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hi, i am a sophomore boy and i have a crush on a freshman girl in my basketball class. i have had a lot of aim convos with her, many in person convos, and ive called her twice. i hear she has a bf and apparently, theyre in love. i dont want to be a third wheel or anything, and im sure shes not slutty or anything. what should i do? ive tried keeping low and playing hard to get, but it doesnt seem to have any positive effect, so im talking to her online and a little bit in person. should i ask her out (not ask her out to be my gf, but ask her to hang out) or what? (link)
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H Sweetie,
Playing hard to get doesn't realy work doing it on girls. As a girl myself I notice that generally it is the opposite. Girls tend to fall for guys that show affection for them. Maybe it's just me and my low self-esteem, but I have fallen for a guy mainly because I thought he liked me. Had he not liked me or not had been the one to make the first move I wouldn't had really noticed him. There are always excpetions and it does depend on who the person is and... I'm just giving an example of the "general" stuff.
Anyway, I think it is cool if you guys hang out... but maybe it wouldn't be that great of an idea to go out (even if it's just as friends). I mean, if you know that it is only going to lead into you liking her more and... making it worst then it's best that you only hang out at school and if you do hang out outside of school then with like lots of friends there too. Plus, she may get in trouble with her boyfriend. But if you are 100% confident (it better be 100% confident though) that you can manage going out as just friends and you aren't going to feel all sad that she isn't your girlfriend or you're not going to come on to her or something then it's cool if you hang out of school. Don't be too rejected if she says no. Maybe she doesn't think her boyfriend would approve.
If you guys do hang out outside of school or not I think that you guys should efenetly be friends. Don't be tied down to only liking her. Like other chicks or try. And be a good friend and always be there for her. ...And when the time passes and she and her current boyfriend are no longer together... something could happen then. Just put it off for later. Have some distance between you and her so you won't try anything weird and you won't feel depressed that she has a boyfriend, but zstill be a good friend and earn her trust. It will pay off later.
Be good. Hope it turns out cool. Have a nice day. ~Blessed Be...
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Ok, here goes...background, I'm 30, recently separated and getting divorced. I had not had much of any social life while married, long story and part of the reason for the divorce..anyway, to help meet new people I posted a personal on a website, I met and started emailing with someone, we went to talking on the phone, we've been talking for a few weeks now, at first if I asked about getting together she gently passed the question, then we made plans to get together, she didn't show but called. She has said she was and is scared when it comes to guys in general, she has said she really likes me, and I like her, we talk for hours, but I again asked her out and she just said she's really nervous...I don't know if she wants to date, or if I'm wasting my time. I'm not in a hurry, but at the same time if we like each other, why have we not gotten together, we know alot about each other and it seems mutual, but...DOES SHE WANT TO DATE?? I don't want to pressure her, but she even told me if I don't push her we won't ever get together because she's nervous/scared...What do I do? (link)
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Hi,
Yes she wants to date. But she doesn't want to be nervous... and dating makes her nervous. Show her you are a good person by being nice to her and a good listener and a good friend (good relationships start with friendship) and she'll see there's nothing to be scared of. If she not shows up again tell her to promise you she'll show up next time and you'll bring flowers so she has to go.
Good luck! Have a nice day! ~Blessed Be...
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i have this friend, and he is a year older than me(im 13, he is 14). we met through another friend and we have talked for a long time. He is really hott and hard to resist. we both have webcams and we had gotten naked for each other and we would do stuff for the other one to watch. he had always had a girlfriend during this time and it never seemed to bother him. about 2 weeks ago, we were gonna go on cam again. i took off my shirt and my bra and he was watching and everything was like normal, then, when it was his turn to show, he used the "i cant do this, i have a girlfriend" excuse. i dont know if he really meant it or not or if he just wanted to see and not show. that doesnt really bother me...its just now...that him and his gf broke up, he wants me to show him stuff again and i dont want to anymore. what should i tell him with out actually saying that? please help...i will rate! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Tell him you have a boyfriend and you can't do that. If he says something like "he's not here, he won't know" remind him how HE never showed cause his gilrfriend. Or just tell him you don't feel like it. But thaty's what you don't want to say... so nevermind. Tell him you have a guy. ...And he s jeolous and calls a lot or... something. Or he is watcing you on a webcam too and he will know if you are stripping and he'lll be pissed.
