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Q: Hey! yea i looked at your pictures or w/e and i just looked at them... and then i went to this girls photobucket site and saw that she has your b/f's picture on there.. umm i dont know if she asked you to put it on there but i think its a lil creepy and weird i'll give you the link

http://photobucket.com/albums/v432/x0xpaigebabyxox/?

yea its on the first page so im pretty sure you will see it... haha i just wanted to let you know & help you out or something cuz i would be like "WTF" and weirded out by something like that... yea just weird haha yupp buh byes!

wow.. thanks so much, i'll check it out! what a weirdo!!!

Q: hAy giRl!! lOng tiMe nO tAlk buT im BouT to coME bAcK to KaTY.. wAHoOO!!! wEll yeAH.. thA gAy sEagUlL rEtuRnS!!o yESsss!!!!!

YES!! FLAP UR WINGS LIKE A SeAgUlL.. WHAT WHAT?!

HOLLER BALLER!

;)

Q: what the heck is goin down for new years?!?!?!

hey, sorry- got back @tcha little tooo late :( well there were lotsa 'taylor' (as in the school) re-union parties.. i stopped by a strake party w/ josh in sugarland.. and lots downtown and in cy fair. i hope you found something fun to do!!!! HAPPY NEW YEAR! :-D

Q: well thats the thing. ive confessed my feelings for her and she knows how i feel. all her friends tell me she has feelings for me and cares about me but doesnt want to "like someone like that" right now. it seems to be progressing so ill see where its going, but im also not sure if i want to be in a relationship with her because of her what seems to be false emotions. i know she likes me though. shes just confusing i guess...

well 'trl'... u seem to be exactly right.. 'a confusing girl..' which is come on, pretty much every girl! It sounds to me that there may be something scaring her. maybe she's intimidated by you, or just ab having a bf in general. Some girls dont like to feel pressured, so they'll let the guy linger so they know that they have some control. Than when they feel comfortable they'll open up to them. If she's really worth it to you, give it some time. You said yourself 'it seems to be progressing'.. and the fact that she's told her friends is a good sign!

write back if you need me!

Q: say you had a good friend who you liked but didnt want to get into her because you thought they'd just end up hurting you. everytime the friend seems to like you and be interested, its only because they seem to be jealous or not getting enough attention. this girl im into seems so perfect but only seems into me when she wants to. i want to try giving my feelings to her so bad because i do want her, but i feel she'll just hurt me and that her feelings for me aren't as genuine or constant as they should if a relationship were to occur. help me tay! -trl

well, honestly it's either one of two things...
1)she just doesn't like you (aka the fickleness) and she just wants the attention from you to make herself feel important... and loved..
or
2) she may have feelings for you, or maybe the timing isn't right...but b/c you've never told her how you feel- she doesn't want to come off 'needy' and is playing games to get you to spill.

both are VERY common!!!!

really what you need to do 'trl' is tell the girl. worrying ab it will only hurt yourself.It's better to know the truth no matter what the consequence. If you need more advice ab what to say, or so on, hit me back. I'm always here!!! :-D
Hope I helped!!!
*TaYloR*

Q:
I don't have a question, but I thought this would make you laugh, it's from the movie Zoolander. haha

Hi Derek! My name's Little Cletus and I'm here to tell you a few things about child labor laws, ok? They're silly and outdated. Why back in the 30s, children as young as five could work in textile mills and iron smelts. Yippee! Hurray!

HAHAHAHA! YOU ROCK!.. you must know I'm a movie buff!

QUOTES and more QUOTES :)

thnks for makin' me laugh!

Q: Wow... i just came across your page and you actually inspired me to dream big and go big... ive always wanted to be a model or a singer... and you are staring to become a singer so i am so happy for you :)... but yea i cant sing very good so probly no on that unless you can make your voice better by someway.. i think you can w/ voice lessons but im not sure haha yea but i just wanted to basically say hi.. and you are gorgeous too haha... so i will ttul then.. you can go to my column if you want... xljessijaydlx.... buh byes

hey!
that's awesome to know that I inspired you.. It really is a good way to think ab it though, dream big.. and the key word GO big.. If you want something, GO FOR IT.. If it's not what God intended you to do.. you'll find out. Just dont have any regrets ((YOLO)) you only live once. Just remember that both singing and modelin' is a CUT THROAT industry, so if it isnt your absolute passion.. think hard ab it. Dont take to heart everything you hear either. Just know your abilities and be confident in them. ITS ALL ABOUT ATTITUDE!

Voice lessons are yes, very helpful. Some people never realize the skill set that they can achieve 'till they take prof. lessons (myself included)..

