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Love
Hey! My boyfriend and I have been going out for ten months in March, and I really think that him and I are in love. Not just in a physical sense, but him and I connect mentally. We both really enjoy intellectual discussions about anything and everything. We can talk about any problems that we're having and the other can almost always relate. We can stay on the phone for hours at a time and not get bored, and both of us are extremely loyal to the other. We're just like best friends excluding the romance part. We're really close. The only thing is, sometimes it gets so discouraging when people say we're too young to be in love. I know we're both in love with each other, but other than getting married when we're able to (He and I are both fourteen), how can we deal with annoying old people who think love can only be understood at a certain age? Thanks in advance.
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Wow, this EXACT same thing happened to me last year. He broke my heart though, and now we're finally together. People told me the exact same thing, what do they know? They don't know our situation or what we're going through or how we feel for that person. Just ignore them, and go on with your life, don't let other peoples' opinions hurt or discourage you. And certainly, don't let it pull you and your boyfriend apart. Good luck babe, seriously. This is awesome.
Em
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Well, I believe you are in love. I guess older people dont believe it because when they were our age their parents said the same things to them.. so that made them believe it too. I dont think you should listen to what other people say, eventually they'll leave you two alone. Just keep telling them the truth and hopefully one day they'll realize you truly are in love.
-Rachel
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people dont know what they are talking about and they dont know how old you have to be in love. just worry about you and him and not what they say it really doesnt matter! it matters what u n him think ! x0
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Well, the reason they think love can only be understood at a certain age is because most people our age don't know what love is, they don't understand it, and they confuse liking or being sexual with love. So, they have a point, but there are some people who are truly young and in love, and you two may be. You just have to ignore them, if you know in your heart that it's love then nothing else matters. You should always try to understand where other people are coming from though. Anyways, good luck and congratulations on ten months!
-Farren
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let the adults worry about age and live your own life. sometimes adults just dont get it.
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Love can happen at any age. If you truely love this guy, then just ignore everyone who has a problem with it. Hope my advice helps!
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anonymous -
Usually the reason why old people tend to jump to that conclusion is because at a young age, you're still growing physically and mentally. It's a given that as people age they change, and as people change, there is always that possibility to "fall out of love".
Don't get too discouraged about it though. I can understand how it can get very annoying because they aren't seeing things from your perspective, but they're just trying to look out for you to ensure that you won't get hurt by this guy. An odd way to look out for you, but adults tend to find interesting ways to express how they feel.
As for dealing with them, just reassure them that you are growing up, and explain exactly how you're in love to handle this misunderstanding. What matters is that you're happy, and they should be happy for you as well.
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you cant quite do anything. go about with your lives and they will theirs. young love, some dont believe in it and some do. all you need to worry about is you two not what other people say//think or feel.
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I think that love can be experienced by any age, however I think that there is a certain maturity that has to be reached to be able to be in love. Some adults STILL haven't been able to mature enough to fall in love. And honestly, I haven't either. But everyone is different. There are always going to be people in your way in life who are going to tell you that you aren't good enough, tell you that you can't acomplish something, or in your case, you aren't old enough. This is only because they don't understand, and people are judgemental over things that they don't get. It's a path that all of us are doomed to follow one day or another, but when you come to a road block like this all you can do is go around it. Don't let it hold you back. If you know that you are in love then don't let anyone allow you to think otherwise. No one knows you better then yourself and no one can tell you how you feel about another person. If you think that you are mature enough to be experiencing love, which you very well may be, then that is great! And I'm completly jealous of you. Lots of adults like to think that kids don't have the abilty to understand feelings, and this is just becuase they may never, as a child, had the opportunity to do so. Don't let it bother you, there are always going to be people judging you and there is no way around it, just be a strong person and stand up for what you believe.
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