Take care! Good luck! ~Blessed Be...
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So there's this guy I like who likes me back.. the only reason we're not going out is because he lives in another city really far away. But its sort of understood that we have this thing going on. Anyway.. he's always talking about how hard it is for him to communicate openly with girls considering he doesnt have many female friend... ha yeah right. I just so happened to have guessed his email password (wrong I know.. but I have it and now I cant just not have it anymore!) and he has a ton of emails from all sorts of girls. There are "xoxo"'s and "love so and so"'s everywhere!!! I know Im not technically supposed to be mad considering Im not supposed to have been in there anyway.. but I cant help it. Is there anyway I can confront him about the girls.. ask him if there's someone else.. without him knowing I went in his email? Or should I shake it off and leave him and his email alone? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
OK, reading his email without his concent wasn't exactly something Jesus would do (l.o.l.) but you know that as I can see from what you wrote to me. However wha's done is done, so feel free to be pissed off. ...HOWEVER he CANNOT know you went to his email. If he does HE will be pissed off and manage to turn the situation on you. ...This makes the confrontation difficult.
I don't know exactly what you want to do, but this is what I would do. I'd go to his email account a few more times (from a pc nobody would find out I'm checking his email on) to investigate a litle bit more. ...Exactly what kind of relationship do these girls have with him? Is he leading them on... going out with any of them... are they just internet whores... chick friends he denied having... or something else. ...If you already have figured it out then skip this step. This step isn't much help... but it's always good to be SURE of something then to be unsure. ...Maybe he has some weird mental illness and sents emails to himself pretending he's some chick (I highly doubt it, but it's just an example of how it's better to be sure of things than usure).
Once you figured that out you talk to him. Maybe the emails will give you clues on what to say... like if he ever meets the girls in public you can say that a friend (never give out this friend's name... just say "A friend") "thinks" he/she saw him with someone on the same date one of the email chicks arranged for him and her to hang out somewhere. If he reacts too defensive then that's a bad sign. ...Then you should just shake it off and start looking around for Plan B guys incase the situation with your guy gets worst.
In my experience letting guys know you honestly like them gives them something to think about when other girtls are flirting with them and gives them something to have in their conscious. Tell him once and say it clearly that you like him. ...Then it would be a good time to ask if there's someone else he might be interest in. ...You know him and you might even know body language habbits he does when he's lying so examine how he responds your question. Don't just take his word for it.
I'm sorry my answer is so long, but I have some OTHER ideas you might want to try. Send him an email or an e-card and then when you're in a room with him (...but he lives in another city... just in case you are in a room with him) that has a computer and interet access tell him you want to see the email you send him and don't take no for an answer.
Whatever you do he must NEVER know you were on his email. I'm sorry I can't help much. I have never been in this situation myself. Well take care and good luck!!! Have a nice day. ~Blessed Be...
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like i am so confused i really want a bf now but like its wired cuz i like guys and i want a bf and everythings like pressure like my bff is my crushes gf and plz give me advice ! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
OK, you may just HATE the advice I will give you, but in my experience it is true.
You always find things when you stop looking for them. That's how I found my first boyfriend. I had gone from little crushes... getting all into having a crush. Then one day I was like "hell with it". ...I didn't have any crushes at that point. Then suddenly everybody told me this one guy liked me... and we got together. After that guy I went though a period where I was just figuring out my feelings. ...Then I met these three guys who thought I was pretty... two of them asked me to be their gilrfriend at different times. I said no to one of them. ...I'm with the other one. He is my current boyfriend actually.
Hope you get what I tried to tell you. Stop worrying. I guess guys like girls that don't look so stressed out about them... Good luck! Goodnight! ~Blessed Be...
