hey everyone... Im just a girl that loves to give advice...and hopefully im good at it...dont get mad at what i say tho because all I do is tell the truth on how i feel
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Occupation: middle school...it sucks majorly
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my best friend is going out with my other best friends step bro. we will call them k&j. well j's brother only comes down everyother weekend and thats the only time k goes there. j is always saying that she feels left out cause k is always with her bf. when i talk to j she seems upset. do u thin is k using j. cause i really dont know and if she is should i bring it or just keep it to myself. (link)
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wow that was realllly confusing...say this question in simpler form and put it in my inbox...thanks
hopefully ill be able to help
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ok, so heres the delio, i had been waitin for this guy to ask me out for 4 months, he had told a bunch of ppl he was gunna and we had been flirting and stuff, well he finally did on halloween, and i said yes , well 3 or 4 days into the relationship he gets in a fight with my friends, see hes christian and he believes no sex beofre marriage and no abortion and that kinda stuff which is what i believe too, but my friend dosnt, and so he called her a prostitue, well i stuck up for my friend, and was pretty much you dont have any right to call her that, you can tell her what she believes is wrong but thats crossing the line, and he got mad and is now ignoring me because i "took their side" over his, he has been ignoring me for the last 5 freakin days! and i have apolgized like 3 times, even though i feel like i did nothing wrong, and today i finally said we either need to fix this or break it off, because i dont want to be in a relationship where my boyfriend ignores me, even though i really really like him, but im sick of it, what should i do? should i try and work things out, or break it off with him? (link)
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if hes getting pissed off for you standing up for you friend hes just being an *** tell him that you dont think you did anything wrong and say that you wish hed forgive you but it was your friend so you stuck up for her...hopefully thatll work but if he wont forgive you then maybe you should just end it
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about brothers and sisters having sex
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what? im not exactly sure i remember what your talking about but like when brothers and sisters have sex if they have kids they have deformities and having sex with your sister or brother is just kinda gross
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Lately I cant stay awake though a whole day at school and when I get home Im so sleepy but I cant sleep... Then at night when Its my "bed" time or when I feel like I can sleep I lay their for hours and cant sleep... I dont want to take a sleeping pill or night time because i used to be dependant on it, Also I think its starting to affect my grades at first my grades were just as high now their starting to go downhill and I have an F in history... Any Sleep Time Tips would Be Appericated... Also any US History class tips would be appericated (My grade in history wasnt that good to begin with) Thanks in Advance
Chris (link)
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im sorry to have to tell you this but you MAY need to start taking pills again...but if you really dont want to hears one thing that helps some people I know...you find something that relaxes you--- a movie cd book website...pretty much whatever...and you watch/listen...you get the point to it every night when your going to sleep...hopefully this will work for you but no garantees
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I think I have the discharge stuff; I noticed I had like a yellowish white-ish stripe thing in my underwear. Is that discharge? And if it is, how long is it probably untill I get my period? help!
-confused- (link)
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yup thats discharge...i had it for quite awhile until i got my period...i think it was almost a year for me...but things are different for everyone...if the discharge gets heavy tho then your getting closer to getting your period... start wearing pantyliners when it gets heavy or wear them now to to keep to discharge of your underwear
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My sister and I used to go to the same middle school. She's only a year older then me. She's a 9th grader and she was planning on going to the same HS (high school) as everyone else that went to my middle school. All of a sudden she changed her mind and went somewhere else. I really wanna go where she's going cuz its a better school but i have THE BEST friends ever right now and im not prepared to leave them and i dont want them to be mad, but i think this school would really help me do what i always wanted HELP ME!! WHT SHULD I DO? (link)
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im sorry but what i think i would do is switch...because it will help you in the long run but you can get new friends there and yea youll miss them but you can still see them and hang out with them sometimes
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Well this is a record 2 problems from me in one night...
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 11 months. I'm 16, he's 18. We are having sex. Mom knows, but hates the fact and thinks he wouldn't stay with me if I told him I didn't want to have sex anymore, and I'm DYING to prove her wrong.
But the thing is, I don't really want to stop the sex because quite honestly, I like it. lol. Obviously he does, too, but I know he'd stay with me even if I did say I wanted to stop. Our relationship is based on pure love, not lust. (not to mention the fact that we're engaged. Mom doesn't know that, though. She won't know for about 3 or 4 years.) Mom doesn't believe he'd stay with me. I'm dying to prove her wrong, but that involves sacrifice on my part.
If I actually wanted to test him, I'd have to lie to him, and I don't want to lie to him...
