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my friend is going out with a guy. she is like my BEST FRIEND EVER, and this guy is 16 and shes 12. im worried because we both know this is an illegal relationship. what should i do?
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That's not an illegal relationship. It's not a very healthy one or a very smart one but, the only way that a relation ship is illegal is when someone 18+ is going out with someone really young. But I can understand why you are worried. I would talk to her about it and I know she's not going to want to break up with him, but, at least tell her to be careful and tell her how you feel.
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Charmed-Cherry21
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It's not actually illegal but it's not good either.
Talk to her and see if she can see some sense. What is this guy doing with a 12 year old? I mean, he must be a bit desperate or he's after something because there's plenty of girls his age he could date.
Just sit her down talk to her and tell her that you're worried about her.
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Talk to her tell her that if people find it they probely wont like it because its a bit age difference tell her that she shouldnt be having sex or doing anything with him just be there for her.
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well i would tell him to find someone his own age looks like to me that he is desperate
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It's not really illegal until he's 18 but, I don't know what they would have in common.Maybe it's 16 in some states I don't know for sure.
Is she actually "going out" places with this guy or is she just saying he's her boyfriend? He may just be being nice to her and she's got a crush so is blowing it out of proportion.
If she's actually going out with him (where are her parents by the way?)I don't really think you can do much except rat on her.She most likely won't listen to you.Girls who think they are in love tend to be a little hard headed about these things.
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GET HER OUT. Go get her parent, that guy is a big pervert, thats all he is, no love ever occurs between people with that many years apart, at a young age, get her out, I am telling you, theres going to be other answers, like, "oh thats ok, it depends on if the guy is nice." no guy is nice for getting a little girl as his girlfriend, it may not be illegal right now, but it will be when hes 18 and shes 14! Don't just talk to her, get a parent, she will not get away from him, hopefully you can get a parent to call the cops on him, but the other answers who are saying 'it depends on.." forget those answers, theres no depending, theres no good excuse that you can gibe me why this guy would date a 12 year old other than because hes a big pervert.
-TheTeenGirl
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It depends on what your friend is like, and what the guy is like. If she's sweet and so is he ... I don't see the (major) problem. If she tends to over react, maybe you should just let her learn from her own mistakes. If she listens to what you have to say ... just tell her the truth, that you think this relationship might be too mature for her.
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When i was twelve, i was going out with a 15 year old. It was ok, not terrible or anything. He didn't try to get in my pants or anything, he was real sweet, and genuinely liked me. He turned out to be bi and was anerixic and crap like that. But oh well. i did end up hurt, even though i broke up with him and stuff, it made me feel bad that I would leave this older guy who liked me even though i was younger. So, if he's a good guy, and you believe he isn't trying to take advantage of her, just tell her, she's likely to get hurt in this relationship, just like any, but it's her decision. But if you think he is trying to slepp with her or something you think is not right, tell her parents, but only if you're almost for sure. You don't want her to be mad at you if there was nothing wrong.
I hope this helped! Good luck :)
Cris
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Hi Sweetie,
Don't worry, thsoe relationships don't lasty long. At least not usually. Evenm if he IS a great guy and likes her a lot... his friends will influince him to dump her. ...That or they won't have a lot of things in common. Or the parents will find out, step in, and dissaprove. Or their OTHER firends will disaprove. OR he'll meet a hot 16-year old girl. Things almost always happen in thsoe relationships. Instead of getting her pissed at you for dissaproving just tell her "it's your decision. I personally wouldn't go ot with a 16yr old. But like I said, it's your decision. i respect it." or "Just consider the age difference. If you still want to be with him then I'll never say anything about it again." When the relationship ends she won't be pissed at you. She'll see you as the good friend who respected her feelings and choices.
Hope I helped. ~Blessed Be...
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Its not illegal but you better tell her all he wants is to sleep with her. A 16 year old who would go out with a 12,13,14 year old just wants one thing. To take advantage of her. Tell her parents if you cant talk her out of this situation.
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