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My mission on Advicenators is to be honest. People lie when they answer because they want to be rated high, but I think people ask strangers on Advicenators things because they want an honest answer.
My alias is Farren, and I'm in 9th grade. I think I'm mature for my age, but that could just be self-dilusion. I believe that everyone is in some way self-dilusional. So yeah, ask me a question if you want.

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i have my semi-formal dance and i have a dress but it is kinda loose on me in the front..... is there anyway i can make it tighter??? can i pin it without looking bad??
-help please

Just pull it together a little and sew it. Sewing really isn't that hard...as long as you have a needle and thread you should be able to manage to do it without it looking like you did it. There's also this stuff that you put in between fabric and iron and it's like gluing it together, it should be at any sewing store near you. Good luck.
-Farren

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I'm 17 and I;m not allowed to go to dances. I feel really left out sometimes when my friends talk about it on and on for age. My mom and dad think I'm too young and they think bad stuff happens at dances. Another problem is, I don't know how to dance! Please help! I rate!!

To learn how to dance, ask your female friends to teach you in private at one of your houses. As for being able to go out, you're going to be 18 soon, your parents are being completely unreasonable and you should talk to them about it, if they don't listen, well, you are going to be 18 soon, and if nothing else works, you can threaten to move out.

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Well I've been going out with this guy for a month and we hardly ever talk but all we have done is hugged! Is that really bad or what?

Take the initiative to get more intimate. Make the moves, sometimes guys are more nervous then girls and we just fail to notice it.
-Farren

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when ever i have a boyfriend they always think im cheating on them because i flirt so much but thats just what i do and i dont know how to not flirt as much

Don't be such an attention whore.
-Farren

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Would you risk your career for what you truly believe if the two were different?

Yes. You shouldn't spend time supporting something you don't believe in. Living with regret isn't good, and you should be happy with what you do (well, at least as happy as you can be with a job).
-Farren

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i have a horrible sunburn.... i mean horrible! it doesnt even look that red but it KILLS! for example, i went to bed at 10pm and i woke up at 12 not being able to sleep bc it hurt so bad! what can i do! when can i start going to the tannign place again?

Put aloe on it. That helps. Good luck. And you shouldn't start going to the tanning place until your skin completely heals up and doesn't hurt at all.
-Farren

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well i ordered the
Farouk CHI Transformation System Home Support Kit stuff and i thought it would straighten my hair because on this one website it had info on it and it gave me the impression that it would straighten my hair but it didnt and it was 40 bucks and i have really curly hair and i it didnt do anything but i found out that it just makes it shiny and stuff so i have it and i dont kno what to do with it could i return it *it was off a website and i ordered it from california and i live in florida* and does any one know something else that would straighten my hair and make it stay *i have really really curly hair* could some one give me websites and names thanks alot
signed
-confused girl

Go to a hair salon and get your hair relaxed. That works for quite a while I believe, more than straightning irons and other commonly used methods anyways. I forgot exactly how long it lasts, but I think it was at least more than a month.
-Farren

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im 13/m...All of my friends say that i always flirt with this girl. she used to like me A LOT and then when i started going out with my g/f about 8 months ago, she like started yelling at me and we didnt talk. But now, we are friends again and we talk, but whenever we do, EVERYONE says that we flirt, nonstop. i try not to, but i just cant help it, i love my girlfriend and i mean that. what should i do pls help me......

PS.... how do you flirt? i barely know what that means

Just watch what you say. If you aren't coming on to her then no one will tell your girlfriend you are, unless they're stupid and assume things, and in that case what they say doesn't really matter and your girlfriend should believe you over them. As long as you make sure your girlfriend knows that you're just friends with her you'll be fine. Also, make sure your girl (space) friend knows that you don't like her as more than a friend, leading people on isn't nice. Good luck hun.
-Farren

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there is this girl i really like in my science class. shes kinda out of my leauge but i cant get her outta my mind! ive asked her out but she said no but i dont know why. what should i do?

