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Q: hey guys, alright one question.

i last had my period october 30th, and right now i have my period. at least i think i do. i'm not sure if its my period... or if it's cause i "had my cherry popped" or something. do you bleed alot when that happens? cause i think i have my period. but i'm really honestly not sure.

answer, please?

I think it depends on -
1. If you had sex recently
2. How much you're bleeding, compared to how much you normally bleed during a period.

If you have your period recently & sex as well, it might very well be some minor bleeding because of your torn hymen. If your period was more or less a month ago, and this new bleeding is "intense", then it's probably your monthly friend.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating 3 months. We both have decided that we're not going to throw around the word 'love'. Seeing as most 14 year old couples do. So this is what we do..

When we do say i love you, we agreed we should only say it when we feel the moment is suitable, but we both know that when we say it we mean 'like is too small of a word, but love might be too strong of a word'

Other times we just say like 'I like you a whole lot', but we both know it's not just a normal 'crush' kinda of like.
Do you understand what I mean?

Does anyone think this is a stupid way of going about things?
I had a long talk with a friend about this yesterday, so I figured I might as well throw in my two cents.

I think the word "love" has a definition that's unique to each human being that experiences this feeling, or something like it. People who use love endlessly like it's worth two bucks might very well be in "love", only their own definition of it. There shouldn't be any pressure on either of you for telling each other how much you appreciate one another.

As long as you and your boyfriend are conscious of how you each feel towards each other and the (non)usage of the word, I don't see what's stupid about it.

Q: I have thought alot about suicide. Wrote suicide letters, read them over and over. Some days I want to kill myself, others I don't. I was just wondering for someone who is catholic and christian why do these thoughts occur. I believe in God so much and go to church all the time, but yet I have these evil thoughts, what would happen if I were to kill myself, would I go to hell?
I think these thoughts occur because you're walking down the wrong road in your life.
This may sound completely useless, but there are reasons to why you're thinking these thoughts, besides the obviously stated "I am useless."
try to find out why.

I won't try to impose my religious views upon you, but I will say this much:

It sounds like you're imposing this faith in God upon yourself.
Before you can entirely have faith in a superior being, you have to start having a little bit of faith in yourself.

Q: hey i am 13 and i want to go to my grandmas church and i have to pay sumbody 10 dollars to take me and i dont have it and i waz wunderin if any body has an idea what to do?
cause i know if i do sumtin mabey the pursonn that usually takes me will take me but i dont know what to do so plz help i rate good!:)
1. You need to learn to spell before you can actually grace the Lord's name.
2. Why would someone pay to go to Church?
3. Why would someone absolutely have to go to his grandmother's church?
4. Can't you go there on ... BUS or something?
5. Arrange a deal with the person taking you.

Q: how do i save a picture on microsoft word so i can download it onto a site? the picture i have on microsoft is my pic and i just made it smaller so it would fit so now how can i just save the pic so i can put it on a site? ps. i dont have paint
I am clueless as to how a person cannot have paint. How did you get your picture on word in the first place?
The worst thing you could do, send me the picture, and I'll upload it for you.

Q: I know everyone has heard of 'Pressure Points', but has anyone ever heard of 'PLEASURE Points'? I know for girls it's down by her lower region, but what about for guys? Anyone know what I'm talking about?
I hear that guys have pretty sensitive necks, ears, inner thighs, and ... knees, though I'm not too sure if that's just a tickle zone or a pleasure zone, haha.

Q: i had a question. besides the risk of stds and pregnancy why are adults so against teen sex? like parents make a huge deal out of it and i dont see why if you use male/ female condoms and are on birth control. i mean there is always still of risk of those things but they arent the end of the world.
Parents tend to have a hard time accepting that their children are growing up. They might fear that their children are going to turn into nymphos or prostitutes or "do things that they're not mentally ready for." the Truth is, we're never going to be old enough for our parents.

At the same time, they probably fear the fact that you might venture into other domains (i.e., drugs, heavy metal, you get the cliché.)

Q: Has anybody on here had any experince with Everly guitar stings? (Specifically Acoustic phosphor bronze ------ .012 -.053) Are these strings durable? Have a nice tone quality? Overall? I'd like to have some opinions on these strings.

Thanks =)
Eh. Personally, I have never heard of them. But look, the definition of "a good set of strings" is FAR from the same for everyone, so I suggest you buy a set, try them out, and learn from your own experience :)

Q: Do you know a romantic way to ask someone out and to a dance?

