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sorry its long, i'll rate 5's
hey you guys, i have a friend that doesnt like any of my other friends. After she meets them she just judges them and tell me all the negative things that she assumes of them. I am very picky about friends so of course none of the crap she says is true cause their all carefree FUN people. Shes the only one of my friends that is boring and dull. When i try to hang out with someone else she tags along and its really bothering me. I have other people to hang out with besides her, and obviously she doesnt cause she doesnt like anyone. I try to avoid her a lot but she still finds me. I can tell she is annoyed by me but still tried to hang out with me cause she has noone else. What can i do about that? i mean i cant talk to her about it cause im too nice. (link)
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Come to her as a nice and caring friend (if ofcourse that accurately describes you in this situation) and ask her to tell you honestly how she feels. Make her feel like she can trust you and you really care about her feelings.
If you can't work it out and she still does things that annoy you, then you may have to end the friendship unless you want to go through the annoyance forever.
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I got My best friend Nicole a job at the same place i worked. I introduced her to Danny (my crush). She called me the first day of work and told me that she told Danny that i liked hiim. I was so embarrased but i let it go. Some weeks went by and Nicole stoped speaking to me. I expressed my feelings about the situation to another co-worker. And word got around that I thought Nicole was being wierd. Later on that day. I got a Message on my cell phone. It was Nicole calling me all types of nasty names. She told me that i should stop spreading rumors about her. So I *69 her right away. You would never guess who picked up the phone. It was Danny. It was his home telephone #. When i confronted her about the situation she acts like it is all my fault. And i'm making up things. Is my so called best friend playing me for a fool? (link)
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Signs point either to she's dating him, or that it's an inoccent missunderstanding (like they're friends or he happened to let her use his phone).
My advice is to talk to them both, look at whatever available evidence there is and decide from there. I wouldn't jump to conclusions though. Use your best judgement.
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ok one of my best friends has really strict parents. theyre making her go to military school cuz she got one D on her report card! shes leaving next year and i dont know if i can take it. shell be at school all week except for the weekends. i dont know what to do shes the only person that makes school a little more fun. im really sad. how can i get over this? (link)
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Keep in contact with letters and however else.
Otherwise, distract yourself as much as possible with other friends and activities.
Just remember not to get so distracted, or that you avoid it so much because of the pain, that you forget how good a friend they are all together. It's happened to me and I hate it.
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Ok me and my boyfriend have bene dating 3 weeks and we hug intimately and stuff and I lvoe him..adn I get urges to kiss him..I really want to..but the teachers cant see...cause my parents will know..and only my mom knows about the guy and my dad is not clued in at all...and i really love him and i want to kiss him..but im also afraid..i mean im a very pessimistic, paranoid, frightened, depressed type person...i know he wants to kiss me..so what should we do (link)
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If a teacher in question cares enough and a has a somewhat personal relationship with your parents (IE they talk to your parents if they see little signs that may worry them) then they may just tell your parents.
Otherwise, the great majority of teachers have too many students to get so involved with their personal life, or they believe it to be none of their business. It's a rare teacher that over-steps their bounds because they see you kissing.
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So I'm totally in love with this person and that person loves me too... and I want to put together a CD of music sort of saying how i've fallen for them. Any ideas on songs for the playlist? (link)
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My best advice would be to search for lyrics by artists/performers this person likes and then look into said lyrics and go from there.
Makes much more sense to use music they like, not music they wouldn't... know what I mean? Unless ofcourse you find a song that says something you want to say perfectly regardless of whom it's by; one you have a special feeling about.
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Alright, these past two nights I've been crying myself to sleep because of my boyfriend.
I RARELY get to see him because we go to different schools, maybe once or twice every TWO/THREE months. :/ But we talk on the phone like every 2-3 days, and on the computer a lot.
