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Testing him...
Well this is a record 2 problems from me in one night...
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 11 months. I'm 16, he's 18. We are having sex. Mom knows, but hates the fact and thinks he wouldn't stay with me if I told him I didn't want to have sex anymore, and I'm DYING to prove her wrong.
But the thing is, I don't really want to stop the sex because quite honestly, I like it. lol. Obviously he does, too, but I know he'd stay with me even if I did say I wanted to stop. Our relationship is based on pure love, not lust. (not to mention the fact that we're engaged. Mom doesn't know that, though. She won't know for about 3 or 4 years.) Mom doesn't believe he'd stay with me. I'm dying to prove her wrong, but that involves sacrifice on my part.
If I actually wanted to test him, I'd have to lie to him, and I don't want to lie to him...
What should I do? Should I test him and prove mom wrong, or just leave it alone?
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ouch.. well i'm stil a virgin so i can't really sympathize with you on the whole sex is great feeling thing... BUT if you think your finace will be ok enough to accept the lie (after things are all said and done) then go for it.. it's ok to have a guilty conciounce about it becuase yeah you are lying to him but it's for a good cause right? lol. and maybe this might even help your mom see that he really does love you and it'll help when you break the news to her about your engagement.. it should somewaht help her see that you two are serious enough for this.
i have heard; however that sex does freel great and that it's very addicting.. but it won't be for that long right? and i'm sure you can last just a few weeks of not getting intimate right?
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I think you should test him.. because u never know maybe hes just in it for the sex/ and wehn he finds out u dont want to have sex anymore he'll brake up with u. But also if he finds out u dont want to have sex no more and stays with u.. then he really does <3 love you! hOpE i HeLpED! xOOx
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Well i read between the lines and found an easier way to fix this then not actually having to stop having sex...completley, first of all exactly how often do you have sex? Well anyways keep that answer in yuor head, and moving on.......Talk to your boyfreind and let him know about what your mother thinks, obvsouly he does love you, if you are enngaged, so he will understand what this is all about, anyways tell him that you want to try to go (how ever oftne you do it) without having sex, and if he agrees then GOODIE!! then you cna prove to mom your rigt and shes wrong (sucha great feeling) and anyways, if for some reaosn you slip in this little break from fun period, thats not your fault, at least you knwo he tried and you just coudltn help yourself, so i guess waht im trying to say is to just talkt o him adn figure out a plan!!! Hope i helped, let me know what happens!!
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First of all, why is what your mom said bothering you so much? If it wasn't true, why would you have this huge desire to prove her wrong? Is it possible you are having some teeny tiny doubts?
Your mom is not in your relationship. She does not define how either of you feel, though she has had a lot more experience in this area. It's important for you to do what is right for YOU, not what is right for your mother.
If you are making choices in your relationship based on your mother's input, then it's not a very mature relationship. I understand mothers can drive us crazy (boy, do I!!), but it's time to start realizing that in another few years you'll be on your own.
You'll have to rely on your own good judgement, your common sense, your gut feelings. Why not start doing that now? If you doubt your boyfriend would stay with you without the sex, then stop having sex and see. If you are fully confident he'd stay with you anyway, then keep having sex.
Good luck.
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HOLY CRAP!!! i know how it is with you because i am in the same situation well kinda me and my bf have been together for 11 months but havent had sex only because we are waiting until we get married which will be in about 1-2 years im 15 and hes 17. anyway i think maybe you should talk to your mom see how her sex life was ask her about the "first time" but hmm im just thinking maybe you should just leave it alone because proving your mom wrong could lead to ... her not letting you see him because she doesnt want you to be having sex or i dont know.. just leave it alone.
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leave it alone..if youre engaged he obviously really love YOU not just sex...i mean if you want to prove her wrong that he really wouldnt stay with you tell her that you are engaged and shell realize that he doesnt just love sex
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I think you should tell him the situation and if it truly is love he'll understand. Good luck! xoxo
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i think when he wants to the next time just tell him you dont feel like it and see what he says .. if he gets mad then shes right if he doesnt then you just proved her wrong BUT you might be sacrificing one night but you can always make up for it in the future ... good luck with that! hope i helped! -kayla
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You can be like "hey babe, I dont wanna have sex anymore" and after he says something be like "I'm just joking hahaha" haha But if you really dont want to, you dont have to prove it..Hope I helped.
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