~Aaron Leung

Find out something about this person that not a lot of people know, and ask him/her out in a way that concerns this new piece of information.

E.g.:
This girl, she likes banana popsicles.
Buy her one, and write "will you go to the dance with me" on the stick.

I do realize how stupid this sounds, but it's two birds with one stone : 1. you show her how much you know her
2. you tell her clearly that you care and want to date her.

Q: I'm underweight, I want to be healthier and stuff. I need to gain weight. Can you help me?
I have 2 meals a day lunch and dinner (No time for breakfast.)
You really, really do need to eat breakfast. Even if you don't have time for it, brink a shake with you on the road, or a snack bar, but eat something.

Try to build up your muscle mass by eating colorful vegetables, lean meat, and lots of protein. Drink milk. Take vitamins.

Q: Does anyone have any good rock band recommendations? I love the ones I listen to now, but listening to them over and over again sometimes gets tiring. Help would be appreciated.
Gotta be more precise, man.

Progressive / art /psychedelic rock:
- Pink Floyd - Yes - Genesis - Emerson, Lake & Palmer

Progressive metal:
- Dream Theater - Rush - Iron Maiden - Metallica

Mainstream rock:
- Incubus - Silverchair - Thrice - My Chemical Romance

Sugar Rock:
Simple Plan - Green Day, etc etc

Q: well i like this guy a lot but he has a gf n he says he likes me too well at least thats what he tels mee but i dono if hes lien n stuff soo is that one of the player type of sayings or... what is it ?????


I seriously suggest you learn how to type correctly before engaging in ANY kind of relationship. If you want to be taken seriously, there has to be an effort made.

I don't think you should stick yourself in this "He already has a girlfriend BUT OF COURSE HE LOVES ME" situation. It's naive, and it's dangerous. If he doesn't break up with his girlfriend for you, he's not worth it. If he breaks up with his girlfriend for you, what tells you he won't pull the same trick on you a few weeks (heck, days) (heck, hours) later?


Q: I love Bright Eyes and Elliot Smith, but one can only listen to the same CDs so many times. Anyone have any suggestions of bands that sound like either Briht Eyes or Elliot Smith?

I've been looking around for awhile for the same kind of sad yet utterly beautiful music, hehe and here's some of my favorites, I guess.

1. Damien Rice
2. Leonard Cohen
3. Jeff Buckley
4. Ben Harper
5. Jason Mraz (some songs)
6. Travis
7. Jack Johnson, not the same style but gorgeous music

Hope you like :)

Q: Hey. I'm 13/m and I accept none of that "teenagers don't know love" crap. Maybe most teenagers don't, but I'm not most teenagers. I had a friend from science class. Long story short, over the summer, I realized that I loved her, I told her, she didn't love me back, I experienced The Void, and pretty much every new true emotion, I couldn't get her out of my head, and then when school started, things were awkward. I can't think of any other way to describe it. It just felt awkward. Anyway, I talked to her about that yesterday, and she agreed. So now we just forgot anything ever happened and we're back as regular friends now. I had felt like crap for a really long time, and I seemed to screw absolutely everything up. Well, now that all this pressure is off of me, I feel a lot better and I'm back to my regular happy goofy self again. Which is good. Except I feel strangely empty inside. Just a tiny pit of blackness in my happy heart. It feels nothing like The Void at all. Just... emptiness. Why? What is it? What's all this about? Thanks in advance...

By the way, here are my standards on your answers: I will NOT always rate a 5, I will rate whatever I find appropriate. I will not always rate anyway, but I will try. I will not hesitate to give you a 1 or report you, I have been responsible for a number of permanent bans. So no smartass answers. And just a matter of personal interest, try to use proper grammar. Please.
My brillant answer goes as follows.
1. There is no such thing as "teenagers don't know love". Personally, I think love doesn't fall from the sky, but is built from scratch. Every little feeling you experience for someone else counts towards that definition of love, be it a junior high crush or the one you end up marrying.

2. What you're experiencing, I would call the void, not The Void. I think The Void occurs when you truly dedicated your heart to someone and saw it crushed with your own eyes, it's a feeling that robs you of all thoughts except the one that tells you what you're missing. However, since you realized that you are also missing her friendship, your Void was divided into two, the fact that she didn't appreciate you romantically, and the fact that she was your friend, and you communicated freely. Now that the awkwardness has been overcome, your Void has become a simple void, because there's a part of your feelings that have been filled, whilst the other half of you probably still lingers on the fact that you (maybe) still love her. It's the feeling of missing out on something, but not knowing what exactly, because you SEEM to have what you temporarily wanted.

