Ok,i have this friend Lilly. I really like lilly..she was there when i first moved and stuff. We had a group -- Me Lilly Sarah Ali and Chelsea. We all split up. I tore away from the group,because although lilly was nice for a while,she became mean and rude,and she ignored me.Well we were okay/good friends for a while. But we got into a fight..and it all went down hill. i feel like now that im not her friend,theres something missing in my heart. she used to be a true and nice friend..but we fought about something so stupid..Ex of what she dose-- Ali called me and i think Lilly was over. Ali asked me if she could call me back in 30 min,and i heard lilly say "more like 5 hrs" in the back round. It was kinda rude. and Lilly has done a lot more mean things. So i dont no why i feel missing inside!! Should i say sorry to Lilly? or should i just leave her?I dont know why i feel this way
*i rate to 5*
*sorry this is so long*
No offense honey, but she sounds kinda bitchy to me. I think you should just leave her, you said yourself that shes mean. I know that it is hard, but try to forget about her and get some friends that will truly respect and treat you properly, the way you deserve.
This thing missing in your heart could be because you are missing that closest friend space that lilly filled. Just be yourself and you'll have that space filled in no time!!
However, and this may be off track, perhaps your longing for a boyfriend. Does it sound right? If so, smile, be confident and yet again yourself and they'll be queing up to date you. There are plenty of hot guys out there, just waiting to be able to snap you up lol.
Good luck honey and stay strong
Claire xx
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Sorry its a little standard but i will try to make it quick, My mate likes a guy, who only likes her as a friend. She acted like she didnt mind but i think it hurt a bit. Anyway, today i found out he likes me, but i only like him as a friend, plus he is a year younger than me. so 3 questions, do i tell her? If so how do i tell her? and how do i let him down gently?
I think that you should definetly not tell her. Since nothing is going to happen between you, it would only hurt her more to learn he liked you so I would advise that you keep it to yourself.
When letting him down, just tell him that he is too good a friend to risk losing if the relationship turns sour. I would also advise you not to mention your friend when you do this, as this may cause him to get angry at her for being partly the reason for stopping a relationship happening between the two of you and he may then be horrible to her. Then she'll get hurt more, so don't risk this happening.
Good luck
Claire xx
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Hi my name is jess i like this kid named Egore and i think he likes me to but the onl problem is that hes black i dont mean to sound mean but my dad says i cant date black people i mean i really like him but i dont want to disrespect him ehat shoul i do.
Your dad has a really racist way of thinking. Black people are just the same as white people, we just look a little different. Maybe you should make your dad watch Lion King 2, it's very anti-racist if you think about it lol. Take a stand and go out with Egore. If you like him then it doesn't matter if he's black or white. Be strong hunni. In this matter you are right and your dad is wrong. It is not you but your dad that is being disrespectful. Be strong.
Good luck
Claire xx
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how early can you tell if you are pregnant? I am 16 and i am on the patch, i got off my regular schedule of the patch a month ago or so. The past three days i have had nausia and stomach aches, and they feel different than i have ever had. I also just have a gut feeling i might be pregnant, i jsut bought a pregnancy test tonight, and i plan on takeing it toamrrow morning. IT is one of those 5 days before your missed period, and today is fri and i should be getting my period on sun,mon, or tues. I can't wait though, im really nervous. and i am wondering if it does come out negative tomarrow, if it could be wrong just because of how early it is?
now also, do i tell the guy i'm sleeping with? because i am afraid he will not like me ne more, and i am pretty sprung off of him right now. i mean i know that if i am pregnant its early and i could probably take a pill, but either way i am not haveing a baby so is there even a need to let him know? he is jsut gunna get all worked up about it and upset, and he ahs a lot going on right now as it is.
Okay, I'd recommend you take the test first before you start panicking about the what ifs. If it is negative, good for you, but if your period does not come by Tuesday, I would recommend that you take another test just to be on the safe side. If it is still negative, I would recommend that you go see your doctor just to make sure that nothing is wrong with you.
