I need some good christian centered advice on this question.
I have a good friend {has advicenators} and she is agnostic. I imed her and told her that being christian is the best thing I have done and shes like "its good that you have something to look up to when your down"{or something like that}. And I would like to persuade her to believe in god, but I want to sound respectful. please help me. If you want to talk to her. I will tell you her instant messenger name and tell you her name
Dear Friend,
If she is a true agnostic, and has really researched what she believes in, it may take more than just 'persuasion' for her to come to Jesus. Sometimes the best way that we as Christians can witness to unbelievers is through our actions and lives. If we live according to God and His Word, then people will notice and hopefully become curious and interested in what we have to say. People will wonder why we have this joy, though we live in the same world as they do with the same troubles.
I encourage you to continue to pray that God will open her eyes and touch her life, so that she will know of His love for her and realize that she is nothing without Him. I will pray for her, and for you as well.
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Hey. Okey so i tried typing this into a online translator but the sentence gets all screwed up..and it's not like its a homework or anything..i want to let this guy i like know that i like him. And you said you know french soo.. Anyway i thought it would be cute to do it in french since that's how we met..he was tutoring me :) anyway this is hwta i'd like translated : Iäm writing to let you know that i can't stop thinking about you. You are constantly on my mind. You are a unforgettable person with an amazing personality. I'd never be able to describe what i like about you..because that would take me forever.
Can you translate that?
THANK YOU soo sooo sooo incredibly much.
PS.Is there anything else you would like to add to make the letter to him better??
J'ecris vous fais savoir que je ne peux pas cesser de penser a vous. Vous etes constamment sur mon esprit. Vous etes une personne inoubliable avec une personnalite extraordinaire. Je ne pourrais jamais d'ecrire ce que j'aime au sujet de toi...parce que qui me prendrait beaucoup de temps.
I can not guarantee that the grammar is exact, but it's the best I could do.
Good luck!
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I have this guy friend and we are like best friends no dout but I knida really like him and everyone thinks he kindof likes me. I dont know if I should go out with him or not because his guy best friend likes me too and I dont want to ruin thier friendship or our friendship
Please Help::f/13::I rate high
If you "kinda" like him and he "kinda" likes you, that's not good enough. You should love someone before going out with them (or at least be close to loving them), otherwise it may very well hurt both of you when you finally realize that you DON'T love each other.
Advice (take it or leave it):
Wait until you're a little older to start seriously dating guys. Both you and them are going through puberty and hormones make life miserable. (besides, you can't get married for another five years anyway...might as well wait until there's a REASON to date!)
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im a 16 year old female and my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 months... we have had sex in the past btu today i let him take my anal virginity... and it hurt really bad... now i knwo the first time it will hurt that is just a given but will it always hurt? i want to do it again cuz the good feeling i got out of it was really good but the pain was really bad... will that eventually go away? i have one more question... i swore on my life i would never let anyone take my anal virginity but i let him to show him how comftorble i am with him and how much i love him but now im having the feeling somethings going to go wrong... am i just thinking to much because of the trust i put into him or what? im so confused please help?
First of all, you shouldn't have sex with someone to show them that you love them. If this guy really loved you, truly and deeply, he would've married you first.
My advice (take if or leave it, I don't care which) is to not have sex with him anymore. That "feeling something's going to go wrong" is probably related to guilt (even if you don't personally wish to label it that). Sex was created to be enjoyed between a husband and wife.
It might be a good idea to get some tests to make sure you haven't contracted an STD (sexually transmitted disease), because that may be another reason for your bad feeling.
P.S.
And yeah, it probably feels great, but can you imagine what it'll be like when you're with someone who'll be with you forever? (your future husband, for instance)
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im 14/f, and i really need help. There is this boy that I can't get out of my mind. Whenever I think about him my heart beats faster, and I get butterflies in my stomach. When I'm around him I can't stop smiling and I get nervous. His voice sends shivers down my spine and when he gives me a hug my heart soars. When he so much as looks at me I melt inside. he's cute, funny, sensitive, kind, caring.. he's everything.
Two problems though...
1. he has a girlfriend and it tears me up when i think about them or see them together.
2. he's my best friend...
I've tried to get over him... i just can't. What do i do? Should I try and tell him how i feel? Could this be something that will end our friendship?
Thanks to anyone who can help
You're probably going to hate me for saying this, but at least hear me out.
When I was fourteen (only four years ago) I went through EXACTLY the same thing. I loved this guy, he was the best on earth. After a year, I realized that he didn't like me, and he began to change (his personality). So what I THOUGHT was absolutely love, was just a very huge crush.
