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love and hate relationship?
okay so im best friends with this girl. we always get into really stupid fights and stuff and she ALWAYS talks about me behind my back, or even when im looking straight at her. tons of people in the school hate her and always ask me why im best friends with her. she also treats me like crap, uses me, and walks all over me...everybody tells me that. except for some reason i keep making plans with her. ive never really said anything bad about her, except when we got in this huge fight last week. i was talking with her on the phone with her boy-toy (this guy who shes obsessed with whos just usuing her) and then i say brb and i set down the phone and when i come back i hear her saying to him "omg shes so annoying she acts like 2 different people like when shes with me shes like omg i love you bff and then when shes around the popular people shes like eww i hate you" (and ive never done that...and its not like theyre the popular people we're really good friends) and then i confronted her about it the next day and she denied it, then i told one of my good friends (who hates her) the whole story, so she bitched her out for me...then she comes like storming into our class and tries to bitch ME out...and we made this huge scene so then we didnt talk for 2 days and everyones like to me good job she treated u like shit dont make up with her (even tho when we get in fights like we make up the next day) so then she called me like the night after our fight (it lasted a few days) and she was sobbing and like asking for forgiveness so im like ill think about it...then she was talking shit about me more the next day and i was just watching her and she knew i was watching so it pissed me off..so we kinda made up but we dont talk anymore..should i just forget her completely or start hanging with her again?
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Just forget about her. You need someone to treat you like that. You obviously have friends who don't talk shit about you and are actually your friends you don't need her. Nobody needs friends like that. Obviously people know that because it sounds like a lot of people hate her. Honestly if I had a friend like that I would just tell her that I don't need someone to be a complete bitche to me and talk shit behind my back when they're supposed to be my friend. If she calls and does that apology crap again just be like no I don't want to hear it. You have tried you have stayed friends with and put up with her shit long enough it's time to move on and let her find someone new to treat like shit. You don't need someone like that in your life just remember that.
Good luck and I hope it all works out
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Hi, I think you should just forget about her totally because she's not your friend. I mean friends don't talk about each other and call their best friends liars. There's a movie just like this and its so weird. This girl(just like you)has been best friends with this girl forever and they're both popular and the girl would always deny it and they would always make up but the next day she would totally diss her and talk about. Anyways, move on because best friends don't do that.
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Forget her! She really doesn't seem like a good friend. What kind of person acts like your best friend, and then talks about you behind your back?! Maybe she's taking advantage of your friendship because she thinks you'll always be there. Well you can't keep giving her second chances. You don't need a person like that in your life, because she's only going to mess you up. Just forget about her, and maybe she'll move on. She doens't seem like a good friend to me at all. Hope I helped.
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Forgive her? are you kidding? It may feel like since you were best friends its wrong to just ditch her but YOU DONT OWE HER A GADDAMN THANG! forget her and enjoy your other friends...trust me the only reason she's asking for forgivness is because she needs you to be her friend and give her power...move on and dont waste your time...
good luck!
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Hell yeah forget her. She sounds like a right bitch and the fact that everyone thinks this too is a sure sign to get rid of her. Read over your question as if you didn't write it, would you really want someone like that as a friend?
You deserve so much better hunni and I suggest you ditch her and start hanging about with your real friends who respect you properly. I know it's hard at first cos people like her are good at telling you what you want to hear when you need to hear it and then go back to being a right cow to you. Be strong hunni and don't let her talk you round.
Good luck
Claire xx
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ugh i have a friend like this they're so OSM arent they >:O .Well forget her tell her u no what she dose and you dont like her for it..just dont talk to her maybe you can be cool with her but not friends.
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What you need to do is to stop hanging out with people who are bringing stress and negativity into your life. Don't compare yourself or compete with others for friends. If you want to have genuine friends be a friend. Life is too short to go through it with those who are going to take you down. Find friends who love you in the good times and bad times and will be there when you need them.
If you try to become beautiful from the inside out you will have more friends than you can use and they will be genuine. Strive to grow as a person; plant roses and you will reap roses. Plant weeds and you will reap weeds.
DrDavid
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