However if it is positive then your going to have to start planning for the future. If you can't tell your boyfriend, tell someone you are very close to like your Mum as you are definetly going to need someone to support you. Think very carefully before terminating your pregnancy. That is a living thing inside of you and killing it is nothing short of murder, wouldn't you think? If you had the baby, you could always give it up for adoption if you didn't want to keep it. It's up to you, but think your options through or you may do something that you later regret.
As for telling your boyfriend, I think you should. If he ditches you, then really you deserve so much better. Surely you have other friends and family who respect you more and will be able to support you, even if it means you have to build new bridges between you.
Good luck hunni
Claire xx
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In gym we were playing cricket and I hit the ball. I ran to touch the base and then ran back. When I came back I just stood there. All these boys were screaming at me...yes SCREAMING!! I coulcn't understand them so I just stood there like an idiot while they yelled. Does anyone know what you're supposed to do after you hit the base and run back?
Lol you'll find that you keep running back and forth until you see someone coming with the ball who will try to touch it at base to get you out. When you see that the ball is coming near, then you can stop running. The more runs between base and home you get, the more points you get.
Have fun
Claire xx
ps. really soz if this is too late to help you
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well i have a best friend you can call her marie. we went walking one day and she is young but,her x saw her and walked with us they started flirting i dont mind that but then he told us he was going to show us his old hang out it was a old shed he started telling her to give him a lap dance and she did well then i walked off because i got scared she would go to far i did not know what to do .so i went back 2 the shed and they were laying by an old boat with her shirt off.i had a cell phone with me so did she i tryed to call her and tell her i was going to leave her but he took her phone out of her pocket.the only good thing was he brought protection.
also she almost did it with her boy friend to night.please tell me something i can tell her or,should i tell an adult??
Well hunni as much as you disagree with what she's doing and you are so right to disagree, in the end it is her choice as it is her body and her life. Tell her how you feel about this, about how it is wrong and all the consequences it can have ie. she should could become pregnant, catch an STI, etc. Remind her that theres a lot more ways that her and her boyfriends can do that are a lot safer but just as much fun like kissing and hugging.
Hopefully she will listen to you and stop it, but if she doesn't at least make sure she knows enough about it to keep herself safe. There are plenty of websites that will be able to get information about sex such as www.likeitis.org.
At the end of the day, you are the more sensible one. Whatever you do, don't let her pressurise you into doing something that you don't want to do. Then at least you'll have the comfort of knowing that when she does realise how stupid she's being, you'll be there to help pick up the pieces.
Stay strong
Claire xx
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My boyfriend and I had sex a few weeks ago and I was due to get my period today. I still haven't gotten it. We didn't use a condom, but we didn't finish either. He was only in me for a few seconds, not even a minute. Is there any chance that I could be pregnant? I'm showing all my regular signs of PMS, but still no period.
Yes you could be, even if it was for a few seconds. The best thing you can do is take a pregnancy test and hope for the best. You should be able to get one from your local chemist. Though I wouldn't mention it to anyone until you are sure just in case you get people excited or upset that your pregnant and then it turns out that you aren't.
Good luck hunni, I hope everything turns out okay. Remember if you are pregnant, it's not the end of the world and there are lots of people all around you to support you. After all thats what friends and family are for.
Claire xx
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I am a student and find things to remember difficult while studying as i think i have very less confidence in myself . Please help of what do i do ? I constantly feel that i wont remember studied things in my exams. What do i do?
I'm studying too and I always find mind-mapping or spider diagrams help me remember a lot easier than just reading things, though that can work also.
You should maybe try listening to Eric Delay, he's a hypnotist. He's very good, I've got one of his cds. Not only does he help you study, he makes up feel more positive and confident about yourself. The website is www.hypnosis.netfirms.com
Apart from that, I have nothing to add to Michelle's good answer, so good luck and I'm sure you'll do great in your exams.
Claire xx
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it is my 16 birthday and i dont know what to do so if anyone can help i relli need it thanks verry much. i rate high
go paint balling, it's fun :-)
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Where do all you advicenators get all your answers?
