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Q: I dont know why but recently i have been getting mad about alot of things especially things my boyfriend does like when he forgets to call me or when he gives me one word answers and when he talks to another girl, i am constantly getting mad,i have tried talking to him about it is this normal or how do i improve my anger issues? :(

It's normal to get angry sometimes as long as you feel justified for your feelings. Does he give you reason to worry and not trust him? For example, is he flirtatious or is he just being friendly? If you feel like these issues are his fault then you should perhaps talk to him about it. Don't make it seem like you're attacking him, but instead think of it as a misunderstanding that you're trying to resolve. Remember that communication is key. Once you both are on the same page then things will improve.

Q: i am from india
My life is hell now...i m failed in class 11th
Everyone thinks i am a player bt i dint even want someone to be in a bad situation....my friends hate me now...,my parents are always shouting on me, my boyfriend always talk very rudely...everyone think i m selfish, i m mean..n no one love me thats why i dont want to live.

People do love you. Don't ever think that they don't. You have to look within yourself to find the answer. Why are you failing classes? Is it because you aren't concentrating and doing what you need to do? Also, no one should talk to you in a disrepecful way so I think you should voice your opinions to your boyfriend and let him know that you don't like it. Just try to believe in yourself and your life will improve. I wish you the best in everything you do!

Q: Hello, I am a 17-year old female. I weigh 118 lbs, I'm not fat but my stomach is a lil chubby. I'm going on a trip in 1 month, what are some things that I can do, so my stomach can get a lil' flatter in a months time. Something thats going to really work. I'll rate anything useful. thanks

Crunches work really well because unlike situps, they really target the abs specifically. Try doing some of them by lying on the floor with your knees up and your arms to your sides. When you do a few of them, you'll feel the burn in your stomach and know that it's working.

Q: I'm bored! I have no friends and I have no life. Well, I have a boy friend. But he's always busy with work or something. I play in a band. But practice is like once a week. every other day of the week, i spend sleeping all day and it really depresses me. I have a puppy, but she can't go out for walks until she gets her rabies shot. My bike is broken, and i can't afford to fix it... even if i could, It's too cold to go out riding. I MISS SUMMER =( I don't start college until next weekend. So help me get through this last week, please?

Try using your imagination to find something fun to do. For example, make up a game, or do an art project. Or you can try writing stories and then drawing pictures for them, which takes some time.

Q: I feel really depressed about stuff I don't like and thinking about the future . . .

I'm a really hyper happy person who makes you smile and such but when I get home, I'm depressed

I think and think about the stuff I don't like

I can't tell you though :|

sorry :|

I cry about it and sometimes (well mostly) I tell myself its stupid that I'm thinking about it and such . . . but in my head I'm really confused or I can't even do it right, things I messed up in life

My confidence is starting to drop and if I get sad during school it will affect my friends and family that it'll bother them and I don't want to be a burden or an annoyance.

Tell me what should I do to get theses umm. . . I don't know "worries" affect other people

Thxs if you have me advice I really REALLY appreciate it ! :)

It sounds like you're thinking about your life too much. Don't stress about the future because it will drive you crazy. Try talking to someone about it. Surround yourself with people that make you happy so that you won't be surrounded by negativity.

Q: well like okay. im going out with this guy and me and him are relly god friendsss. and now everything is like awkward between us and i hgave secong thoughts about thiss. i relly need help.

but pleaseee dont tell me to break up with him.

i want everything back to normal and i just dont know anymoreeee. =/

helpppppp ?

It seems like now that you guys have made it official, it's a little awkward, and thats normal. But maybe you shouldn't take it so seriously. Remember that apart from being your boyfriend, he's also your best friend. It's ok to joke around with him and still treat him like a best friend. Maybe that'll take the pressure off the relationship a little bit. Give it some more time, and hopefully you guys will warm up to eachother.

