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Hello Everyone!! I'm Ashley and I am an 18 year old Senior. I'd be more then happy to answer ANYTHING and EVERYTHING! Giving advice is what I do best, so if your looking for someone to help you out I'm your go-to girl!! : ) I'm planning on going to Ohio University next year to study child psychology and I think this is a great start to my future career!ANYWAYS... enough about me!! Ask away and im more then happy to answer your questions, and by the way i NEVER reject a question! If you can take the time to write to me then i promise i will take the time to give you my best answer!
Oh and I would REALLY appreciate your feedback... whether good or even bad, I really like to know how i'm doing, so I can help better. I've had a lack of feedback lately so if you could help me out for helping you out, I would LOVE it!! 1 or a 5, just be truthful! Thanks so much!!!! And Goodluck!
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Hey! My boyfriend and I have been going out for ten months in March, and I really think that him and I are in love. Not just in a physical sense, but him and I connect mentally. We both really enjoy intellectual discussions about anything and everything. We can talk about any problems that we're having and the other can almost always relate. We can stay on the phone for hours at a time and not get bored, and both of us are extremely loyal to the other. We're just like best friends excluding the romance part. We're really close. The only thing is, sometimes it gets so discouraging when people say we're too young to be in love. I know we're both in love with each other, but other than getting married when we're able to (He and I are both fourteen), how can we deal with annoying old people who think love can only be understood at a certain age? Thanks in advance.
I think that love can be experienced by any age, however I think that there is a certain maturity that has to be reached to be able to be in love. Some adults STILL haven't been able to mature enough to fall in love. And honestly, I haven't either. But everyone is different. There are always going to be people in your way in life who are going to tell you that you aren't good enough, tell you that you can't acomplish something, or in your case, you aren't old enough. This is only because they don't understand, and people are judgemental over things that they don't get. It's a path that all of us are doomed to follow one day or another, but when you come to a road block like this all you can do is go around it. Don't let it hold you back. If you know that you are in love then don't let anyone allow you to think otherwise. No one knows you better then yourself and no one can tell you how you feel about another person. If you think that you are mature enough to be experiencing love, which you very well may be, then that is great! And I'm completly jealous of you. Lots of adults like to think that kids don't have the abilty to understand feelings, and this is just becuase they may never, as a child, had the opportunity to do so. Don't let it bother you, there are always going to be people judging you and there is no way around it, just be a strong person and stand up for what you believe.
ok well im 18/f , and my b/f got me pregnant , lik 3 months ago, b4 he broke up wit me. today he punched me in the stomach , nd in my face. and i dnt kno wut to do?? plz help me. how do i kno if he killed my baby?
Wow, well first of all you need to get this loser out of your life. He obviously is someone who does not deserve the right to be involved in your life, or your childs regardless if he is the father or not. If he is willing to put your baby's life in danger and put you in harm, then he needs to be dealt with ASAP. You need to tell someone about this as soon as you can because he has the potential to be even more dangerous. I can't say for sure, but I don't think that he killed your baby. But you definitly should go and get checked out to make sure everything is okay. I highly advise that you stay away from him at all costs. Tell your parents or another adult that you trust about this. I'm really sorry that you have to experience these types of violent acts from someone who is suppose to be supportive of you and caring... no one deserves to be abused, especially and innocent child that obviously has no way of defending itself. The best way to assure your baby's health is to keep away from him. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you can get help hun!
okay well im 14 and in the 8th grade i started my period in the 6th grade and i only go for 2 days every tiem i have it maybe 3 but i only had it moer then 3 like 2 other times in my life and they were really light.. im not a lil tiny girl but im not fat or anything im just a regular girl and i was wondering if its normal or not, i saw that there was someone else asking that but usally she has it for 5 she said i always have it for 2 :-/ i promise ill rate 5!
This is perfectly normal! You have nothing to worry about, every girls body is different. Also, your body isn't done developing so your periods still may be irregular. I have a friend who is a senior and she only has her period like every 4 months! And she isn't on any type of birth control or anything, she didn't start her period until she was like a freshman or a sophomore. But you are very blessed let me tell you... I bet every girl is envious of you right now. I know I am! Not all of us are lucky enough to have 2 day periods haha. But anyways, don't worry hun, you are fine. Although I'm extremly confident nothing is wrong with you, I'm not a doctor so If you really think that there could be something wrong with you, then talk to your mother about it. Moms are really understanding about this type of thing!! Hope I could help you out hun!!
what are some good fonts for aim?? i have book antiqua now, but its getting boring
Well, I guess it all depends on what you like... personally I like Lucida Sans, I like to change my font a lot too but for some reason I always go back to that one!! It's got me hooked. But I don't know if it is your style! It's more girly I would say so if your a girl I would guess you like it!! Hope I helped!
