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confused and worried
im a 16 year old female and my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 months... we have had sex in the past btu today i let him take my anal virginity... and it hurt really bad... now i knwo the first time it will hurt that is just a given but will it always hurt? i want to do it again cuz the good feeling i got out of it was really good but the pain was really bad... will that eventually go away? i have one more question... i swore on my life i would never let anyone take my anal virginity but i let him to show him how comftorble i am with him and how much i love him but now im having the feeling somethings going to go wrong... am i just thinking to much because of the trust i put into him or what? im so confused please help?
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well first off you dont let people do you in the ass thats just wrong. and who knows maybe it wont hurt anymore once your asshole gets bigger. jus dont get STDs and use lubricant and im sure you will be straight.
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First of all, you shouldn't have sex with someone to show them that you love them. If this guy really loved you, truly and deeply, he would've married you first.
My advice (take if or leave it, I don't care which) is to not have sex with him anymore. That "feeling something's going to go wrong" is probably related to guilt (even if you don't personally wish to label it that). Sex was created to be enjoyed between a husband and wife.
It might be a good idea to get some tests to make sure you haven't contracted an STD (sexually transmitted disease), because that may be another reason for your bad feeling.
P.S.
And yeah, it probably feels great, but can you imagine what it'll be like when you're with someone who'll be with you forever? (your future husband, for instance)
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hey.. Ive been with my boyfriend for 11 months now and we just tried anal sex about 2 months ago. At first for me it didnt hurt too much because what we had done is got lubricant and stuck one finger in and kind of finger me and then stick 2 in and then he stuck it in. It really really helped loosening it up because we had tried it before without loosening and I swore i would never do it again because it hurt sooo bad. So your question was will it always hurt.. no it wont always hurt.. just try loosening it up with some lubricant or baby oil or even lotion and then later it wont be so hard sticking it in i swear. Later on it will start feeling really good if youre into it. Im not sure what you mean by about something going wrong .. like in your relationship? well talk to him about it.. if he loves you and is comfortable with you also then talking about it wont be a problem. It will start being really fun going from doing it in your vagina and then sticking it your anus and back and forth and stuff. Just to add my favorite position to do it is either from the back like doggy style and the other is you lying on your back like on a coach or bed with him on the side of the coach/bed and you having your legs bent on your chest.. If you have any more questions leave one in my inbox or email brunettebabi716@yahoo.com or IM me at AIM XlatincurvesX.. k I hope I hepled! xox
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Hey there. It is totally normal for it to hurt really bad. I wont always hurt. Just like your vagina, it will stretch a bit to fit in a penis, if you do it often. If you do it a couple of monthes at a time, it'll hurt a bit more because your not helping your body assume the forign body part. You shouldnt swear on your life you wont do certain sexual things, because you'll probley feel comfortable in doing them later on. You shouldnt have to do a sexual thing to prove to him your comfortable with him and that you love him. I mean, sex is something you do when you love someone, but its not something to prove your love to each other. The feeling that something is going to happen occurs all the time. I feel that way sometimes. You are thinking to much, one of the flaws of women is, in fact, thinking too much. We over analyze the litle things, and the big things and we begin to doubt the trust we put into men. I got through it all the time. If you ever have any trouble, please message me on here, or email me at this_sucks92@hotmail.com, and i'll help you out anytime. good question!
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i mean hey your not freaking married you should have never had sex with him.. your a freakin idiot
i hope you have you get pregnant!
see how that feels when you have a huge poop baby commin out of your vagina.
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Although i have never had sex period, i know that the pain will heal and go away. For your 2nd question, what do you think will go wrong? If you think it will go wrong it will, so dont think about it too much.
♥ Michelle
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