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Hey I'm Laura. I love giving advice and helping people out. If you ever have a question, drop one in my inbox! I'm always on, so your question will be answered very quickly. =)

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so yesterday me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time, and i know im probably being really paranoid, but we did use a condom and it didnt break. he didnt come but im pretty sure he like precummed or whatever. is there ANY way that i could be pregnant?

There's always a small chance but it's highly unlikely if the condom didn't break. There is some sperm in the pre-cum but that would've gone in the condom. So I don't think there's anything to worry about.

13
f
8th grade

I was not sure what category to put tis under so i am sorry.

well i am going into high school next year and i really want to figure out what i plan to go with my life.
I will tell you somethings that I enjoy and please give sugguestions about what my carreer options can be,

i love writing.
i love animals.
i love the ocean.
i love helpig others.
i love to come home and relize that i changed. helped people/ the wold.
i get mostly A's and some B's.
i love God.
i would like to work around christian people.
i love bringing others tord god.
my favorite subjects are art, math and science

thank you so much in advance

-Journalist [perhaps you can write about the things you enjoy?]
-Marine biologist [work with marine animals]
-Veterinarian [work with animals and also communicate with pet owners]
-Social worker [help those abused]
-Counselor [help people deal with problems]

You can do anything you put your mind to. Keep up the good grades.

okay,i'm confused about a few things.
me & my boyfriend don't do much,
but we want to.
but we can't until i know a few things that i'm confused about.
i don't know how or when to get him hard.
like,all we've done is makeout & he fingers me,
and ik he wants a handjob,but i don't know one thing.
this is gonna sound reallly stupid,but he has to be hard before i give him a handjob or blowjob right?
i just don't know how to get him hard before i do those things,or when.
please don't say "if you don't know these things you shouldn't be doing them" or anything,
i really just need help.
thank youuu.

Yes, he has to be hard for you to give him a handjob or blowjob. When you're about to give him one, he's usually hard already. If not, tease him a little bit by touching it. It should get hard but really, it'll probably already be. Don't worry, it'll be fine.

can someone tell me what an "anarchy" is/means like what do they want.. like i heard someone talking about it.. haha sorry if it sounds dumb im just curious.

Anarchy can mean chaos and disorder or a state of society without a government.

I cannot shave with a razor without cutting myself. So I usually shave where you put the shaving creme on and wait for 3 min then wash it off with water. It works. But is it ok if i do that to my vagina area? I dont want to get cuts on my vagina. Thanks if u help!:]

Yes that is ok. Just be very careful where you shave and use lots of shaving cream. If you do that you'll be unlikely to cut yourself.

I know you all hate these questions, but I'm going to ask anyway.

16/f
So my period is late by 8 days now. The last time had sex was early February and a condom was used, and he didn't ejaculate. My period came on time last month (the 22nd). And I have had no sexual "acts" since early February, and now it's March 30th and my period still isn't here. I realized that Feb. only had 29 days, so I "technically" am 6-7 days late. So I'm 99.99% sure I'm not pregnant. And my period is ALWAYS regular. But see, I've been REALLY stressed out for the past month. So I'm guessing that's what's going on with it. Cause stress really cause a period to be this late? I'm to the point where I'm not even bloated anymore and whatnot.

Thanks.

Yeah stress can definitely cause it to be late. You should find a way to relieve it, whether it to be talking about it to a trusted person or finding an activity you enjoy. A little exercise is good for stress because it energizes you and makes you feel good.

so i started likeing my ex boyfriend agian. and i reallly want a boyfriend right now buti dont want to just settle cause there ae plenty of guys out there but my ex is kinda a freat guy.
idk what to do. go for it or keep searching?
(keep in mind im kinda young) hehe

I say you experience dating different guys. You've already been with your ex and it seems like there are some things about him you don't like. So yeah, you're young. Go have fun. :]

Kay can you actually get like a STD in your mouth from giving someone a blow job/giving head? if so like how possible is it, and is it extremely likely? i am curious? because i didn't think you could get anything in your mouth from pleasuring someones you know what area.
thank you ever so much!

Yes, you can contract whatever he has by mouth...herpes, chlamydia etc. If he cums you could risk getting HIV. So always be careful.

Edit: If he doesn't have anything, there's nothing to worry about. You might want to ask him to get tested because not all symptoms show up. Many people are walking around with STDs and don't even know. Without a condom your chances of getting the STD are good. With a condom the chances are a lot slimmer but still not fully eliminated.

