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well im going out with this guy that my best friend hates...but yea i told her i dumped him so she wouldnt be mad at me but than somehow she found out that im still going out with him....and i love him(i've never felt that way about a guy before)...and now she is all pissed off at me...!! what should i do?

well first of all, nothing is stronger than love
and if your friend really cares about you and is actually and truely ur bestfriend shed like to see you happy if she hates him or not and don't lie to her just to please her she'll understand if you love him.

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hi, i have just gotton my period for the first time, and it hurts when i take out the tampon, is that normal?

Yeah because you arent use to tampons and its the first time. Also when you take it out, make sur eu take it out really slow! And be in the position you put it in, in.

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How do I get my leg muscles bigger?

Do some running, and use a machine for your legs!

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Does anyone think it is absolutley gross for a grade 7 to go out with a grade 8?

and why?

definitly not! its BETTER for you to go out with someone older. NO doubt about it!

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okay im going to my girlfriends house on sunday for easter and i want to know what exactly turns a girl on like what to do to her you know like kissing her neck. i need all the help i can get!! thanks

ok you should definitly kiss her neck. Also a lot of girls think its so cute to go up from behind them, give them a hug, put ur hands on their waist things like that.

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Last night I was over at some friends house and I was the only girl and there was three boys (I'm 19) and we were drinking and they must have got drunk becasue they grabbed me and flung me onto the bed and started having sex and I didn't want to! Now this morning I won't stop bleeding! PLEASE HELP...oh my god I don't want this to happen to me I'M A GOOD GIRL!

you got raped. you need to calm down, and you should probably tell someone.

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i have this really good guy friend who is a year older than me .in fact , i call him my "big brother" and he calls me "little sis" . LOL . anyway , the other day when i was just talking to him , i reached across him to get something from the person sitting on the other side of him . ( we were sitting in a row , with him in the center ) and i sort of brushed against his chest while bending back . After that , i noticed that he got a boner and there was a lump in his pants . well now i'm kinda freaked out cos i never thought that he would like me ( especially bcos of the little sis big bro thing ) . i'm confused and don't know if i like him .. what should i do ?

Well just because he got a boner when you did that doesnt mean he actually likes you, you should ask him about it. Tell him you noticed he got one and if yous should start dating. And maybe since you's are so close(big brother lil sis thing) maybe it'll be good to go out, because you's can share things with eachother and have a close relationship. Hope things work out!

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1st of i'm 16 and i'm in 10th grade and a girl...and i have some pretty awesome best girl friends...well i make-out with a few of them...i don't mind it i actually have fun doing...but i wouldn't call my self bi...i read this thing online and it says that we experment to find out what we like...well i love makeing-out with both sexes! but i've never done more with a girl...i have and talked about eating girls out with my other best friend and we have talked about doing to each other...but i could never see my self with a girl...because i just love boys...but what i am getting at is it wrong to want to do this stuff with girls...it's mainly with my best friend...it's just a experment..is it wrong to experment with her? she has ate a girl out before..i mean i'm not scared to do it and i don't feel un-comfortable caouse she is my best frined...my point...does any of this seem wrong?

((i don't want the stupid rood people to answer this...or jerks who think it's "nasty"))

love: the girl who doesn't know!!

Well its not exactly wrong, but like if you dont want people to think your bie i wouldnt tell anybody. And if u did eat out your bestfriend, wouldnt it feel weird, btw you's ever since, or maybe it could make you's come closer. Chances are you might like it and start to do it more and maybe turn Bi. Hope i helped

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I made my desicion but I dont know what to do I want to do I want to get put on the pill just to be safe but I dont want my mom to know about it I mean should I fake that I am sick and say I have to talk to the doctor privately what do I do I need help some one out there PLEASE HELP

Well if your talking about BC, my friend wanted them too and she has friends that are older then her , that could get the pills for her so she got the pills from a friend put them in a bag instead of the containor and tried to keep them hidden. Hope I helped!

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Across the street from me, an elderly couple sold their house and the people that bought it have two young boys, ages 4 and 7 I believe. They have asked me if I'd like to babysit for them and that's fine with me. I've babysat before but normally I'd do it free of charge. It's come the time where I'm getting older and I need to get money. I'll be driving in a year and my parents aren't going to be paying for my gas and car insurance. What would be a good amout of money to ask for? I don't want to be asking for too much. I'm 15/ female.

