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Hey guys my name's Erin, and I love helping people. I know how hard life can be at times, and sometimes you just need some adivse. That's what I'm here for. Whatever the question is, I'll be more than happy to answer it!

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hey i know this is a strange question, but how likely is it that a guy would put a condom on inside out? Because I kind of think my boyfriend did but I don't know if he would have to be really stupid to do it, or if like he noticed but he felt dumb so didn't say anything. Also if a condom is on inside out is it less effective? Thanks for your help!!

if the condom is put on inside out, it won't unroll, so basically it's impossible for that to happen.

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I lost my virginity and it doesnt seem like it was what i had actually wanted to happen.. people who arent virgins... can u tell me how it went for you cause im jus really curious now. none of my friends have lost their virginity yet so its kinda hard to talk to them about it. thanks!

i think i know where ur coming from. i was the first of my friends to lose their virginity, and after i was scared that i had made the wrong decision, so i didn't do it again for a while after that. i realized later that i was ready to do it again, and i'm glad i did. if ur like me it might just take time for it to sink in, or maybe you really weren't ready. in which case just don't do it again until you are ready. i know for me the whole experience of it caught me really off guard because it was not what i had expected at all, and i think that was what made me wait a while before doing it again. i hope this helped!

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i am 18 and still a virgin! when i see people on tv having sex they make it look like it last forever.does it? i masturbate and the sensation only last about 10 seconds! so will it be like that when i have sex?

sex can last as long as u want it to. just because the orgasm only lasts 10 seconds doesn't mean that sex only lasts 10 seconds. i'm sure u know from masturbating that it takes a little while to actually reach an orgasm, and that's what sex is. this is the reason people on tv can have sex for a while, cause they're able to hold off having an orgasm for a while and enjoy just having sex. but like someone else said, it's hard to explain it until you've had it.

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my mom said she would buy me birth control pills and to just tell her if me and my boyfriend are gonna ahve sex because she knows him and she likes him and weve been together for a while...were thinkin about it but i just wanted to know how effective against pregnancy is a birth control pill?? is it safe to use a condom AND birth control at the same time? and should i just tell my mom or just do it behind her back because i heard you have to go to the doctor to get the pills...thats embarassing

it is safe to use a condom and birth control at the same time, and actually it's safer that way. i would tell your mom, and you have to go to a doctor to get them even if you tell her, and if your under 18 you need her there to sign for you, becuase you are still a minor. definitely tell your mom, because if something goes wrong, she already knows and it won't be such a shock for her, and she can more readily help you out. but going to the doctor shouldn't be embarassing, and it's for your own health. if you're embarassed to go to the doctor to get the pill, then you're not ready to have sex.

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hey,
i have this best friend and she is really cool and ive nown her for awhile. but then this other friend comes and she is really cool to but she makes me feel like a third wheel..i dont no if i should talk to my friend or what. i really really need help! its driving me crazy.thanks.

i've had similar problems with friends as you. if you really like your friend and want to keep her as a friend, the only thing you can do is talk to her. try talking to your best friend first, because maybe she doesn't realize that they're leaving you out, and she'll try not to let it happen again. if that's not the case, or if you do talk to her but things don't change, then try talking to the other friend, and tell her that it bothers you that she's leaving you out. hopefully she'll be sorry and wont let it happen, but maybe it's one of those things that you can only hang out with your best friend when the other friend isn't there. hopefully that won't happen cause if she's your best friend she'll understand. hope this helped. good luck

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Hey. I was wondering where I can find cute, short summery dresses. I have 2 from Hollister and 1 from a&f... but where else? not dressy.... just summery... either online or at stores! thanks so much!

victorias secret online or the catelog often has some really cute dresses. you could also try gap or old navy or a store like that

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im 16 and havnt had a period for just over a year.im not preganat cos i dun tests.i cant have cancer so young can i?i stopped having them about a month after losing my virginaty.i havnt got std cos i ahd a screening.wahts wrong i started like when i was 13.neone know?plse help swn cheers xxx

my question is why you waited a year to ask these questions. you should have gone to your mother as soon as you realized that you missed your first period-like when it was a month late. she may ask you if you've had sex, but it's all for your health. if you don't go get it checked out there could be something seriously wrong with you that you won't get cured. i have no idea what could cause this, but please talk to your mom. i know this may sound a little mean, but it's the truth. there is no healthy reason as to why a girl would be a year late on her period. if you really don't want to tell your mom, you could always go to like a planned parenthood place and ask them to help. but mom's always best.