I could say our hearts, but if u ask a question like that you arent lookin for a real answer are you? Arent I smart, kidding on. We get them from Satan, he's the only one that makes sense lol
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hello i hope you can help me i upset somebody some how i cant even remember how now .its a long story but every time i go out with my friends this person in particular is really nasty.im quite a quit person and i am not at all agressive and this situation is really getting me down .i want to say something back but this person is really nasty and i know there just looking for a fight i hope you can help me as iv got no one to turn to.
Why don't you try get one of your friends to talk to them and find out whats bothering them about you? Then hopefully you'll be able to solve the problem. Alternatively, you could just try to organise to go out with your friends without that person, therefore avoiding all nastiness.
Hope your okay, don't let this bitch get you down.
SMILE!!!
Claire xx
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okay, so i was at zootopia last nite, and i think i did something wrong. i threw my bra at jesse mccarthey. and well i was drunk and he seemed pretty annoyed at what i did. like its not like i'm ever going to see him again but it was jsut do strnage because i was there with my boyfriend. and he wants to break up with me.
Well first of all lmao at what you did lol. Though Im sure many of us would have done the same lol.
Besides you need to explain to your boyfriend that you only did it for a laugh and its not as if theres any chance of you two getting together. Isnt your boyfriend being a little childish? Just tell him to grow up and forget about it.
If he still kicks up a fuss, I think you should maybe consider ditching him for someone who can actually take a joke.
Still lmao
Claire xx
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Ok theres this boy and were really close weve been friend forever and like in the last month we've get together. Hes so sweet and i dont know what id do with him. Today my ex asked me out and i told him and i also told him i told him no and he was like well speaking of things like that...my ex emialed me today. I didnt say anyting and he was like she had a tumor. But i guess they got it out. I told him he should go see her and he was like i was gonna ask you that cause i wanted to make sure it was ok with you. Then we were talking about it and i said id love you and i trust you and then he was like no matter what? and i said yeah. So what im asking is you dont think hes like liking hes ex or anyting? and what do you think he ment but that whole no matter what thing? you dont think he would cheat on me? like i feel like a foul writing this cause i say i trust him but i do...
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My evil friend seems to think there is a possibility that he will cheat out of sympathy.
However personally I think he sounds like a guy who really loves you and the fact that he asked your permission before going to see her is a sure sign that he truly cares for you. If he were planning to cheat, there's no way he would have told you about it in the first place.
In this situation your just going to have to trust him. If your still really worried, you could offer to go with him in order to support him. If he accepts your offer, obviously there is no chance that he will cheat. However if he declines, he may cheat but hunni I really don't think he will.
Feel free to come and help me murder my evil friend, lol
Good luck
Claire xx
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So prom was last night I went with the guy I like but as soon as his ex girlfriend came to our table he stood up to talk to her and she kept comming up to him all night. And I got upset because I was supposed to be his date and he was like we are just really good friends and he was like all touchy after I got upset what is up with that? And I also think I have a crush on my friends boyfriend because hes so sweet and im an old fashion type of girl and he opens doors for us and stuff and I dunno what should I do? I rate high!
Okay the touchy attitude makes me suspect that maybe there is something going on between them. I think you should ditch this guy altogether!!
But I sooooo would not recommend trying anything with your friends boyfriend. He may be sweet but he is hers and what kind of friend would you be to cause her heartache because you have stole her man. Obviously thought I may have taken it the wrong way and your intention is to wait till they have split up, then wait a few months after that and be sure to okay it with your friend before you do anything to save any arguments happening.