I have been pretty depressed. I dont know why. On the weekends I pretty much just go to work from 11-4, come home, watch tv, do homework, eat and maybe get online or talk on the phone and then do it again the next day. My parents dont like me going out too much. Then on weekdays I go to school from 7:55-2:15, stay after school sometimes till 4 or just go straight home. Or if I can I get outta school and stay after till 4 call my bf n hang out w him till 8. I just needa know whats going on, like why am I go DEPRESSED n how can I get over it?
Hey there!! Staying home a lot and not going out much can contribute to depression. Not in a big way, but it can. When you stay home all the time and don't get out and have fun, it can make you feel worse. I'm not sure how old you are but if you have a job I'll assume you must at least be in your later teens, I think that you need to talk with your parents about maybe giving you a little bit more responsibilty and freedom to go out a little more. Explain to them that you have been feeling a little down lately and you think it would help if you got out more. Even going out somewhere fun with your boyfriend could make you feel better. Maybe talk to him about having a fun night out, doing something you don't usually do like going to a goodtimes and riding gocarts or something fun like that! Get a little more excitement in your life! And also if you truely think that you are depressed this is definitly something you should discuss with your parents. Getting on some form of medication or antidepressant will help you to deal with it in a healthy way. I just recently got up the courage to talk to my parents about it and now I'm so glad I did! It may be hard but if you honestly think your depressed it really is something to look into!! Hope I could Help!
Hello!! I hope ya'll can help me! I'm sorr its so long but its a long story!! Okay here is my scenario. My birthday was at the end of January, and my boyfriend had already been planning our Valentine's date. He asked me if it would be alright if he gave me my birthday gift along with my Valentine's gift because it would make it easier on him, so of course i told him yes. Well, On Saturday (which was our Valentine's day because i had to work Monday) he took me to dinner, then he blindfolded me and took me to... a hotel. BUT before you judge, it was very romantic. He had his friends come and light the candles he had set up EVERYWHERE and rosepedals, the whole deal. And we had planned to have sex for our first time, not necessarily then but we had stopped ourselves a couple of times because we wanted to wiat until it would be special. Which this was. Okay, well moving on, besides all of this, he didn't get me like flowers or a bear or even a card. I spent like $70 on him with gifts and whatnot. But i wasn't too mad because i assumed he had sent me a carnation at school (Our school has sales where you can buy a carnation for someone for V-Day and writea message and then we got them on Monday 9*) Well i of course sent him one, and i waited but he never sent me one. I went to his house after work and i brought over peanut butter heart shaped cookies (His fav!) and still nothing. This made me really mad because he didn't even get me a stinkin carnation!! I got pretty upset and left. Now am i overreacting? I mean he did spend money on me but i'm the type of person who appreciates little things like a flower or a box of choc, he didn't have to go buy a hotel or anything, i just wanted a carnation :( Lol, AND he still hasn't given me anything for my birthday!! Shouldi be mad?
I agree that yo have everyright to be mad!! Hey we are the chicks we desrve to be showered with gifts and treated like princesses right?! He definitly should have gotten you something for your birthday. If i were you i would definitly talk to him about this, let him know how you are feeling and tell him that you don't need all of the big things, all the matter are the little things that are thoughtful reminders that he is thinking of you... if he is understanding then he will make it up to you, and if not then get rid of the asshole!! Lol
Ok, all my friends are using diffrent words refuring to sex. Such a, boner, oral sex, and giving head... i no this is an acword topic :/ but please help me! Thanks
Okay, well i will try to help you out here!! A boner is when a male gets an erection, which you may know what it is, if not then um it's pretty much when a guys penis gets hard when he gets turned on which could be caused by lots of things. Like seeing a naked girl and things such as that. Oral sex can be done to either a guy or a girl... Which is the same thing as giving head or eating a girl out. It's pleasuring your partner using your mouth (hense ORAL) Um this would be sucking on a guys penis, or a guy "eating out" a girls vagina. Not too get too gross but licking it and such.... So i hope i could help you out hun!!! I tried my best! lol
Ok. i have this friend and we both like the same guy. i mean he's a really really nice guy and he's not fast paced and he'll give the girl the time she needs. and he's popular so i guess i kind of have two questions.