Goodluck in w/e you end up doing. Hopefully you'll go in head strong w/ confidence and leave with even more! :-D

Q: I'm fifteen years old, and I'm about 5'3. I'm not overweight, but I'm on the verge of it, and it most definitely wouldn't hurt if I shed a few pounds. When I'm home alone or just out with friends, I'm fine as far as resisting bad food goes. The problem is...my mom- and the rest of my family. My mom is ALWAYS buying junk food and tempting me with it. When we go to McDonalds and I say that I just want a bottled water and a salad, she'll order an extra thing of fries because she knows I'll eat it. My question is...How can I resist this with out my family thinking I'm anorexic? They won't understand if I simply explain that I want to lose a few pounds because like I said, I'm not overweight yet. Any ideas would be great. Thanks.

ok.. i'm also 5'3.. and i've always been on the 'slender' side.. however, there was one point where i was getting a little 'chunky' i guess you could say.. i was on an 'all carb' diet basically, haha, bc i liked it like that. My advice to you is.. everything is ok in moderation... and if you feel like you grubbed out on something greasy and not so good for you, hit the gym and do some cardio... running or actually even walking is so good for you. I need to take my own advice, bc i've been slacking on working out lately :) But ya, you sound like ur weight isnt a huge issue, but you'd rather be more 'fit'.. so work out, and explain to ur mom that you want to 'better your body' by eating more healthy and hittin up the gym. ask her if maybe she'd want to go with you... it's always more fun to work out in pairs.. hope i helped :)
-tay

Q: well I am a 19 year old female who has been in a relationship with a guy for 4 years. I feel i am insecure about myself and constantly feel myself feeling and thinking that i am not as pretty as the girls that he sees. I have become controlling because i tell him he cant look at other girls and he can not have girl friends. I feel if he loves me like he says he does then why does he need to talk to other girls. I do not like him to work with pretty girls because i am afraid that he will flirt with them and not tell me. I get angry when he stares at other girls. We are constntly fighting. Is this all my fault. How can i stop being so scared that he is going to leave me for someone better. Even though everyday he says he wont i still get scared. And when i even see a pretty girl i say she is ugly so he wontlook . i know we care and love eachother so much . i do not want us to fight we are getting married soon please help my problem stop

uhmmm ok.. you're going to DRIVE HIM AWAY! Stop being so insecure w/ urself, it's sooo unattractive to guys. If you're confident in yourself, others will be confident in YOU. He's with you for a reason girl, stop being out of control- controlling. There is more to life than LOOKS. You seem to be very immature, and I dont think marriage is a good idea. If you dont even trust him enough to be AROUND other girls, you're never going to make it. Unless he's given you a reason to second guess his dedication- you need to quit it. Do something to make you feel better about yourself, work out, dance, anything that lets you gain some self confidence. It natural to worry sometimes or to be jealous.. but don't let it get the better of you. If he tells you he loves you every day, accept it for what it is and be happy. Dont put others down to make yourself comfortable, it's unhealthy and unkind.

Next time you're fighting over this issue, take full blame and DROP IT.

goodluck
-taylor-

Q: okay. im still a virgin. but i think im ready to lose my virginity to my boyfriend of a year and 2 months. we have done nothing BUT kissing. and im so happy hes patient with me and doesnt push me to do anything i choose not too. but now i am ready BUT i want to go on birth conrol and use a condom just to be on the safe side. the thing is im not on the pill so what would be the best way to ask my parents to put me on the pill without them thinking imma have sex.? cuz they know im still a virgin and think imma stay one till marriage. which i was planning on doing, but i think im ready to lose it..and i've found that special one to lose it to

ok... well, you should tell them that you need it bc u have irregular perdiods, or for you skin maybe... but I dk.. I mean, sex is a huge deal and just this line you wrote "but i think im ready to lose it" tells me that you may not be so sure. IF you can wait 'till marriage it's the best thing to do. If you think that he IS the one you'll marry... just be careful.

hope everything works out for the best.

taylor.