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my friend is going out with a guy. she is like my BEST FRIEND EVER, and this guy is 16 and shes 12. im worried because we both know this is an illegal relationship. what should i do? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Don't worry, thsoe relationships don't lasty long. At least not usually. Evenm if he IS a great guy and likes her a lot... his friends will influince him to dump her. ...That or they won't have a lot of things in common. Or the parents will find out, step in, and dissaprove. Or their OTHER firends will disaprove. OR he'll meet a hot 16-year old girl. Things almost always happen in thsoe relationships. Instead of getting her pissed at you for dissaproving just tell her "it's your decision. I personally wouldn't go ot with a 16yr old. But like I said, it's your decision. i respect it." or "Just consider the age difference. If you still want to be with him then I'll never say anything about it again." When the relationship ends she won't be pissed at you. She'll see you as the good friend who respected her feelings and choices.
Hope I helped. ~Blessed Be...
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My girlfriend and I have been going out for 9 months, and its the first time I've loved anyone. Yesterday we were talking about looks and why it does/doesn't matter in a realtionship. She told me she wasint that physically attracted to me but my personality was enough. I didn't know how to react, I just smiled. She basically told me I was ugly and I dont know what to do. It sucks because I love her so much and I feel so low right now. I dont know what to do/what to think/ etc.
-17/male (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
...You are going to have to get her thoughts straight. If you are afraid to try the direct approach and be like "what's the deal? Am I hot or not?" Try asking her to... rate you. "1 being really ugly, and 10 being really hot, what nmber would you give me?" If she wants to get rated too have her rate you first. That way your opinion of her won't influince her opinion of you. Tell her to be honest, and that you won't get hurt. (Even if you will, the only way to get the truth our of her is to convince her you will not be hurt... and if she really thinks you are a 10, she'll say it, but if she thinks you're a 4, she'll say it).
Good luck. Goodnight. ~Blessed Be...
p.s. listen to mylinhthan's advice. I, too, go for the nerdy-looking guys. All of my crushes have been... just not the kind of guys you'd see in the football team or the lead singers of a rock band. My boyfriend IS hot, and I acknowledge it, and other girls do too. But that is not the main factor that attracts me to him. ...That could be what she meant. She could think you are a 10 but tell you "it's not because of your looks that we are together". ...
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My husband seems to always have another female in his life..if its just a friend or an ex. he has a cell phone that he talks to her on alot.. they use to call the house..but it bothered me..so i said somethng bout it..now they call his cell. I mentioned to him that i noticed he always seemed to have to have another woman in his life..he tells me that i dont want him to have friends..but i told him i didnt care if he had "friends" just this girl thing is disrespectful i think. he told me that she was his best friend and there is nothing i can do about it..she disappears bout 2yrs ago ..all of a sudden she is in a bad relationship and pops back in..am i wrong for having a problem with this..is it right for him to have the hidden conversations..please let me know..relationship in jeopardy.. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
No, what you are feeling is NOT wrong. ...If anything he should be more respectfu to your feelings. You are his wife. ...Nothing should come first. No matter how important it may seem. ...He shouldn't be defensive. Or selfish by thinking "if I want friends, even if they are girls, I'll have friends. I'll be happy and completely forget my wife's feelings." ...It doesn't matter if it's him having conversations with a chick friend o if it's just him not flushing the toilet seat after he uses the potty, but if something is important to you he should understand, respect your opinion and listen to you, talk with you, tell you his feelings and why he makes his decisions, and like a mature adult be able to come with a compromise with you. He shouldn't be angry or try to make you feel guilt. ...You have every right over him. That is what marriage is about. Giving eachother the right over you.
It is very bad that he keeps all his conversations secret. ...Even if that friend were a man, it is not right. The reason is because he is being completely disconsiderate of you. He should try to explain or work out a compromise or understandment, even if he had to give up something, like his friendship. ...If that girl is having relationship problems it is even worst. He really should understand that no matter how close she is... you have a problem with this. No matter how much he may want to help her, all he should do is give her a card of a coupple counselor or refer her somewhere else and wish her good luck, but keep his distance from her. Why? Because there was a problem in YOUR relationship (which should come before anyone else's relationship) and it needed to be solved.