What should I do? Should I test him and prove mom wrong, or just leave it alone? (link)
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leave it alone..if youre engaged he obviously really love YOU not just sex...i mean if you want to prove her wrong that he really wouldnt stay with you tell her that you are engaged and shell realize that he doesnt just love sex
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I have an Xanga Site, but it's really plain. I don't know how to make it cooler. I have music on there, but the layout is really plain. Does anyone know how to make it really cool? Thank you so much! :) (link)
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well go to look and feel and you can pick colors for your backround and stuff...and to get a picture you can take one and put it on your computer or search google or whatever...but when you find one go to public profile click on profile pics then click upload profile pic and browse your computer get the one you want and then dowload it...hope i helped :)
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i had planned on asking one of my sort of guy frineds out at our schools homecoming game , and i had told all my friends that i was asking him a while after he got there and that i was gonna ask him alone, i didnt want my friends coming in to play and pressuring him. so when he got there i got there my friend called him over by her and then she told me to come over by her like she was setting us up for me to talk to him! like "ok here now u ask him", i was so pissed so i walked away. turns out without me even telling her to she asked him out for me so she came up to me and told me how he said i dont know, for one i was mad and her and two, it was gonna be awkward the whole night now because of her, and now i dont know what to say when he gives me and answer, if he says no i dont want our friendship to be ruined, and if he says yes i'll feel wierd because i dont know why he said idk, like he didnt like me that much or something, like if he liked me why would he have to think about? help me to fix this awkward situation! (link)
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tell your friend that it was really rude of her to do that if she knew that you wanted to do that and tell him that you wanted to ask him yourself or hell think your to shy...so go up to him and say something like...im sorry for my friend...i wanted to ask you myself so DO you want to go to homecoming with me? and then hell know that you werent to afraid to ask him and that you were brave enough to take the first step...guys like when girls take the first move it takes pressure off of them for once to ask out the girl
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Okay, I have this friend, and he's a boy, I'm a girl. I just want to be good friends, but I know (well I guess I don't really know, but I strongly think)that he wants to be more than just friends. And I can't take that. I mean, what would happen if he asked me out and I'd have to say no? What would that do to our friendship....? Do you think I'm leading him on my being his friend? Please, I need help! (link)
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no you deffinitely arent leading him on by just being a friend...leading him on would be flirting and stuff like that so if he does ask you out youll just have to tellh im that you dont like him like that and you just want to be friends it might hurt him but hopefully he will forgive you ang you can still be friends
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Ok.. Im 14.. and I really love my boyfriend.. well.. last night.. we were talkin for a REALLY long time on the phone.. and he proposed to me. Its was really cute the way he did it. I of course said yes cause im so much in love with him.
What im wondering tho is: Do u think it can work out.. hes 16 and im 14... and also... do u think im too young to be engaged? (link)
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wow that is young...i think you need to wait a little longer...i mean dont break up woth him if your really in love but i mean YOU FOURTEEN! i mean come on....you need more time to find THE ONE...like the person your SURE you want to marry i mean FOURTEEN....no affense but its kind of naive to think that you really are gonna get married and have a perfect life itll be way to stressful for you...i mean you have school and youll have to get a job if you want to live with him and are your parents really going ot approve?
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hi! okay well im 11 and i just started my period! ahh! well i live with my grandparents and my grandma is on her way home right now but i havent called her and told her. when she gets home what are some good lines to say to her? plz help! i rate really good! (link)
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just tell her flat out say grandma i started my period today...i mean you dont need to say anything stupid
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i haven't had my period yet, and i'm 13. my mom was 15 when she got hers and my sister who is 15 hasn't got hers yet. i thought that i would get those "genes" but lately my discharge has been tinted red in some spots. Also today i had no discharge at all. am i going to be starting soon? because i haven't had cramps, or PMS yet. (link)
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your probably starting to sopt a little**which would be the little bit or red spots in your discharge** but you mught not get it regularly and fully until your older like your mom and sister
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I am soooooo entirly confused! See I've liked this kid named... well lets say CJ.... I've like CJ for 2 years now... and from what I know he hasn't liked me. We've been friends for 2 years and I want something more of our relationship. He's been dropping clues that he has liked me but he also did this before, like 1/2 a year ago. The other day I was talking to him online and he asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said no and asked y hoping he might ask me out... but he said "uhh...nvm gtg" and then he signed off. So I am totally confused and I need advice of if he likes me and also what I should do next....
~*Confused*~ (link)
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i think he does it sounds like he thinks he could never get you or the whole friends thing will get in the way he might think itll ruin the relationship if you guys break up...but since he asked if you had a boyfriend then said he had to go right after i think he likes you...start dropping some hints that you like him to...flirt more with him...or say something about if he has a girlfriend...but if you already no say something like any girl would love to be your girlfriend or something
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ok im confused. this might be long, any response is greatly appreciated.
i go out with this boy, lets call him jon.
we've only gone out for like 5 days. his frind has alreay gotten us into like 10 fights. his friends really jealous and he wants jon like basically all to himself and he doesn't like me so everytime i want to come over, he'll start shit. just anything so me and jon cant see each other and argue. i talked to jon about breakin up today and he flipped out on his frind and then told me how much he loved me and didnt want to lose me..but then i was at a soccer game today. i ended up spending the whole day with my ex b/f. we went out last year for 2 months. we broke up because summer came and we lived too far away, other then that the relationship was perfect. well my ex. lets call him chris, told me today that he still has feelings for me and wants to be back with me. i still have feelings for him too, me and him went trhough alot together! but i mean i'd feel so bad for jon, i do like him alot too! idk..im confused..=/
theyre both great guys, who treat me good, and who i care for and dont want to hurt.
