The name is Kayla.
I'm totally cool with giving anyone advice. It's what I love to do. So ask away.
Hm. I'm 16. Brownish - red hair .. green/blue eyes .. 5 ft.
I love life. I've experienced many things in it.
Live it to the fullest, but never regret .. you can never take back anything you've done.
E-mail: KaylaH1303@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Georgia
Occupation: School
Age: 16
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Okay My names Kristen 17/f...I'm in a relationship with a guy who's father abuses him..the thing is my boyfriend is just letting this go like nothing happens. I'm scared that his father could get more mad and seriously hurt him..I've tried to talk to him about it and tell him how I've felt but he just says to not worry about it. I mean how can I not? I love this guy with all my heart I can't loose him!!! Please I need help please :-( (link)
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You know, he can tell you not to worry about it all he wants to, but it's more than likely because he's too scared of what will happen if the police do find out. I think you need to let him know that you have to go to the police and let him know your reasons for why you want to go .. such as you loving him and how you don't want him to be hurt anymore than he is right now. Just let him know .. reassure him that things will be alright and do what you think is right. I hope I helped!
-Kayla
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15/f...i went out with this guy ive been best friends with since sixth grade and were now in 9th and so it was a few months and everything was perfect and i just told myself everything was wrong but it wasnt and so i broke up with him for no reason at all i was just like its over.. and so its been about two months and he went out with this other chick and they broke up and now i realize what a big mistake ive made and we were BEST friends we told each other everything and after he wouldnt even look at me and the past week ive been just trying to make small talk and he'll talk to me and he gives me that look like " make it better please" but he doesnt act like that you know?..i want him back so bad i miss him soo much but i dont expect that i just want it to be the way it was before and .. (link)
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You know, it's obvious that he really, really liked you and you really hurt his feelings when you broke up with him, but honestly the only thing you really can do is either start hanging out with him and talking to him a lot again or just flat out tell him how you feel. Tell him why you broke up with him and how you realized you really did like him and it hurts to know that ya'll aren't together. See how he responds .. he may say that he doesn't want to be with you again because you'll break his heart, but just ask him for a second chance. Hope I helped!
-Kayla
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i am goin to be in a new school this year and i wanna get along w/ everyone and have lotsa friends. but there are alot a bullies in school and i don't wanna pick a fight ever.is there any way i cud get along w/ anybody--even bullies??? i wud appreciate help...tnx (link)
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I guess the only advice I can give is: Be nice to everyone, but don't let anyone push you around. Make sure people know that you aren't going to just sit there and listen to them make fun of you and such. Say something back, just don't be too harsh unless it's something you have to do. Most times, as long as you are nice to people, they won't make fun of you or be mean to you. Just make sure you choose the right friends .. the friends that will stick up for you in case those kind've things happen. Lastly, be outgoing, try to talk to everyone .. just strike up a conversation. Chances are .. the most outgoing people in the class are going to strike up conversations with you and ask you where you're from and why you moved .. just keep the conversation moving and talk to them the next day. Hope I helped!
-Kayla
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hey. i'm from guam and like there's this guy who likes me and i like him back, so we went out for a few months and then we broke up. because he still had feelings for his old girlfriend who dumped him. is it ok if i can still like him and think about him and still wanna go out with him? (link)
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Personally, I do think it's okay, but it isn't healthy. It isn't healthy to like a guy who you know doesn't like you as much as his ex. ((Reason being why ya'll aren't dating)). &I think it is only fair to you to let him go .. slowly, but let go. Because chances are .. he isn't turning back around. I'm really sorry about that!
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okay...i'm 13, and just lost my virginaty yesterday. actually, i'm not sure if i did or didn't. i was raped by my next door neighbor who is 16, and has a gf. also, my bf came to find me, and caught me being raped, but he thought that we were actually having sex. now he's mad and won't talk to me because i won't have sex with him. i really need help talking to him and everything. and should i tell my parents? or not? help!!! (link)
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Quite honestly, if you aren't very close with your parents, then it isn't a good idea to tell them.
1) They could get that kid in A LOT of trouble, which he no doubtably should, but if you don't want to get involved in a huge mess of legal matters, don't bother.
2) If your boyfriend doesn't trust you enough to believe that you weren't doing it because you wanted to and he's only mad because you won't have sex with him. Then you shouldn't be with him, he isn't in it for you, he's in it for what you could give him.
