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My head is all messed up
Where to begin? I was seeing this girl off and on for 9 months. She was "using" this 55 yr old arab guy for rides and stuff. I didnt condone of the usery but I didnt feel like it was my place to tell her how to live. After about 5 month into the relationship I moved to miami( we are in VA). She came to visit for a week and it was like a honeymoon without the marrige. Everything was great. When she came back she told me she was pregnant. I sent money up there to her and had my friend drive her to the clinic. I sent her flowers everyday for a week afterwards. So I came back home and while we were spending time toghether through much over hearing the wrong conversations I suspected there was more to her and his relationship. I was right. In short the kid wasnt mine and I was being played the whole time. the break up was awful and I am emot. wrecked. I took her back only to find out she didnt give him up. Now my head is spinning and my heart in shattered. Any advice?
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My advice has several steps, so bear with me.
1. Don't take her back again. She's already proven unfaithful, and she's betrayed your trust in ways that are just about unimaginable.
2. Don't have a big, drawn out goodbye letter or talk with her. She hurt you, and it's awful, but she probably knows it and telling her about it won't help anybody. If you really feel like setting it to paper, then write a letter but don't mail it to her. Hold on to it for at least a month before reading it again, and it should help you see how much better you're feeling.
3. Find a nice friend to take you out and show you a good time. Getting out of the house will help take your mind off what happened.
4. Date girls who live closer to you. Long distance relationships are hard even after a lengthy time investment. After only five months, they're just about impossible.
5. When you do meet another girl and take her to bed, always use protection. I know condoms are a major pain, but it's much harder for a girl to get pregnant if you always use condoms whether she likes it or not. You're protecting yourself not just from scams like this, but also from whatever she may have picked up from whoever she was with before you.
I hope this helps. Take care of yourself.
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Shes not faithful at all and therefore has no respect over you. My advice is that you send her a long letter, explaining how she has hurt you mentally, and explain every last detail of how you feel. Afterwards, try getting her out of your head. As terrible as it is, you dont need her anymore, shes so mean to you! She broke your heart. And maybe you never will forget her all the way, but you need to slowly but surely ease your mind out of the thought of her.
good luck
Hope i helped
XoXo
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You probably should have thought about her getting rides from the 55 year old man.. I mean that's not really approperate.. Don't take her back after she already cheated on you! She might do it again, I understand your heart is broken, and that girl is special..But it will get broken all over again if you keep taking her back. The kid isn't yours, it's not your problem. Take some time away, Let your mind ease, spend some time with some of your close friends the one that you can bend on and you know they'll be there for you. Let go of that girl, "you're only allowed 3 great girls in your life" Maybe you'll still find that special one, who will treat you right! Let her go, a little bit, day by day..The first weeks are the hardest, but as time goes.. She'll go...
Hope I helped.
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leave the bitch alone. she basically robbed you. she lied and disrespected the shit out you. you cant trust her anymore. let that old guy and his wrinckly flacid penis have her. you can do better.
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Eeeek .. I'd ditch her [[ if you haven't already ]], because, um .. well, I think it's pretty self-explanatory =/
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i think that you should leave this girl no matter what the circumstances. however old you are, its kinda weird that shes going with a 55 yr old man. and would you want to date a girl with a baby, which you thought was, but really wasnt. how would you like walking down the street with her and her BABY, yes HERS not YOURS and it doesnt even look like you? i dont think thats right. i think you should dump her and make her feel like you felt when you found out that she was impregnated by a 55 yr old man. hope all goes well with the situation. -PA
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lose her (if you didnt already im not sure)she used you this time she took your money and made you believe you were the father when you werent which is awfulshe obviously doesnt really love you or you would be the only one im sorry to have to tell you that but its true she isnt good enough for you...you need to find a better girl that does love you and nobody else instead of some cheater
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Umm... Wow! How old are you? Anyways, besides the point. Um, well first of all, if a chick cheats on you, then they are not worthy of your times. Second of all, if she has a kid by sumone other than you... Its her problem, not yours. Third of all, she sounds like she wants money from you for her kid. Do you want all that?? Think about it.
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