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Boyfriend.
Alright, these past two nights I've been crying myself to sleep because of my boyfriend.
I RARELY get to see him because we go to different schools, maybe once or twice every TWO/THREE months. :/ But we talk on the phone like every 2-3 days, and on the computer a lot.
So, a few days ago..Thursday, I was expecting him to get on the computer, but he never did..and I didn't call, because, I dunno. i just hate calling when he doesn't tell me to right at the moment..even though he told me I can call anytime. So, I don't know..I just started crying because I was so upset and stressed out from not seeing him anf stuff. Tonight, he hasn't gotten on, and I started crying again. I think a lot of you won't understand really, because you don't know how much I miss him, you have to know the situation better.
But..what do I do? Because, he hurts me a lot. I mean, this has happened multiple times. But like..a couple days after this goes on he finally comes online and says 'hi', and I CAN'T be mean to him..or tell him that he just made me cry. I don't know why, I just can't do it. It's like emotional abuse, and i just don't think I can take it anymore.
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i know exactly how you feel, my boyfriend is the same way. for a while, i wasn't allowed to see him because of my parents, but i now can and he can call me and stuff now (which he couldnt before) but he NEVER does. and we barely see each other either and he always tells me he will get online, but never does. and he told me the same thing that i can call whenever i want to, but i dont want to because i dont want to because he didnt tell me to or because i dont want him to hurt me again. i cry all the time.. i know this isnt really advice, but im just letting you know taht you arent the only one and that i share your pain
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Sweetheart, I hate to sound mean or non-understanding, but how can you two have a real relationship if you never see eachother? Two to three months? That's a long time to wait to see your boyfriend!! And you go to different schools? Talking on the phone or on the internet is not enough to keep a strong relationship going. You have to see eachother and hang out together and stuff. I think you two should break up. This type of relationship will never work.
*Hope I helped!!*
-Miss Emmy Boo-
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Aw hunni you deserve so much better than him. I know it'll hurt because you will never get to see him but carrying on in this relationship will just hurt you even more. He is messing you about and it isn't fair on you. Dump him and start looking for a new guy, preferebly someone who lives nearby or is in you school. I'm sure once your single again you will have loads of guys lined up wanting to ask you out. Good luck hunni and remember no man is worth your tears, the one who is won't make you cry.
Claire xx
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I think that you should tell him how you feel. He won't take it offensively if he really likes/loves you. Just tell him that it hurts you. Besta Luck
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oh gosh, hun, thats bad, I was in a situation like that before only he wasnt my bf but we were SO close it coulda been. but see, what happened was exactley whats going on with you, ...i was attatched to him, I was his little dog, he could say stuff to me, but I couldnt to him, I was afraid to express my feelings towards him and i was like his little dog...me and him lived an hour away from each other and HE drove...I didnt drive, yet I would go down to where he lives every weekened just to go see a movie with him and that was that. He would never come up to see me, and he would get mad at me if i needed to change plans cuz he lived so far away...hunny your completley attatched to him just like I was...what made me get over it, was , I started noticing how he treated me...he was allowed to do certain things and I couldnt. and then he just start started fighting with me...we fought so much that I blew up at him and told him I was tired of being his little dog and tired of being tricked into stuff. We didnt talk for 2 months..I called him back on christmas just to wish him well and he said everything was perfectly fine, so i called him back on the 27th of december and he was the BIGGEST asshole...he was acting just like he always did...only going 2 months without talking to him...i realized I didnt need to be treated like him...I hung up the phone and that was that. I feel SO relieved that I did that...i know what your going through hunny you just see to be able to see what he is doing to you..until then, theres not much you can do....
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then maybe you shouldnt be together if its hurting you that much.
communication is KEY in a realtionship
Hope I Helped!!!
:)
Always There;
*KeLsA*
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He may just have been like banned for a few days or something.
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Don’t get mad but the truth hurts.
Long distance never works. You don't even know if he is cheating on you. My question is what's the big deal in calling him? Would you rather call him and be happy or not call him and fall asleep crying? Try to hang out with him more and talking yea with out talking and trust a relationship is a waste so I would do that more.
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Well love is complicatied. I'm in love and I would go crazy if I hardly saw my boyfriend. Talk to him if you love him and tell him how much it hurts u because your hardly togther maybe youto can work something out. Or maybe a lot of things are going on his life maybe he needs a break.. but just talk to him. Good luck and smile
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As far as I know, abuse would be intentional. He may just not know that you're upset. To him, his long absentses might be fine and if he doesn't know you're hurting... then how can it be abuse?
If you told him how you feel then he may care enough to adapt to your way of doing things.
If on the other-hand, after talking to him, you two may have a different philosophy when it comes to this. So one of you either adapts to the other or you end it. Simple.
Simple answer, not as simple to do I understand. I just think this may not be abuse. It it's a difference of philosophy then I'm pretty sure it wouldn't count as abuse.
Anyway good luck and I hope this helped.
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How about, for once, you actually call him? I think thats a great idea.
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First off, I DO know how you feel--I've had a boyfriend for a year now whom I only see once a month if even that often.
If he said you could, definitely call him when you get the chance. Sometimes guys just don't take the initiative when it comes to contacting people.
If, on the other hand, he's simply ignoring you (isn't really interested in talking online or the phone) or if he's abusing you in ANY way, perhaps you should rethink your feelings for him.
Maybe tell him how you've been feeling. Communication is one of the most important parts of a strong relationship--if you can't talk to him about things, it'll be harder in the future.
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well, if he told you that you can call anytime well then.. call.. since he told you to. and well.. I have a boyfriend that goes to a differnt school to.. so i know how it feels not getting to see him alot more.. but i see mine more then you.. but i think that you should just call him because you really should be w/ him more.. if he doesnt have time for you i think that's not a very good boy friend.. sorry i hope i helped..
Jackiieee
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