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Hi!!:P I'm Tabrisha, and I love to help people out. I am currently taken by a handsome guy named Toney(I wish you guys could meet him:)
But I'm trying to be on the flag team, stepping team, cheerleading team, and dance team and volleyball. I love a challenge.

But I love meeting new people, so feel free to email me anytime if you want personal advice or anything at all=)
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what should i do to convence my mom im ready to have a boyfriend

I must admit there's no way to totally "convince" your mom you're ready for a boyfriend, because if she's like most other moms, you'll always be her little girl.
This mostly depends on your age. If you're a pre-teen, under 13, then I can understand why your mom wouldn't think you're ready. When I was a pre-teen I thought I was ready for a serious relationship, but now I see I wasn't.
If you're 13-15, then I think that it wouldn't be too much of a problem to have a boy that's a close friend, but nothing too serious. If this is you, then you can try to make a deal with your mom that you two won't get too too serious, because I know she's not going to let you go into a serious realtionship at such a young age.
If you're 16-19, well I think that you could be ready to handle a relationship, and that you should sit down and talk with your mother about how you feel about the whole idea of having a "companion" or "close friend".(mothers don't like the word "baby" or "boyfriend" too much...)
And see if she can meet you halfway because even at that age, she's bound to set limits to who you can see and what you can do. But no matter what age you are, you can just talk to her about it. There's no convincing thats going to happen, but she'll be able to tell by the way you talk if you're ready or not.
Hope this helps some, and if you need anything, feel free to come back or email me.

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I have this friend that i talk 2 ,but he lives in louisiana and i live in Texas i cant talk 2 him becuz it is long distance. What do i do?

Well I don't have a lot of information to work with on this one, but I'll give it a try. If there is absolutely no way you can talk to him over the phone, then I'm not sure that I can really help. But if you can get in touch with him just once, get his address and mail him! Or just wait until one of you gets long distance available on your phone or gets a cell phone, hehe. If i misunderstood this question or anything, please feel free to come back or better yet, email me at lildiamyn_69@yahoo.com. Good luck!

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ok im good friends with this guy..we tlk all the time on the fone and hang out a lot! i like him a lot but im afraid to tell him...i dont think he likes me "that way" but he keeps sending me mixed signals and a lot of mi friends think he likes me.(especially mi mom)and thinks we would look so cute together! he is the perfect guy and totally meets mi stanstards perfectly! i really like him! what do i do?

i believe you should definitely ask him straight out. or you could tell him your feelings for him. i dont think you're a mind reader, hehe, so this would be the best way to do it.
i think that he really does like you. one big sign is that he's actually giving you some of his time!
the reason hes sending mixed signals, could be because hes afraid of rejection from you! you said you havent told him that, so how could he know that you really like him? =) you're waiting on him, he's waiting on you.....make the first move! =) hope this helps you out!

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My friend && I like the same guy. He just happens to have feelings for me. I really want to get together with him but wouldn't that be betraying my best friend? What should I do?

these situations can be tricky sometimes. i usually wouldn't recommend leaving your friend over a guy, but maybe you two can work this out. I'm glad you're concerned about her feelings.

you have to talk to her about this. if he has feelings for just you, then she may get jealous. it wouldnt exactly be betraying her, since he doesnt belong to her, but she likes him, and since he doesn't like her, that can run into some major problems.

talk to her, and ask her if it would be okay if you and the boy were together or something. if she says its okay, make sure shes telling the truth. let her know that you would never choose a guy over her or hurt her feelings over one.

All in all, if you don't want to go through all of this, you could just wait for the next guy! But this experience should show both of you where you stand when it comes to liking the same guy. Hope this helps!

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I have been wondering if the person you like or you keep thinking who'll end up with you in marriage would usually be the person you'll really get married to. Because in my situation, I've always thought that he'll be the one and don't get it wrong, I have deep feelings for him. But there's this another guy who last time cares for me but now i think not anymore. i just think. But I'm afraid maybe the person i think would be the one for me, wouldn't really be? I know it sounds complicated but it's really giving me a problem. Pls. help me.

Some of this depends on your age. If you're in high school, about to graduate, then there might be a chance that you and this person have so close a bond with, might stay with you until marriage.
But if you're in middle school or elementary, I'd have to say probably not.
Do you believe in fate? I do. I know it sucks, but you can't really pick the one to be with. Fate does that. I understand what you feel. You just have to bear with the cards you have been dealt now until the right person comes along.