Usually its m wage. Which is like 5-6 dollars an hour. I babysat 3 kids for 4 hours and only got 20 bucks, so dont be surprised if its a low amount your getting paid. Hope i helped

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theres this girl i like a lot and i know she likes me and tomorrow she is coming over and its not like ive never kissed anyone or anything but i want someone elses opinion...what is the best way to get into a situation where you start kissing someone without just throwing yourself to them

Well since your not going out , watch a movie. Like reach over her for something and stop when your right infront of her face and do something stupid, silly . Lick her face or something.Ask for a hug get into the mood , turn the lights off or dim the lights. Hope i helped

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what are some good fonts for aim?? i have book antiqua now, but its getting boring

Try Arial, in a small font I liked how that looks, thats my font. Or try Georgia. Hope I helped

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Okay so here is the deal, I think I like this kid in my class but I have been trying to make him say that he likes me because I am like way to shy just to ask him because this is my first ever true crush and I am like really sure he likes me back but I am not quite sure.So how do I either ask him if he likes me or figure out if he likes me before telling him I like him?And do not say ask a friend to ask him because I am the shy and mean bad girl type that has trouble making friends!Any help will be greatly appreciated and I will rate fives to anyone who will give me a helpful answer!

Well you can ask him for his number? And if ur that shy ask one of his friends. You dont have to be friends with them just be nice to get the number. If your too shy and you dont want to call him then make a move or something ask him to go to the movies as 'friends'. Hope i helped any thing else just ask!! rate pleasE!

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ok me and this guy, jeremy have been hanging out. he's a year younger than me (school-wise) because he failed, and we met through my best friend.she and him are good friends, so yeah ;) well jeremy has a friend paul, that likes my friend ewelina... making sense? well the guys drink sometimes. everytime we hang out they are bored because they are sober and vodka gets them to express themselves?! haahaa... weird i know. well the i heard jeremy likes me so i startedmaking small moves o him, like laying on him and stuff and well yesterday he didn't do ANYTHING, AT ALL! then later on he called me while i was at my friends house, and i was hey who is this, he's like your're boyfriend. i was like oH the one that ignored me today? he saoid he didn't ignore me today and that he really likes me and he's nervous AROUND girls he likes. the only reason he said all this was because he drank a little. and then he calls ewelina, and they talked for 73 mins, exactly, haha. they talked about me. he likes me a lot, and he wants to change supposedly . he wants to get serious with me and his friends told me the same thing. today i heard they're going out to drink again and i called them and we talked then went to his friend paul's house. they were sober and we didn't talk at all, we just sat there (me,paul, jeremy, ewelina!) and then me and ewelina left and went to her house and then all of a sudden the doorbell rings. we answer it and its jeremy with 2 of his friends. then ewelina leaves and me and them go to the park to talk. they ask why we don't want them to drink, and i couldn't think of a good reason. then they were like to jeremy (his friends said) ok how about u dont drink on mon, tues, wed, thurs, and friday saturday sunday you can? how does that sound lisa(me)? and i was like i dont control him and he's like dude ill drink whenever i want. i really like the guy and i know him and my friend ewelina have had feelings for each other in the past and paul likes ewelina so thats why jeremy ANd ewelina never went out. one of jeremy's friends today metnioned that if paul was a good friend he's let jeremy go out with ewelina. she's my best friend and i loove her to DEATH but i don't know what to do anymre. she's not gonna go out with paul and i want to go out with jeremy and he knows that. so how do i get jeremy to stop drinkinking and how do i tell him and good reason to show that I CARE!!!!!!!????? and should I worry about jeremy and ewelina? i rate 5's for good answrers. thanks babes!

Sorry, that got REALLY confusing at the end, if you can maybe try and get it together a little and more understanding give me an inbox and ill be HAPPY to help you! sorry.!

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Okay well I used to have this really good friend, and he was really nice to me until one day I decided to call him and this is what I said,
me:hey!
him:hey.
me:whats up?
him:nothing really you?
me:nothing...
him:okay..
Me:So are you still going out with lauren or whatever her name is?
Him:yea
Me:cool...
him:Why r you acting like such a bitch?
me:What? im not?
him:yeah you kind of are
me:um...no not really
him:ok whatever.
---hangs up---

Then after that day he totally ignored me! He doesn't really go to school cuz he's home schooled so I never see him, but we used to be bestfriends...well to me he was. I was able tell him anything, and now he's being so rude to me. Oh, that's not all that happened. About 2 weeks ago I finally IMed him and was like..
Me:why do u hate me so much?
Him:cause...i do
Me:um ok? well, I didn't do anything to you.
Him:okay...