My advice is to just stay friends with him, because if he's happy with who he's with, then good for them. If you tell him how you feel about him, it may ruin your friendship, so it's best to just remain friends.
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ok i like this guy and i asked him out but he was like i like u alot but i rather jus be friends. but then like a week l8er he asked 1 of my friends where i was cause he needed to talk to me and it was a good thing, but i had left school, so he coundnt talk to me. what was he gonna say, it killing me and i cant wait till tuesday.
*comfused*
Why don't you just ask him what he wanted to talk to you about? I assume he's still on this planet?
As to him just wanting to be friends, take advantage of that. Get to know him better during this time, cause you can't even be positive that he's the one for you...don't force a relationship!
But good luck anyway :-)
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well i'm completely sick of being single! I want a real relationship with a guy who cares about me!!!!! but i cant find one... its depressing! I'm pretty attractive and guys like me.. but they dont want a relationship! I found this guy I REALLLLLYYYY like but he just got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship so I talked to him and he doesnt want a gf right now... thats understandable.. but he does like me... except lately he's been retarded!! Like his Text messages to me arent inviting me to hang out with him or anyhing.. he's just being rude! I dont know what to do.
First off, if he's being rude to you, then he's not worth it. A guy should respect you before you even give him a thought--a relationship is nothing without it.
Secondly, there's no "trick" to finding/getting a guy who cares about you...sooner or later that "perfect guy" will just show up. So, even if you reject it, my advice for now is to enjoy your singleness! There's so much that you can do right now with your life without having to deal with a guy tagging along and wanting all your attention.
It's a lot of work keeping up a relationship--it's not all hugs and kisses. Make lots of guy friends, and sooner or later you'll find the one who fits your needs and you can start becoming closer friends with him.
Sorry if I wasn't helpful.
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I have a boyfriend hes 15 and I'm 13. We love each other a lot. We've been togther for over 9 months. He always tells me how lucky he is to have me , how he can't sleep always thinking of me, hes even cried right in front of me because well I said something and it mad him cry, we can talk about anything, and he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. To everyone else in the world we probally seem like the greatest couple and we are. I'm completley in love with him. Do u think hes in love with me? Just wondering. But anyways he has a promblem. I love him and it scares me. I just want some advice. I want to help himb but I could never go to an adult for help because that would break his turst and I could never do that. My boyfriend cuts himself well he has about 3 times. The first time because his Father wouldn't let him call me and he said he couldn't take it. The second time he couldn't get me out of his head. The thrid well i'm pretty sure it was the same as the second reason. This scares me a lot and I feel resonsible. I would never break up with him because of this but i feel like this is my fault. He tells me its not and he recently promised that he will stop for me because he knows it scares me. I want to help but I don't know how. I love oh my gosh i love him more then anything. I'm so confussed and I need serious advice. He also just two nights ago admitied to takeing phills. I started to cry. What should I do? How can I help him without breaking his trust? Please give me some anwsers I don't know who else to turn to . Thanks you more then you'll ever know.
If you really do love him, and he does continue to cut himself and take pills (which by the way is NOT your fault), then you need to go to an adult. It will break his trust, perhaps, but in the long run it'll be better for both of you.
You wouldn't be talking to an adult because you want to "tell on him" or get him in trouble; you'd be helping him because in this situation it's better to have an adult involved.
Hope this helped a bit.
P.S.
If he ever does begin to blame you for anything he does to himself, you need to reconsider your relationship with him. Still be there for him as a friend, but you both may not be ready for a relationship yet. You have your whole life ahead of you, not to mention many years of highschool left.
Take it slow.
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this one guy (my ex) got really annoying after we broke up and he broke up with me but he wont leave me alone. he is so annoying he tells me that he hates me all the time, he has even punched me many times and he doesnt get in trouble for it. my parents know that he is bothering me, but they dont know how much. there are so many problems in my life right now i just wanna cry some plz help me
Report him to the police, and let your parents know what's going on (how bad it is). There's nothing personally that you can do about him, so get some outside help.
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there is this guy i go to school with and he is popular. All the girls think he's so cute. (including me)He is a hottie very cute. Recently i was in the liabary and he walked up to me and asked me out on a date i was shocked out of mine. I could not understand why he asked me because i am not one of the SKINNY, PARIS HILTON, popular brand name, expensive close wearing girls. I shop at target. I was so flatterd i said yes quickly. we went out on our date and it was heaven. He kissed me passionatley and asked me to be his girl freind. Just when i thought this was the man of my dreams he turns to me and says.... "Oh yeah about tonight and our relationship don't tell anyone about us. I'm a private person and i would like to keep this to my self." I was so offened by this i could not speak.I just nodded my head and went along with it beacuse he was still so cute. When he sees me in puplic it's like i'm thin air he says nothing to me. As soon as his friends are not around it's all hugs and kisses. My question is could it be that this guy is embarrassed to be seen with me?