Question 1). Would it be totally horrible for me to do something about my feelings, because i know for a fact that the guy doesn't like her he told me. but if things worked out and she got mad i'd feel horrible but the thing is she'd do it to me in a heart beat, even if it hurt me ...
Question 2). I'm not sure what i should do. because if i decide to talk to him and let him now how i feel theres a chance he'll laugh in my face. because hes popular and im not really. im not sure if i should give it a try, because he seems like he could possibly be interested in me, he's flirting and acts interested, but that could then again just be how he is ..
Hey!!! Well i will do my best to answer both of your questions.
1- I think that if you do decide that this is something you would like to pursue that you need to discuss this with your friend. Tell her your feelings and your ambitions and make sure to let her know that the last thing you want to do is hurt her, so if she has any problems then to just be honest with you and tell you the truth. If telling her isn't an option, then i would say no, i wouldn't do it because friends will be there for you through everything but boyfriends will come and go. A friend can't be replaced and losing a great bond is always an unfortunate thing.
2- If this guy is a great as you are making him out to be then chances are he isn't going to laugh in your face. So i'd say go for it! You only live once so why not take the chance. It could turn into something great. But if you don't you will always wonder what might have happened if you had. Live with no regrets, just little bumps along the road!! The worst thing that can happen is that he won't be interested and sure you will be upset for a while but the pain will go away and you will find another great guy along the way.
I hope i could help you out!!! Goodluck hun
I have to do 5 hours of community service for school and I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on what I could do that would involve things that I like to do. Some things I like to do that might involve any kind of community service are being with little kids and dancing. Any help would be appreciated... thanks.
Hey!! I know a really fun community service opportunity that has to do with little kids. I recently got involved in the Big Brothers Big Sisters program andi love it. I have a little brother who is in 2nd grade and he is adorable. We meet once a week for an hour and a half at a local community hall. We play games, i help him with his homework, and he tells me about his day. I got to pick if i wantea boy or a girl and how old etc... It is a wonderful experience and I didn't think i would come so attached to my kid!! I like it a lot more then i would and you rack up community service hours real quick. The website you can go to to get started is www.bbbsa.org Hope I could help ya!!
I have been sexually active for almost 6 months abd I want to be put on the pill. My parents dont know im having sex. I hate using condoms.. so we just make sure he pulls out. I have a few Questions.
A. How much does it cost?
B. How much do they give you at one time?
C. How can I get it without my parents knowing im gettin it? Like a place you can go without parental permission.
Thanks sooo much!
Heyy first of all i think that that's great that you are being so resonsible!! But even if you are going to be on the pill, i still recommend using condoms, because birth control isn't 100% effective and you don't want to take any chances!! But anyways, I went through the same thing and I found a place called The Family Planning Center and it is a doctors office that you can get birth control w/o your parents consent and at little or no cost. I would look in your yellow pages and try to find something similar... look under Birth Control Services and see if anything comes up! The place that i went i got birth control for free. All they did was ask for a donation when i left and i gave them like 5 bucks. If you find a place to call just call them up and ask them if you can get it with out your parents and about how much it will cost. The only thing that sucks about it is that you will have to get a papsmear which isn't fun but it's worth being safe. If you have any more questions or want me to get a little more in depth then just leave one in my inbox!! Hope i could help and good luck!! : )
My best friend is moveing to new york and she said she would call me when she gets there it has been 2 weeks and i have heard no phone call ... i dont know if she is there or not or she just forgot. i dont want our friendship to end. please help me.