3) You didn't loose your v-card if you didn't say yes to having sex with him. So stop worrying, you're still a virgin. &make sure your bf knows that .. doesn't still think you aren't.
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My friend's birthday is coming up. She'll be 15. I asked her what she wanted and she said she wants me to kiss her (we aren't going out). I only see her once a day at school and we just hug, say hi, and go eat at our different tables. She said she wants me to kiss her on the lips. When and how should I kiss my friend? (link)
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Hehe, unlike the two below me.
I think that's adorable that you're willing to go through with her wish for her birthday for her. So sweet.
&honestly, I think that you should find a way to get her alone on her birthday, either in a room, or take a walk if trying to get her alone doesn't work. &just talk to her and reach in for the kill. There is no right or wrong way to kiss her. But you could probably ask her first if she is sure that's what she wants. If she says yes .. do it then. If the kiss leads to more than a peck on the lips, then so be it. Go with the moment, don't think too much into it. Thinking much more into it will only frighten you. Plus, she'll go along with whatever you do .. so no worries.
Hope I helped!
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i have a girlfriend and we have done smooches and physical contacts. but she isnt ready to do sex. tell me what shud i do to make her do so with me?????? (link)
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You know, I don't think it's a true relationship if what you want from her is sex and you are on here to figure out a way for her to give it.
I do think that if she hasn't given it to you yet, she just isn't ready to do that. &I think you should respect that .. because with respect comes trust .. &with trust comes you two agreeing on more thing .. sex may be one eventually. Just keep talking to her about it.
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i like this boy and I think he likes me. like when we play dogde ball he tries to get me it or get me out.or when we play kick ball he always tries to get me out, but I went out with him before and now I'm scared he'll say no. and then tell everybody I asked. What should I do? (link)
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You know, you will never know how he feels about you unless you tell him. Live your life without regrets, don't worry too much about what you think might happen. That's one of my biggest flaws, but in the end, I just tell the guy the truth. You know. Even if he doesn't like you back, at least you know to quit trying and move on. It'll feel like a load off your shoulders. Trust me.
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I think my boyfriend of 4yrs is racist. And i think the race that he hates happens to be mine. I've been crying about it for hours! Is that even possible? What should i do? (link)
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Well, I guess all I can think to say is this:
1) If he was racist, you wouldn't just be finding out about it 4 years later.
2) If he was racist against your race, he wouldn't be dating you because if he didn't like that race, then he definitely wouldn't like you.
3) Stop crying, everything is fine and if you keep on worrying, then talk to him about it. Ya'll should have a close enough relationship to talk about things like that. Esp. after 4 years.
Hope I helped!
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1) what is the difference between making out and kissing i thought that making out is just when you do it for a long time but im not sure
2) what does bi mean (link)
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1) making out is kissing for a very long period of time with tongue and everything.
2) bi is when someone likes guys and girls.
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i was @ my friends house and i stole 40$ should i give it back, because she has no idea it was in her closet. (link)
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Yes you should! Just put it where you found it and she won't know you took it. -Kayla
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I am 14, in ninth grade, and I am female.
Okay, first I'm going to give a little backround information.
I had a boyfriend that tried to cheat on me with his ex girlfriend. I knew that I couldn't trust him ever again, so I broke up with him yesterday. Don't worry, I feel really good about it.
Well, a few days ago, I found out from one of my friends that another friend of mine, Ricky, likes me. At first, I wasn't sure I could trust the friend that told me, T.J., because T.J. is weird like that. Then, my best friend Megan told me yesterday that Ricky has liked me for a long time.
My question is, is it okay to go ahead and date Ricky so soon after dumping my previous boyfriend?