Good luck
Claire xx
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i'm currently a senior in high school (counting down the last few days before graduation!) and over the last year, i've met an incredible friend. i met him last august, but over the last nine months, we have grown to have the most complex friendship i have ever had in my entire life; we immediately connected, both having similar interests in literature, music, opera, coffee, etc. he is a year younger than i am, thus when i leave for college, he will be in his last year of high school.
he is currently going through a lot of emotional pain and stress in his life. i admire him him so much for all he does; his parents have just recently separated and he takes care of his two younger sister. i see how he takes charge, takes on more responsibilities than either of his parents do. in addition, he has grown to be an extremely central part of my life.
i'm going to be a good five hours away from my friend next year. he isn't very close with many other kids in our school, or even outside of school, thus i know our separation is going to hurt him (as well as me!). i keep telling him i'm going to come back and visit, that i want to see him and i'm looking forward to seeing him in the school musical next year.. he insists that once i'm gone, i'm not going to come back; he insisted the other day he feels as though he is inferior to me (which i don't understand, considering he is extremely smart, did much better on his sats than i ever did, and has a musical gift).
i have seen how he has lost a lot of people in his life; he refrains from expressing much emotion around me because i believe he is afraid to let me in, afraid of losing me.. how can i assure him that i will keep in touch, that i will come back, that he won't lose me? i tell him constantly that he means to much to me, that he is unlike anyone i have ever met.. but i fear i tell him too often and it all sounds so fake..
I guess that he is uncapable of seeing that you will be back probably because of all the loss and pain in his life, he obviously thinks that it will be the same with you.
Just trying to not change your routine with him might help. Seeing him more than often may make him think that your trying to cram in every last moment you can get with him as you will not see him afterwards. Seeing him less than often will make him think the same. Just act normal and don't talk about college that much.
Then when you do go to college make sure to phone him lots etc, etc. Alternatively if you really want to reasure him, leave something that is very precious to you with him and that you will definetly come back for. That will help persuade him that you are going to come back.
Good luck, hope he finally believes you
Claire xx
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No matter what i tell myself to do. I can't do it. I like this guy. I say to myself I'm going to go say hi to him, but when i see him i can't. I feel weird saying hi to someone that i don't have eye contact with. what do i do to get him to want to talk to me and look at me in the eyes not stare at me when he thinks that i'm not looking. what do i do?
P.S ~ he doesn't have s/n
It's just nerves hunni, it happens to everyone. What you need to do is get one of your friends who knows him to call him over for a chat. If you haven't been introduced, get your friend to introduce you both and then he will have to look at you. Then he will probably start chatting to you and you can take it from there.
If you already know him, before your friend calls him over, agree on a topic that she'll talk about so that your prepared. Then let her talk to him for a while about it and then eventually tell her to ask your opinion. Then he'll hopefully respond to you and you'll be able to have a chat with him.
Either way, you'll be a little closer to him and hopefully next time you see him, he'll smile or say hi. If he doesn't, pluck up the courage to do it yourself. He won't laugh or anything, he'll respond to you. That way you'll become closer.
Be brave hunni, good luck
Claire xx
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okay so im best friends with this girl. we always get into really stupid fights and stuff and she ALWAYS talks about me behind my back, or even when im looking straight at her. tons of people in the school hate her and always ask me why im best friends with her. she also treats me like crap, uses me, and walks all over me...everybody tells me that. except for some reason i keep making plans with her. ive never really said anything bad about her, except when we got in this huge fight last week. i was talking with her on the phone with her boy-toy (this guy who shes obsessed with whos just usuing her) and then i say brb and i set down the phone and when i come back i hear her saying to him "omg shes so annoying she acts like 2 different people like when shes with me shes like omg i love you bff and then when shes around the popular people shes like eww i hate you" (and ive never done that...and its not like theyre the popular people we're really good friends) and then i confronted her about it the next day and she denied it, then i told one of my good friends (who hates her) the whole story, so she bitched her out for me...then she comes like storming into our class and tries to bitch ME out...and we made this huge scene so then we didnt talk for 2 days and everyones like to me good job she treated u like shit dont make up with her (even tho when we get in fights like we make up the next day) so then she called me like the night after our fight (it lasted a few days) and she was sobbing and like asking for forgiveness so im like ill think about it...then she was talking shit about me more the next day and i was just watching her and she knew i was watching so it pissed me off..so we kinda made up but we dont talk anymore..should i just forget her completely or start hanging with her again?
Hell yeah forget her. She sounds like a right bitch and the fact that everyone thinks this too is a sure sign to get rid of her. Read over your question as if you didn't write it, would you really want someone like that as a friend?
