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College
Well I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. We're both 17, I'm a junior and he's a senior which means he'll be graduating this year. We're really close and madly in love. I'm just really afraid of what will happen when he goes away to college. All the colleges he has applied to are somewhat close to here besides one. I watch movies and shows and see couples break up all the time with the whole college situation. I was wondering what other people thought about my situation. I love him so much, and we're both willing to try and make it work. I'm just really scared, it's crazy what love can do to you. So I was wondering if anyone could suggest anything..thanks a bunch <3
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I hate to say this but my freshman year of college, I was the other guy that the girl cheated with. My first girlfriend in college was from Colorado and had a boyfriend of a year and a half who was int he Air Force Academy. Originally we were just friends, but we really clicked and finally after a while we started "dating". She was ashamed of it, and I was too. (we never went all the way, because I didn't feel right about it). She kept telling me that she was going to break up with him, but she didn't.
We had a terrible breakup that I actually transferred University b/c I was so heartbroken. However it worked out for the best. She went back to him for a while and then they mutually decided that they weren't meant for each other.
So do expect that things might be a little strange, but he will be adjusting. I'm sure that he loves you very much and will not jeopardize that. You should give him the freedom to go out with friends and what have you, and you should do the same, but always keep the lines of communictaion open and be honest with each other and yourselves. It is in college usually that people "figure out" what type of people they really are and he's going to do that and you're going to do the same thing when you're in college. Have faith, keep talking, and things will always turn out for the best.
Yours,
Arun
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i was in a similar situation to yours last year. my bf and i were together for 2 years, and we were both going off to college. i went half way across the country, and he went an hour away from home. i was scared too, because i didn't want to lose him, but we both knew that some things had to change. i've heard stories of all kind-people that stayed together long distance, or people that broke up, and it all depends on the kind of relationship the couple has. my bf and i decided to do sort of an open relationship, so we're free to hook up with other people at school, but when we get back home we're still together. we both love each other very much, and so far it's worked out. it's really hard, especially if you are the jealous type, but its just something that you have to learn to accept. we didn't want to stay together because it would be way too hard for us, and we didn't want to feel like we were taking away from the "college life" that we are supposed to have, but we didn't want to break up either, cause that would be too hard too. so basically we put our relationship on hold while were in school, and when were home we're together. i hope this helped, but remember, do whatever feels right for you too, not what other people tell u, because what worked for one, may not work for you. good luck, and be strong-if it was meant to work out, it will.
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Dont worry. Long distance relationships are somewhat sweet. You should be happy for him. Almost all relationships have a bumpy road.
Good luck!! Sirisha
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Hey,
Well maybe you could possibly go to the same college as him? It's good that the colleges are relitivly close to you, that way you'll be able to spend more time with him rather if he is at a college out of state. If you both love eachother as you say you do, then you'll make it work. You just have to have faith in yourself as well as him that you can make it work. I wish the best of luck to you two, Alright?
-Megan
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You should be fine - you say that you're both willing to keep trying, so that's all that matters!! Hang on in there and make sure that you don't give up at the first hurdle, and try not to get jealous over who he might be hanging round with at college (and vice versa for you too).
Maybe you could see each other every weekend and do something special but different every time? Make sure you don't do the same thing every week or it'll get old :) You could go to the cinema, have a picnic, go round to each others houses, go to dinner somewhere, go on a double date with your mates, go to a fayre...anything you can think of!
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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