What -can- you do? Nothing. Sorry, but you can't force someone to like you. If you keep trying to get her to like you as more than a friend she may get annoyed and distance herself from you. Good luck with it.
-Farren

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ok there's this new kid in my skool , nd he's in everyone of my classes, nd he chose to sit next to me in every one of them. but the thing is i lik him , and he's alwayz flirtin wit me , nd i flirt bak. but when he came here , me nd my b/f juss started goin out,nd som1 tld me tht he liked me bak. and everyone says tht we would mak a good couple. but the other day my best friend saw my b/f kiss his ex-gf , nd he said he didnt,so wut should i do? Should i break up wit my b/f , nd go out wit the new kid? or Should i give my b/f another chance, nd juss be friends wit the new kid? nd im 13/f
Signed really confused

You're only 13 and you're already dealing with this stuff?
Anyways, you should go for who you like the most. I advise you not to keep flirting with the guy if you intend to stay with your boyfriend. Choose one and stay loyal to him. From what it sounds like, you like the second guy more than your boyfriend, and then there's the added problem that he may have cheated on you. I say you go for the guy you met recently. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
-Farren

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okay well im 14 and in the 8th grade i started my period in the 6th grade and i only go for 2 days every tiem i have it maybe 3 but i only had it moer then 3 like 2 other times in my life and they were really light.. im not a lil tiny girl but im not fat or anything im just a regular girl and i was wondering if its normal or not, i saw that there was someone else asking that but usally she has it for 5 she said i always have it for 2 :-/ i promise ill rate 5!

You should have included your weight in the question. You could think you're "normal" but really be skinny, it's an opinion, if we knew your weight we could help you more. If you're 110 or less then it's probably completely normal.

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Hey! My boyfriend and I have been going out for ten months in March, and I really think that him and I are in love. Not just in a physical sense, but him and I connect mentally. We both really enjoy intellectual discussions about anything and everything. We can talk about any problems that we're having and the other can almost always relate. We can stay on the phone for hours at a time and not get bored, and both of us are extremely loyal to the other. We're just like best friends excluding the romance part. We're really close. The only thing is, sometimes it gets so discouraging when people say we're too young to be in love. I know we're both in love with each other, but other than getting married when we're able to (He and I are both fourteen), how can we deal with annoying old people who think love can only be understood at a certain age? Thanks in advance.

Well, the reason they think love can only be understood at a certain age is because most people our age don't know what love is, they don't understand it, and they confuse liking or being sexual with love. So, they have a point, but there are some people who are truly young and in love, and you two may be. You just have to ignore them, if you know in your heart that it's love then nothing else matters. You should always try to understand where other people are coming from though. Anyways, good luck and congratulations on ten months!
-Farren

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k yea i really like this guy he recently just broke up with one of my friends. i realized that i like him, but he acts weird around me, i don't know why,i want him to act normal around me, also i want him to like me back, so how can i do this, and don't say flirting. if you do at least be specific

He probably feels uncomfortable around you because you're his ex-girlfriend's friend. Maybe if the breakup was recent he just needs some time to get used to being single again. And as for a way to get him to like you back, there aren't methods, you can't "make" someone like you, just be yourself and eventually you will find out if he likes you or not and if he doesn't there's nothing you can really do about it. Good luck.
-Farren

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I have one of these, and it's great, except for the pressure sensitivity thing. When I'm trying to digitally ink a drawing, the sensitivity creates wavy, inconsitant lines. Is there a way to switch it off?

I would keep practicing. At first it's really hard to get smooth lines, but after that the pressure sensitivity becomes a great tool and it's really useful. If you don't get used to it at first, you might never see the benefits of it. As for how to turn it off, it should be in the manual that came with the product.
-Farren

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my friends stepdad molested her last night and i dont no what to do. i no i NEED to be there for her. and her mom said that if they cant find another house to buy they are moving over an hour away. which means i will probably never see her again. she is like my best friend. someone please help me. it has just hit me that i might not ever talk to her again. someone please help. i have been crying a lot...