You deserve so much better hunni and I suggest you ditch her and start hanging about with your real friends who respect you properly. I know it's hard at first cos people like her are good at telling you what you want to hear when you need to hear it and then go back to being a right cow to you. Be strong hunni and don't let her talk you round.
Good luck
Claire xx
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I have an eleven month old colt. (Uncastrated male horse) He is almost completely shed out (lost all baby fur) and there is one thing that troubles me. He is a pure Quarter Horse, but he has a white spot on his stomach. (About eleven inches from his sheath on the side of his barrel) His lineage gives no evidence to why he would have this spot – he's pure AQH. This is his lineage through his great-grandparents:
Great Grand Sire: Bay, right-fore coronet white, stripe. No other markings.
Great Grand Dam: Gruello, left-hind sock, blaze. No other markings.
Grand Sire: Sorrel. No markings.
Grand Dam: Chestnut, right-fore stocking. No other markings.
Sire: Black, stripe. No other markings.
Dam: Sorrel, left hind sock, blaze. No other markings.
Colt: Sorrel, both hind stockings, blaze, [odd white spot]. No other markings.
Because he has this odd white spot on his barrel, he cannot be registered. The AQHA has strict rules and regulations about this, and he can't be registered because of the white spot. I thought he would shed the spot out when he lost his baby fur, but now that he's almost a year old and has lost his baby fur – he still has the spot. My question is, what is this spot from? It's not a saddle sore scar (duh! He's never worn a saddle), it's not a scar at all, so is it a recessive gene? Why was my colt afflicted with it?
Thanks!
If all his ancestors are true breeding, ie. have the dominant gene like you have described, then there's no chance that he can have the recessive gene. So really, I'm sorry, but it's just a case of these things happen. Sometimes we and animals just happen to get things that are normally not found in our family, eg. I have hazel eyes where as my parents have brown eyes. It's probably nothing more than the animal equivilent of a freckle, so it's nothing to worry about.
Soz that you can't enter competitions, that's crap. However remember you do have a beautiful young colt though and are very lucky to have him.
Smile anyway
Claire xx
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So my name is Danielle, and I'm terribly in like with this guy. I just realized yesterday night that I might not ever get over him... The one thing I hate the most is him, but hes the one thing that can put a smile on my face within seconds of his presence. I've tried mutiple times to show how that I care for him alot..and that I like him. He only wants to be friends though..or thats how he shows it...actions speak louder than words correct? I don't know whether I should just be there for him or just move on and erase him from my life and consider him just another stranger ...
NO you can't just move on if he makes you feel this way. Yes actions speak louder than words but remember guys are very good at hiding their emotions and don't like to show them as they may make them look less macho or the girl may turn them down etc, etc. Guys aren't as good as us at picking up signals. The only way to know for sure is to tell him. I know it's risky and you may get hurt more, but if you never ask him you'll always regret it. What if you meet up 10 years later and suddenly he says "hey i used to fancy you". You have to go for it, for you. Think of how you'll feel if he says he feels the same way. Go on, just pluck up the courage and tell him.
Even if he does turn you down, at least you'll know for sure and you can start moving on, as it's always easier to move on once you know for definite that you've not got a chance. Believe me, I know :-)
Good luck. I really REALLY hope this turns out well for you
Claire xx
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Any tips so i could look,well,prettier?
i have fair skin,big brown eyes, long eyelashes,kinda bushy eyebrows :(,medium sized nose,oval face,brown hair,I want a WHOLE make over this summer! but until then,could someone give me tips? thank you!
Why don't you try plucking your eyebrows so that they're less bushy? Try using eye liner on your bottom eyelid and dark brown eyeshadow to really make your eyes stand out. If you do that, just use a clear lipgloss or vaseline. It's best only to concentrate on one feature at a time or otherwise you may end up looking like a clown.
If you don't think your eyes are your best feature but your lips are, concentrate on them with lipstick and lipliner. Then keep your eyes simple.
Good luck hunni. Remember real beauty comes from within.
Claire xx
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