My best wishes. I hope it all turns out for the best. I hope you'll let me know. Goodnight. ~Blessed Be...
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what are some good love songs for you and your boyfriend.. like a song that he would like too lol. thank you so much (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Led Zeppelin have lots of songs you can choose from. Example: "Stairway to Heaven". Guys love Led Zeppelin and chicks do too. ...Pretty much anything by Green Day. Example: "Don't Leave Me". Or try "Lead Singer" by Cheap Suits. "Blue and Yellow" by The Used. That one rocks.
Hope someone helps you out better. Take care.
~Blessed Be...
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15/F
While growing up I never had the "two parent home" that most have and I am fine with that. My mother has been great, The only problem was the show of love always bothered me. IE: kissing, hugging, holding hands. I never felt comfortable around that stuff because I never saw it and I didn't know how to act when someone did. Its not that I didn't get effection or anything but I didn't see kissing or love toward another man with my mom so when others did it I thought it was wrong. (just my young childish logic) Fast forward to now, I'm 15 and i guess I have a BF. Well, he likes me. We've kissed/madeout and held hands. We have a date saturday and I'm acually not that nervous for the most part. Its just that I don't know how to tell him my feelings, He said "I love you", I said "I love you" but that just doesn't seem to cut if for me. I don't want to seem clingy and I really don't feel comfortable saying i love you since everyone in my family is seriously screwed with love. I like Ryan and I don't want to get hurt by him or hurt him. (I'm afraid I might make a rash decision and dump him)
So exactly how do I get myself to calm down and just enjoy the fact that he likes me? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
You don't Time does. ...The more of it that goes by you start realizing... maybe not everything has to be difficult or end up in someone's pain or unhapiness. ...Maybe you like him and he likes you and that is just great. Everything you can ask for right now. ...I can somewhat relate. ...But it's worst for me. ...I don't hold my boyfriend's hand... we hardly ever kiss... hell hugging him is awkward. I love him and I've said it. ...He has said it mosre than once... me just once. ...Being affectionate is a new concept, especially with guys. ...And it makes it weirder knowing that... he does like me... I don't know but giving affection can be weird, but I find it weirder knowing you are getting it back.
...It does get eassier. ...With the passing of time you it becomes less of a new oncept and more of... an expression of affection. I've experienmce it quite ome times now. ...I'm sorry I cannot say much that is helpful to our problem, but that is because in my experience it is not words that helps this particular problem. It's time. ...You'll see how things will start chaning on how you feel and how you express your feelings. ...Then you won't worry. You'll think to yourself "worrying??? Hell with it. There's nothing to worry about. We like eachother and we know that and... we make eachother happy. Period."
Have a goodnight! ~Blessed Be...
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I watched Man on Fire a few hours ago, and after crying really hard I started crying even more when it said Mr. Creasy died on 12.16.2003. Now I'm confused, is Man on Fire based on a true story or not? If it is, I think I'm going to cry again. Thanks to anyone who helps. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Yeah, it's based on a true story. It really is a great movie.
Please don't cry. ~Blessed Be...
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So there's this boy I used to see at school a lot. Now he works at a grocery store in our town. Only he works early in the morning. I've heard a lot of really good things about him lately. Everyone says how amazingly nice he is. And considering nice guys are hard to find, I want to have a fair chance at this guy. But he also has a girlfriend (so I've heard.. from a boy who likes me..)
So I want a chance at him, but I've never spoken to him before, never had a class with him, and I dont have the slightest idea how to approach him and what to say. Also, I dont want to scare him off being that he's a quiet kind of guy.
Any help is greatly appreciated.
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Hi Sweetie,
...Yeah, nice guys are hard to find. I agree. ...You used to see him at school... you want to aproach him but you don't know how without scaring him off but at the same time making him slightly aware you might be interested in him. OK, so that's what we have to work with here.