Hope this helps you out any.
*Diamyn*

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Ok ive been single for 2 YEARS!! This is too long..especially being that these are supposed to be the best years of our lives. ive been living it up with my friends and thats great and everything; but its like something is missing. Im lonely and i think everyone knows loneliness isnt a great feeling. Nobody really like me..im like the girl with the nice personality, but not the looks...i have guys as friends, but thats about it. It seems like i wont have another bf until after high school. iS there anything i can do?? or do i have to just wait it out : /

I know what you mean=(
There is something you can do; but if its not the time for you two to meet, then things might not work out so well. You could try asking around. Don't be ashamed! Ask your friends if they know a nice kind of guy. If everything seems like it's not working, then I think you ay have to wait it out.

However, your wait shouldn't be too long, because there are lots of guys(just hard to find) that want a girl who's not full of herself, which you definitely are not...Just have hope that things are gonna work out! Hope this helps you out some, and I hope you do meet a nice guy!
*Diamyn*

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Well, So far alot of guys have turned me down. SO i asked my ex why he broke up with me, and he seyd "well, All the guys say you really need braces so they dont like you" .. i have 2 teeth on the bottom that are slightly crooked, but i cant get my braces on till July, whut do i do?!??!

Well, sweet, in my opinion, if i were you i wouldn't worry and stress myself out over guys who want you to look like some sort of supermodel or whatever. I know you may like him, but what if something else happened to you, like all of a sudden you broke out in a rash and he left you again?=O
I think you should keep trying to find that someone that doesnt care what you look like.
Now, I'm sure you probably feel "ugly" right about now(don't mean to sound rude)but if you just don't feel comfortable, then you may have to wait until July, and then you'll be able to show those guys you really are beautiful! =P
Hope this helps you some...
*Diamyn*

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is it wrong to love a baseball player thats a year younger than me?
*honest oppinion needed*
i rate high

If I had a quarter for every question like this... =P.(Just kidding)

To me, I believe that age isn't nothing but a number. Age has nothing to do with a person's emotions, and how they feel toward someone, so don't let this stop you from loving someone.

It does feel funny to think of yourself as being with a person who's younger than you, but it certainly isn't wrong. This is my honest opinion, and I hope that it helps you with whatever you need.
*Diamyn*

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Anyone know that internet game where you throw apples at the aliens?

If you're talking about the black and white one, then yes. It's called Yard Invaders.

Try going to www.robotduck.com, scroll down about halfway down the page, and you should see it.

It's a fun game to me, and I hope this is the one you were looking for.
*Diamyn*

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i am currently friends with girls that are always dating and everyone like them..even though they aren't that pretty..but still they get ALL the guys and guys never like me and makes me feel bad, most of the time guys only become friends with me just so they can get close to my friends and last saturday(at a banquet) i really really wanted to dance with this guy i liked, but my friend just was like "oh i will dance with you" even though she knew i liked him and now they are goin out..this problem makes me feel self consicous and that noone likes me..and i have really depressing days..so what my question is what can i do to get guys to like me for who i am and not my friends and what can i do about my friends? thnx in advance.

Your friend who knew that you liked this guy, she isn't a good friend at all, if she was she would try to introduce you to some guys so you won't feel so left out, because I'm pretty sure it was obvious.
So I wouldn't even try to talk to this girl. Take control, and get out and find you some guys on your own. Not guys that know your two friends well. You don't need these girls to ruin your fun! :) Hope this helped you.
*Diamyn*

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Me and my bf have been going out for a while now and his ex is trying to talk to him and acting like my friend then I have people telling she talks mess about me and wants to fight me.Well I'm not such an abusive person but I don't really know how to handle this.She keeps on trying to wear some really skanky clothes to impress him.He told me the way he feels about me already but I don't really know how to get this girl off his back. Please help!

She is something else!
You could try to tell him to tell her that he's not interested in her anymore. It seems the only way she'll leave you both alone is if she hears it from him. Tell him to ignore her and she might go away after a while.

But she still might spread rumors about you two because she's jealous, so be prepared.
Hope this helps!
*Diamyn*

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does anyone know any websites with good ringtones and a good price? and i have verizon, so one with ringtones that would work on a verizon phone. thanks in advance. and i rate 5s!

Even though I don't have a cell phone anymore, I always listen to ringtones!

You could try:
www.mobiledia.com
www.ringtonestudio.co.uk
www.mexp.com/files/nextel-real-ringtones.php
www.freeringers.net
www.coolringtones.com
If you google it, you'll find a lot more.