Well hun don't worry!! I'm sure that she is there and she is okay! Moving is a big deal especially when it is somewhere that is a distance away. There is so much to do, unpacking, setting things up, decorating, it all takes time... LOTS of time. I know it must suck that she doesn't call and i understand that you are worried, but i wouldn't be too much. She is probably really busy and worn out. Moving can be really stressful and exhausting. She may also be trying to meet new people and get a new start over there. She will call soon, just give her some time to adjust to her new lifestyle. It's gotta be really hard on her, i'm sure it is on you too but try not to get too worked up over it. She may just be overwhelmed right now, maybe once she's settled in and relaxed finally she will be able to spend more time doing things she wants to do instead of things she needs to do, and i'm sure you on her top priorities to call!! Don't worry sweetie she will call i pomise!!! : )
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okay so , ever since the beginning of school there was this guy that I liked, Rob. Hes really cute and everything, hes a freshman and im a sophomore. Well. I never did anything about it because well, Rob seemed as if he were out of my league. and he never paid attention to me. Well I know his mom because his mom works at the school and i have 2 classes with her. So what happens is, last week. I go to lunch and my friend has bible study with robs mom....my friend told me that Robs mom said that Rob has been trying to talk to me for the longest time and everytime he gets a chance,I walk away by accident...So I didnt believe it at first, but then my friend goes, and she works at a resturaunt, and Rob went to the resturaunt alone...So since he went alone, my friend had a waitress friend of hers go talk to him so she goes up to him and askes "Do you know a girl named Kelly" and he goes "Yeah" and she goes" Do you think shes hot" and he goes " I think shes pretty, shes not ugly" and she asked a bunch of questions...so it ended up that he was supposed to talk to me the next day at lunch, I knew he wasnt going to , so my friend was like * FINE im gonna go talk to him* and im like * FINE i dare you* i didnt think she would...but she did...and i dont know WHAT she said, but i deicided to try to be unnoticable, but she pointed right at me when i was sitting on the cafeteria floor... well i got home, and i asked my this friend of mine Justin, who also knows Rob...for Robs sn...he gives it to me, and i told him to keep it all on the downlow that i asked for it...then he goes "lol do you know who he likes" and I was like " no who" and he goes " I donno 0:)* and he puts the angel face, and everytime i asked him ... he put the angel face. WELL then I go onto my myspace, and i see that Rob commented on my page and he says "Heyy this is Rob. Whats up? Oh, and your friend, really did ask me those questions just so you know...oh can i have your sn if you have one, comment back on my page and give it to me byee* and so i was like * woooowwww he asked for my screen name* but yeah, then i talked to him twice already online...and hes extremley nice, and well the second time i talked to him , we were talking about Napoleon Dynamite, and randomley he goes * so are you going to the dance* and the dance is on the 26th...and i was like * neh , who knows, I dont really wanna go if i dont have anyone to go with you know? If not, then im just plannin on going to the movies that night or something who knows :-)* and i was like what about you? and he goes * idk i might not sure yet* and so i was like * ooo cool* and then i told him that i saw him at the other dance with his ex, and he tells me how much he hates his ex now and he asked me if i had any x's and i go * nope* and he goes * oh you dont? Im sorry* and im like * nah its fine, ive had my chances blah blah blah * and then he goes * so im guessing youve never done anything with a guy...or have you* and i go * nah i havnt lol, id rather have a guy who likes me for who i am, rather than for what i do* and he says * good choice* and then he had to leave, but, yeah, me and him dont talk at school i guess its cuz were shy , but i mean... why would his mom say * hes been trying to talk to her for a while* you know? I dont know, do you think hes interested in me...do you thimk he likes me? or what....OH and I asked Justin if Rob liked a freshman and he said * yeah he likes a freshman girl* so me being a sophomore..its not me...and then Rob goes and tells me that Justin is dumb and that I shouldnt talk to him and i asked if he lies and he said * ummmmm yeahh* and i go *even when it comes to keeping friends secrets?* and he goes * yup* and so I dont know...what do you think?! HELP!!!
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Aww hey sweetie! Hmm, well it sounds to me like he is interested in you, but maybe he is intimidated by you because you are older. Even if you may think he is way out of your league, that doesn't mean he doesn't think the same about you. Lots of guys are intimidated by older girls because most aren't lucky enough to get one!! But from what his mom and his friends are saying it sounds like he may be up for something with you! He could be trying to take his time and get to know you frist since it sounds like you two don't know each other real well. And there is nothing wrong with moving slow! You don't have to jump into a relationship with someone right away, its great to take your time and get to know them good first. IT makes it more interesting! And about the freshman girl thing, i wouldn't worry about it, he is making an effort to get to know you so there must be a good reason why, and i doubt its because he just wants to be friends!!! It's lookin good to me, just take your time with things and don't expect them to happen right away, don't be pushy either, guys don't like a girl thats too easy to get!! Play hard to get a little, he'll love it i promise!! Hope i could help
thank you so much for the advice you gave me on losing my virginity you really made me feel better about it, i know its different for everyone but how bad would you say it hurt? i know akward question lol
Well yes your right it is different for everyone, and i guess this will help you out a little bit. IT all kind of depends on, for lack of a better phrase, how "loose" you are. If your boyfriend and you have messed around a lot then it might not hurt that bad. But if you really haven't done much with guys then it is more likely to hurt more then someone who has. Another factor could be how big your boyfriend is! And honestly, my first time i couldn't even go all the way through with it becuase it hurt a lot. But once they get it in for the first time, and you kind of get started and get goin then you should be okay... at least until the next day when you will probably be soar!! Lol, it's nothing thats a big deal, you just might walk like you've got a stick up your ass haha. No but seriously, it's gonna hurt but I doubt if it is anythign that will make you cry or anything that will cause you a lot of pain or discomfort. And if it does hurt to much just tell him you might have to go in stages. Maybe just have him SLOWLY stick it in, and if it feels alright then go on with it but if it hurts too bad have him stop and then maybe the next time you can go a little farther until you are comfortable enough with it to go all the way!! Hope i could help hun!