Q: i have a friend shes my mate of 7 yrs online pals then we meet face to face 4 yrs ago our familys meet i just want to know i thought friendship was a 2 way thing were u could say we once were like sisters then in the last 2 yrs shes changed and its allways me ringing to check on her n her family and then she always has excuses when i ring there it hurts like hell as she is the only friend i "trusted" and now i feli like im a used rag can anyone understand and help me do i just let friendship go as i cant handle the hurt its like i get kicked in face all time now please can someone help with advice for me im glosing it and i cant stop crying as it hurts me s much

You should find out what the problem is. Just ask her straight up why she doesn't call you as often as she used to. Be specific. You can even ask her if she still wants to be friends at all. If she seems uninterested, or like it isn't a big deal to her, then she probably isn't as into the friendship as she was before. If it hurts more being friends with her than not being friends at all, I suggest you move on. If you want, you can tell her that you tried being her friend but she doesn't seem to be returning the favor, so you won't try anymore. Hopefully she'll be honest and tell you whats up. Good luck

Q: 16/f...my best friend lately has been the cause of many arguments and fights between her, myself, and our other best friend (i'll refer to her as A). however, she doesn't realize this. instead she explains to me that, i don't ever stand up for myself and say anything to A.

for example, we have been off from school this whole past week, and it was suggested that we go to the mall on thursday, which i didn't know about (i had thought they suggested friday). so yesterday evening i go online, and my best friend is online (not A) and seems in a really bad mood when i start talking to her. she explains to me that A didn't call or text her all day about hanging out and never follows through with her plans and is mad. at first when A IMs her, my other friend does not respond to her. when she does, she mentions something about how she thought we were going to go to the mall. (A had actually gone to the mall with her sister)

so A is just like oh, whatever. which my other friend interprets as bitchy and starts going off on a rant (meanwhile, A is telling everything she is saying to me) and my other best friend is telling what A is saying to me also. so i'm stuck in the middle. which usually always happens.

apparently A must've exaggerated when telling the stuff my other friend said to me (and my other friend tells me later) so i said to my other best friend something like. omg this is so stupid, i don't want to get in a fight. (because i knew how my best friend gets, she's really like stubborn and defensive kinda, and won't give up until she gets her point across)

well then she like got all weird with me, and signed off, and i didn't speak to her until earlier today. i IMed her first, hoping she'd forgot what happened or got over it since it wasn't a big deal in the first place (that is what i thought anyway) and she was like, what are you just going to pretend like nothing happened? and since she always says i don't stand up for myself, i had to defend myself, and we got into this whole like debate. basically she is mad at me because i talked behind both her and A's back. which i didn't. all of us were exchanging to each other what they were telling each other. and she says it was alright because she actually tells A what she says behind her back. which may be true like 50% of the time, but still.

i have talked about her behind her back, but i'm sure they do the same about me. i'd rather not say anything, then do say something and risk my friendship with both of them. the 3 of us have been best friends since like elementary school. they're like sisters to me practically, and i can be my complete self with them. i don't know where i would be without them. but i don't understand why the one has to be so... aggressive or something. there's a difference between speaking your mind to get a point across and speaking your mind but in a process hurting other's feelings/starting fights. and then she said she was mad at me for accusing her of starting a fight. yet she accused ME of talking behind her back?

i'm just confused. was it wrong for me to "talk behind her back"? that is a very hypocritical statement for her to say. if i continue to talk to her about this, i know i won't win, and the only way to end the fight is to probably just say i'm sorry, or just not speak to her until i see her in school. but i don't even know what i'd be apologizing for. what should i do? i have the IM conversation, if this was hard to understand, give me your email or something and i will send it to you. it would probably make more sense. thank you for reading all of this if you did. sorry it was so long. thank you in advance!

I had the exact same problem with one of my friends. I had been best friends with a girl for almost my entire life, but she was a very manipulative person, just like A seems to be. My advice is that you first appologize for talking behind their backs and admit that we all make mistakes sometimes. You should try to litterally stop doing that right now to prevent future problems. Next, I think you should tell A that you don't appreciate her dragging you into her problems, because you always end up in the middle of it, which isn't fair. But to tell you the truth, people like her never really change, and I know it seems impossible at first, but I suggest you stop being friends with her. You don't need someone like that who is always starting problems and causing you misery. It may take a while, for me it took years, but you have to distance yourself from her. When you look back, you'll realize that type of relationship was unhealthy, and that you really didn't need her. Hope I helped, and good luck.