~ClarinetKtM (link)
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Of course, I mean, you dumped your ex bf because he was cheating on you. Now you have every right to date someone else. Go ahead! It will be alright! -Kayla
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months and we always have a good time when we are together and he does the littlest things that are so sweet and at times he just can really gett on my nerves.. hes constantly going to this girls house named whittney. but i guess he also plays ditch and then goes there. and these 2 girls were over at his house a couple days and ago and i dont remember very much but i think he said something about them hangin in his room.. but i dont know it was jus him n them in the house and all the sudden hes breakin out street lights and gettin the cops called on him for goin on pplz property late at night and makin loud noises wen playin ditch the hole ditch thing doesnt bother me but he is eggin houses and stuff but wen i did ask him if he was doin that just to b cool and try n fit in with other ppl.. but he jus sed he hadda go.. last night i asked if people say he flirts with others and he says people do say he does flirt but he doesnt know he's flirting.. so do i trust him? and alot of people say they dont know how me and him have held on so long.. my brothers are constantly telling me that.. its hard to let go of a long relationship and you may no that (link)
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I do think that you have a trust issue with him. And for a long relationship this isn't good, because they are built mainly on trust and love. I definitely think that you have every right not to trust him, but on the other hand, he isn't doing anything bad with him, so most likely they are just friends. Plus, if he wanted to just be a single guy with lots of girls that he can have then he wouldn't be with you, so there has to be a reason why he is still with you. And those little, sweet, cute things he does for you, I'm guessing he doesn't know how to show that he loves you without doing things for you and with the girls maybe sometimes he misses you or he just wants to be with friends at times. I say just trust him and if he find he is cheating on you then definitely ditch him but ONLY if you know for sure that he is. Otherwise, keep him, he sounds good for you and also if you are still having these issues later on, then just confront him about it all. Say sweetie, I don't understand why you are always with these girls, I don't know, it just confuses me and I don't really like the feeling. But ask them what those girls mean to him and by the way, some people are like that, they don't mean to flirt, but do anyways. Don't worry about it, that's just how some people are. I wouldn't be too worried, but if this gets worse I definitely advice confronting him if you already haven't. If you need any other advice just put it in my inbox! -Kayla
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ok well theres this guy that im really starting to like. the problem is, i dont know him all that well. he goes to my school, but i dont see him that often. im also a little shy so im not gonna just go up to him and flirt.. any advice would be greattttly appreciated! thanks! =) (link)
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Maybe, you should try finding out if any of your friends are his friends and try to get a little group date together so you can hang out with him. Then have your friend introduce the two of you and talk to eachother. If you go to a movie, sit next to him. Or, if you go to bowling or something like that then sit next to him while you wait for your turn to bowl. Just do things like that so you can eventually end up talking to him and become one of his friends and see where it goes from there.
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ok well me and my boyfriend went out off and on for nine months last year and this year he doesn't even talk to me. i like him so much and i never really stopped liking him and the only reason why we really broke up this summer was because i was going out of town and i was going to be hangin out with some of my guy friends that i haven't seen in a while, well i told him that he could trust me while i was there and he could because i didn't do any thing. i called him a couple of times over the summer and we talked a little while i was there. but now i was talking to his friend and i asked if he thought that he hated me and he said no just ya'll don't have a friend ship. since the beginning of the year i've had a boyfriend and he saw me with him. what should i do? should i still like him or just not even try with this one.... (link)
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I think you should quit liking him. I mean if you don't even have a friendship with him, then how can you have a relationship. You have to build your friendship back up with him first and you really need to talk to him. Just go up to him one day and be like hey! I haven't talked to you in a while and just start a conversation like that. Build up the bond again, but still keep the boyfriend. If he saw you with him, oh well, I mean come on, he is your boyfriend. He may be jealous and then again he may not be. Just get the friendship back and if yall do still get along like you used to, then keep liking him. Otherwise, just quit, he isn't worth it. -Kayla
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I have been cutting myself for a while now. My best friend Dylan knows about it and he wants to me stop. It is very hard to stop doing because it is addicting. Dylan and I got in a big fight last friday because he found out the night before I slit the crap outts my arms. He cares about me alot but I honestly dont want him to care. He always tells me that he loves me and I tell him not too. I hate when he tells me he loves me bc he only loves me as a friend and I wish that he loved me as more. I am in love with him. He hung up on me last friday and it is monday and we havent talked since. IDK what to do. Is he gonna stick by me through these times of pain or abandon me. If I love him should I stop doing what I have been doing and try to get some help. PLZ help me! (link)
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I think he will stick by you, but I also think you should get some help. If this has become so addicting, then if you keep doing it, you might never stop. Have you ever asked him if he loves you as more than a friend. I mean come on maybe he does. I don't think he would care so much about you cutting if he didn't think of you as more. I really think you need to talk to him about your feelings for him as more than a friend and see where it ends up. If you never tell him then it might never happen. -Kayla
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Ive been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now. The last few months have been a bit rocky, but things were really starting to get alot better, atleast on my end. Not on hers though. She wants to take a break, because shes starting to fall out of love with me. I don't think there is really anything that I can do to change her mind...its all up to her..She says there is a possibility that things will get better, and that she may fall back in love with me, but I dont really know....Is it possible to fall out of love with someone, then fall back in love with them? (link)
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Kind of, I think that you think that you are falling out of love with someone when really you don't realize how much you love them until you take a break. Maybe this is why she is taking a break so she can realize this and realize how much you meant to her and no one can be as perfect for her as you are. Hope this helped. -Kayla
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HI,
Here's the story. I met a guy online from some site and we met up with eachother but only once. Hes a great guy and when we met, It didnt go well but regardless of that we decided to continue with this and see where it goes in the future knowing fully well that it may end badly considering hes Bengali and his folks want a Bengali girl but he said u never know so I didnt give up hope. hes from Montreal, we started calling eachohter and talking etc.. then all of a sudden I dont hear anything from him etc. and then I contact his friend. and it continues from there.
