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Best friend in love with MY BOYFRIEND!
Ok I have this friend (we'll call her K) and were really tight and all. And April 2004 she introduced me to the guy she liked (we'll call him J) that lives in our neighborhood. Yes, I thought he was cute. Well this October she hooked up (only made-out) with him for about an hour. And J got my # from one of his friends so we started calling each other almost every night and saw each other on like sat.'s and fri.'s and now since last Wednesday we are going out. Yes she is in love with him and let me inform you right now the only reason probably why she likes him is because she thinks he's hot. And J and I have a very strong relationship and he does not like her at all. I know this because his attitude towards her. They aren't really friends but she always talks to him on the internet and J tells me what K says about her asking personal stuff about what we do...its pissing me off sooo much. Its none of her damn business. K knows that I know shes in love with him its she just exaggerates it soo much. Like on her advice column! And don't worry I am NOT a bad friend because I asked K before J asked me out, that if we do go out if it would be ok with her and shes like "I don't care" And I know she meant it. Because I was like "are you sure?", "you can tell me" and once she found out we were going out like on Fri. she wanted to explode she was mad at me! and then I was like I can break up with him if you want me to for our friendship and then like 5 mins later K was all like, "oh, don't if your happy I want you to be!" and she meant it sincrely
So what should I do?
thanks in advanced & I rate high, and sorry for it being so long! :)
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look dont brake up with him if you dont want to just stay with him and to your best friend just act normall dont push her away all cuz your going out with j couse then she might get really mad stick with him and her be like before but that you have a boyfriend is really cool , what i would do is talk to her if shes really ok with this and just bug her til she tells you how she really feels thats what i would do i hope everything is gonna turn out very good for you !!!!!!!!
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it sounds like you need to talk to this "k". she is obviously a bit jealous that you are going out with "j" and she doesn't want to admit it. you should to her find out what the problem is! i think she honestly does want you to be happy but can't hide the feelings tat she has very well. Jealously can kill the closest relationships cos its something nobody can control.The only way youcan calm it is by talking to her.
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If you and your boyfriend don't like what she talks about to him then I'd suggest you get him to talk to her about it. She may be more inclined to respect his wishes since he's the one she has the conversations with. If you say it to her then she may feel like YOU are intruding in THEIR friendship, and that will probably strain things between you two more.
If he talks to her I'd suggest him being sensitive yet firm. He can't give her any wiggle room to get out of it but if he's too agressive then it could hurt her and make her angry and then end up straining your relationship with her.
Also he should be careful that she doesn't think that it's all you. He should approach it so that it's between her and himself; that he doesn't feel comfortable when she behaves certain ways around him because he's seeing you.
And if all else fails, if she loses it, then he could switch to full firmity (still, not being mean) and tell her that if she doesn't quit it then HE will ignore her until she stops. This will give her time to cool off and think about it then maybe she will come around. This way, HE is the one not talking to her, NOT you (you could still be her friend) so that your friendship isn't directly effected unless she makes it an issue. Also, I'd refrain from discussing it with her at all as that may just cause an argument between the two of you- you could tell her that it's between HIM and HER and that you aren't getting involved.
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well... i would expect more from her! she is jelous.. she is confused doesnt no wat is going on! talk to her about it. ask her her true feelings honest feelings not like oh i totally want him to b ur bf i dont care ask her as a friend. after awhile the jelousy will go away!
HOPE I HELPED!
x ♥ x ♥ Michelle
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Hah ignore her. She doesn't know what she wants. I think she's jealous of what you have and just wants a man. If you asked her several times and even suggested sacrificing your relationship with "J" and she still said it was ok for you to go out with him, then ignore her newly found anger. If she gets angry with you again because of this, then call her out on her flip floppy attitude. Sure no man is worth a friendship, but if the friendship is kind of shaddy then it probably would have broken up soon anyways. Don't sacrifice your relationship with "J" if you really like him. I guess talk to her one more time, and for the last time. Call her out on her attitude and if she says its ok then its got to be ok. Who knows whats goin on with this chick. Girls have more issues then they like to admit.
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