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My boyfriend has a promblem
I have a boyfriend hes 15 and I'm 13. We love each other a lot. We've been togther for over 9 months. He always tells me how lucky he is to have me , how he can't sleep always thinking of me, hes even cried right in front of me because well I said something and it mad him cry, we can talk about anything, and he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. To everyone else in the world we probally seem like the greatest couple and we are. I'm completley in love with him. Do u think hes in love with me? Just wondering. But anyways he has a promblem. I love him and it scares me. I just want some advice. I want to help himb but I could never go to an adult for help because that would break his turst and I could never do that. My boyfriend cuts himself well he has about 3 times. The first time because his Father wouldn't let him call me and he said he couldn't take it. The second time he couldn't get me out of his head. The thrid well i'm pretty sure it was the same as the second reason. This scares me a lot and I feel resonsible. I would never break up with him because of this but i feel like this is my fault. He tells me its not and he recently promised that he will stop for me because he knows it scares me. I want to help but I don't know how. I love oh my gosh i love him more then anything. I'm so confussed and I need serious advice. He also just two nights ago admitied to takeing phills. I started to cry. What should I do? How can I help him without breaking his trust? Please give me some anwsers I don't know who else to turn to . Thanks you more then you'll ever know.
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You could just ask him to please stop trying to cut himself and taking pills because you really love him and he doesnt need to. Tell him that it's ok if he can't call you every nite or whatever and you will understand. You can also tell him that you always think about him too, but there is nothing to do about it, because you love him. There is no reason he needs to be thinking about this. Hope I helped!
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Heres what you should do. Wait for people to ask your first question you impatient prick. You asked this exact same question yesterday. You are impatient and im sure you got you question from yesterday answered. Please if anyone reads this take her question down, because its already been asked. Congrats! You are an idiot.
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If you really do love him, and he does continue to cut himself and take pills (which by the way is NOT your fault), then you need to go to an adult. It will break his trust, perhaps, but in the long run it'll be better for both of you.
You wouldn't be talking to an adult because you want to "tell on him" or get him in trouble; you'd be helping him because in this situation it's better to have an adult involved.
Hope this helped a bit.
P.S.
If he ever does begin to blame you for anything he does to himself, you need to reconsider your relationship with him. Still be there for him as a friend, but you both may not be ready for a relationship yet. You have your whole life ahead of you, not to mention many years of highschool left.
Take it slow.
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Aw, first hun you have to calm down and this isn't your fault at all. Him doing this has nothing to do with you. Don't blame this on yourself. If he promised you he's going to stop cutting and taking pills, he should. He'll stop if he really loves you. It looks like he cares about you so much, so I'm pretty sure he'll stop. Just always be there for him no matter what. Always talk about things so he doesn't have everything building up in him. The reason for him doing this is because he doesn't let his feelings out. Try to get him to talk to you. I'm sure it'll help him and he'll feel much better, talking to you about his problems. Maybe you could show him just how much you care about him. Give him 50 reasons why you love him or why he should stop cutting and taking pills. That way he'll realize that you are scared and you do really care about him and he'll stop. Just keep being a great girlfriend and always tell him just how much he means to you!
♥ Krissy
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