This may sound bad, but...
First off, he kissed you passionately on your first date, and doesn't pay attention to you in public? Okay, this may sound horrible, but it sounds to me like he's taking advantage of you--he may just want you for your body at the moment.
1) he kissed you and THEN asked if you'd be his girlfriend (he knew you were going to be weak at that moment)
2) he's popular and KNOWS that he can get any girl he wants
On the other hand, he may really like you, and simply wishes to keep it secret because if you DO break up there won't be as much gossip.
I would advise you to be careful about this guy...but, as others have said, you should talk to him about how you're feeling. Communication is a key to a good relationship!
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Alright, these past two nights I've been crying myself to sleep because of my boyfriend.
I RARELY get to see him because we go to different schools, maybe once or twice every TWO/THREE months. :/ But we talk on the phone like every 2-3 days, and on the computer a lot.
So, a few days ago..Thursday, I was expecting him to get on the computer, but he never did..and I didn't call, because, I dunno. i just hate calling when he doesn't tell me to right at the moment..even though he told me I can call anytime. So, I don't know..I just started crying because I was so upset and stressed out from not seeing him anf stuff. Tonight, he hasn't gotten on, and I started crying again. I think a lot of you won't understand really, because you don't know how much I miss him, you have to know the situation better.
But..what do I do? Because, he hurts me a lot. I mean, this has happened multiple times. But like..a couple days after this goes on he finally comes online and says 'hi', and I CAN'T be mean to him..or tell him that he just made me cry. I don't know why, I just can't do it. It's like emotional abuse, and i just don't think I can take it anymore.
First off, I DO know how you feel--I've had a boyfriend for a year now whom I only see once a month if even that often.
If he said you could, definitely call him when you get the chance. Sometimes guys just don't take the initiative when it comes to contacting people.
If, on the other hand, he's simply ignoring you (isn't really interested in talking online or the phone) or if he's abusing you in ANY way, perhaps you should rethink your feelings for him.
Maybe tell him how you've been feeling. Communication is one of the most important parts of a strong relationship--if you can't talk to him about things, it'll be harder in the future.
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Ok me and my boyfriend have bene dating 3 weeks and we hug intimately and stuff and I lvoe him..adn I get urges to kiss him..I really want to..but the teachers cant see...cause my parents will know..and only my mom knows about the guy and my dad is not clued in at all...and i really love him and i want to kiss him..but im also afraid..i mean im a very pessimistic, paranoid, frightened, depressed type person...i know he wants to kiss me..so what should we do
I'll understand if you get upset at what I'm about to say, but...
Consider this a bit:
1) it's up to you whether you want to kiss him or not...but realize that the more guys you kiss, the less special/enjoyable it becomes
2) after only three weeks, you know that you love him? are you sure it's not just a passing thing like most relationships are? (I'm not trying to contradict you, by the way)
I didn't really answer your question, but I hope you at least understand what I'm getting at.
Good luck!
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ok there is this guy. We both liked eachother, we used to talk to each other all the time and he used to tell me all the time that he loves me and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. he said that he wants to be alone with on valentines day. And so i went to my dads house to be alone with him and we were talking in my room and listening to music and sudenly my dad bursts in my room and starts swearing at him to get the fu*k out of his room. i got really upset so i left. And the guy was still talking to my dad and when he came outside by me he came over to me kissed me and said that i need to go talk to my dad because he is going crazy in there. I said no because he wont listen to me(+ he was drunk so that wouldnt help)and he said that my dad thinks that we had sex and we didnt. The guy was really mad. He looked at me in front of all my friends and said: I dont even look at you that way let alone have sex with you. Im sorry but i started to cry. why would he day he want to be with me and then say he dont what up with him? And whats up with my dad??? please help me i could use it thank you. i rate high.
It may have hurt for this guy to say that in front of your friends, but that's AWESOME!
That proves that he respects you, and that he wouldn't take advantage of you. When he said he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, did you consider marriage? Perhaps he really does love you, and that's why he didn't have sex with you...he wants to wait until you're truly his and he can't lose you!
This guy is definitly worth fighting for...don't throw it away.
