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I like this guy and he likes me, but we both are too shy to ask each other out. I have decided to make the move-how can I ask him out? When should I? What do I say!
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This sounds sorta like something that happened to me. But I didn't know the guy liked me- so it was just him who was too shy to ask me out even though he knew I liked him. We never went out though. But anywayz..... sorry.... back to your problem. I think that you should call him on the phone, that way, since you are shy, you won't have to ask him out to his face!!
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Depending on your age you'll want to approach it a certain way.
For high school or beforehand, if you're both shy, the best way to do it is to ask them if they want to do something, hang out, whatever, without friends. You don't have to call it a "date"; it's just you two having fun. If you have to make this move, expect to have to make other moves when you're ready to step up the relationship further.
In college and past, if you know he likes you, just straight up ask him out; he likes you, so you KNOW he'll accept, there's no reason not to just go up and do it. Remember, you're shy mostly because you expect a refusal; if you know there won't be one, you should be able to screw up the courage to do so :x
If things get awkward because you're both shy, communicate! This is the biggest hurdle to a successful relationship between two shy people. You need to be totally open about what you're ready for, what you really want to do, what you have problems doing, what you fear, whatever...if you aren't, neither of you will know what the other is okay with, and you may never screw up the courage to do what both of you really want.
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since you are both shy tell his friend to go tell him that you like that guy this guy will be encouraged and he will ask you out,because the boys should ask not the girls so you can't go ask him.
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I would just slip a note into his locker but if you dont want to do it that way then ask him on the phone. but that is if you arent shy then do it in person go to the movies or something like with a bunch of friends and pull him aside and pull the big question on him!-trix (i wish you luck)
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This isn't the answer you want, probably, but it's the best I can think of:
It's usually better to let a guy ask you out...even if he's too shy right now, if he really likes you, he'll get around to it! Guys HATE pressure--but you never know, this one may be the exception.
P.S. If you ARE going to ask him out, notes, messages on AIM or the phone, or asking through a friend are the WORST possible ways to do it. He should hear it from you--in person--even if you don't feel confident right now. You'll be fine!
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Maybe during lunch at school. Make sure hes not with his friends, and just casually be like, "Hey, lets hang out sometime." DONT say: "Lets go out." Big no-no. Lol. Only do this when you are 100% confident in yourself.
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Go up to him and say "do you want to go out on saturday or something?". When ever you have enough curage to do it make the move. If you can't do it to his face theres always a note or aim and you can always have a friend go and set stuff up if you are that shy.
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