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Friendship
I have been cutting myself for a while now. My best friend Dylan knows about it and he wants to me stop. It is very hard to stop doing because it is addicting. Dylan and I got in a big fight last friday because he found out the night before I slit the crap outts my arms. He cares about me alot but I honestly dont want him to care. He always tells me that he loves me and I tell him not too. I hate when he tells me he loves me bc he only loves me as a friend and I wish that he loved me as more. I am in love with him. He hung up on me last friday and it is monday and we havent talked since. IDK what to do. Is he gonna stick by me through these times of pain or abandon me. If I love him should I stop doing what I have been doing and try to get some help. PLZ help me!
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babe. i think u should definitely stop. if you love this guy tell him. i bet you would make his world so much easier if you stop cutting. please get some help. it would be the best for you and you will love your life once you stop cutting.. you will realize how much better your life is.. and hay.. in the end.. you might end up gettin' ur man!! haa
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i honestly don't relly know what to say, but i can tell you this i think that maybe he does really love you and you just don't want him to take the time to tell you that. you really should stop. not only for you, but also for your friends and your family. you never no what kind of oppertunities you will have in the future, so don't hurt yourself.
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Dylan obviously cares about you a lot because he's stuck by you all this time and wants you to stop before you hurt yourself worse. If you care about him as much as you say you do stop for him if not for you. Talk to Dylan and tell him your plan(for getting help) and things will most likely work out if you talk it over. hope i helped...
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cutting is a way to relieve whatever is really bad going on in your life.
So until you face what it is that YOU hate...you will cut yorself.
This Dylan guy shounds like a great guy...to me having someone that loves you even if it is only freindhsip..well is more than I ahve right now..or a lot of people. How do you know he only lvoes you as a friend.
Are you cutting yourself for you want him to love you more??
If he does leave you..it will be for you drove him away...
get REAL wiht your feelings..admit youc are about him..and see what it is that makes you cut yourwlf...plus you may have to get hlep....
a lot of people do this..it is a way to exert control over your life...
Please keep this Dylan close..you need him right now...
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you definitely need get some help, your friend is obviously a good one for sticking by you all this time. he really cares about you and wants you to stop hurting yourself. you need to stop doin this to yourself, find the Lord and get help, and fast! tell your friend how you feel and im sure he can help you with this prob. good luck
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I think he will stick by you, but I also think you should get some help. If this has become so addicting, then if you keep doing it, you might never stop. Have you ever asked him if he loves you as more than a friend. I mean come on maybe he does. I don't think he would care so much about you cutting if he didn't think of you as more. I really think you need to talk to him about your feelings for him as more than a friend and see where it ends up. If you never tell him then it might never happen. -Kayla
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okay well this guy oviously really loves you and you should stop.if not for him then for yourself.its very dangerous and you should try to get some help!!!its very hard to quit i know but you need to stop and if you dont then you will kill yourself if you lose enough blood.stop!!!there are other ways to deal with stress and pain. so talk to this guy and tell him how you feel and see what he says who knows it might all work out the way you want it to!!
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i've been in this situation before, and i'm going to tell you this up front, this is going to be the hardest thing you'll ever do, i know that cutting is addicting, and i know that it's hard to stop, but if you love him, then you've got to be able to give up the things that hurt you and him. sometimes you've got to put other people's feelings before yours and that's something else that's hard, i've been cutting myself for about 4 years and my best friend joe (he's also my ex boyfriend whom i'm still in love with) helped me to stop, he cares about you and you really don't want him too but you really need to let him care, something is going on with you and you need someone to be there for you when you need them, just talk to him and tell him what's going on and (this is just what i think) that you don't want to lose him, tell him how you feel about him and that you want to stop cutting (at least i think that you do) and if you ever need to talk to me about anything, then please do not think twice about IMing me and talking to me, sexishanibabe08, IM me whenever you need to talk
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FIRST of all if your cutting yourself you really need to get some help SECOND if you think that you need to cut yourself why are you worrying about a guy anyway.THIRD if you really love him you wouldn't cut when he askes you to stop
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P.S. you evidently expect people to feel sorry for you well it don't work with me i used to be a cutter myself plus the truth hurts babe get over it quit feeling sorry for yourself like I did.
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That's exactly what you need to do. If you love him you will stop cutting yourself and get some help. Obviously there are some emotional issues that you need to work out and cutting yourself is not the answer. He might not end up loving you back but you will have to accept that and find a way to move on. He obviously cares about you if he has stuck through it with you for this long, but he might be getting frustrated that you are not listening to him. He can only help you out for so long before he loses hope. It also seems like you are pushing him away. It is hard to help someone when it seems that they do not want to be helped. Especially with someone who is not a professional and who is your peer and has emotional ties with you, it is hard for him to deal with a situtaion like this. Once again, if you truly love him you will get yourself some help. He might think that he can not be in love with someone who does not love themselves and cutting yourself doesn't show that you love yourself.
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if you really deep down in your heart love this person then you will stop cutting yourself. for him, your friends, your family, and most importantly your self. ~*L*~
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Okay, one thing, I used to be, and everyonce in a while still am a cutter. I know what you mean when you say it's addicting, because I was so addicted, I eventually went to the only person I could trust, my second period teacher, and told her, and asked for help. And you should really stop. I mean, life or death, cuts or Dylan? What would you want. Every once in a while I still hate life, like I did a very stupid thing, I skipped my 4th period, but stayed on campus and just walked around, I got caught in the last few minutes of class, and today my teacher asked me why I did it last week, and I again did a stupid thing and lied, and now she's calling home. Well, you need to find somebody who will help you through it. And the reason Dylan hung up on you, was because he cares, and doesn't want to see a good friend, or maybe even crush, get hurt. You have to tell him that you want help, and then you have to get help. Why don't the two of you go to a teacher that you really like, and ask her if it's okay to tell him/her something, because you really need some help. And then spill. Hope you're feeling better, stop cutting, I almost really hurt myself, and some of the scars do stay. Whatever you do, don't pick the scabs, if you pick the scabs, then the scar will stay forever and ever (it might might might go away, but probably not. DON'T PICK THE SCARS!) If you need somebody to talk to, I've been through a lot, and I am still going through some of it. Fell free to leave on in my inbox, or e-mail me at maniac_munchkin@yahoo.com I'd offer you my screen name, but my aol instant messenger is down right now, so it's not working for me. Hope I was of some help. Good luck.
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regardless of whether u love him or not, you should deffinatly stop doing what you have been doing and try to get some help. it is clear that Dylan cares about you very much, because he sees that what you are doing is horrible for you. i'm sure Dylan will stay by you, but it's really hard sometimes because often people aren't sure how to help people who cut themselves. but please, PLEASE get some help, and stop cutting yourself. i guarantee that your life will be better.
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