To be quite truthful, I think you're older than your age. I think you'll be able to fill this void soon. Just ... stay in touch with your emotions, but don't let them control you, and don't dwell in the rainy, black corners of your heart.

Q: My guy friend needs help. He was just on the phone with me ( cause he knows about my site and figured i could help ) and said that theres this girl that he really really likes, but this other girl that he dates ( not a relationship, just dates ) likes him, but he doesn't like her anymore. And he told me she cries to him sometimes on the phone and that she says she doesn't want to lose him and such and he doesn't want to be a jerk, but he doesn't know what to do, and I don't know how to answer. Please help.



Love,
Mel

Being honest with someone does not make you a jerk. Perhaps the girl is too sensitive and emotionally attached, perhaps he saw their relationship as "simple dating" when she saw it as "love of my life", but either way, it doesn't matter; if he isn't honest with her, it won't make her feel better eventually, and it'll make his OWN life miserable. I think in some cases one has to go with his intuition and do what feels like the right thing, for himself as well as for those concerned. I think your friend should just tell girl #2 that he's not interested, that he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, without necessarily mentioning that there "is someone else." It'll probably make things easier.

Q: my friend is going out with a guy. she is like my BEST FRIEND EVER, and this guy is 16 and shes 12. im worried because we both know this is an illegal relationship. what should i do?
It depends on what your friend is like, and what the guy is like. If she's sweet and so is he ... I don't see the (major) problem. If she tends to over react, maybe you should just let her learn from her own mistakes. If she listens to what you have to say ... just tell her the truth, that you think this relationship might be too mature for her.

Q: well i have like more guy friends then i do girlfriends, and my brother is always calling me a whore because i hang out with them and not any girls.. and the other day i had my boyfriend over and my brother knew he was my boyfriend and he was like, "oh did you tell jake about your 100 other boyfriends?" and now hes all mad at me.
1. Your brother sounds insensitive, and assholish.
2. Your boyfriend sounds over-reactive, and assholish.
3. You need to have a talk with both of them, together, and sort this all out.

Q: Hey, my family might move from here in Wisconsin to Florida. I want to sooo bad for the weather. But I just can't leave all my friends here. i love em all to death. And my best friend and I are really close and it will be so hard for me to leave her, and everyone else. How can I not miss her so much??
You say you "might" move, so is there a chance that you don't? I think that if the chances are big, try bonding with that best friend of yours as much as possible before you move. CARPE DIEM. Build solid friendships that distance won't tear apart, and afterwards, make sure to keep in touch. But remember this -- keeping in touch is completely useless if one of the two parties feel obligated to do so.

Q: Hey I was wondering how do you make a collage(on the computer)? Like with all your pics and stuff. Do I do it on paint? Can anyone give me step by step instructions on how to do it?
I suggest you use something else other than Paint, because the results look choppy and ... Paint just isn't the tool of choice. Try finding demos of Adobe PaintShop or Jasc Paint Shop Pro --- then look around for tutorials on how to use the tools you have.

Q: Whenever i have like.. time to myself, i always seem sad, and sometimes even when im with friends, family, or people in groups im in.. i never talk..because.. well im just sad. sometiems there are no reasons, and i always wonder why.. but other times, its because since im adopted.. i never met my parents, and sometimes i just want to meet them so bad that i dream about who i would be if i never got adopted and stuff.. then i start crying... can you help me stop this, or find out.. why???
THANKS IF YOU ANSWER!!

Sorry to say, no one can put a stop to this but yourself. It's not written in some dusty manual why people react to certain thoughts in certain ways -- we are emotional, and we just ... do. Sadness comes with life. Think about being adopted as a good thing and not as a "what if it didn't happen" situation. Sometimes it's not worth it to linger in the past, because it'll never come and the only chance you get of enjoying being adopted is rolling away before your eyes.

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I can be whoever you think I am, unless it is one of the following:

1) Someone who tells you what you want to hear
2) Someone who will laugh at all your jokes
3) Someone who will never go against your values
4) Someone who will make the truth sound less hurtful.

Not all truth is hurtful, and not all advice is good/needed.

Proceed with caution, and I'll be the coolest cat you've ever met, right next to the Pink Panther.

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