Keep in touch through chatting and e-mail and go to see her on special occasions, an hour or so drive isn't that much if you really care about her. I'll pray for you and your friend hun, and I hope you two are okay and stay in touch.
-Farren

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Hey, okay this is kinda weird for me to ask...but is it wrong for you to have a bf, or well, not a bf..but I mean at my skewl when you say bf, it's someone you just say you're goin out with, and not actually do anything besides hold hands, and im not sure but maybe kiss..at school...thats it..so is it wrong for you to have one without your parents' permission...like,i mean, not the kind where i haven't asked them cause I'm afraid of their answer, I mean I haven't asked them cause I KNOW their answer, because their not American and they have values and all that...but see I was raised in an American or International way, and so at my school...and there's this guy I like on and off..and he flirts with me...and all that. but even for the future..an I asked my sister if it's okay with her anyway coz even though she's not allowed she had 2 before without my parents finding out, but she said no, it's better not to...so is it okay for me to go ahead when they've all said no, because it's not fair, and it's my life..and even though I'm young, I know it has nothing to with age, they will never let me have a bf in their right minds...i dunno...life is pretty horrible for me right now..my parents are really mean besides that too...so i'm confused. Plz help m and answer my question. Thanx. I'm really sorry this was soo long. THX

Your parents are being narrow minded. If it were me in your situation, I'd go for it. It'll be a nice experience. Good luck, and don't get caught!
-Farren

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my friends and are going out for a nite in the town and i like one of my friends a guy and he knows what should i do?! i know flirt but should i do anything special maybe ask for a goodnite kiss?! suggestions please!!

Maybe you should ask to walk around with him and break off from the bigger group, not like ditching them, just so you can talk to him alone for a while. Then go with the flow, good luck!
-Farren

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i moved this summer and was really, really worried about not being able to make new friends. my friends said that i would make friends in no time, and i did. but last weekend, i called my freind, and when i said i had to go, she asks, "why?" and i told her that i was going over to my new friends house, and she got all huffy and mad. its like she doesnt want me to make friends! i dont get her! it is confusing me alot, so if anyone has any good advice, please tell me.

I rate 5s!

Hey, I live in Florida! Anyways, I think your friend is just trying to let you know that she still cares about you and wants to keep in touch. Maybe she's scared you'll forget all your friends over here for your new Connecticut friends. If she only reacted that way in that one event, then it's by no means a big deal and I would pay no attention to it. Really, you should just think of it as a good thing, she still wanted to talk to you and because of that you know you haven't been forgotten and your friendship is still valued. Good luck with that situation hun, I'm sure it's nothing.
-Farren

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i started liking this boy right after winterbreak. he started liking me too and we started hanging out alot. we went out for a little bit but then broke up. then he started liking one of my good friends. now he like sme again and im still crazy about him. i dont know what to do. i love him to death.

Give him another chance, but if you think he's just using you and going out with you because your friend didn't get with him then don't let him lead you on. I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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ok... so i was going to go to this one highschool... and my boyfriend is goin to a different one. and i didnt know.. but i thought i was gunna break up with him before highschool.. and i was all ready for it. and now he just told me that hes goin to my highschool, cuz he might be moving and he might pay outta district fees. and now i feel like crap, cuz i dont know how im gunna break up with him!!!! help please!!
13/f and ive been dating him for 5 months.. almost 6

If you don't like him then you should by all means end this, don't waste his or your time. Yes, he'll be sad and it will be hard on him, but it would be worse to continue the relationship and lead him on by faking affection. Just tell him things aren't working out, you're only 13, it's not like you were planning on marrying him. Lay it on him as kindly as possible, and maybe you guys will end up being friends. Good luck.
-Farren

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