Hope this helps!:)

*Diamyn*

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so ive liked this guy forever-since the begining of the year..but he had a girlfriend until recently. hes liked me too but he had a really serious girlfriend (for a year!!) and then when he was single i had a boyfriend. now we are both single and weve been hanging out ALOT. weve kissed and held hands and he is soo sweet. hes always like callin me babe and stuff. and he told me to listen to some songs that remind him of me. hes just so sweet. well he told me he really likes me..but he doesnt want a girlfriend right now so we can be "close friends". what does this mean? hes not using me because hes just not like that..hes soo sweet. and i really like him. and we go to the same school. also, his ex recently started talking to me...and shes soo nice and still likes him...shes like making me feel bad for hangin out with him. but i dont know...what do i do?

He does sound so sweet!

Don't worry, hon. After coming from a serious relationship of about a year, I think he wants to be able to breathe before jumping into another relationship.
If he's had a serious relationship, then I doubt it that he's trying to use you at all.
About his ex-you shouldn't worry about her either. Unless you'll feel guilty for going out with him, knowing she still likes him(which happens sometimes).

If he's hanging out with you, then you're the one he wants to be with. So be close friends with this guy, and throw your worries to the wind!:P

Hope this helps you out!!
*Diamyn*

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15f- I like this guy (still). We went out for like two weeks in January then he broke up with methe day after V day! he and I were hanging out the Thursday. We did some stuff. I did it because I don’t want to loose him though. well he said he still likes me. And "he wants to be with me" I don’t know what that means. I don’t know what to do! I like him! he told me he hasn’t been with any other girl since he met me. I don’t know to believe that! he hasn’t talked to me most of this week and every time I do talk to him he’s like I’m busy or I’m grounded! he always tells me he loves me on the phone... and the other day he looked me in the eyes and said it! He told me last night and when I said I love you too he’s like no you don’t...? I don’t know what to think. He told me last night that he had to go to church at 6 this morning. And he said he’s getting grounded from his truck and phone. I don’t know what to think there either! But I had a panic attack the other night. It was because of him. because of texts he’s been sending to a girl He called her baby and asked if she was single. He told me later that she had a boy friend and she’s only a friend. Okay, well he called when I was flipping out (panic attack) I was crying. So I left my house in therain to think about him and what I should do. And he was like baby I don’t want to get off the phone with you until your okay! He sent me like 100 text messages and said I’m so worried about you baby and I love you so much! I’m not sure what to believe. I like him so much. I think I’m getting to the point were I like him so much I hate him. If u know what I mean! I wrote something in his column telling him I like him a lot (said a lot about 150 times. at the end I was like 'but I don’t have a chance anymore'. he responded "yea u do” I don’t know if that was to the fact that I like him (like him being sarcastic about), Or if it was him saying I have another chance. I’m not sure what to do! I like him so much! What should I do about him?! Please answer this with your most honest answer PLEASE! I need help with this guy... thanks...

Well, guys are a mystery in themselves.
This guy could really care about you. But it seems lots of guys have trouble deciding who they wanna be with, like us girls do sometimes.

As for the flirting incident, guys do love to flirt, just like us girls.
At first it sounded like he was just using you, but I think this guy does care about you, even if it's a little. If he was just using you, he probably would have left you for good by now.
When I can't figure out why a guy's doing things like that, I sit down and think about it from a guy's point of view. I put together all of the things I know of in his life that could affect this, and all of his other girls, and how he talks to them compared to me. I seriously think this guy still likes you in some way.

That might hurt your brain some, but you should get a better look at this guy. Then, you should go and talk to him, and tell him what's up. Ask him about the girl he was texting and why he wanted to know if she was single. Get all you want to know from him so your mind can be at ease. This is my most honest answer, and i really hope it helps you out some=)
*Diamyn*

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Well so. I really like/d this kid (Jimmy) and I really liked him he knows, and he liked me too, but I don't know how he feels anymore bc he dones't talk that much anymore. and his cousin knows all of this (and i've known both of them for like 5-6-7 yrs) and he wants to hook up, (they're both 17) like I do wana hook up with him, but i dont wana mess things up with Jimmy if there still a chance. But I have no idea what to do...any advice?

I hate being in these situations.
I think you should find out(by asking) Jimmy if he does still like you. He most likely still does.
You already know the other cousin does, so all that's really left is for you to figure out which you would like better.(Which one likes spending time with you the most, better looks, whatever your reason) Going out with two cousins isn't bad like going out with two best friends, so you have your time to think here.
Hope I helped,
*Diamyn*

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i am in dance and i have to wear 2 piece costumes. My stomach is kind of flabby and I have love handles. Does anyone know how to get rid of these? Also how to tone my inner thighs. If you have a diet and exersise program 4 me it would be appreciated. Thanks for the help in advanced.
p.s i hate running on treadmills and its to cold to run outide

I have those a little but it doesn't bother me much.
Since it's too cold to walk, which would've been my first suggestion, i hope you like to dance, because that's what i'm recommending!
Put on some of your favorite fast-paced music and dance! Try to use your abs a lot, because it will help flatten them and your tummy won't poke out so much.

