Since I'm so far from perfect, I figure I'm in good shape to give you advice. Chances are excellent that I've done or at least thought about whatever it is you're contemplating, so let me know what the matter is, and I'll give it my best effort.
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ok well me and my boyfriend were talking about some funny stuff (but there were some dirty parts too about what we would do when i saw him **he lives kinda far away**) but yea anywayz so i emailed them to myself to save them...and one day i went to watch some band and i left my aol on so my mom got on and she read my emails, so now im by my friends house and was checking them and they said they were read already so im not quite sure she did...but im pretty positive..im so scared i might get in trouble or of what she'l do or think about me, or that she wont trust me anymore and think im some kind of slut..what should i do? (link)
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Well, if you want to know for sure, just ask her if she read your email. If she did, and even if she's upset about whatever she read, she's probably feeling more than a little rotten about reading your private words to your boyfriend and you'll both feel better for having it out in the open. You can stop worrying about whether or not she read your email and if she did, she can get it off her chest.
Now, if she did, try to talk to her about it without getting angry and yelling. And I don't think anybody's mother ever really thinks bad things about their daughter, even if they really deserve it. I've done some really questionable things, and my mother has always stood by me, and we get along well because of it. So she might not be thrilled about whatever you wrote to your boyfriend (or what you're doing with him), but you're still her daughter and she loves you.
So, to sum up: Ask her whether or not she did read your email. If she did, don't blow up at her, but just talk to her about it as reasonably as you can. And always, always close your email programs. Ok?
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Where to begin? I was seeing this girl off and on for 9 months. She was "using" this 55 yr old arab guy for rides and stuff. I didnt condone of the usery but I didnt feel like it was my place to tell her how to live. After about 5 month into the relationship I moved to miami( we are in VA). She came to visit for a week and it was like a honeymoon without the marrige. Everything was great. When she came back she told me she was pregnant. I sent money up there to her and had my friend drive her to the clinic. I sent her flowers everyday for a week afterwards. So I came back home and while we were spending time toghether through much over hearing the wrong conversations I suspected there was more to her and his relationship. I was right. In short the kid wasnt mine and I was being played the whole time. the break up was awful and I am emot. wrecked. I took her back only to find out she didnt give him up. Now my head is spinning and my heart in shattered. Any advice? (link)
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My advice has several steps, so bear with me.
1. Don't take her back again. She's already proven unfaithful, and she's betrayed your trust in ways that are just about unimaginable.
2. Don't have a big, drawn out goodbye letter or talk with her. She hurt you, and it's awful, but she probably knows it and telling her about it won't help anybody. If you really feel like setting it to paper, then write a letter but don't mail it to her. Hold on to it for at least a month before reading it again, and it should help you see how much better you're feeling.
3. Find a nice friend to take you out and show you a good time. Getting out of the house will help take your mind off what happened.
4. Date girls who live closer to you. Long distance relationships are hard even after a lengthy time investment. After only five months, they're just about impossible.
5. When you do meet another girl and take her to bed, always use protection. I know condoms are a major pain, but it's much harder for a girl to get pregnant if you always use condoms whether she likes it or not. You're protecting yourself not just from scams like this, but also from whatever she may have picked up from whoever she was with before you.
I hope this helps. Take care of yourself.
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i just reciently got an juvenile iguana, named Draco. hes pretty small, and verrrrry skiddish. whenever i put my hand in the cage, he spazzzzes out so badly. my mom and the pet shop ownver said he will sooner or later get over it and trust me. does anyone know how long it will take, and what i can do to help our relationahip grow?
please help---will rate well if answered;)
-britski- (link)
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I had a terrible time getting my iguana used to me, and it took about seven months of regular bribing with food before he relaxed. But if you spend time with your pet every day and let him make the choice to come to you you'll have good luck with him. In particular, I advise using food as bait to get his attention. It's going to take patience, but iguanas are very intelligent and affectionate, so it's really worth it.
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when 2 girls kiss ( but the girls love boys, there straight), is that a wrong thing?
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It's not wrong, but it's certianly complicated. And it can lead to messy situations, so be careful if this is an ongoing thing.
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ok i live in st.louis and like i don't live in the city i live like a half hour away and i was wondering if i live this far from the city why do the girls here only like guys that do drugs and flunk outta school and do just really stupid stuff like that? and is it like this every where else or did i just get screwed into livein here? (link)
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It doesn't really matter if you're a city guy or county guy, the girls are always going to go for the rotten ones, especially when the girls in question are still young.
If you're patient and wait until you go to college, you'll have a better chance of meeting someone who doesn't dig self-destructive morons. When girls in high school are dating, part of the reason they date is to irritate their parents and the other part is to impress their friends. To be fair, the girls that go for guys like this aren't good news themselves.
So, just be patient and wait until the girls grow up enough to appreciate that you're not a knuckle-dragging loser.
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theres this song that i know and it goes "it was 1980 somthin in a town that i grew up in.........." do you kno who it's by!!! i rate good plezz help!! (link)
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It's Mark Wills. And I think it's called "Nineteen Something".
Nice tune.
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Hi i have a gf and her 16th birthday is coming up soon and i have no clue what to get her.. I was thinking like a necklace with a heart on it... Do u have any suggestions? (link)
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When I was sixteen, my boyfriend gave me a book of my favorite poetry with a really sweet inscription on the inside cover. I still really treasure the book because I know how much thought he put into choosing it and I can read his message to the old me at any time.
So, why not pick something that she really cares about and then personalize it somehow? Maybe she's not into poetry, but she really likes music or comic books etc. If you could get her favorite whatever for her and have it signed by the maker that would be stunnning, but if not, just pick out something that you know she cares about and give it with an affectionate note or card.
She'll always appreciate that you knew her well enough to get her something that matters to her, and not just a generic "girly birthday" kind of gift.
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