Then after he ignored me again!
I finally IMed one of my friends and told her wut was going on, and she IMed him and asked him why hes ignoreing me and all that stuff, and after he apologized. Now he's being mean to me again! Just now I IMed him and said hey! And he's like why are you talking to me? and i'm like why not? and he never responded. What the hell's going on, why does he hate me? I did nothing to him so what's he getting all mad about!?! Help I rate high.

{Oh, and yes I tried talking to him so don't say, "try talking to him" cause it doesn't work...just so yall know.}

It might be his girlfriend, she might not like the idea of him talking to you and stuff. Ask his girlfriend.

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ok, the other night, I stayed the night with my best guy friend. We have been flirting and hugging and things like that with no problem. But then we were laying together and we were doing a little rubbing and touching on eachother and then I started feeling weird like I...or we did something wrong?? I dont know why either....does any one know why that might be?

Well if you've never done anything like that before, thats might be why you felt a little weird, oh maybe because you like him and you'd rather do things better with him knowing you like him. Hope i helped

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OK im a female 14 years old. Last year i really loved this guy who didnt go to my school but we saw each other alot because he was best friends with my neighbor. Him and i went out for about 4 month for me its was a longest relationship i ever had and he was my first kiss and stuff and then we broke up because he thought i liked another guy well i kind of did but not really and when the guy i was going out with dumped me i didnt really care but then maybe a week went by and i saw him again and brought up alot of memories back but we werent together anymore. After that day i realized how much i want to be with him and how much he means to me. I called him and told him that me liking other guy wasnt true and he said okay and i dont think he cAred then i heard from someone he likes me againa then next time i saw him he didnt. I still liked him alot but we jsut didnt see each other at all over the summer. Well next year(this year) i go to his school and he is on 2 of my classes so i see him alot and everytime i see him i get the memories back. My biggest wish in this whole world if we would go out again then i will be the happies i ever been. Well i had a little chance before getting back together but now he is going out with this girl that he went out last year right before we went out and he dumped her for me but not they are back together. I dont know what to do because ive tried to move i had alot of bf`s after him when his first gf after me was liek a year after we broke up and ya well i want to get back with him together but im not sure if its possible so should i just keep on trying to move or keep on trying to get him back???? plz i really need help i like that guys for over year and a half now and i cant tell him that cuz he has a gf that im really good friends.

Ok well just to tell you that is really confusing, but i think i understood. I think you should definitly talk to him about it. Even thought your really good friends with his girlfriend, he should atleast know you still like him. And if he doesn't show that he cares you should definitly move on. Hope i helped !

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how do i turn my guy on or get him to go further than he usually does ? all he does now is to kiss me . he has been doing this for the past 3 weeks and since we meet like every day it's getting pretty boring . any ideas on how to speed things up or to arouse him or smth ?

Well first get him alone. Maybe on a bed or something or a chair or chouch.Then as you's are kissing just find your hand to his "below area". And if he seems to like it take it out, and give him some fun. Hj?Bj? Or you can when you's are kissing take his hand and put it up your shirt, or nibble on his ear or something. Or put his hand down your pants. Hope i helped anything else just ask

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ok .... welL .. mYy friend likes my boyfriend who i love sO0o much!! but thats not alL .. last year me and her both liked him sO0o he asked me out . we went out 4months broke up went out for 2months then they went out 3months broke up me and him went out and now me and him have been goin out for 3months and hes the oonly boy i have accually really loved ... now that she likes him im scared that she'lL take him from me like before. because them to always talk online and telL eachother EVERYTHiNG ... and i kinda get jealous because he doesnt telL me everything ... HELP ME ... Love, Lost

Well ohkay if your boyfriend tells your bestfriend and his x-girlfriend everything thats kind of wrong. Or hes telling her about how much he likes you thinking she would tell you. But thats still kind of weird what you should do, if your more of a shy type talk to him online too..start to tell him everything and tell him your kind of getting jealous and scared. Tell him you dont want to loose him because you love him so much! And you sometimes think that your friend might take him away from you, tell him how you feel and maybe he will open up. Or you probably might not want to do this but get back at him if he keeps telling her everything. Tell one of your x-boyfriends everything and start talking to them alot then he'll notice how much he cares for u and stop talking to your bestfriend. Hope I helped!

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thanks so much for ansering my question wow ur so nice lol

lol ANYTIME !! i love answering sex questions and love life so if you have ANY QUESTION AT ALL FEEl completely free to ask me

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