Don't just move around- make up new moves and such. Use your muscles and break a sweat!
But if you know a little yoga, you can do some simple poses before you start dancing to help your muscles get loose and ready.
This should be fun, and if you drink lots of water everyday, you should see results in a little while.
Try not to drink more than 1 or 2 cold drinks a week, because these are the things that add to love handles and fat on your tummy.

Now, in between, when you're not dancing, you could just do some yoga or try this to help flatten your stomach(it won't really get rid of the fat, but thats what the dancing is for)

1.Lay on your back.
2.Pull in your tummy and squeeze your abs.
3.Use the abs to lift your hips off the floor.
4.Hold for a few seconds, then slowly lower them back down.

Your hips dont have to come very far, but it'll be easier with more practice. It's kinda fun, too!

But use all these hand in hand, and if you stick with it,I promise it'll work! =D

*Diamyn*

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I've been wondering for some time: why do you feel like you're in love, when you have a guy you've been with for a while, but when you find out he's been cheating or doing wrong, you lose everything for him, including what was supposed to be love?
I thought when you're in love you can't get over that special someone that quickly.
I was convinced I was in love with this guy, because I had never felt that way about any other guy. But when I found out he was cheating on me, I just got over him in one day, and it's just like I never had feelings for him before. It's like we never went out, and he's another guy in the crowd. Can you help explain this?

Female's feelings work in mysterious ways. I have developed a theory for this: Your mind and heart, that holds the chamber for your feelings for people, sweep your feelings for a guy that's done you wrong under the rug, not to be seen for a while. Sometimes they stay forever, and sometimes they work their way back to the surface, and you start to miss him and everything.

So it may be your soul trying to protect you from suffering with missing this guy.
This has happened to me before, and I pretty sure you should be thankful that you love yourself enough for your soul to try to shelter you from the pain=P

Hope I cleared this up for you!
*Diamyn*

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My boyfriend and me have been going out for like a week or so now and hes 2 years older. What is the farthest we should have gotten by now, im 14 and im just wondering if we are going too fast.

After about a week, I believe you guys should still be getting to know each other, and stuff like that. It takes a while for people to get to really know each other.

Now, an innocent kiss or hug isn't so bad;) but I wouldn't recommend anything farther than that.
You havent exactly said what you've done=? but anything past what i mentioned is kinda in the caution zone.
I'm glad to hear that you're concerned about this.
It's really what you feel comfortable with.
Hope I helped you some=)

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Hey everyone, I was just wondering, I've never really just 'hooked-up' with a guy, meaning the only relationships I've been in, they had something serious part of it. I've never done friends with benefits. I was wondering what are your views on fwb and 'hook-ing/up' like what are the outcomes? benefits? feelings for one another? thanks in advance, i rate well. :--)

Well, hmmm..
Friends with benefits is definitely a good thing if you pick the right guy.
I've only had one fwb and it was cool because we both knew that we were single but didn't want to be in a relationship, and we were very close friends, so we might as well, you know, become fwb.You do not want to become fwb if you don't have some kind of feelings for that person.

Benefits are that you both get what you want, and it might bring you closer. Sometimes the friendship lasts long, and sometimes it doesn't, but it all depends if you pick the right guy, and that makes it all worth it.

I knew that he wouldn't tell anyone.
Fwb is something that will be called slutty if a lot of people find out.

I've just 'hooked-up' with a guy before and that didn't work out.(nothing sexual) So others might not agree, but I give friends with benefits a 8.5, because nothing beats a good old fashioned relationship with all that.=)
You're very much welcome, and i hope I helped.
*Diamyn*

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HeY! i'm 16... (17 in 2 months) and i just started going out with a guy whos 20 years old... the thing is.. he thinks i'm turning 18... and i'm scared to tell him... because i dont want to loose him! what should i do?

well, i won't lecture you about the age or anything.
but tell this guy the truth before he finds out another way. make sure you include your sorrys and all that=P
if he's a keeper, then he'll let this one slide.
i've been in that situation, and even though i was scared, i told him, and he was okay with it.

Don't worry! Hope I helped.
*Diamyn*

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