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college/home/friends
advice here from college students would be greatly appreciated!!! i'm 19 and just started at Boston University this September, but i live in Chicago. at first it was the normal homesickness, missing friends and family, and having it be hard to be 1800 miles away from home. things started getting better, but for some reason, i can't see to make myself happy here. i have a few friends here, but no guys friends (that's partly due to the fact that i live on an all girls floor, and also partly my fault, so i won't complain about that) i'm really close with a couple of the girls on my floor, and one or two other people, but that's pretty much it. i feel lonely here, and as hard as i try, i can't stop thinking about home and missing it. part of that has to do with the fact that i have a bf who's in college but still lives in chicago, so i only get to see him when i come home. i know im supposed to have fun and be experiencing college, but i feel like i'm missing out on so much, but i don't know how to fix it! i don't know how to make myself accept the fact that i'm in college, and NOT at home, and be HAPPY with that. i want to be happy here, and i want to have a good time. please help me. any advice will be greatly appreciated. thanks
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Colleg is very ahrd...even in the best of times..it is lonely and isolating.
If you want to stay on the team do..but if it mkaes YOU feel worse quit...
I would transfer dorms if I could...it fhte object is to meet more guys do that.
Join another organization....Boston is such a cool place..you an find lots of things to hook up with even on the net. I know the chool has tons of thigs to join that are not as exclusive as that snobby skating thing.
However..if you feel even more depresses...chat wiht a counselor....if it still si too hard for you..think about transfering to a schoo near home...it is ok to be lonely...sometimes a school is just not the right fit...
so go to the student union and have a couple chats with some oraganizations....
This is a big change in yor life right now..the biggest besides getting a new job and getting married..ok..lots of emotions going on right now...and trust me..everyon feels a lot like you do right now...
I hope this helps...am thinking of you!
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get more involved with the college or something, or with the social part at least, find out about the parties if it kills you, hang out at all the places people go, if you want to meet people and be somewhat happier, its all on you. . . keep ya head up -hope i helped :: a.ro
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Dude i just think u should go home on the weekends and try to get more involed.. like i used to not like goin to church.. cuz i didn't no ne one.. but i got involed and now i love it!
Hope i helped!
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Have you thought about joining an intermural sports group or some other club? Your Student Life Office could help you get involved in clubs, planning big events such as Talent Shows or Pageants, or sending you on weekend trips with other students. Talk to your Resident Advisor and she might could help too. Just get busy!
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