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ok i know this was stupid of me but i told my boyfriend that i have had sex with 3 guys but ive really only had sex with 1 and it was a long time ago and he was really small so im still really tight down there. im afraid hes going to be disappointed because im really tight and hes gonna have to go slow at first. what should i do? or will he care that im tight? please help

honestly, most guys like it when girls are tight-it's more pleasurable for them...unless you're too tight that he can't go in. if you're scared that it'll hurt and you want him to go slow, you can either just tell him the truth, or just tell him to go slow at first, so it lasts longer, or so it feels better, or whatever excuse you can think of. if you tell him the truth, he might be disappointed that you lied, but i don't htink he'll be disappointed that you're tight.

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My boyfriend and I have beentogether a long long time. I love him alot and as of late we have been doing alot of new stuff. But i feel like that hes doing alot for me and im not doing enough for him. Any thing I can do to help him enjoy it more?

if you feel like you're not doing enough for him, just ask him what you can do to make the experience better! you don't have to do EVERYTHING that he says, but have an open mind out it and just have fun. it may seem weird at first if you're not used to doing different things, but once you get used to it, it's a lot of fun!

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im 18 years old and my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and were thinking about having sex.. if we do, do i need to see a gynocologist (sp?). thats what ive heard but i need to know if its really necessary and how i would set it up. and what would happen there if i went?

you don't HAVE to go, but it's advised that you do. it's also a good idea to go once you turn 18 anyways, just to make sure everything's ok down there. you can either ask your mom to set it up for you, or you can call yourself. most doctor's offices do papsmears and gynocological exams, so you could just call your doctor and ask if they do it there. then you set up the appt and go! all that happens there is your doctor looks inside to make sure everythings alright. she/he insterts a small metal object to, open you up-but don't worry-it doesn't hurt at all-it's just so she can see better. then she takes a papsmear to make sure your healthy, and then you're good to go! it's nothing to be worried about, and it takes a total of maybe 10 minutes. good luck, and remember, just be safe!

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*All my friends say I'm cute, but I think I'm ugly. They've all had boyfriends and I haven't. I'm 13 and in 7th grade, I've never been kissed or anything my little 11 year old brother already had his first kiss and he was making-out with the girl. I don't know what to do. I sort of guess I'm just ugly. But I can't take it. What can I do? It's tearing me apart it makes me feel unwanted.*

you're 13, you have PLENTY of time for your first kiss. and just because you've never had a boyfriend does NOT mean you're ugly. i'm sure you are a very pretty girl, and any guy would be lucky to have you. i didn't have my first kiss or boyfriend until i was 16, and most of my friends had already at least kissed a guy, if not done more with them. i know it's probably hard for you being the only one without a boyfriend, but just be patient. it will happen, and when it does, you'll realize that it's not a big deal that you didnt' have a boyfriend when you were 13 when all of your other friends did. if there's a guy you like, then maybe you could start talking to him, maybe ask him to hang out, and who knows, maybe he likes u too and then maybe he'll ask out! just be patient, and have fun! good luck, and i hope this helped.

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Hey, im really scared about doing stuff sexually with a guy because of some of the stuff with my body..do guys care what a body looks like? i have stretch marks on my boobs because they grew so fast..and i have little dots on my but..and i dont know why? i just wanted to ask you if a guy cares about what his girlfriends body looks like to do sexual stuff with her.. i havent done anything yet...but im scared of what might happen when we do stuff..thanks!

if your boyfriend really likes you, then no it won't matter what your body looks like, because he is dating you for who you are, not for what you look like. if you are still self-conscious about it, just talk to him about it. im sure he'll tell you that he doesn't care what your body looks like, and everything will be fine. if he does care, then i would suggest dumping him because no guy should care. hope this helped, and good luck!