Q: ok so i am in the 2nd semester of my freshmen year in high school... i Right now i am very shy and am not making too many new friends i think it might be because i dont feel comfortable with my appearance so i am looking foward to sophmore year because inevitably there will be new kids who dont know me in my classes.. i want to reinvent myself and lokk really good next year and be more outgoing. i am afraid that no one will be willing to see me differently Do you think that reinventing myself will work or peoples opinions are set in stone?

I believe that a new year is a fresh start. In fact, no matter where you go, you'll always meet at least some people who you've never seen before. If you want to reinvent yourself, go right ahead and do it. As long as what you're doing makes you happy, that's all that matters. Although it may be hard to convince some people that you've changed, as long as you're happy with yourself, you shouldn't really care what they think of you. Just let go, and this will help you be less shy as well. If they don't like you, oh well. There will always be someone who likes you for you. You just have to find those kinds of people. However, don't do anything too drastic at first because many people already like who you are, and you don't want them to think that you're completely different from the person they knew and loved. Just ease into it, and before you know it, you'll become the person you always wanted to be. It takes time and persistance. Good luck!

Q: I am looking for some advanced flirting tips.

I go to an all girls' school and what has been getting me through the day recently has been my one coed class, 3rd period writing class. The kids are great and the coed class dynamic is such a relief.

There is this one guy who I have developed a crush on. He's a gentleman, his stories are hilarious, and I think he's a little shy/reserved like me. We sat next to each other a couple of times. He's recently been sitting in my favorite spot and it just works out that I get there too late to sit next to him. So how can I play up the seat thing in a flirty way? What can I do to hook this guy, and what are some specific flirting strategies? Give me the flirting GOODS!

It seems like he likes humor, so you can try to make some jokes. Another thing is be warm and friendly towards him. For example, touch his arm for a second when you're talking to him, and make eye contact. Start off casual, and as you get to know him, try and flirt with him more. Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself,and just have fun with it. Good luck

Q: so i sometimes talk alot but in classes i dont talk that much at all.. and when i am around friends it is like i run out of things to say? i have met some new people but i dont really talk to them so they think im quiet, what are some things i could talk about and what are some tips on being more outgoing?

There's a few things you can do to be more outgoing. The best thing to do is don't stress about it! If you spend all your time worrying about what's the perfect thing to say, you'll find that it's harder thinking of something to talk about. Just say whatever's on your mind (as long as it isn't hurtful) and be open. Also, try to feel happy on the inside because people will see you as being positive and more approachable and they'll want to talk to you. Be really nice and try to say at least one thing to your friends everyday. Just don't worry about what to say. The best thing to do is observe what's going on around you. You'll be surprised at how many things you notice around the room if you just pay attention. Just make comments about whatever you see. Good luck

Q: Hong long do hair creams stay in your hair before it doesn't work anymore? Because I take a shower before bed and put cremme in my hair and it's so soft and stuff and makes my hair look nice but when i wake up it doesn't seem to have that effect no more and I don't want to take a shower in the morning because I want to save water.

you should try putting in a little more in the morning. the cream should last a day, but since your hair is wet it probably needs a little more to keep it moisterized

Q: Does those atni-poof shampoos really work? I've been using the cream and shampoo for a year and my hair didn't even go slightly less poofy! I really want to leave my hair down! Or is all the shamppoos the same and that they just put them in different bottles to trick people and get mroe money?

you can try using a moisturizing shampoo. it should make your hair more flat and less poofy. hope i helped

Q: okay, i know this kid. he's 14/m. but he has WICKED bad acne. like its actually kind of gross. its all over his face, his back, etc. yeah. i feel bad that he has such bad acne, but he doesn't really seem to care. i used to be friends with him last year, but we kind of stopped talking cuz he found out i liked him (i'm female btw). i want to tell him about a germatologist to go to or some kind of acne product that will help him..but i'm not sure how to tell him without sounding rude.

i'm not trying to sound mean or harsh..but, i really would like to help him..

if his acne is really that bad then it wouldn't be rude to tell him. say something like "did you ever try this product? i use it and it works really well. you should try it and see how it works for you." It wont sound offensive, it'll sound like you're just making a suggestion. if he doesnt want to, at least you tried. hope i helped

Q: I'm really bored.I like to try new things and start fun projects like combining archietecture,photoghraphy and sculpture into a single art work.I just want to have fun.Please could you think of something fun for me to do.Any suggestions are appreciated.

you could try origami. there's so much things you could make, you'd be surprised! just look for websites with origami diagrams. it'll show you how to make different things. try it, its really fun!

