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why wont my boyfriend go farther?
OK. See me and my b/f have been going out for a little over three months...everytime i see him all we really do is make out. i mean he has gone up my shirt, but he hasnt tried to go any farther than that. im starting to get tired of the same old thing everytime i see him. why wont he go farther with me? another thing is... i want him to finger me and i know he wants to because he told my friend he wanted to but he never has, and he told her this when we had only been dating a month. if he does finger me tho im scared that he wont like it because i have hair... down there... should i shave it? what do guys perfer? does it really matter? plz answer ill rate sincerely confused
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Okay, most guys prefer it haved. And if you want to go further, why dont you make the first move. Why dont you give him a handjob or blowjob or something. Then he'll probley feel comfortable after to do stuff with you
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Okay well you should talk to him. Tell him you want to move the relationship a little bit further see what he thinks. If he wants to finger you ask him if you should shave.. and if your embarresed to do that like make it into a joke belike.. DO YOU SHAVE... because when i give u a hj i would noe and just laugh and he would prob. ask u the same question back, or be like do you want me to. and laugh about it. hope i helped
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Yah! You really shout shave it if you have hair. My boyfriend and my other bfs hated hair. rate me!
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There could be different explanations for his behaviour. He may be unsure if you are ready to go further, and want to wait until you are, he could be nervous about what to do, or he could be having second thoughts about whether he is actually ready himself - there is a big difference between talking about things with a friend and actually doing them.
Guessing games aren't healthy in a relationship. If you want to know what's holding him back, talk to him. If he needs to be reassured that you are ready and want to go further, then a simple conversation can do this. If he is just nervous about what to do and what you would like, you can reassure him and guide him on what you would like, and if he's unsure about whether he wants to go further, you can discuss that and together make a decesion. Knowing what's going on and talking about things is healthy. It might be embarassing to bring it up if you aren't used to talking about sexual things with your boyfriend, but it needs to be done.
As for hair - it's your body, you decide what you want to do with it. Your decesion should be based on what you want, not what you think your boyfriend will want. If you want to see what it's like being hairless, then try it, but you shouldn't be doing things to your body just because of what you think your boyfriend would like.
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i say dont go any further with him. he's a kiss and tell person.your friend shouldn't know what yall did or do! god knows who else he told or whom he'll tell! you dont want false reports out in the streets about you.
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Shave that shit, and put his hand down there the next time your alone somewhere, if he pulls back, then find yourself a new boyfriend. Oh yeah don't shave up, you'll get a rash...
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whatever you do DONT SHAVE! lol. you will regret it. guys dont really mind. just do you're bikini line and thats it. it will itch like crazy if you shave it all! okay you can try the subtle approach and just grab his hand and put it on your thigh slowly moving it upwards. if he is male he will get the hint ;) or you can talk to him about it. if u dont feel comfortable talking about it then maybe it's too soon.
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He may not be familiar with the anatomy down there or what exactly you want him to do. This also shows that he does have a lot of respect for you and is interested in more than just getting his own pleasure. This is a good opportunity for the two of you to really get together in a meaningful way.
Next time you two are intimate with each other, you may like to direct him on how you liked to be touched. Who knows your body better than youself? This way he'll be able to get to know what you like and won't be too rough or do something that you may not like. You can both use the time to explore each other in a very meaningful way.
As for the shaved part? I think that if you stop at stimulation of the hand, some hair would not make a difference. However, if you believe that you may progress to oral gratification- then it may be easier for him if you are shaved. Do what is most comfortable for you because it is your body.
Best of luck,
AK
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you should talk to him about everything. if you want him to go further, let him know how far you are comfortable with and see how far he is comfortable going. he might not want to go further because he is not sure how you feel about all of it. this shows that he respects you. guys do prefer it shaved, but its not necessary. it is really all up to you. if you are ok and are comfortable shving it, then go for it, but if not, then you dont have to. i think your boyfriend would appreciate it a little more if you did, though. so the choice is yours.
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Hey hunny!! Well i think that if you want to go farther with your boyfrind you need to talk to him about it, he is probably afraid that you don't want him too which is a good thing. It shows that he respects you!! this isn't very common among guys lol. If you aren't comfortable talkin to him about it then while you guys are making out why don't you kinda lead him to it, move his hand down a little and maybe he will get the picture!! And about shaving, its all about how comfortable you are about it. You don't have to if you don't want to, most guys prefer it, so i would if i was you. It's realy not that big of a deal but i think your guy would appreciate it if you did!! Hope i could help : )
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