Before I give you any advice I think it is only fair you are aware my advice may not be as valid to you in this field since I got dumped a few weeks ago. My advice to you will only be a well-intended suggestion. It is completely p to you if you chose to follow it or no or even listen to it or not.
A good approach is... okay, go buy something at the grocery store or... soemtime that you see him try this line, "hey, you look familiar. Didn't I used to see you around at school?" Try that line IF you see him at the grocery story. If you DON'T see him at the grocery store then ask him "hey, don't you work at the grocery store?" Then make small friendly conversation like "yeah, I thought I knew you from somewhere. My name is (whatever your name is)." Ask him for his name... say hi... if he continue the converstion then keep it going. If he doesn't say much then say "okay, I have to go. See you around." Then say hi to him when you see him.
With this approach he wont't be scared away. Also, he'll start noticing you if he hadn't already, and if he had and he is interested in you... then you know what may happen.
Good luck!!! Take care, have a nice day ~Blessed be...
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I feel like my life can't get any lower. Everything I was good at I am no longer good at. No matter how hard I try people are always a lot better. My grades are slipping and nothing I do makes me happy. I hate my life and I just want to stay in my room and be alone forever. What do I do? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I can relate. Life is weird. he only advice I have to give you is live life one day at a time. Today... what do you want to do today What kind of person do you want to be today? How do you feel today? And wht would make today a good day? ust observe how your days are... and the things that happen... analyze why things are. Maye you want to take p a hobby that will help you with your feelings like poetry or writing songs or playing an instrument or painting.
Hope you feel better soon. ...Today just okay. Tomorrow maybe a lot better, but it doesn't matter. Be okay TODAY :-) Have a goodnight. ~Blessed Be...
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Is a disco party a good party for a 12-year-old turning 13? My little sister is thinking of doing that for her birthday, and I was wondering what everyone thought. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
This girl who had the party is a friend of your sister's, right? If she is then maybe it wouldn't be a good idea to have a disco party too. See... for that girl the party still seems like a good idea because its unusual and weird and cool. ...But since it IS unusual it will be too weird to have one... right after the other. Sorry but that type of thing gets burned out fast. It will still be a good idea if that girl is some stranger who does not have the same guests s your sister plans to invite to her party. ...If you DO have the party then yes have a mini-dance off.
Take care, good luck. ~Blessed Be...
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My family is extremely well off money wise. And so are the kids that go to my high school but my family kind of has more money then most of the people in our neighborhood.
Well, I've been talking to a few girls at school about our prom dresses and theirs are around 200-500 dollars. Well, I found the perfect dress but it's 1,500 dollars. I'm supposed to go buy it this weekend but there's a problem. It's not that we can't afford the dress, because we can and my parents think that it's a good amount to pay for it. It's that I don't want to be the only girl there that paid over a thousand dollars for a Prom dress. I don't want people to talk about it or anything.
Should I get the dress even though it's 3 or 4 times more than what everyone else is going to pay for theirs?
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Hi Sweetie,
Enjoy life... enjoy what you have... don't go through life having a craving for something you can obtain. You have money? Good for you! You want the dress??? You can afford it??? People will gossip??? Yes, yes, yes. Are yu going to live forever??? No. Sweetie, just enjoy what you have. I mean, really live it. And if people DO talk about it then whatever. It's just a fact. It's a dress... it's pricey... but you'll be happy.... and you can afford it. Buy it. For those people that CAN'T get what they want.... you have the privilage to have what you want. Take advantage of that. Don't let ANYBODY ruin it for you. Honestly, I'd give you the same advice if you had asked me if wearing a dress made of rags would be OK ...if it made you happy then yea.
Well have fun at the prom. I'm sure you'll be the prettiest girl (because you're happy) with the prettiest dress (because its what you wanted). Take care. ~Blessed Be...
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I am 14 years old, and i like a guy that goes to my school. He is going out with the biggist slut ever.. & I like him alot! Everyone thinks they are wrong for each other. I need a way to win him over. I donno what to do cuz me and the girl hate each other. He won't listen to any of his friends and i know he wont listen to me. We would be the best couple ever! So if you have any advice please feel free to give it!! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I have a plan! It may seem evil, and rather viscious. But its your choice was advice you take. This is merely a suggestion.