Q: Taylor-

you are a really good person and you will go really far in life. i wish you only the best.

with love,

an admirer

WOW, Thanks so much. That's a REALLY sweet thing to say. I have no idea who you are, but thanks for the nice message, much appreciated :)

Have a great day---
*TaY*

Q: I put a question like this on here a few days ago, but I'll go over whats going on again.
My friend and I both liked a guy, then I backed off so she could have him, then she didn't want a bf. So I stepped up and now I like him and he likes me and outa no where she says she likes him again, so I told her I liked him too and now shes all wierd about it. I told her I didn't want a bf though, and now me and Andy (the guy) have been hanging out alot and I really like him, and when I come home from our dates I hear "Amanda really likes Andy, what are you doing?" and stupid stuff like that. What the hell am I supposed to do? I mean I can't control my feelings, and she had her chance with him. And I'm not going to date him right now anyways b/c I want to get to know him...so people are making it into a lot bigger deal than it is...what do I do?

ok first off, you shouldn't put him 'before' her.. bc she IS ur best friend.. BUT, you were a good friend in giving her her chance w/ him and she blew it. That's her fault, you shouldnt be held responsible for her 'change of heart'.. Also, my advice would be to be totally open. If you said 'i dont want a bf' just to get her off your back, its going to upset her a lot more later on down the rd. when ya'll inevitably get together. Just be honest w/ her and let her know that you value her as a friend but you have to go with your feelings. If she's a true friend she'll be there forever, if not, you've done nothing wrong and you've cut your losses.

Q: does anybody know how to evenly put on eyeliner on the top lid of your eye? like i do it and it isnt perfect..

uhmmm not that hard genius.. keep a steady hand.. and trace.. didnt u learn how to color in between the lines when u were what, like 4?!

come on....

Q: Taylor..
u r a smelly donut

KELLY MICHELLE, you are sweaty Eddy on a tred-mills armpitttt stain!

Q: hi im laura 15 female i need some advice about things/People in my school keep on makin up rumours about me like im a slag and i run away to get attention and stuff but the story gets twisted and i always hear about it from other people and people have been saying stuff about me behind my back and it really hurts and loads of people are making up rumours about me and people are starting to believe them.The thing i dont get is that i have never been nasty to anyone in my school before :( help me wat shud i do?

you need to gain some confidence.. who cares what people think bc those you mind dont matter and those who matter dont mind...

I went to 3 diff hs moved nine time and have been backstabbed by my very BEST friends b4..

life goes on, c'est la vie.

learn to keep you buss. private, and only trust the trusted... :)

Q: well! tomorrows my christmas concert. im wearing black pants with a tanktop with a white n blue over top type thingie.. you wont be able to see my shirt though cuz i have to wear a black robe! and i want to do something real nice with my hair. my hairs about 7 inches from my shoulder blade.. and its STRAIGHT. i'd scrunch it but i dont want to really.. what can i do with it so it'll look totally cute n different! thanks for allt he help. or if there are any sites anybody can give me. that would be great THNX =]

ooooh, get the Mary Kate and Ashley curling iron and a 3 way crimper.. pull a b-spears and do little sections of each differently mixin' it up! it'd look tite!

Q: HOLY CRAP! I didn't realize how big you were going to be.. or already are~! I was at HOUsTONS JInGLE JAM 2004 watching you sing your frickin lungs out on the BIG SCREEN! Me along w/ the other million of pple! OMG TAYLOR CROWLEY, OMG! OMG! You Looked GORGEOUS! I think i saw you at the end signing autographs down on the floor but i couldnt tell if it was you! WAY TO GO TAYLOR, omg, WAY TO GO! YOU'RE SOOOO TALENTED!

awww, thanks! I was so excited!!! one step at a time, but that was a great feeling- not gonna lie :)

Q: I know there is something messed up in my head because i get angery, sad, and happy really quickly and when i am mad, i throw things. i hate the way i act and i have been trying to change, but nothing has been working. ive told my mom and sister this and they really havent done anything to help me. what should i do?

ok, I can be the same way when i'm REALLY mad.. I have a tendancy to not think before I speak.. my advice to you would be... WORK OUT, or do something to get ur frustrations out.. working out has been clinically proven to make you happier.. try it.. remember, you control ur anger, don't let it control you.. ;)

Q: does anyone know any ways to cover up cuts?

First off, what kind of cuts are these? If you're cutting yourself on purpose you should tell someone.. if not, just cover it w/ ur clothes or get something to heal it faster..

Q: Ok heres the problem..my hair is about to my shoulder and it is very thick..also very poofy. what should i do to make my hair not as poofy? i tried straightening it..that didn't work but also i have a crappy straightner. I hate my hair! Can someone help me? please!! thanx in advance!

you need to either go to an AVEDA salon and get it prof. straightened.. orrr get the CHI flat iron, it's the best in the world... i swear by it... goodluck.

bio

I'm a goofball. I'm driven and I love to laugh!!! However, as goofy as I am.. I care a lot ab people and I've always been told I give good advice- i saw someone w/ a column like this so I thought I'd take a whack at it :)