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Hey I guess this is my "I'm good at giving advice so ask me" paragraph. I'm 21/m and I am currently in the US Army. I have a fiance whom I love more than anyone on earth. If you need anything or have questions just ask!

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I've already asked this but didn't know how to ask everyone. I'm male, 25. I've been going through a very stressful time with my job and family recently - I got laid off despite excellent qualifications, because they have outsourced to Canada, and was quite severely depressed. I am introspective, and don't have many friends, but value the ones I do very deeply. Anyway, I rather stupidly decided that I would be jealous of my friends' families, and their lives generally, being so much better than my own. In a moment of despair I told some of my very best friends (some of who I fancy majorly, but that's another matter!! LOL) that I never wanted to see them again. I swallowed my pride a few days later and apologized, but I don't know if they'll ever truly forgive me. I don't even know what I'm asking advice for... Maybe how do I broaden my friendship circle so I'm not so dependent on these few, given how shy and reticent I am? Or how do I stop myself reacting angrily under extreme stress? I just feel so lonely sometimes, I don't know what to do. I know I need a more positive outlook but what possible reason do I have?

If there're your friends then they will stand by you. Maybe they will even be able to introduce you to new people. When you lose a job or someone special your friends should be the ones you fall back on, so try to open up to them and let them help you through your time of need. good luck...and I've been there so your not the only one whos ever been there.

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ok well theres this guy that i like but hes 2 years younger than me and i wanna go out with him but he sees me only as a friend and he knows i wanna be more than. he just doesnt understand and i have talked 2 him about it. wut should i do??

Being a guy I can tell you that we are really immature! We can be very oblivious to girls and well...most things. If he wants to be friends for now then that sounds like a good idea. Maybe eventually he will mature and see how you feel about him. good luck and remember that young guys are not the most intelligent group of people. haha...I know I'm not.

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Last night,I was at a hockey game with my dad and my girl (ex girlfriend now) called me and started cursing me out. She said somebody called her house and cursed her mom out,and her mom said it sounded like me,when it wasn't me who really did it. So she broke up with me and Heidi (my ex) is punished for a very long time. Her mom took away her cell phone,and a bunch of other crap,and Heidi simply refuses to speak a word to me. I don't know what to do. Should I:

1) Give her a couple of days and hope she'll listen to me when I try to explain to her it wasn't me that called her house (I have my dad as proof.)
OR
2) Just move on with my life

This girl means everything to me,and I would do anything to get her back,no matter what extremes I would have to take. I love this girl with all my heart and I really want her back. Please help me out. Thanks

Don't stress too bad and give her time.

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Okay!Well a month ago I broke up with my boyfriend who I am madly in love with. He is in love with me too but it is a long distance relationship, so I thought that he and I being friends would be the best thing for now. Yeah I couldnt see him whenever I wanted but just being able to talk to him made me happy. Our relationship was made up of trust and love. He is so in love with me. I miss him so much. He is now dating a gurl who he loves as a friend not a gf. we havent talked since we broke up bc it is so hard too. I had my friend call him and I grabbed the phone when he picked it up and hung up. Then she called back and talking to him. He wanted to talk to me but i couldnt bc it was too hard. I kno that no matter what he wants to be with me in the future but right now it is to hard. I also kno that no matter what he will never stop loving me. But what I am getting at is that I dont kno what to do without him .I feel so lost and empty. Like he always used to tell me that he loved me before I went to sleep and it was so conforting. I miss that so much. What should I do? he and I have been through so much in the past and its stuff that is unforgettable. Do you think that he and I will be together in the future. BC he said he wants to me and I DO MORE THEN ANYTHING.Its like if u are in love with someone and it is meant to be then it will happpen right? i hope so!

If it's ment to happen then you make it happen!

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I was thinking...do any of you agree with the saying, the right guy will come when you stop looking?

I think if you work on being happy on your own then eventually you will find someone. Work on making yourself the best person for that one that you will eventually be with.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months, and are head over heals for eachother presently. The only problem is that I see him for a week every 3 months or so... its enough to drive a person crazy... he lives so far away, and now that I'm at college things are really hard... dumping him isn't an option, because we are that close, and its the closest thing to I've every felt if not love itself... I just don't know how to deal sometimes, its so frustrating not being able to see him, and to touch him... basically what I'm asking, is does anyone know of anyway to make this any easier till we can be together again... thanks (I will rate)

I'm in a similar situation and I feel that way all the time. I try to keep myself busy with work and friends but they will never be enough. It helps me to remind myself of our future together and that any long distance will eventually be part of our past.

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Is it normal 4 a high school junior girl who is 17 years old to go out with a guy who is a freshmen in college and who is about 19or 20 years old?

I'm 21 and my fiance is 18. We share the same birthday so we're exactly 3 years apart. Some people may frown on the relationship, especially parents. Age doesn't make people who they are. There are issues that have to be worked out, because of the difference, but as long as you are determined to make it work then go for it.

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