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I really like this guy Mike. But now one of my best friends Amy,is going out with him. For the last 2 months I've been saying i havent though because my friends would make fun of me, because i havent known him for that long. Yet Amy has known him for two years. Its true that when he asked her out she said yes because she didnt know i liked him, but im still jeaouls and mad. Should i say anything to her? Should i tell her i dont like it? do you think she would break up with him? what would you do?
Personally, I'd probably just very gently tell her how I felt about him, at least so she understood what I was going through.
The right thing to do is probably just to leave it though. If Mike is happy with Amy, and Amy is happy with Mike, then good for them! Life, unfortunately, isn't a fairytale all the time...and Mike's not the only wonderful guy out there. Besides, nobody says you can't still be friends with them both! :-)
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i cry all the time. and im sick of it. i wish i could stop but i cant, i dont know what to do. i want it to be so that i dont cry at all. or not every day atleast. i feel so weak and helpless when i do. is there any way for me to stop or am i just stuck with it forever? i know this is a stupid question to ask but i really need help with this...
This may sound like a stupid answer, but it may also be your age...you didn't indicate how old you are (or if you're even a female), but most girls go through a "crying period" and it goes away after some time.
In the mean time, try doing things that you enjoy, spending time with people who lift you up instead of dragging you down...and if nothing really works, maybe try counseling--it's not just for crazy people you know! ;-)
Hope it all works out.
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Why do guys care so much if a girl has big boobs and butts? they don't even care about if your pretty or about your personality?
1) not all guys only care about big boobs and butts
2) initially, most guys are usually attracted by a girl's looks, but in the long run it's personality that wins out
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Hey Guys... I'm 17 Years old... and I've had unprotected sex with my boyfriend who ive been with for 5 months... I had my period the first of this month and it lasted about 5 days... and thats pretty normal... But my boobs are starting to hurt.. and I feel like I'm getting fatter... I'm scared.. is there any way i can be pregnant???
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Most likely you're not pregnant, but it wouldn't hurt to get a test.
Sorry to say this, but truth be told: if you didn't want to get pregnant, you shouldn've have slept with the guy (i don't care how much you love each other...you ever heard of marriage?)
While you're at it, you might as well get tested for STDs (sexually transmitted diseases)...that's more likely than pregnancy.
Hope everything turns out well, and if you are pregnant, don't worry...you'll probably make a wonderful mom!
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I like this guy and he likes me, but we both are too shy to ask each other out. I have decided to make the move-how can I ask him out? When should I? What do I say!
This isn't the answer you want, probably, but it's the best I can think of:
It's usually better to let a guy ask you out...even if he's too shy right now, if he really likes you, he'll get around to it! Guys HATE pressure--but you never know, this one may be the exception.
P.S. If you ARE going to ask him out, notes, messages on AIM or the phone, or asking through a friend are the WORST possible ways to do it. He should hear it from you--in person--even if you don't feel confident right now. You'll be fine!
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There's this girl named Maria. She's a good friend of mine, and today she got in deep trouble with our Health teacher because she gave answers to someone else, and hes failing her for the marking period with a 50. She said she's tried to commit suicide before, and she's going to do it again. Should I tell somebody? Thanks. =]
You definitely should! If someone's life is in danger, it's time to call in the "adults" and try to find a way to help her. She'll thank you for it someday!
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Well- My boyfriend and I have been dating a few weeks now, and i was needing some help. he was talking about this the other week- he wants to make out.. i'm 14 f. What should I do? He would be my first one? what if I mess up? does anyone know and techiques to help the guy get into it? what do i do to make him know i'm into it.. i'm scared.. ugh please help.
You're not going to want to hear this, but I want to say it because it's true...so ignore me if you hate it!
You're 14 and you're going to kiss your boyfriend. That's so exciting! Just please consider this before "making out" with him:
1) You have only ONE "first kiss" to give to someone...are you positive this is the person you want to share it with?
2) You've got a LOT of time to find the "perfect guy" (which is what most girls really want)...wouldn't it be totally awesome to give HIM your first kiss?
3) If you're going to kiss him, please keep in mind that most guys really like to get physical...so if it's only a kiss you want, let him know beforehand. Otherwise you may be in trouble.
It's okay if you rate me badly (or don't rate me at all, either way). Sorry if I got you angry for answering your question.
P.S. One more thing: you've only been dating a few weeks...kissing is so much better and enjoyable when you do it with someone you REALLY know and love, not just the first guy who asks (remember that you may have more than one boyfriend in this life, and kissing won't be as special if you give that part of you to every one of them).
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