Q: I currently started to write a story about this dragon who fights battles etc. and i tryed to think of a paragraph to write just before i go into the description of the dragon, but i can't think of anything!!

please help!!

xxxx

hey, i'm a story writer too. you can start with something like "In a town where battles are always being fought, a savior is needed. Not an average warrior with a suit of armor. This warrior has an armor of scales and..." and finish off with your description. good luck with your story!

Q: ok well theres this guy i work with and i thought he hated me because he never spoke to me, but turns out he has a crush on me...someone told me! and from then on it was kinda obvious. well the person who told me is like communicating between us , and she gave me his cell number and told me that he wants me to call him! but idunno i dont want to be the one to make the first move! you know? and hes the one who was intrested in me first so i think he should do something! what should i do....i want to talk to him, but not like that. Oh and the reason we cant talk at work is cause we're from different departments! thanks in advance

if you're really interested in him and he's not making the first move its okay for u to do it. when u call him just talk to him as a friend and see how he reacts. over time he might finally admit to you how he feels and you could move on from there! hope i helped

Q: In my opinion, I don't think I have a bad personality. I'm not stuck up, I don't cause any drama, I'm honest, I can keep secrets, and I'm nice unless someone gives me a reason not to be. I mean, I can be "mean" sometimes with guys except I'm kidding and they know it. I'm not shy, but I'm not incredibly outgoing -- I'm just normal there. Plus, all of my friends say I'm hilarious. Most of my friends, who are girls tell, me I'm pretty and I've had some of my guy friends tell me I'm "hot". I'm not stupid, but I'm not a genius. Since pretty much everyone but me cares about this at my school...people say I'm popular (I hate that word and I don't care about "popularity" just to make that clear). The thing is, I've never had a boyfriend -- NOT ONCE. I don't get it. Every single one of my friends has at least had ONE boyfriend sometime in their life, but me. No, I don't only want one cause "everyone" has one. In your opinion, does it sound like I'm doing something wrong? Why can't I get a boyfriend?

Sometimes guys just see girls as a friend. do u joke around with them alot in a buddy kind of way? u should let them kno you're interested. try flirting with them a little more. hope i helped

Q: well,im going thrifting with my sister today,because really,you can just wash the clothes. anyways,im wondering,do they have any really trendy clothes there? like cute flatts,and maybe those hats with a bow on it,ripped jeans,things like that? and patterns? just wondering. thanks!

sure! you know i shop there myself sometimes. i was surprised, you can find a lot of good brands like abercrombie, aeropostale or even bloomingdales. the only thing is that most of the clothes might be kind of old-fashion but i'm sure you could find some cute stuff there. hope i helped!

Q: alright, well, this doesn't happen all the time, but every now and then with certain people.

i'm not one of those all of the time attention cravers, but i hate being ignored. who doesn't?

well sometimes whenever there's a certain person hanging out with me and someone else, i tend to get the boot and sort of not get talked to. like tonight, i mean we were all hanging out and laughing and then during the end of it i was just sort of sitting there, and nobody talked to me until like after 5 minutes when they noticed i wasn't saying anything.

so basically, i have to be quiet to talk to people.

-.-

anyways.

what would you do if you were me, so you would get ignored less? i just want to learn how to grasp and keep my friends attention, if that's what you want to call it, and i want to be able to talk to other people i don't know and make it less awkward and become their friend.

listen up. being quiet is not the way to get people to talk to you more. people want someone they can relate to. just say whatever's on your mind (just think before you say it).its important to express your opinions, no matter what they are. if you make mistakes, don't worry: it shows everyone that you're human, people makes mistakes. most importantly, just be yourself, no matter what. if you see that you're becoming less included in the conversation, include yourself! the more you talk, the more they'll want to talk to you. pretty soon they'll get to see your true personality, and they'll like being around you. if you're quiet all the time, how can they see who you truly are? hope i helped.

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