hey last week my boyfreind fingered me and I gave him a handjob. What base it that gong to?thanks!
Well well, i know this may sound weird but depending on certain circumstances, your friends, where you live, ect... i guess the bases aren't exactly the same everywhere you go!! Different people have different interpretations of them! But according to my book i'd say thats 2nd base! (1st would be like making out, him feeling you up, 3rd would be oral sex, and home... well we all know what a homer would be! lol) So yeah thats my best answer for ya!! Hope i could be of help!!!
OK. See me and my b/f have been going out for a little over three months...everytime i see him all we really do is make out. i mean he has gone up my shirt, but he hasnt tried to go any farther than that. im starting to get tired of the same old thing everytime i see him. why wont he go farther with me? another thing is... i want him to finger me and i know he wants to because he told my friend he wanted to but he never has, and he told her this when we had only been dating a month. if he does finger me tho im scared that he wont like it because i have hair... down there... should i shave it? what do guys perfer? does it really matter? plz answer ill rate sincerely confused
Hey hunny!! Well i think that if you want to go farther with your boyfrind you need to talk to him about it, he is probably afraid that you don't want him too which is a good thing. It shows that he respects you!! this isn't very common among guys lol. If you aren't comfortable talkin to him about it then while you guys are making out why don't you kinda lead him to it, move his hand down a little and maybe he will get the picture!! And about shaving, its all about how comfortable you are about it. You don't have to if you don't want to, most guys prefer it, so i would if i was you. It's realy not that big of a deal but i think your guy would appreciate it if you did!! Hope i could help : )
Usually my friend and i dont fight at all...but lately shes been ..pissing me off a bit. .Lately..idk shes been moody and i dont like it. It was like she didnt appreciate that i was driving her somewhere...the ride was late. She was only concerned wit her plans for later..going to a game. I guess im aggrivated with her..how can i get over this aggrevation? I dont think i want to confront her because that would be making a big deal about things..what can i do?
Well maybe there is something going on behind the scenes that you haven't realized. She may be dealing with some problems that she hasn't felt comfortable talking about yet, and this could be part of her problem. I've found with myslef when i holdthings in for too long i become really irritable and i get pissed off over little things and make a big deal over stupid stuff. Look a little deeper into it, has she been acting down lately? Has she seemed sad or like something is frustrating her? Maybe you should just sit her down and ask her how everything is going and let her know that she has seemed a little irratable lately and you just wanted to make sure things were going okay. Reassure her that she can talk to you about anything cause that is what friends are for of course! You don't have to confront her and make a big scene just talk to her and seem concerned and if she says everything is fine then just be like okay well i'm glad to hear that, it just seems that lately you've been irritable and i just wanted to make sure everything was okay. She might not even realize she is acting this way and this may help her to see that. And chances are she won't get mad about it because you are approaching her in a concerned fashion!! Hope i could help! : )
Okay, well last night i had a dream that my crush asked me out ..so i invited him over except "my house" wasnt really MY house! It had a pool which i dont have and i had a different family. so anyway, the whole time we never hung out! He just hung out with these boys i think were my cousins (and i dont even have boy cousins!!) And didnt talk to me..then all of a sudden were outside and we start talking when a landmass happens and the only people left are me and him on this little peice of land that somehow DIDNT fall!! ?!? Then he says i want to break up withh you!! After all that ..what is this telling me? do you think i shouldnt ask him out cuz he will dump me fast? Im so confused ..i rate! sry about the length! I really need to know so plzz dont delete!
Hey!! Okay i have really weird messed up dreams ALL THE TIME even stranger then that! There is a number that you can call and you can talk to a guy called the dream doctor! It is some kind of radio talk show that i found when i was trying to figure out what one of my dreams meant! It's in mississippi or minesota or somthing but the number is toll free. You can call from 9-12 on any weeknight and he will give you a free analysis about your dream! I really reccomend it! And it's fun! The number is 1-877-773-7326, i call it all the time so don't be scared its awesome!! If you call let me know what he says about it, i'd be really interested to find out!
