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my guy friend needs help - now!
My guy friend needs help. He was just on the phone with me ( cause he knows about my site and figured i could help ) and said that theres this girl that he really really likes, but this other girl that he dates ( not a relationship, just dates ) likes him, but he doesn't like her anymore. And he told me she cries to him sometimes on the phone and that she says she doesn't want to lose him and such and he doesn't want to be a jerk, but he doesn't know what to do, and I don't know how to answer. Please help.
Love,
Mel
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Well if she is like that i would call her a cling on...if he doesnt like her anymore he needs to tell her..just tell him to talk to her on the phone or somewhere and have a chat with her about his feeling and how he doesnt like her anymore!..well i hope i helped ...tell him good luck:)..byebye
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well you should tell your friend that he should tell this girl that he doesnt feel the same way about her and that they should try being friends. be nice about it. in the beggining itll be hard for her but in the end she might find someone new that likes her. then eventually them two might become friends. but after he breaks up with her give her some space not too much because they should talk about there feelings to eachother. hope i helped1 buh bye! if you need anymore help im me at T3RRI2010!
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tell him he doesnt have to be a jerk about it..but he should really let this girl hes dating go. tell him he cant be with somebody he doesnt like..its not fair to him or the girl..have him ecplain that to her. its not being a jerk....being a jerk would be like if he totally blew her off with no explanation, ignored her, etc. but just have him explain to this girl that feelings must be MUTUAL..he should go for the girl he likes
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Well first off let me start of by saying that he's in a tough situation. Now the best approach to this problem is honesty. He should say something to the effect of, listen, I know you really like me but I unfortinatley have don't have the same feelings for you back and I think that you deserve someone who can fully devote themselves to you. That's the best I can do if this dosent work by all means get back to me and mabe we can try a diffrent approach
-Andrew
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well he cant just stay with this girl to make her feel good you know? it may be hard but he should really tell the girl he doesnt feel the same for her.
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No matter what, when there is a breakup one person is usually gonna be hurt and the other will feel bad.
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Being honest with someone does not make you a jerk. Perhaps the girl is too sensitive and emotionally attached, perhaps he saw their relationship as "simple dating" when she saw it as "love of my life", but either way, it doesn't matter; if he isn't honest with her, it won't make her feel better eventually, and it'll make his OWN life miserable. I think in some cases one has to go with his intuition and do what feels like the right thing, for himself as well as for those concerned. I think your friend should just tell girl #2 that he's not interested, that he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, without necessarily mentioning that there "is someone else." It'll probably make things easier.
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This is the classic trying to cling onto someone who you cannot routine. It's also called a guilt trip. She is laying it on thicke with him. Sure she likes him a lot but she is building it up more so he will not go.
What should he do? Be tactful first of all. Secondly, tell her that "I like you but I would rather be your friend right now than boyfriend. It is not working for us. You are only going to be unhappy in the end." Then let it go. If she cries reinforce it the same gentle way and stop taking her calls. She will get it. That hurts less.
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I answer this question a lot. Just tell him that he shouldn't be with someone he doesn't like. Period. It is unfair to the other person, whether the want to admit it or not. It may be hard, but he should go for the girl he likes.
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well if he doesn`t like her. he shouldn`t LEAD her on now. he may come off as a jerk. but he`ll have to do it sometime. the sooner the better.*
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