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Who to choose
I have been wondering if the person you like or you keep thinking who'll end up with you in marriage would usually be the person you'll really get married to. Because in my situation, I've always thought that he'll be the one and don't get it wrong, I have deep feelings for him. But there's this another guy who last time cares for me but now i think not anymore. i just think. But I'm afraid maybe the person i think would be the one for me, wouldn't really be? I know it sounds complicated but it's really giving me a problem. Pls. help me.
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Well life is full of millions of twists and turns , and sometimes when you take a certain path you'll feel as if your at a dead end. But the thing is you are the one who determines who your with for the rest of your life. The decisions and choices you make now directly effect evrything from you love life to your career. The main thing to keep in mind is to date around and try to see whats all out there before you devote yourself to one person. And when you decide to devote yourself to one person make sure that they feel the same about you and that it will make you happy because if your doing it to make them happy and not to make yourself happy as well...you will be miserable.
Just remember, Life is not a mystery to be a solved, but an adventure to be lived. So Live life to the fullest and try to have all the fun you can.
<333's to you , and I hope I helped you out some.
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Ah, understood. I wonder the same thing sometimes, "Do I know the man that I'm going to marry?" I'm probably younger than you, but that doesn't really matter. I have an aunt who met her husband in the seventh grade, and they dated all through junior and senior high school before they got married. My grandparents met in tenth grade, my mom's best friend met her husband in eighth grade, and there's a woman who goes to a Bible study with me who met her husband in third grade!
I don't suppose there is really a way of knowing without going into the future. (that is impossible, so there's not a way of knowing without waiting.) Talk to the man (boy/guy/teenager whatever you call him) that you have deep feelings for, and ask him how he feels about this topic. It depends on your age, but if you're at an age where you can get married, he might have seriously considered it. Maybe you're still too young, but he might've still seriously considered it even now.
Don't worry about all this stuff too much, because God will provide. Keep loving him, let him know you love him... and maybe he IS the right man for you. Pray about this. God wants to hear all of this from you. Maybe God will give you insight to all of this; something that I can't really do.
I understand how it's giving you a problem, because I have thought about this, too. It's kindof worrysome because you don't want to give your heart to the wrong man, but you don't want to keep it from the right one. Try not to worry. If you are doubting and worrying, talk to God. He'll soothe your nerves and calm your fears.
-FunnyCide
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It depends on how long you've been with the person, how well you know the person, and how well they know and treat you.
Re-evaluate both guys, ask yourself: what do I want out of a husband? Does this guy fulfill those standards?
If you've only known him for two years or less, it's still too early to be thinking about marriage. Get to each guy better and thoroughly...you will never know if the guy you marry will be the "right" one, but that's a risk all of us have to take.
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Some of this depends on your age. If you're in high school, about to graduate, then there might be a chance that you and this person have so close a bond with, might stay with you until marriage.
But if you're in middle school or elementary, I'd have to say probably not.
Do you believe in fate? I do. I know it sucks, but you can't really pick the one to be with. Fate does that. I understand what you feel. You just have to bear with the cards you have been dealt now until the right person comes along.
Hope this helps you out any.
*Diamyn*
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jbdreamer is right. Happens very rarely. You need to meet and date a lot of guys before you find the perfect one for you.So, if you've met someone else you want to try, don't be afraid to listen to your feelings. :)
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It is extreamly rare for the person(s) you date in high school to be the one you end up with. People change so much going into their 20s. Just have fun for now. Your not going to get married any time soon, so there is no need to worry about who you'll end up with.
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