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virgin..
i am 16/f and my boyfriend is 18/m we are both virgins and we are in love with each other.. for sure .. i know what hes in this relationship for and i feel like having sex with him.. not to just f*ck but to share something with him that neither of us have experienced.. do you think this is a bad idea? do you think ill regret it? will peopel look at me differently?
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stonecoldmystery
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Virginity (I shall start out as I have before) is a beautiful thing. You will want to give it to the person you marry. If this guy really loves you, and cares about you he will wait for you. If not... I am sorry to advise you to leave him. It is no good to do this even at the age (older than mine) of 16. Abstenence is easy to make, just promise yourself, and you future soul mate (where ever they may be) that you will wait for them. I hope you do not hate me for my blunt statements.
Yours truly,
Shiny Button
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You can do it if you want. But I promise you that the chance of yall stayin together are low. Because yall might like it,but you will both want to try it with other people sooner or later. I promise, and once you've lost your virginity, the numbers just start adding up. You'll get hurt in the end,but if your willing to accept that you wont be together forever do it.
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People won't look at you differently because no body will know unless you tell. I believe in waiting to have sex after you get married. Do you really want to have sex with someone that you might not even be with for the rest of your life? Another thing is that if you do it, he could get charged with sagitory(spelling?)rape. That would not be good. I think that you should wait.
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i say go for it. if your really ready and this is something you know you want to do for sure, then you will have no regrets. some people might but it doesnt matter what people think about it. it wasnt them and it wasnt their decision to make. so go for it. have fun and be safe!
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Well people dont have to know what goes on between you might also be better cause he's older then you and everything..also um if you do love him and you know he loves you then you shouldnt regret it ever in your life make sure of that for one thing.. and i dont think if its a bad idea if you have all these kinda feelings and he has em for you too.. and people shouldnt look at you differently you lost it to somebody you love..you didnt jus pick some random person off the street and fucked em..ya feel me...?? go for it and best of luck to you babe..much luv dez
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If you really love him wait. There is always two sides to each stone.
A. Wait and it will be even more special.
B. Do it now and then you can say you shared somthing special for your first time.
I wont give my choice because its too hard for me. Im sorry but thats all I can say.
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I think you should go for it i dont think people will look at you differently because its a normal thing to do when you love some one and your ready and its no bodys buisness exept yours and your boyfriends and your 16 so theres another advantage
if your ready go for it
roxie
plz rate honestly
xxxx♥
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i honestly think that you should go for it. and i gaurantee you won't regret this if you love him as much as you say you do. people won't look at you differently ..just decide wether or not you wanna tell people. you guys should be able to share something special and you guys will never ever forget one another. I'm 15 and a half and my boyfriend is 18. you just gotta know what kinda person they are.. hope u make the right decision!!
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Alright- if you two love eachother, then you wouldn't lust eachother, wait for marriage. What if you two break up after you've had sex? Maybe he just wants sex. As hard as it is to believe it, it's true. A lot of girls your age go out and have sex then their boyfriends dump them. Just wait for marriage, it will be even more special then if you wait.
Em
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You guys are too young in my opinion. This stuff leads to serious problems. Rumors in school, and you mgiht even get pregnant. I would save it for after high school. If youi love hom that much, you should be able to stay together that long.
--Kylie
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girl idk what are you smoking but the smoking needs to stop girl he's gonna f*ck you than leave you
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why would people look down on your for having sex? if you want and your ready go for it, you will eventually anyway. Dont do it for any other reason apart from that you want and that your ready. you will only regret it if you dont use protection or like.. you get caught or something. i bet heaps of the kids in your school arnt virgins, why would look differently at you? more importantly why do they need to know?
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If, what you have with your boyfriend, is completly special then i think that you should wait. I kno that it sounds bad...but if you did go all the way then you would wish you would have waited. So, you might regret it even tho you think you wouldnt. A really close friend of mine regrets it. But its your choice...im just your opinion.
think about it
sam
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Hey!
That sounds familliar...Lol. I was in that situation when I was 16. Last year, with my boyfriend. (Still with him).
If you two really love each other, and it's an act of love, not lust, you won't regret it. I certainly don't.
If you're worried about people looking at you differently, don't tell anyone for awhile, and ask your boyfriend not to tell anyone. We made a deal that we could each tell one person we trusted, but only on the condition that they'd tell no one else. That worked for us.
It's an awesome feeling to be in love. Sex, as you know, can be painful, and it's a very intimate thing. To deal with that kinda pain, and to deal with the emotions, you're gonna wanna be with someone you love and trust. I was, and I really don't regret anything. I honestly don't think it's a bad idea, but opinions, you'll find, will differ.
I'd be a hypocrite if I said it was a bad idea. It's true, though, I believe it is illegal. HOWEVER...it's unlikely that anyone's going to turn you or him in.
Sharing something this intimate with a guy you really love can be the coolest thing in the world...but don't expect it to be amazing...lol. I can use one word to describe my first experience: "OW". Lol. But other than that...as I said, I have no regrets, and if your decision is out of love, you probably won't either.
Just make sure you're willing and ready, and more importantly that HE is willing and ready to deal with any possible consequences of your...actions. (pregnancy, stds, etc, however unlikely those are, he has to be willing to deal with them should the problems arise.)
The final decision, as you know, is yours.
I hope I helped a bit!
-Siren =)
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ok first of all it's not legal to have sex with him. if he's 18 and your 16 it's considered rape even if it's consentual. and if he's only in this realationship for sex, i dont know if he's gonna want you after sex, mainly because you wont be a virgin anymore, so you might regret it and ppl i feel will look at u differently for having sex this young with someone considered to be over age. but this is your choice. i hope i helped cause im not sure how i can truely help with his. so i hope i helped in some way.
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