First of all back off on the "Seriously, your girlfriend is a whore". Be like "I just think you can do better. But if you really like her then I hope you are happy." This will make him trust you.
Now phase II. Observe her. WHAT makes her a slut. Is it because she flirts with every gy she sees? Or... maybe she is capable to cheat on that guy.
Next, set her up. Maybe get a guy to flirt with her or something and manage for it to be at the same time that her boyfriend happens to "coinsidently" be walking by. Of course, you will have to plan this to make sure she seems encriminating.
After that no matter what the trust in her wil be over and the guy will start thinking about how everybody warned him... And hey, you'll only be sending some guy to flirt wioth her. If she flirts back or does something slutty... that's her problem. No body forces her to do that.
Good luck! ...And you should probably read other people's advice before this one. AND remember to onsider HIS feeligs. If he REALLY likes her... only he or her can change that. An if they did broke up... he might still not be over her. So please consider that feelings are hard to kill and to make up. He can't be forced to stop liking her (eve if they do break up) and he can't b forced to like you (even if he does stop liking her).
Hope you at least got a laugh out of my weirdness advice. Take care. P.S. ~Blessed Be...
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My boyfriend and i have been going out for about a month now. My best friend had no problem with him until now. She says she hates him. What can I do to fix that? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
ask her why. ...Mayeb she is subconsiously jeolous of your spending time with him or giving him a lot of attention. If it is so then you will have to divide your time to spend with each. Maybe you can spend nutrition with her and lunch with him. ...Just don't talk about him constanty when you are with her.
Ask her too. Maybe she has ome other reasons...
Good night and good luck with your problems. ~Blessed Be...
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I have this friend that has a cancer but I dont know wut kind and he was doing really well untill the day of my uncles b_day.
We got a call on the phone that said he wasnt doing to well and that they gave him some medicine that they usually give people who are about to die.
I am so worried wut if he dies and we will never be able to see him again.
He is only 17 years old
HELP WANTED.
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Hi Sweetie,
It never hurts to pray for a miracle. Every once in a while... they do happen.
Either way the only thing I avdvice is no matter what happens stay by his side. Spend as much time with him as you can... and talk about happy thigs (na matter how difficult it may seem). He is going through a hard time, too. If these are his last moments or even if they are only he first of the rest of his life, I'm sure he wants to see you happy. I know happiness may be asking for too much... try to be as strong as you can... for him.
My best wishes! Have a goodnight and ~Blessed Be...
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I was wondering what HIV AIDS are. Could you please tell me what it is. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
HIV is a virus transmitter though body fluids. For instance, sharing a needle with a carrier of the disease or having unprotected sex. AIDS is the disease tat destroys your immune system.
Hope I helped. Take care and have a good night. ~Blessed Be...
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Okay, I have a problem. I don't know if it's normal or not. I guess I'll start out by saying I'm fairly outgoing and loud. Anyways, my friends and I and some other guys went to this guy Micheal's house today. Micheal's a 9th grader (I'm in 8th) and we were there for like 4 hours without his parents home. Anyways, when basically everyone except one other guy had left, we started cuddling on his bed. He was holding my hand and like rubbing his hand on my stomach and stuff while we were watching a movie and earlier we held hands while I was just sitting on the bed and he was on the floor (his matresses are on the floor) and I don't know, I liked him being there with me and doing stuff with him, but I got so nervous! I don't know why, I just felt kind of awkward. Do any of you get this way too?
P.S. Micheal likes me if that means anything for details.
-Christeena (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Once this guy that told me he liked me and wanted to hook up and stuff got touchy. I haven't really gone though that a lot. Well that time I was okay and everythig a first. But then I when it had been that way for too long I got uncomftrable and moved away. it ws weird how natural it had been one second and then... it got awkward. I guess you have to take things slo.w We were stnding up hen that happened... you took it too fast l.o.l. or so I thik.
Take care. Be good. ~Blessed Be...
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