=( hmm.. what should i do? what would you do if you were in my place?
thanks so much in advance,so sorry it was long. (link)
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well it depends who you can see more...if your never going to see chris then its basically like a long distance relationship and wont work out...but if youll see him a lot he might be better cuz he doesnt have an annoying bestfriend...so say you wont be able to see chris so you would need to tell jon that if he doesnt loose his friend or make him stop being such a freak **the friend** then you wont go out with him...but if he does then you should go out with jon...i hope that made sense if it didnt just put it in my inbox!
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Hey everyone, Siren here...I'm lost on this. Here's my shpiel:
This girl has been my best friend for around 13 years. Last year, I got a boyfriend and she got really clingy; called me every day wanting to hang out. It drove me nuts, but I think she stopped calling once she realized I wouldn't abandon her.
That was the start. Now, I never wanna hang with her anymore...Being around her bothers me, and I can't figure out why.
She sits with me and my choir friends at lunch, but she doesn't speak to them, only me, and when she does, it's off topic. She'll interrupt a convo I'm having with another friend to talk to me about something else and it's...grr. I feel like I wanna talk to her sometimes, but I almost don't want her to sit with us...
I know sometimes friendships die, but I really don't want to lose her, and I hate feeling like I don't wanna be around her. I used to tell her EVERYTHING, all my secrets...she used to know the most about me of any of my friends, but I stopped telling her because she doesn't seem to...care?
It might be that I grew up a lot, and she hasn't quite, but I'm not sure that's the only thing that's screwing up our friendship. I'm sixteen and a girl, she's seventeen, if that makes any sort of a difference.
What should I do about this? I asked my dad (he's a psychiatrist) and he didn't know what to do; neither did my mom...so I turn to y'all. (link)
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well i had the same problem with my friend except i hadnt known her nearly as long as you have known your friend...but i had to cut my friendship i ended it because it wasnt healthy for me she stressed me otu soooo much and it just was not a good relationship...she cared only about herself and not me...but now i have a really close best friend that i never had a chance to hang out with cuz i was with my other friend...so i think you should just tell her that you cant be friends with her anymore...and you have otehr friends that you can hang out with so it wont be bad for you and hopefully it will reduce some of the stress or pain your having
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im 5'4 n i weigh 90 and my friends and family are always telling me that i look like im loosing weight but i think im fat! i havent eaten anything in like 5 days and i feel really sick. what should i do???
xox rica (link)
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omg im sorry to have to tell you this but you are anarexic... and you NEED to eat or this will become a horrible problem
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Ive had this friend Z since 7th grade and we talk everyday, mainly cuz he IM's me all the time. But I also have a boyfriend that ive had for a year and 7 months and they obviously dont like eachother. Z doesnt like my boyfriend cuz he doesnt talk to him and that bothers him and my boyfriend doesnt like him because he thinks that Z is tryin to steal me from him. Well...lately its becoming a little obvious hes jealous. But in the last couple days everytime he talks to me he keeps talking about his ideal girl and theyr some things i have in common with his ideal girl. Everytime i ask him if hes talking about me he keeps sayin that he thinks im "a cool person to talk to" and "im a great friend". But yesterday he told me he had an opionion about me...but has kinda been avoiding me all day today. Not knowing this is driving me crazy. But the main point here is...is this guy sending me mixed signals or what or does he want me in a more than friends kind of way...plz help, sry its so long, ill rate a 5 if u answer. (link)
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hes sending mixed signals...its like it sounds like he wants you as a girlfriend but then he says like your great to talk to and that sounds like your a good friend but thats all...so im sorry that this wont really help but your gonna just keep getting these signals unless you ask him what he feels...and tell him he needs to tell the truth
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Hey I'm 14/m and i still haven't ever kissed a girl outside my family.... I feel kinda out of place here because I'm already in high school and ive never kissed.... is there something wrong with me? (link)
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no deffinitely not...i know a lot of people who havent kissed anybody that are your age or older theres nothing wrong with it you just havent met the person you want to have that really special first kiss with
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ok well i think this guy that is a year older than me is cute-and like last year, we would always kinda glance at each other and stuff or look at each other if we passed in the hall ways or after school. so, this year, i have the same pe hour as him. but diff. classes. yet somehow, we got switched into the SAME CLASS. so its awkward like bc weve been like always kinda lookin at each other and stuff and now i sit 2 rows up from him. and its kinda a long story but then he was goin out with this other girl in our pe class 4 like 2 days then they broke up now shes goin out w/ someone else but the girl asked me the other day who do u like? and i was like well _____ is kinda cute and she was like omg i know i USED to be like in love with him! and i was like yeah i know but i told her not to tell n e one so i hope she wont. im so embarressed at my self bc like last year i would always like glance at him and stuff and its not like i was trying to but i would look up and he would be there like already staring at me! so idk...what should i do bc i dont want him to think im like obsessed with him... (link)
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well if he was looking at you first then he wont think that...and obviously you arent obsessed with him...but maybe you should say something to him **not necessarily that you like him but like hey whats up** and that will break the ice and mayve hell get up the guts to ask you out
**hope i helped you**
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