best friends, the people who understand you the most, I went to a counselor too..Because I missed him alot- alot.. It feels so much better to even go to someone and to tell them your problem. You could also have anxiety, too. That could help you to keep worrying or keep being depressed. Talk to someone about what happened with you and your exboyfriend. And just get out and have some fun. Only time will heal..

Hope I helped

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How old do u have to be to have sex?

You're suppose to wait until you're married, at least that's what I believe, but I guess if YOU are ready and you are willing to go against God's will and you think you've found the right one and you think it's the right time..then I guess you're ready. But it's a sin to have sex before you're married, so I would wait until marriage

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Ok i have a huge problem. See tomorrow i start school and my parents told me that i have to take this other person to school w/ me. Well He is just so happens to be my moms boss's little brother. Unfortunatly he is my age. i really dont want to take because i know my mom and his brother will try to hook us up. what should i do?

Alright this all depends on if you like youre mom's boss' son.. If you do, let them hook you guys up, if your ready for it. But if they try to and your not ready for a steady relationship, tell them how you feel. It's not your fault if you don't like him or if you do. So just do what you feel is right.

Hope I helped

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i love swimming so much and i heard that swimming is a good exercise to do when ur tryin to lose weight... i wanted too no how long i have too swim and wut swims i should do... i weigh about 120 and i wanna lose 20 pounds.. along w/ swimming im doing crunches.. leg squats.. leg lifts.. and tryin too watch wut i eat.. sum1 plz help meh i needa lose 20 pounds in like 4 weeks!!

Well if you're swimming you should probably be on a team, that's better for you, because they include leg and stomache exersizes alot. They work you out tons! It does really help, I was on a team for 5-6 years, when you swim make sure you do Fly (especially) it's soo hard, then Free, Breast and Back strokes.. Join a team they'll explain everything to you, and 120 isn't even bad at all! Hope I helped

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ok well this deaf girl is trying to be my best friend and she gets all the hot guys soo i am trying to be her friend and she is like wanting to hang out with me but i dont really like her soo should i stop being nice and start getting real? haha

Yeah start being real.. I mean if you like the guys, and all get their screen names.. Rach I know this is you..LMAO! gosh i love ya girl hahaha!

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srry, this is a weird question but its bugging me.... it takes my hair 3 hours to air dry, and like 20 mins to blow dry... is this normal? cuz its realli annoying.. thanx

Ha.. don't feel dumb for asking this, I have the same problem.. It's either because your hair is REALLY thick or because it's really long.. it's normal, but if you want, go to a hair stylist and get it thinned out or cut off a little! It's normal..and hey its a good thing, at least you know you're not bald!

Hope I helped!

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well i have school in a few weeks and i dont know what to ware i am like sporty and girly girl and a tom boy?

I'm the same way you are! I love the comfort clothes, but those away for after school plans! Its time to pull out the cute flirty skirts with the cute tanks and breezy shirts with lots of summer colors. Get out some cute high heels to wear with it, or maybe just some cute flip flops! Do your hair in sorda scrunch but without the gel look make it look natural! It's all about the summer rush! Make it out!

Hope I helped

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Where to begin? I was seeing this girl off and on for 9 months. She was "using" this 55 yr old arab guy for rides and stuff. I didnt condone of the usery but I didnt feel like it was my place to tell her how to live. After about 5 month into the relationship I moved to miami( we are in VA). She came to visit for a week and it was like a honeymoon without the marrige. Everything was great. When she came back she told me she was pregnant. I sent money up there to her and had my friend drive her to the clinic. I sent her flowers everyday for a week afterwards. So I came back home and while we were spending time toghether through much over hearing the wrong conversations I suspected there was more to her and his relationship. I was right. In short the kid wasnt mine and I was being played the whole time. the break up was awful and I am emot. wrecked. I took her back only to find out she didnt give him up. Now my head is spinning and my heart in shattered. Any advice?

You probably should have thought about her getting rides from the 55 year old man.. I mean that's not really approperate.. Don't take her back after she already cheated on you! She might do it again, I understand your heart is broken, and that girl is special..But it will get broken all over again if you keep taking her back. The kid isn't yours, it's not your problem. Take some time away, Let your mind ease, spend some time with some of your close friends the one that you can bend on and you know they'll be there for you. Let go of that girl, "you're only allowed 3 great girls in your life" Maybe you'll still find that special one, who will treat you right! Let her go, a little bit, day by day..The first weeks are the hardest, but as time goes.. She'll go...

Hope I helped.

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whats the best thing to clean ur ears with BESIDES store solution?? hydrogen peroxide or rubbing alcohol? let me no one of the 2 plz. thank u much!
Megan

Hydrogen Peroxide!! Rubbing alcohol might irrate your ears! Definately go to the store, it's really cheap, under a dollar! Also when you put it on your ears you might hear little bubbles popping, that's good..that means that it's cleaning and disinfecting! Hope I helped

Best wishes

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