Okay so I always hear about people saying how your dreams are your hearts desires or that its what your soul does when your unconscious like an out of body experience or whatever. My friends always tell me how they had a really good dream concerning the guy they like or they got something that they've always wanted or something along those lines. But for me I always get weird dreams. I have dreams almost every night and most of the time I'll just remember that I had a dream but not what it was about or who was in it or anything. But on the rare chances that I do remember parts of it they're always very odd. I can't really explain what I mean by weird or odd since I mostly don't remember them and if I do I usually forget over time. But its very uncommon for my dreams to be based on something about the guy I like or something that I'd think would be some of my 'hearts desires'. I'm just very curious as to the possibilities of why that may be. Any answers would be greatly appreciated.

Dreams are usually weird for people. They're only a reflection of the heart's desire when we dream about something we really like. But usually we dream in order to file stuff in our brain to where it belongs. There are meanings behind them though. Check out a dream dictionary. Learning about your dreams can help determine what's going on in your subconscious mind.

two people who accepted my friend requests on facebook do not show up on my list of friends and I cannot find them anywhere even though they both confirmed friendship. why is that and how can i view their profile?

Try adding them again and see if it shows up. If they're still not there then it's probably an error on Facebook's part.

Is it common for your period to be late after having sex??

It was protected and there were definately no holes in the condom afterwards, i checked. But my period is still late.

Im not worrying like "OMG OMG AM I PREGNANT AM I PREGNANT?" Im simply just enquiring :)

The sex doesn't have anything to do with it being late unless obviously you were pregnant. Periods can be late for multiple reasons such as stress and increased physical activity. So I bet you'll get your period soon.

just a simple question. what is cheating. cause honeslty i don't know. i mean i know sex and kissing is but..is there more to cheating than physically? cause sometimes i feel like i might be cheating on my boyfriend even though i've never done anything sexually with anyone else.

In a sense, you can be emotionally cheating on someone if you have strong, prolonged feelings for another person. It's ok to develop little crushes on other guys but if it's more than that you should let your boyfriend know. It's only fair to him and the relationship that you're truthful about your feelings.

is it worse for you or the same to eat all your calorie allowances at one time in the evening?

It's worse. Eating each meal helps keep your metabolism going. By eating all that at once, you're likelier to gain weight because it's being stored as fat.

ok my boyfriend lets call him nick really loves me and i really love him too. ok we told each other that we loved each other about a month or two after we started going out. we have only been goin out five months and we have already had sex it was his first time but not mines. im 14 and he is 15 i just want to know if im moving to fast because i have also put him over most of my family but i also dont have the best family either but thank you and i will appreicate any advice you have to offer.

If you are comfortable with what you've done, then you haven't been going too fast. It's all up to you and how you feel. It's ok to put him over your family but just remember they're still your family. You should try to be there for them even if they're not the best.

is there really a way to see who has viewed your myspace?

No, there's not. Sorry. If you sign up for a similar site, Myyearbook, you can always see who views your profile.

i recently just got a new hair cut.
its a short "stylish" bob.

sometimes imiss my old hair ( beacause it used to be very long)
are there any styles that i could do to my short hair?

I know what you mean. I missed my long hair after it was cut. You could pin back a center strip of hair with a clip. Puttting it in a half ponytail might look cute. If your hair is straight, try using a curling iron to make it flip out at the bottom. It'll give it some volume.

how do you know if your a good kisser?

You can ask the person you kiss. The best thing is to just have confidence. If you keep doubting whether you're a good kisser, you'll do worse. Just relax and it comes naturally. Also that phrase that "practice makes perfect" works for this.

do you get to pick and choose your teachers in the beginning, meaning as a freshman?

Usually no, the teachers are picked for you. However, if you have a serious discrepancy with the choice of teacher, you could take it up with the guidance counselor for a possible change.

This guy i'm with wants to eat me out but i always have discharge and it doesn't smell that good and probably don't taste good either, and when i used to have sex with my ex, stuff would always would be on his pubic hair, and i get sooo wet down there when i have sex is that bad? Is there any way i can fix these problems and tell me if they are normal or not?

Getting wet is normal. It's your body's natural lubrication. Every girl gets discharge, but the smell could be a problem if it's like a strong fishy smell. You might want to see a doctor to check for infection, especially if the color is not clear or you're really itchy down there. Drink lots of water [and cranberry juice if you have it] if you suspect it.

i have the verizon LG Chocolate. i want ringtones, but i'm not about to get ass raped by verizon's $3.00 a song shit. any websites, that would work with my phone? because most come up with an error.

any help appreciated.

Have you tried phonezoo.com? You can upload a song and choose which part will be the ringtone. I use it and my ringtones usually arrive within a few hours.

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