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Well I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. We're both 17, I'm a junior and he's a senior which means he'll be graduating this year. We're really close and madly in love. I'm just really afraid of what will happen when he goes away to college. All the colleges he has applied to are somewhat close to here besides one. I watch movies and shows and see couples break up all the time with the whole college situation. I was wondering what other people thought about my situation. I love him so much, and we're both willing to try and make it work. I'm just really scared, it's crazy what love can do to you. So I was wondering if anyone could suggest anything..thanks a bunch

i was in a similar situation to yours last year. my bf and i were together for 2 years, and we were both going off to college. i went half way across the country, and he went an hour away from home. i was scared too, because i didn't want to lose him, but we both knew that some things had to change. i've heard stories of all kind-people that stayed together long distance, or people that broke up, and it all depends on the kind of relationship the couple has. my bf and i decided to do sort of an open relationship, so we're free to hook up with other people at school, but when we get back home we're still together. we both love each other very much, and so far it's worked out. it's really hard, especially if you are the jealous type, but its just something that you have to learn to accept. we didn't want to stay together because it would be way too hard for us, and we didn't want to feel like we were taking away from the "college life" that we are supposed to have, but we didn't want to break up either, cause that would be too hard too. so basically we put our relationship on hold while were in school, and when were home we're together. i hope this helped, but remember, do whatever feels right for you too, not what other people tell u, because what worked for one, may not work for you. good luck, and be strong-if it was meant to work out, it will.

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Ok I go out with this boy-----hes in 8th grade and i'm in 7th. He's really nice and sweet and fine and everything like that, but when we talk on the phone, it seems like we have nothing to talk about, because we have no classes together. What might strike up a really good conversation??I need help real bad!!!!!!!!!!!I really want to keep him and we just kissed today and hes so good......plz help---I rate!!!!!!!!!!

don't worry about it. i've been dating my bf for almost 2.5 years now, and i hated talking to him on the phone cause we never had anything to talk about. you just have to be calm and talk to him as if he were one of your friends. ask him how his day was, ask him questions about his classes, tell him things that happened in ur classes, talk about friends, movies you've seen, new songs you've heard, things you've done recently, stuff like that. you don't have to talk on the phone every night, and you dont' have to talk for that long! just keep it short and sweet, and you'll be fine. hope this helped!

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for about the last couple of months, i have headaches everyday and they last almost all day. i feel like fainting and i get dizzy alot. i don't have much energy and i've been loosing weight recently. when i really don't need to. i'm tired all the time. butb it's not because i'm not getting enought sleep because i sleep alot. im really scared and i told my mom and she's getting me and appointment. even my boyfriend is worried. he's the one who told me to tell someone. i was just wondering if it sounded cancerous. and if it does please tell me what kind off cancer it sounds like. im really worried. please respond fast.

don't worry hon im pretty sure you don't have cancer. if you're tired all the time and have no energy, chances are you have mono. no big deal, just see a doctor asap and if that's the case tell you're bf to go to the doctor too, cause if you have it, he almost 100% will have it too. but it's nothing to be worried about. you'll be fine.

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well me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now and well it took 4 months for me to kiss him and well thats all ive ever done with anyone...well now hes kinda wanting more and is testing his limits and well i know its normal for guys to try that but i dont know...im only 14 is it normal for 14 year olds to do stuff like that? see my boyfriend has always gottin some from everyone hes been with accept me, but i kinda know that he cares for me b/c he waited so long and well if i do get up the nerve to do it once, will i have to do it alot? is he going to expect that more? should i do it? any advise?

if all you've ever done is kissed, there's plenty more for you to do besides sex, and no it doesn't mean that you have to do it a lot. but don't do it if you don't feel comfortable. i know he's probably getting antsy, but that's completly normal. if he's waited for you this long, i'm sure that he'll wait until you feel ready to experiment more. if you do it, he will expect that you guys do it more often. only you can decide if you should do it or not, but really think things through, and make sure that you are completly comfortable with him and trust him and that you are positive that you are ready. the worst thing would be for you to do it and then regret it. take your time, think things through, and be safe. hope this helped, and good luck.

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i was going out with this guy for like a month and a half, one day he breaks up with me before school starts. second block my best freind/his best freind tells me she likes him and ask me if it would be ok if they went out. i sad yes and she said she wouldn't ask him out, an hour later i find out they are going out. I'm trying to be friends with them but it's difficult because he like wont really talk to me unless i talk to him (he is really outgoing and it's not like him) and now megan is getting mad at me cause people are aparently being mean to her. i sad i was sorry for that to both of them but neither of them are really talk to me anymore, i just don't know how to handle cause i havn't been handling it very well. And megan does know what i'm going through cause the same thing happend to her the only difference is that she and everyone else saw it coming to her but not me i also talked to her about it, she said she was sorry and she knew what i was going through but she hasn' done anything to really make me feel better but say she was sorry. then keith did the same thing in an e-mail, neither of them will talk aobut it to my face