I have been contacting his friend regarding THE GUY.. and he said that when he tried talking to him he didnt want to talk about it. I don't understand why he would act like that. I have been nothing but nice to him. Yes, I've been a bit crazy with the emails and stuff..asking him what is the status of our relationship. But that was in the past. You would think that knowing what I have done that he would be more accepting. He emailed me once and told me this: You don't need to worry about me too much. I have some family issues that I need to deal with. I will talk to u later. and after that I got no response. Those messages I sent were before he sent that message to me. I don't understand why hes got to be soo secretive that he can't even share things with me.. His friend tells me: Do you think you should hold on to him especially if hes not responding to you? I don't really know what to do.. its hard lettting go.. especially whenever I hear from his friend. I somehow subconciously beleive that there is hope when I hear from his friend.. I dunno. I think im crazy.. wat do I do? pls help
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Ok! My personal opinion is that he doesn't want to become more attatched to you then he already is because his parents are not allowing you two to see eachother. Therefore, the only way he knows how to do this is to not speak to you and he wanted to let you know that the reason for this was because his parents won't let him date you and that makes him very upset. I'm guessing he doesn't know any other way of dealing with this. -Kayla
Ok . . . I'm adding to my answer. Maybe you should try writing him a letter or something telling him exactly how you feel and ask him what is really going on because your going crazy not knowing and you'd rather know if he didn't like you then keep on wondering. Hope this helps! -Kayla
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ok i have this friend... and she and used to have looads of fun together and she was someone i could act silly with ya know? but on halloween i asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said she couldnt because she had to "pass out candy" then later i found out that AFTER i asked her, her other friend asked her to hang out and she said yes... hmm a little suspicious? so i got over that but then last tuesday (the tuesday b4 thanxgiving) i asked her if she wanted to go see a movie on wednesday at like 2:30ish.. and she said that her dad couldnt take us or pick us up and neither could her mom... so i was like ok whatever i didnt really care.. but then the next day (wednesday) she said she was going bowling at 2:30! so i was lke well how are you getting there? and shes like oo my dads taking me and then my moms bringing me home at 4... whats up with that??? yea i forgave her once (is that correct grammar?) and now she ditches me again?? i dont think so... what should i do? is she a real friend?? and dont say "well try talking to her" because i tried that and she made up all these stupid excuses... i mean i want to be her friend but not if she treats me like this... any suggestions?
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I think either she is mad at you for something and doesn't want to tell you or she is just tired of hanging out with you all the time. No, I don't think you should talk to her about it again, but what I do think you should do is quit inviting her to hang out and just ask other people and see what she does and if she asks you to hang out then do what she did and just tell her that that was the exact same way she treated you. -Kayla
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what should u do when these two ppl like each other and one doesnt want 2 go out ???
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Leave it alone. Maybe the person that doesn't want to go out with them at the moment is either too scared or just hasn't come to realize that they truly like them and is truly missing out. They will come around, but until then keep doing what you do best and eventually they will come around. Hopefully. If they don't then they truly didn't like you like everyone thought. But maybe, they just don't want to date anyone right now. Talk to them about it. -Kayla
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