So, a few days ago..Thursday, I was expecting him to get on the computer, but he never did..and I didn't call, because, I dunno. i just hate calling when he doesn't tell me to right at the moment..even though he told me I can call anytime. So, I don't know..I just started crying because I was so upset and stressed out from not seeing him anf stuff. Tonight, he hasn't gotten on, and I started crying again. I think a lot of you won't understand really, because you don't know how much I miss him, you have to know the situation better.
But..what do I do? Because, he hurts me a lot. I mean, this has happened multiple times. But like..a couple days after this goes on he finally comes online and says 'hi', and I CAN'T be mean to him..or tell him that he just made me cry. I don't know why, I just can't do it. It's like emotional abuse, and i just don't think I can take it anymore. (link)
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As far as I know, abuse would be intentional. He may just not know that you're upset. To him, his long absentses might be fine and if he doesn't know you're hurting... then how can it be abuse?
If you told him how you feel then he may care enough to adapt to your way of doing things.
If on the other-hand, after talking to him, you two may have a different philosophy when it comes to this. So one of you either adapts to the other or you end it. Simple.
Simple answer, not as simple to do I understand. I just think this may not be abuse. It it's a difference of philosophy then I'm pretty sure it wouldn't count as abuse.
Anyway good luck and I hope this helped.
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im almost 15 and theres this guy thats 19 that ive reallly liked for a while. i dont know how to get over him, and he already left for college.....
i dont really know what to ask but if anyone has any advice thatd help
thank youuuu (link)
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If you think he has feelings for you also or that he may be open to a relationship with you then try talking to him and persue it. If you're brave enough and can handle it, then it could open-up into a long-distance romantic relationship. And if it's serious enough then maybe you two could see each other face to face visiting and such... then... just see...
But if you don't think you're strong enough for the long distance thing then I'd just move on. I know it's not easy but lean on your friends and try meeting other people to hang-out with and get in the groove again.
Good luck.
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I have a project for History Latin America which is due Wednesday this week. I basically have no idea how to start writing it or how even to write a draft.
I've tried everything from using my brain to think of possible ways to do this assignment but I just couldn't do it.
Here's the question pertaining to the Latin America project....
Should we or shouldn't we have a lieutenant governor in New Jersey? Present both sides. Also, the pros and cons of lieutenant governor.
Please reply soon and any help from all of you will be great. Thanks! (link)
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Well the first thing to do is to study the idea. Find out what a Lt Gov. does. Then look into the state of the government in New Jersey as well as things on civilian levels. Look anywhere you can and see how NJ having a Lt Gov. would effect different situations in New Jersey from the state of the government to how it will effect the people and all situations that a Lt Gov could possibly effect. I'd also look into how Lt Govs. have effected other places to more fully expand your knowledge of the subject.
Take plenty of notes in your research. When you have all that important info written down and in one place then read it over, emerse yourself in the subject and learn it.
Then ofcourse you begin writing from there. Keep the notes on-hand for reference if you need them. Write the introduction first (to explain what the project is about and to catch the readers' attention).
Then take one specific issue and write your heart out about it. Depending on how many words you need in the project over-all, that first writing could be a paragraph of 10 lines or several pages of paragraphs. I'm guessing since it is a project that you'll need to delve into each detail of the issue and write it out as clear and concise as possible.
And then you take another issue that is created by the Lt Gov. question and do the same. Keep doing that until there's nothing else to write about. And there will be your project.
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Ok I have this friend (we'll call her K) and were really tight and all. And April 2004 she introduced me to the guy she liked (we'll call him J) that lives in our neighborhood. Yes, I thought he was cute. Well this October she hooked up (only made-out) with him for about an hour. And J got my # from one of his friends so we started calling each other almost every night and saw each other on like sat.'s and fri.'s and now since last Wednesday we are going out. Yes she is in love with him and let me inform you right now the only reason probably why she likes him is because she thinks he's hot. And J and I have a very strong relationship and he does not like her at all. I know this because his attitude towards her. They aren't really friends but she always talks to him on the internet and J tells me what K says about her asking personal stuff about what we do...its pissing me off sooo much. Its none of her damn business. K knows that I know shes in love with him its she just exaggerates it soo much. Like on her advice column! And don't worry I am NOT a bad friend because I asked K before J asked me out, that if we do go out if it would be ok with her and shes like "I don't care" And I know she meant it. Because I was like "are you sure?", "you can tell me" and once she found out we were going out like on Fri. she wanted to explode she was mad at me! and then I was like I can break up with him if you want me to for our friendship and then like 5 mins later K was all like, "oh, don't if your happy I want you to be!" and she meant it sincrely
So what should I do?
