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Problems in Paradise
ok well im 13/m and i have feelings for my friend. The problem is that she has been going out with her boyfriend for a long time (year and like a month) andso i've been trying to be there for her and be her friend but now her and her bf are going through some rough times and she doesn't think he likes her anymore. I want to make a move but think that might be taking advantage of her and her situation. Should i go for it? Is it taking advantage of her current situatuion?
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you are 13! if your feelings are that strong for the girl give it time...but most importantly start off by just being a good friend...if your their for her now, she will remember that in the long run.
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Well I would wait until they are broken up because that could be taking advantage.. kind like a rebound.. and you dont want that and she is coming to you for that so just stick with her
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I think you shouldn't ruin their relationship. If they're going through some rough times, wait it out. I think it would be taking advantage of her in her situation. Don't pressure her. Maybe you could find out his realy feelings, and help her through it, rather than taking advantage of her. Hope I helped.
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I think you should wait and be there for your friend, couples go through rough patches all the time so they could get over it, but if they don't you will be there for her. If you really have feelings for her you should wait til everything calms down and she will be ready for another relationship.
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I guess it is, sort of, but she needs someone right now, and that can be you. She needs a friend to talk to. But just wait until everything settles down before you make a move, because she needs time to adjust. It takes time to move on, after breaking up with someone you've gone with for a long time. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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That's taking advantage of her situation, I wouldn't do it. If they're having problems, it's not the time to tell her how you feel. Just either be her friend with a shoulder to cry on, or leave her alone for now. If they break up completely, THEN you can talk to her about it, but for now, just be there for her.
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well kinda yes..but if she truly likes you..then go for dude! good luck! xo mauh
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Don't go for it yet. If she hasn't broken up with her boyfriend , then it is an inapproriate time. Even after she breaks up with him, you will need to wait awhile.
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Yes, it IS taking advantage of her current situation. I would wait. But right now, the best thing you can do is show her that you're there for her and that you care. Let her know that if she ever needs you, you'll be there for her to fall back on.
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I think you should better wait I mean you might be rushing things wait a couple of weeks and then go for it
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Giv her a shoulder to cry on then eventually after they break up an shes recovered u shud go for it.
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right now what you need to be is a really good friend. and just be there for her, she'll really appreciate it. and she'll remember it when you decide to make your move. good luck!
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Umm well yes in a way, but instead of making a move, jsut let her know that you are there for her, and that you care about ehr feelings, and that you deserve the best, and sometieims jsut hearing those thigns will get her to start thining of other possibilites, and let her come to you, cause she wont be happy if you screw thigns up for her and her boyfriend, if they happen to work there thigns out, just let her know that your there and comfort her, and if she doesnt come to you then jsut give it time, you cant rush things, and sometiems thats a good thing, the wait could always make it better in the end, i really hope everything works out for you and her and the whole situation, jsut give it time, and paitnece, and try to handle thigns thinking about whats best for her, and not yourself, love is never selfish. Good Luck, and let me know how thigns turn out!
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No don't make a move just yet. Keep by her side thing is if they are going through some tough times, then their relationship will probably end then. Tell her that you will always be here for her and drop subtle hints from time to time, like if she's down flowers help. Soon she will realize what she has wanted was right next to her all along. *good luck* XoJacXo
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that would definitely be taking advantage of her AND her situation. i would suggest against doing anything now, but make sure that she knows that you are there for her unconditionally. if things don't work out with her and her bf, she may see you and go to you for comfort and support, and i wouldn't expect anything out of it, not yet at least. if she and her bf break up, i'd wait at least a couple of weeks before you make your move, maybe even a month or so-just to give her time to get over him. if she seems to be getting over him quicker, than make your move then. but don't make it now. she already has enough stress on her shoulders dealing with her situation with her bf she doesn't need the added stress of having to deal with you making moves on her, and whether or not she wants to be with you or her current bf. hope this helped, and good luck.
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k see right now she needs u more as a friend then a boyfriend ok , so jus be ther for her and if her and her boyfriend do brake up then wait lik a month then if she seems ok that their not together anymore then maybe u can go for , but until then , lik i already said , just be there as her friend. i hope i helped.
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I don't think you should go after her....juss yet. I mean it sounds like she is in a serious relationship with her bf. A year and a month is a long time to be with someone. Juss be there for her like you've always been. That's wat she really needs at this point. Wait it out and if her and her bf break up...wait about a month for things to settle down then maybe make the move. Right now you juss need to be there for her and comfort her cuz thats wat she needs the most.
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if i were you i wouldnt want my guy friend coming onto me. and you denfinitly dont want to use her because if she finds out that you used her during a hard time of hers, she will NEVER forgive you. so just stay there for her and she should notice that what she has infront of her is way better than what she has now.
hope it works out.
Luv Britt
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What I think you should do is tell her how you feel but explain that you are not just feeling this way because she is having problems with her boy friend, let her know you have felt this way about her for a long time but could never find a way to tell her with out coming off disrespectful towards her boy friend and relationship, and you just can't take it anymore.
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