let me make sure i understand this correctly. keith-your ex bf is now dating megan-your best friend, and neither of them are talking to you anymore? it seems to me that you just need to talk to them to their faces-first alone with megan then keith, and then talk to them together, because there seems to be some sort of misunderstanding. the way you put it it doesn't seem like you ever got mad at either of them or got into a fight, so it seems like there's no reason for either of them to be mad at you. you told megan she could go out with keith, so u can't be mad at her for that. just talk to them and tell them that you don't understand why they won't talk to you and you dont' understand what you did to make them upset or not talk to you. tell them that you still want to be their friend, and you want to work things out. and people being mean to megan has nothing to do with you, unless you spread a rumor about her-in which case she has a right to be mad. just talk to them and try and get things straightend out-chances are it was a slight misunderstanding, and things will be fine. hope this helped and best of luck.

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This is a little embarrassing but when i go to have sex with my gf i can't seem to hold an erection my penis goes soft and i can't get it up
i don't get another erection im not sure what to do im worried my penis is not real big only 3.5 inches long could that be the problem what can i do?

umm, since i'm not a guy, i can't give you the best advice on this topic, but i can try. if you're able to hold an erection when you guys are just fooling around, i.e. when she's giving you a hand job or blow job, then maybe it's because you're nervous to have sex with her. i've heard that sometimes when a guy is nervous to have sex for whatever reason he has a hard time keeping it up. also, if you've already fooled around a lot before you have sex, sometimes you have just overworked it and you just need a longer break. if none of this is the problem, try a lot of foreplay before you have sex, and make sure that you are as hard as you can be before you have sex, then you should be fine. i have no idea if size can have anything to do with it, but i doubt it. i know this isn't the best advice, but it's the most that i know. maybe try asking a friend about it-a friend that you trust, and see what they say. hope this helped, and good luck

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ok well im 13/m and i have feelings for my friend. The problem is that she has been going out with her boyfriend for a long time (year and like a month) andso i've been trying to be there for her and be her friend but now her and her bf are going through some rough times and she doesn't think he likes her anymore. I want to make a move but think that might be taking advantage of her and her situation. Should i go for it? Is it taking advantage of her current situatuion?

that would definitely be taking advantage of her AND her situation. i would suggest against doing anything now, but make sure that she knows that you are there for her unconditionally. if things don't work out with her and her bf, she may see you and go to you for comfort and support, and i wouldn't expect anything out of it, not yet at least. if she and her bf break up, i'd wait at least a couple of weeks before you make your move, maybe even a month or so-just to give her time to get over him. if she seems to be getting over him quicker, than make your move then. but don't make it now. she already has enough stress on her shoulders dealing with her situation with her bf she doesn't need the added stress of having to deal with you making moves on her, and whether or not she wants to be with you or her current bf. hope this helped, and good luck.

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I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of weeks now, and things have been going pretty good. We dont go to the same school, but we do see each other almost every weekend. Well last weekend he asked me what i was doing because he wanted to do somthin saturday night. Well on Friday night i imed him and asked what he wanted to do, and he said that he couldnt do anything because he had to go to some wedding. I was kinda madd because i didnt know if he would have even told me about the wedding if i didnt ask him what he wanted to do. A couple of days pass and it seems like were getting more and more distant. Im goin to the movies soon with some friends and i want him to go so we can see each other. What all can i do so our relationship keeps going and doesnt just lose interest?!?!?!

when relationships first start out, often the first couple of weeks/months even are a little difficult, especially if you don't go to the same school. i would suggest maybe calling him and trying to talk to him on the phone rather than online, and ask him to go to the movies with u and your friends. if he says he can't, then ask him if he wants to do something the next day. if he still says he can't and doesnt give a good reason, then you'll have to talk to him about it. just let him know that it seems like he's avoiding you, and you don't understand why. tell him that if there's something going on that's making him not able to see you, that you'd like to know about it. chances are he's just getting used to the idea of having a girlfriend, as often times, especially for guys, it takes some adjusting to. my bf and i had a lot of trouble for the first 2 months or so, but that was two years ago and we're still together, and we even live 1800 miles apart. i hope this helped, and just stick in there and hopefully things will get better soon. good luck

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