A lot of people think I'm different, because I'm Jewish. Well, I consider it! And everyone else says, "Are you a catholic or christian?" ANd I say, "No. I'm way more on the jewish side." And they say, "Ooh, that's too bad." WHY CANT THEY MIND MY RELIGION? WHY DO THEY DO THIS? HOW CAN I MAKE THEM STOP? WHAT CAN I SAY BACK TO THEM?
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Unforunetly we live in a world filled with narrowminded judgemental people. The reason why they can't mind their own business is becuase lots of people like to think that they are better then anyone who is different then them, but the reason for this is just because they are scared. They are too many people who just aren't willing to be more open to different cultures and religions. The hard part is that its nearly impossible to make them stop. Kids will be kids and as long as they are, they are going to be judgemental and cruel. The best thing to do is to ignore it and don't let it get to you. Obviously these people aren't anyone who is your friends becuase true friends aren't going to make rude comments on your relgion. You are who you are and that is all that matters. You don't need to say anything to them back, walk away the better person, because obviously you are. Really these kids aren't worth your time or worth your worries. Just allow yourself to be who you are and don't let anyone bring you down. I think that it is great that you are open about it and confident enough in yourself to want to stick up to them. But there is no need, you will look more mature by jsut walking away from it and not letting it bother you!!
i'm 13, no guys like me and i go to a charter school(a charter school is where kids from all over the district can attend it but there is only like 100 kids in each grade) there are no cute guys at my school. What can I do to get a boyfriend?
100 kids in each grade wow you are lucky!! Mine only has about 75 and oh geeze there are like -5 hot guys at my school! Lol, i totally know how you feel. Well, first of all let me remind you that it's not always looks that count! But we all know this and I'm sure you don't want the whole speal. But anyways, do you have any girlfriends from other schools? If you do then i think it would be a good idea to ask if you can hang out with them adn their friends from their school some weekend, they may have some cute guys who go to their school! If you don't have any friends from other schools then maybe you should try to join a club or a sport! I'm not school how your school works exactly but some of your clubs and our sports travel to other schools for events so you will get to scope out the other cute boys from other schools! And hey, if your lucky and spot one don't be too shy to go up and say hey... you only live once and chances are if he doesn't seem interested you won't have to see him again so no harm done!! Another option is to go out with your friends places and keep your eyes open, at the mall, movies, skating rinks, ect... you may be surprised at how many cuties are runnin around at the same placed you like to hang ouT! OHH and another good spot to look would probably be an arcade, all the boys seem to flock there... you know boys and their video games!! Okay well i hope i could help! : ) Good luck
I am really depressed. I just feel like every one thing that is good in my life, there are three bad things. In other words, the pros outweigh the cons. I really need help, but don't want to ask my mom to go to a shrink. So, I'm waiting for someone to notice. I don't want to cut myself, but it's the only way for people to notice. So, I just take a pin and scratch myself so that it will make slight cut marks on my wrists. I know it's stupid, but I just need help beyond my stupid friends' advice.
I hate these bribe things, but I do rate high, if that will help you to answer me.
Hey i really do know what you are going through. I knew something was wrong with me and i really didn't want to tell my parents because i'm the type of perosn who puts it off like i'm always happy-go-lucky and i don't want anyone to think otherwise. So i never told anyone for a year and hoped they noticed... which didn't work. I know it may be really hard and this probably isn't the answer you are looking for, but you really need to talk to your mom about this. It will be a lot easier because if she does notice your cuts she isprobably going to flip and be really worried about you. And I'm sure you don't want to put your mom through that kind of thing. It's one thing to be depressed and such but its a totally different level when you start to hurt yourself. One day when i had another breakdown and i was crying I just sucked it up andtold my mom which was soooo hard for me because i'm not even close with my mom. (This actually was only 2 weeks ago) And to my surprise she was really understanding, i told her i needed to talk to someone and that its hard for me to talk about my feeligns so its best for me to see someone and she got me in right away. I started my first day of therapy today and I feel great, it really helps andi think it is something that will be really good for you.I totally know how hard it is to do this, i took me about a year! But you will feel so much better when you get help and it will be worth it i promise. Parents are a lot more understanding then hyou may think and most are more then willing to help you if you are having problems especially psychological ones. So don't be scared, a lot of people go through this and it is going to be really cleansing to go talk to someone!! Lots of love and i really hope you get through this okay!!