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Jaded after a breakup?
I dated somebody for a year. She was my first everything: first person I fell in love with, first person I got close to, first person I became intimate with, everything. We broke up in January. I am over the relationship itself, but I am not over her. I think those feelings will be there for a while, there really isnt anything I can do to make them go away. Well, now I'm dating again. Ive been seeing the same girl for the past few weeks now, and things are starting to become a bit more serious. Not very serious, but its becoming more than just dating. Shes even my date to prom, which is in 2 months now. Problem is, the feelings arent anywhere near as intense as it was with my ex girlfriend. I like this new girl, shes totaly great, but I feel like I've become jaded since my breakup, and therefore dont have much to offer her. Any advice on what to do?
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If the 1st girl still likes you, then wait until the prom is over to ask her out again. But if the 2nd girl is more special, then keep going out, and being her bf....
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soon thoes feeling will go away everyone will always have a little sumthing for there 1st crush so you just need to concentrate on your new relationship you havent been going out with her that long you never know you may like her more then the other girl
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Hi Sweetie,
This may seem difficult but the thing you have to do is get space away from your ex in every way possible. I mean, if you and her still sa hi everyonce in a while kind of try to avoid her. I you don't see her anymore then good. Try to avoid thoughts about her as well. Try to focus on yor new girl. Pay close attention to all features of this new girl, no matter how small they may seem. Crete new memories with her to replce the memories of your ex. The more you pay attention to the features of your new girl's features and notice her personality you will become more emotionally closer with her. Try to spend as much time with this girl and get to know her. Learn about her personalit and life and her her thoughts and what she has to say. Don't worry if you still have feelings for your ex, with time they will not compare with what you feel for this new girl.
Take care! Good luck! ~Blessed Be...
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Well, I can understand where you're coming from. You'll never feel the same after your first love as with your new girl. Hard as it may be, it's time to try and let go, and let this new girl have all you have to offer.
They will never be as intense, that's the thing about it. You've got to realize this, and try to enjoy your relationship. Hope this helped.
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hun* well your *ex* was your first everything and you will always have feelings for that girl... jus really try your best to give what you can to this girl your with now.. its good that you have also tried to move on.. you probably wont feelings for your new girl friend like your ex for a while..cause those feelings for your ex became more and more over a year..you only been with the new girl for a few weeks your not going to have the same kinda feelings in jus a few weeks and you shouldnt.. there is nothing wrong with how you feel or what you are doing.. jus do the best you can for your new girlfriend thats all you can really do now.. much luv dez
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hey babe-its gonng be hard after you break up with someone who has meant so much to you and who you have experienced a lot of firsts with. If it makes it any easier you just have to accept that you are never going to forget her because she was your first. Be open and honest with this new girl-let her know you were in a serious relationship and let her know you are still getting over this other girl. If she truly and genuinely likes you she will stick around for you and give you a chance to get over your ex. Honestly sometimes the reason you can't let go is because your heart doesn't want to. Sometimes your brain wants to let go and move on but your heart isn't ready so give it time and know that this girl isn't your ex so be patient with the relationship-im sure it will grow into something positive and amazing, just wait for your heart to catch up to your head. And based on what you said mentioning prom and such im guessing you are still in high school, believe me you will meet and date a lot of girls, some will mean a lot to you, some won't as much, but every person you encounter will shape your life in some way-not to be cheesy but thats just what i believe so best of luck and i hope all works out for you! xoxoxo sar
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