thanks in advanced & I rate high, and sorry for it being so long! :) (link)
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If you and your boyfriend don't like what she talks about to him then I'd suggest you get him to talk to her about it. She may be more inclined to respect his wishes since he's the one she has the conversations with. If you say it to her then she may feel like YOU are intruding in THEIR friendship, and that will probably strain things between you two more.
If he talks to her I'd suggest him being sensitive yet firm. He can't give her any wiggle room to get out of it but if he's too agressive then it could hurt her and make her angry and then end up straining your relationship with her.
Also he should be careful that she doesn't think that it's all you. He should approach it so that it's between her and himself; that he doesn't feel comfortable when she behaves certain ways around him because he's seeing you.
And if all else fails, if she loses it, then he could switch to full firmity (still, not being mean) and tell her that if she doesn't quit it then HE will ignore her until she stops. This will give her time to cool off and think about it then maybe she will come around. This way, HE is the one not talking to her, NOT you (you could still be her friend) so that your friendship isn't directly effected unless she makes it an issue. Also, I'd refrain from discussing it with her at all as that may just cause an argument between the two of you- you could tell her that it's between HIM and HER and that you aren't getting involved.
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hey, well i had this blackhead on my nose and stupid me picked it and now theres like a scab type thingie there is there any fast home remedy i can use to get rid of it, i heard after shave like kills the bacteria or something or toothpaste? any others?
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I did a project on acne back when I was at school. I remember clearly that it's fine to pull off your black-heads because they're basically dead pimples and won't spread or anything. (For future reference, do not pick off any other kind of acne or it will spread- use acne products on those).
When I take them off the scar usually goes-away within about two days.
I'm not sure how to pick them off without leaving a scar. You might want to look into those... I forgot what they're called... you put them om, they stick like bandaids and then you pull them off. They're for face blemishes like that. You might want to look into those; I'm not sure but they might do a more clean removal of black-heads.
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Hey. WeLL, I have a lot of stress on me right now. I have a math project and a book report to due, and I only have 3 more days tp finish including today. The book report is not only writing the book report, but you have to make a cover for it, reading notes, web organizers, etc. And in the math project you have to make graphs, research, solve problems, etc. I really want to make staright A's this quarter, and I think that if I don't complete these 2 assignments that it will bring my grade down, and everytime I think of that I have emotional breakdowns where I keep on crying, and I can;t control it becuse I keep on thinking negative without thinking positive like I should be doing. Can anyone help me get through this on a positive note. I'd really appreciate it. (link)
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I've been in these situations. There's plenty of advice but the only thing that works for me is positive thoughts from others and one simple piece of advice:
Find enjoyment in the work. Make yourself like what you're doing in some way. Enjoy it so much that you just have to do it.
Good luck and feel better. I've been there and I know how hard it is. I really hope you feel better.
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im 16 in high school this year we had a new history teacher.im dislexic and he always picks on me about it and sends me out of every lesson since september.for reasons that are pathetic like asking questions too loudly.on friday he sent me out of the lesson within 3 minutes.i dont know what to do,i like the subject its interesting but im thinking of dropping it because of the teacher.what shall i do?shall i drop it?pleese reply asap (link)
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Stick with it if the subject interests you. Don't give that teacher the satisfaction of running you out of there.
I'd suggest talking to a guidence councilor. They're trained to be sensative to you and should help you out greatly.
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